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 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 720
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Sex with minorsPage 19 of 35    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35)

Children under 20 should not have sex with adults. My opinion. Yeah yeah, I know legal consent is what... 18??



SAD...here it's 14

Kids should be kids as long as they can!
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 721
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/8/2008 11:10:08 AM

If a girl of 16 is being pursued by a man of 25 im going to think there is something wrong with him to be honest, what does he want? someone more pliable?.

What if the girl was 14 and dated a 34 year old. After the breakup she was single for a bit and then dated a 27 year old when she was 16. They lasted 3 years and then when she was 19, she started dating a 35 year old. This isn't hypothetical. This is a real person.

In fact, her mother encourages it because she feels that at least an older guy would have his life sorted out and would be able to provide for her.

Why do we really care so much about how other people choose to lives their lives? Is it because of your dissatisfaction with your own life that you choose to try to meddle around with concern yourself with the lives of people you will never meet?
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 726
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/8/2008 3:16:28 PM
Sex really seems to be a case of "do as i say, not as i do."
Why are you all treating sex like such a bad thing?
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 728
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/8/2008 10:34:43 PM


and you say the mother encouraged this? where do you live? Pedo City?

Well, her mother didn't know about the 34 year old when she was 14. But she actually encouraged her with the 27 year old. Technically, Pedophiles go for pre-adolescents. 14 is quite a bit older.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 731
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/9/2008 10:05:47 AM
So Kynnie, if it is a mental illness, shouldn't we be concerned with helping and curing them instead of giving them a hard time. This is an illness, by your definition, kinda like schizophrenia or diabetes. Those who suggested violence - shame on you. Isn't that like beating up the homeless dude on the street?

Frankly, I don't see why so much ink (or the electronic equivalent) has been wasted meddling in the lives of other people. Sure if it is our kids, you have that choice. But if two people you don't know choose to date each other, what business is it of yours?
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 741
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/10/2008 9:30:51 PM

Same with men who are 28,29+ who put 18-23 year olds as their min age for a woman that can contact them!

That's silly putting a filter on who can contact them. It's not like us men have our mailboxes overflowing in the first place.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 770
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/18/2008 6:35:58 PM
I think we should be fair all around and declare that nobody is allowed to have sex under any circumstance *LOL*
 jf468
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 772
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:09:02 AM
I think pretty much every guy fantasizes about some attractive female teacher or other older woman in his teens.


A lot of my male friends in high school certainly had a crush on some much older women. A teacher, a neighbor, or in some cases a friend's mom!!.
 GREAT EXPERT 900
Joined: 2/14/2008
Msg: 776
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/19/2008 1:38:02 PM
i bet the pedophiles are licking their chops right now. this is a dangerous thread. very touchy subject. the young girls nowadays look older and dressing sexier than ever, but i'm n0t into teenagers. i like women with a mature mind with substance. teenagers can't hold a mature conversation. i get bored very easily, a woman has to have good mature conversation.
 lonesome wonderer
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 787
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Posted: 2/20/2008 7:37:13 PM
my older son (20) was talking to me on the phone tonite. he and his girlfriend (19) of 4 years broke up about a month ago. he told me about this girl that he knows (19) has the hots for him and has been trying to grab his attention since he was with his girlfriend. she also has a friend that's (17) that's also very interested in my son and my son is interested in her. he asked me a question with regards to the age and statutory rape and what the age is? i told him that as long as if and when you do have sex that it's consensual. i told him that even though she is 17 she's still not a child and knows how to speak up accordingly. i told him that the age is anyone under the age of 18 even though teenagers are all experimenting things. i told him that it's best not to just have sex especially unprotected and to wait until the time is right and he's with that special person. i told him that i know that he's not going to listen to me and do what he wants to do (he doesn't live with me) but i want him to do what's right. i told him that it's not cool to just have sex because he has the itch to get laid, that's what the palm is for. if my son was more than 4 years older than her then i would tell him to back off because of the age difference with the statutory laws here in pa. ie. if the boy is 16 and the girl is 12-15 then that would be considered as statutory rape, since kids these days are experimenting sex in their teens they have a set age for 18.
 tonymire
Joined: 10/29/2007
Msg: 792
Sex with minors
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:05:22 AM
Unacceptable, especially in this country.
 Bunnni
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 800
Sex with minors I think this is unacceptable
Posted: 4/10/2008 10:38:21 PM
I'm sorry Nick, but that's completely ridiculous. Not only is it just a double standard which in my eyes is VERY wrong, but it's also just plain SEXIST. It's like you're trying to say that females are a lesser sex; less capable of making rational decisions concering their relationships with others and/or more likely to get carried away and hurt or something, when really that's not the case at all, it's simply the gender role that women have been placed into. I'm sorry, but it makes me very angry to hear someone of your age say something so ignorant. Go back to college, take a human sexuality course, then tell me if your opinion on the subject matter is the same.
 danieljarvis
Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 806
Sex with minors I think this is unacceptable
Posted: 4/18/2008 8:50:50 PM
i was eighteen when i had a 14 year old girl friend and she looked like she was around 21,her mother was fine with it and actually congratulated us on it ,she was the love of my life and my mother made us break up,it has been eight years now and i havnt met anyone and probably never will,i am too embarrassed about my parents to be confident anymore and my ex moved on straight away so its not like i even had the power to send her the message,life is sweeping me under the carpet and now i cant wait to get old and die,its just the fact that she found someone else within weeks and i didnt even mean enough to her for her to come and get her clothes and sort things out,i hope that she forgets me like everyone else has,so to answer your question stop your minors from having older partners, even if it is saving the older partner
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 809
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Posted: 10/20/2008 7:21:33 PM
Dude, you went back 6 months to dig this thread up................why?

