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 LaddyMike
Joined: 9/14/2007
Msg: 48
Men and their Age Issue?Page 2 of 12    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12)
While it is true that age to a great degree is a state of mind, I believe that this can also be an indicator of other half truths or flat out lies. I certainly understand about putting your best foot forward to try to present yourself in the best light, however, I believe in "Truth in Advertising". In my own profile I have stated my real age - 50! That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
 Ave Caesar
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 55
Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 11/26/2007 9:36:55 AM
Why is it suddenly an issue? Women have always done it. I see women who are '29' who look like 65!
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 11/26/2007 11:11:49 AM
Men and women have now become equal in their abilities to fudge age, and that is just a given.

All of us baby boomer's are not taking age lightly, and many of us have fought the battle of not letting ourselves go physically, mentally, and emotionally. Since this battle is on, some win and some lose, and many just give up and accept what is.

With all of the vitamins, minerals, exercise programs, medical procedures, hair tinting, dental corrections, and numerous self help books, video's and programs, is there any question that some of the boomer's are aging at a different rate physically then others?

If you add good genetics with a great diet and exercise program, you can have many that are in their 40's look like they are 30, and even more that are in their 50's that look like they are just beginning their 40's, and on and on, which creates the rub here.........how do we date with such a wide variety of looks and abilities?

So many now are in the mind set of limiting themselves to just a certain age group because that is what was long ago, what some think still is, and what others are afraid to experiment with because of what friends and relative might think or say.

It is so hard for me to say that I will not date someone that is in their 50's when many in that age group look much better then those that I have dated that are 40 or less, and those in their late 40's or 50's do not want to be excluded from others that they can relate to and hold their own with, so the age is changed on their profile.

Boomer's can date a wide age range of others if they still have their looks, attitude, and ability to do so, and will not be pigeon holed into an age group that is not real for them.

Just my opinion.......
 Mike72801
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 58
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Posted: 11/26/2007 3:10:03 PM
I never heard of a man lying about his age.
 WaywardWynde
Joined: 5/19/2007
Msg: 59
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Posted: 11/26/2007 3:44:30 PM
I don't have to lie about my age, I just have to keep my mouth shut.

Actually, most of the time I bring up my age so that it is not underestimated. I am the age I am and that is fine with me.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 60
Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:27:29 PM
I never heard of a man lying about his age.


Which is why God gave us google, lol! Time to repost this. . . .

Lies, Lies and some more lies!
Posted: 6/15/2007 1100 PM


About 52.6 percent of the men in the study lied about their height, as did 39 percent of the women. Slightly more women lied about their weight (64.1 percent) than did men (60.5 percent). When it came to age, 24.3 percent of the men were untruthful, compared with 13.1 percent of the women. [my emphasis. . . .]


http://www.wftv.com/technology/10948015/detail.html

Looks to me like men are bigger liars than women, just in case ya'll hadn't noticed. . . .


 WaywardWynde
Joined: 5/19/2007
Msg: 61
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Posted: 11/26/2007 7:09:34 PM

Men lie about their age because they want to date women 10-15 years younger. Women lie about their age because men want to date woment 10-15 years younger.


So it's commonly stated. Yet, for most first marriages, the age difference is two years, for most second marriages (men, I understand remarry more often than women, so more women marry at least once than men marry at least once) the age difference is about 4 years, and for third marriages (few marry three times) the difference is about eight years.

So *IF* men wish to date women 10 to 15 years younger, it appears they want to marry close to their age.
 markybolton_OP
Joined: 7/20/2006
Msg: 64
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Posted: 12/2/2007 10:53:05 AM
Their picture, how much they make, size of their penis and if they use Viagra and more importantly if it is working on them!
 Wreckless2
Joined: 9/13/2007
Msg: 66
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Posted: 12/3/2007 11:53:04 AM
Christ! I am really tired of this age issue.... women complain that he is older then his picture, when they meet, and women who want a younger guy will list their age younger so it will attract a younger guy when he searches.... WHY are so many lying???!! We are gonna find out!!! So state it and be a real genuine person .... if it is meant to be it will...

Like one woman (states she is 42) in Camarillo.... I sent a note to ...
Message: (she is really 47)
Geez and I thought you were 42..... women do not like guys who fibb anymore then we do... I am amazed at how many people feel the age is so important. If a woman wants younger guys then state it... don't fibb about it then add in your file in the middle... we are all gettin old .... don't be ashamed of it... just be HONEST!!
Best wishes....

PS... and Men really hate those that "perfer not to say"!!!
 nocalsingledad
Joined: 11/27/2007
Msg: 67
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Posted: 12/3/2007 12:09:04 PM
Maybe I should post a graphic of my birth certificate. But why does it even matter? Imagine if there was no place anywhere on here to put your age. How would people react then? Could you even imagine ... meeting people and having conversation with them ... and if you wanted to know how old they were having to actually ASK them? And then you still wouldn't know absolutely positively if it was the truth ... gosh ... that is too close to real life for most people who exist only online, I suppose.