This is wrong on so many levels that I'm not even going to try to defend it. You can bring a lot of love, and joy WITHOUT sex; and don't even think about trying to use the word "purity." If you touch a 12-13 year old in my family; I'm making CNN for blowing your happy a$$ away.

I can hear the Judge now:
Judge: windloverr, you shot him.
Me: Yes sir.
Judge: 37 times!!!!!!
Me: Yes sir.
Judge: Why?!
Me: I ran out of bullets.
 phishkev
Joined: 9/19/2008
Msg: 813
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Posted: 12/2/2008 11:00:48 AM
Sex with miners? Now, if it was the right female one, I would have no trouble mining "gold" and hitting the big one!!


HAHAHAHA!!!
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 823
Sex with minors I think this is unacceptable
Posted: 12/4/2008 9:46:03 AM

That being said, teenagers are essentially "brain damaged" until the age of 22...when they can actually make ADULT decisions.


ther eis an actual EXACT age at which "all" people become 'mature'?

like at 21 years & 364 days oldm they ar enot mature, but the next day they are?
hmmm..

funny, because I know 40, 45, and 57 year olds that still cannot make 'adult' decisions..

and some 18-19 year olds that are way more 'mature' than some 40-+ year olds..
 exiss
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 833
Sex with minors I think this is unacceptable
Posted: 12/4/2008 5:27:06 PM

As a social worker who works with youth....IT IS WRONG. The human brain (frontal lobe area) is not fully developed until 21-22 years of age. That being said, teenagers are essentially "brain damaged" until the age of 22...when they can actually make ADULT decisions.


Then why do we let them vote????
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 835
Sex with minors I think this is unacceptable
Posted: 12/5/2008 7:58:22 AM

As a social worker who works with youth....IT IS WRONG. The human brain (frontal lobe area) is not fully developed until 21-22 years of age. That being said, teenagers are essentially "brain damaged" until the age of 22...when they can actually make ADULT decisions.


Then why do we let them vote????


I agree..how did we go from talking about someone 17 years old, to saying anyone under 22 is still a 'child' or 'brain-damaged'???

great, I can see if this social worker ran things, anyone under 22 could rape, murder, kill or do any crime..and is "NOT responsible" becasue they are still a 'child'/'brain-damaged' ??

funny.. in many earlier generations , these 'brain-damaged' people already had kids 5-6, or more, years old by the time they reached 22..how then did the human species ever survive this far??


That being said, teenagers are essentially "brain damaged" until the age of 22...when they can actually make ADULT decisions.


this sentence makes NO sense..how can someone be a "teenager" past the age of 19?

'teenagers' are brain-damaged until 22?
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 837
Sex with minors I think this is unacceptable
Posted: 12/5/2008 9:35:56 AM
^^

so, obviously we shoudn't let anyone 'work' until they are past 25, or even to study or train for a particular type of work..

since they are too 'brain-damaged' to know what they really want to do anyway?

great..we can have hordes of unemployed youth wandering about with too much time on their hands..possibly casuing all manner of havoc & mayhem..but the poor widdle things couldn't be criminally charged because they are 'brain-damaged' & so 'not responsible' for their own actions.

great make-work project for social workers I suppose..

cielee, can you point out any actual studies/links that might support your contentions? or are they merely your 'feelings' ?

the unfunny thing about the 'joke' below is that it's too close to the truth..


Hey...I have a good joke about social workers..................So these two social workers were walking down the street and they passed by a back alley. They could hear moaning. When they went to check it out they found a man all beat up...bloody...in pain. One social worker looked at the other and said "Who ever did that sure needs help!"


cielle: so by your own logic a 24 year old having sex with a17 -year old is not responsible either, because s/he (the older person) is still 'brain-damaged', anyway?
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 846
Sex with minors I think this is unacceptable
Posted: 12/7/2008 1:15:17 PM
^^


I dont see what the argument of maturity has to do with children having sex with men who should know better.


the sexism continues, this is not a one-gender issue..I seem to recall SEVERAL high-profile cases where FEMALE middle-school & junior-high school teachers had affairs with male students who were 13 or 14 years old..one even got her 14 year old "lover" to murder her husband..
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 852
Sex with minors
Posted: 12/8/2008 7:42:28 AM

Why is it different for an adult female to have sex with an underage male? Because men don't get pregnant. Sex has a different significance for men and women at any age. The risks are not the same. Physically or emotionally.

I think a lot of men can't understand what the fuss is about. These kids and their teachers. Are the teachers maybe "odd"? Maybe. Those boys look happy. They got some social worker filling their sorry, malleable brains with crap about how they have been exploited and damaged. I had sex with a girl of 18 when I was 13. Which kind of predisposed me towards older women.


the fact is, it is still ILLEGAL for a grown woman to have sex with a 13-year odl boy, in almost all jusrisdictions.

also the fact of 'happiness' does not enter into it; in most cases 'underage' ('minor') girls were very happy to have sex with older guys as well..

it was only their PARENTS who objected, likely, when they founf out about it.

that's why they call it "statutory" rape..meaning the persons are considered too young to give informed consent.

in most cases it was not 'forced rape' as you might think of it, the girls (or boys) were quite 'willing' partners..

also, most of those girls would be taking BC pills, so the risk of pregancy wouldn't be as huge as you make it out to be.

"emotional" risks? ahh, the good old "GENDER STEREOTYPING" again..that boys don't get emotionally involved, while girls do.

maybe YOU didn't; that doesn't mean that ALL boys do not..

the 14 -year old boy that a female teacher was banging in Maine got so 'emotionally involved' (he was 'in love' with her), that he murdered her husband , at her prompting..

("for" her, so they "could always be together")

too bad for him, shortly afterwards she dumped him and tried to blame the killing entirely on him, to the police & courts.
 TOMic bomb
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 855
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Posted: 12/8/2008 10:27:02 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^that "joke's" been done at least 6 times in this thread ^^^^^^^^^

look at msg 858 right above you. it wasn't funny the first time.
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 856
Sex with minors
Posted: 12/9/2008 8:35:57 AM

We are simply one dimensional impregnators with a severely limited capacity for empathy and we have no nuance. Or at least I am that way and you are not. Anyway, at least I lost my virginity that time. When I was 13. I couldn't wait! I was in a hurry to grow up. And look! I'm still a little boy


bodypro8, you might have a good point IN GENERAL, but some boys do get attached.

there was a case in Alberta this past year of a married female high-school teacher who was having a sexual affair with a 17-year old male student of hers (which she denied in her disciplinary hearing, bu the 100's of sexually-charged e-mails and notes, letters, etc. between the 2 of them certainly suggest otherwise..)

when her husband discovered the affair he confronted her and she broke it off with the student

he (the student) then committed SUICIDE..(which brought the mess into the public eye).

I would say that it seemed he DID get 'emotionally attached' to her, no?
 damaj125
Joined: 2/15/2007
Msg: 862
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Posted: 8/28/2009 12:27:06 PM
Disallusioned is right depends on the country and laws, i am 37 and i like 30 to 40 my self, but remember judgemental people are well look at the last word of judgemental (closedminded)( OPEN UR MIND) how aboutt worring about unity, and liveing, and economy, finding your soul mate , happiness. worry about things when its proven and convicted. dont get me wrong there deffineately are limitatioins some should require instant death but worry about the big things
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