I had someone write me in an email today that they would like to exchange a bunch of emails back and forth and then maybe have a series of phone calls and only then maybe could we ever get together for a cup of coffee. And to think that I walk in to my local cafe and sit at a table surrounded by several dozen other people who I never screened and actually SPEAK to them. Sometimes I even (get this) tell them my NAME! A couple of times I have even told people my age! Wooohoo! I am really living on the edge ... actually looking at REAL people eyeball to eyeball that I didn't pre-screen with 743 emails first!
 stevelfun
Joined: 10/23/2005
Msg: 69
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Posted: 12/7/2007 1:42:12 PM
Well, I have heard about this. Guess I don't know about it because I don't look at other men's profiles.

Women though - this is very common.

I guess - few, if any, like the be as old as they are. We all wish we could be younger than we are. Maybe they just do it to present themselves as being younger.

I know for me - my life style / activity level is that of someone much younger than myself and, again - for me, I would not have all that much in common with regard to activity level with someone my 'own' age. So - I know - I prefer someone younger than myself just for these reasons.

However, I don't lie to anyone about my age. It is what it is. WYSIWYG
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 12/7/2007 2:26:13 PM
I think ANYBODY who lies about their age is a fool. I can't wait to turn 53 next month! Each year gets better & better! Embrace it!!!!!
 PurpleCrayon~
Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 12/7/2007 2:27:57 PM
Don't me for being blunt, but, here goes:

Awww... go ahead... throw the snowball.

I have not met hardly any guys who, once we met up in person, had not lied about age/height/weight.

To be fair... men say women lie often also.

Another thing which does the reverse ... instead of making me , it has me (these I don't even bother to meet in person) are the guys who are shirtless and posed to the max. I can understand no shirts if it's a beach/water activity photo.

It is soooo obvious they think it's sexy. And, then, there are the women in their undergarments. You'll find em on the forums complaining about inappropriate emails they get.

I say all the liars... and scantily clad men/women get together and leave us the rest... meaning the honest/clothed individuals.
 Beaugrand®™©
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:39:51 PM
I'm 57. For some women that's a turn-off. That's okay, because if I want to have a conversation with a controlling, materialistic, overambitious 35 yo woman, I'll call my (divorced, childless) daughter.
I'm here at POF to interact with and meet other people, especially women of approximately my age. I don't need to meet women for whom my age would be a problem. I have a special family situation that will undoubtedly scare off others. I can't see where concealing these things or lying about my age will do me any good.
 PurpleCrayon~
Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:38:20 PM
Glad to see this thread title and brought up from the archives because....

Well...first, let me say that, according to the guys, women are just as guilty of this and I tend to believe it is, as another Poster said... a 'People' thing... not a gender one.

Lately I am coming across guys who email me, then, in their profile they say they 'accidently' hit the wrong age. Yeah...right. They put the younger age so they will come up in 'Searches' more often.

Oh... and, has anyone else noticed that there are a lot of guys in their 50s wanting to start families. Yikes. I'm like... why the helll you writing me dude?

Fortunately, thus far, the guys in their late 30s and all through the 40s ... are much more respectful, truthful in that area, and do NOT want more kids. And, those are the ones who mainly contact me. Yes, indeed, I count my blessings that most of my emails are from that group.

Is all this a trend with men 50 and older... I should say with People, rather than just men. And, if so...my gosh...get REAL folks.
 PurpleCrayon~
Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 4/23/2008 11:05:23 PM
Enigma,

My sincere apologies for not taking note that you addressed something I said and the thread was revived from that post date back end of last year. I didn't read up the page far enough. My bad.

You bring up a valid point... the army of older men with young kids, divorces from the younger wives, who now want to be 'free'.... and, those men are looking for from the financially secure women...closer in age to them.

I haven't had a man to approach me or even if it progresses to dating/relationship to try to be a 'kept man'... but, I might be one of the fortunate ones...OR.. simply that I refuse to support a man. I bring my own support to the table in a relationship... just not going to pay for a freeloader. And, like I said in the earlier post... it's amazing that it's NOT the younger guys looking for 'sugar mamas'... it's the older men, who were dumped... looking for finanical support... from what I read on forums and hearing friends talk.

Strange atmosphere which is developing on the 'dating' landscape.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 81
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Posted: 4/24/2008 2:10:24 PM
I prefer to date men my age or older who have grown children. Many seem to have younger children from failed marriage number 2, and are looking to have more children with someone in marriage number 3. Nope, this chickie is not interested in that at all. As another poster noted, many times the men who are 30s-40s are more respectful and seem to have more in common with me. Tons of mid life crisis 50-60 year old sex talking playboy wannabes seem to hang out in ponds online.
 aggiebq86
Joined: 4/3/2007
Msg: 83
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Posted: 4/25/2008 12:37:10 PM
If I'm going to lie about my age, I'm adding years. That way someone sees me and says "He looks pretty good for 55." Instead of saying "Man he looks pretty rough for 35."

Just a thought.
 openmindedwi
Joined: 4/22/2007
Msg: 86
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Posted: 4/26/2008 9:14:54 AM
I'd change this to people (like others have said) not just men. I (before my hair started to thin out) was usually guessed 10 years younger than my cronological age. but I told the truth about my real age. when that happened people would back off, they have this "thing" about age, and limits. Age (to me) is just a number, I don't care about who is older or younger or by how much, as long as you have common grounds to actually communicate on it doesn't matter (again to me) there have been woman where we both really got along with (not from internet dating) we'd go out have lots of fun, be able to converse on multiple subjects etc.... and somewhere ages would come up, and while I never lied about my age it isn't something I bring up in the first sentence either. They would tell me I was too "old" for them?! huh? we get along great, have interestes in common, but because I was 43, not 33 you can no longer go out on dates with me? Personally I feel it was their loss then. So that might be the answer to your question.... that they feel because of their "age" they won't get the chance to even meet, as they are worried youy have age restrictions. I'd agree that not telling the right age is wrong, but just my humble take on your question.
 lonelydavid77
Joined: 5/7/2007
Msg: 87
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Posted: 4/26/2008 10:53:02 AM
Age - it is only a number. The herein is that both genders feel younger than they are. We are all in a third phase of our lives, we are single again, and we see people in certain age brackets asking for certain age of a partner, to get their attention, the little box in the profile suddenly gets a different number.

My profile is current, all the information is real. Does it help me to get dates to be honest?? No. Due to my age many members of the desired d gender "read and delete" so should I change the information, not likely. Just because I am over 60 does not mean I am a couch potato, have ailments that slow the libido or do not have a sense of humour!!

Life can be cruel to some of us, my 48 inch chest has slumped to create a 36 inch waist, and the silver in my hair is getting ever more predominant, but I am still over 60, active and active. Will this make a difference to most, no, it is when you actually do meet someone that impressions should be decided upon.
 FrndlyStrgr
Joined: 12/6/2007
Msg: 90
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Posted: 5/23/2008 2:18:50 PM
OK...let's say you make a really gross, blatant misstatement re. your age, you doctor up your high school graduation picture, you're a charter member of AARP, and you connive your way to meeting somebody your daughter's age for coffee. NOW what do you do? I'll bet you're sweating it out like the proverbial pregnant nun in the confessional. WHAT'S THE POINT? If you're really here to meet somebody In Real Life, isn't it just a whole lot easier to be real from Step Zero?

Yes, I have age issues. I'm a couple weeks shy of 64. I've had two girlfriends in the last year... aged 43 and 46. They found me, I didn't find them. In person, not a POF thing. MY age wasn't an issue with either of them, but it sure as hell was for me...it brought out lots of fears, self-doubt, insecurities that were more imagined than real.
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 91
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Posted: 5/23/2008 2:48:52 PM
I like to not have anything to have to explain uncomfortably later. The less you lie or omit, the less uncomfortable your future.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 92
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Posted: 5/23/2008 3:14:42 PM
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I'm not afraid of telling my age. Those who want to date ladies 15-20yrs. under their age... so be it. For me, if you can't name the four beatles and where you were when Pres. Kennedy was shot, your probably too young


...Uhhh, are you talking about when they were still called "The Quarrymen?" Wasn't Peter Best the drummer before Ringo Starr eventually replaced him? I do believe there was also another bass player before Paul but can't recall the name right now.

...I had just come home from school and my dad told me the President had been shot and I cried...oh dear...I think I just dated myself haha

...maeflowers
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 98
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Posted: 8/9/2008 2:01:18 PM
I meet a guy a few weeks ago, I really liked him but the pictures he posted were atleast ten years old. He was a great looking guy and I couldnt figure out why he would feel the need to put up the old pictures. His profile says he is 55, but he never said and I never asked cause age isnt important. But he did on several times say "our age". I liked him but I found myself not trusting him and didnt try to encourage anything with him cause I just didnt want a relationship with a liar.

I have found you can almost look at their pictures and tell they are older...it is really sad. Age isnt the important part..it is honesty...its starting off on the right foot with someone, if someone is shallow enough to eliminate you cause of your age do you really want to be involved with them?
 STH III
Joined: 6/5/2008
Msg: 103
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Posted: 8/10/2008 2:47:25 AM
I don't lie about my age but I used to years ago. When I was 48 I used to say I was 45 because I found out that most women I wanted to date only searched up to age 45. I always came clean right away but after awhile I felt bad about doing that because I don't normally ever lie. I have always been attracted to women from 5 to 13 years younger than myself so it made it easier but I would never do that now. I guess with age comes more wisdom, take me like I am or don't,lol.
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