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 Diana619
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 36
meeting someone married for coffee, right or wrong?Page 5 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Why doesnt he have coffee and chats with his WIFE? What makes you so different?
 rescuemedic999
Joined: 1/6/2007
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meeting someone married for coffee, right or wrong?
Posted: 9/8/2007 4:40:21 AM
Can work... but why do some married people, block other married people from chatting - now that is sus!

Generally single (younger) women should not meet married men, yes I am married and looking for face to face meets - but only usually with married people. Each to their own.

if you have been chatting for some time and get on well - if he makes the wrong move he will ruin what has been a successful relationship. if he has lied or hidden his intentions then more fool him.. honesty rules on this site!
 restless_native
Joined: 12/17/2006
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meeting someone married for coffee, right or wrong?
Posted: 5/23/2008 3:39:43 AM
Is "coffee" a euphemism?
 rescuemedic999
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meeting someone married for coffee, right or wrong?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:12:23 AM
A meet for coffee could and should just be that - if there is any trust in the online discussion
I feel that most people here have 'jumped' to the wrong conclusion - if you feel UNCOMFORTABLE about a meet it does not matter if they are married or not ... if you are uncomfortable for whatever reason don't go.
Yes I am married, and yes I have met people from this site - and I have made some great friends - and no we have not jumped into bed - sometime people need a different type of 'attention' than they get at home.
I also meet women through my work and we often socialise - not all drinking, coffee or nights out are about sex - this says more about your (those that instantly think sex) beliefs than the individual concerned. married men are allowed to have friends too - as are married women.

don't judge people by your own book cover...
 Krustybird
Joined: 6/25/2010
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meeting someone married for coffee, right or wrong?
Posted: 1/24/2011 4:35:45 AM
Ok so I'm not married but I am in a long term relationship, in fact longer than many a marriage has lasted and I've met a couple of male internet friends for coffee and once for a drink. So here's my view from the other side.

I've always told my partner and have in fact been dropped off/collected by him on a couple of occasions. He's had the option to join us and I've been up front with the other person I've met up with so there's no subterfuge and certainly no ulterior motives.

I prefer male company, I'm not a girlie girl, I can't do the Sex and the city chat, or the what's happening in Eastenders chat but I can discuss the offside rule with the best of them and prefer the male outlook on life. (All very generalised I know but you get the gist) .

The last gentleman I met was someone I knew from here, we'd chatted here and on msn for over a year about everything, nothing and motor racing in specific, he's a formula Ford driver. He happened to be staying at a hotel nearby, he text to see if I fancied a drink, I said yes and we had a brilliant evening chatting, ended the evening with a hug, a peck on the cheek and a goodbye. Nothing sordid or dirty, just two perfectly sensible adults, with similar interests, meeting up for a gossip.

I don't know, maybe I'm weird but just because I'm in a relationship, it doesn't automatically follow that if I am ever in the company of another male, without a chaperone, I'm going to be overcome with lust and want to screw his brains out.

So yes, if a married man, who I'd chatted to for a while online, wanted to meet for coffee, I'd go. He'd have no chance of anything untoward happening so I'd not feel guilty on the wife's behalf either. Their relationship, good, bad or indifferent is none of my business.

I've always believed that you see the potential in others of what you would do in a similar situation. I'd never cheat so I wouldn't worry that my partner would cheat, if he wants to meet a woman for coffee, then good for him. Perhaps she can get him out of those Godawful trainer shoe things he insists on wearing!!
 Krustybird
Joined: 6/25/2010
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meeting someone married for coffee, right or wrong?
Posted: 1/26/2011 10:58:18 AM
Wow such judgemental attitudes appearing!

I joined this site years ago because I would help co host the meets with a couple of good friends then I found the forums and became addicted to them. It used to be that you just chose what you wanted and friendship was an option, that was good enough for me. Actually no, sod off it's none of your business as to why I'm on here, I can be, so I am, so there!

I'm in a relationship, not Purdah. I don't remember agreeing to never speak to a member of the opposite sex once I decided to settle down.I am a grown woman and I am perfectly capable of controlling my sexual urges in the presence of a man who is not my partner. I can even go to my male doctors on my own without wanting to screw his brains out!

Perhaps those who are so derisive would find it much harder if faced with the company of a man or woman who wasn't their significant other.

And if I wanted a bit of extra marital muckiness I'm pretty damned certain I wouldn't bloody pick Costa as my venue of choice!
 NicolaSeven
Joined: 5/21/2009
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meeting someone married for coffee, right or wrong?
Posted: 1/26/2011 3:51:27 PM
...in all honesty if I were with someone and he needed to meet up with other women on a dating site then it would make me wonder why and for what purpose...


+1

It would surely be... 'hey, I've been chatting on line to this great person, let's US BOTH go meet them for a coffee...'

I cant imagine accepting anything else...




If a partner wants to cheat, there's absolutely no way to stop them doing so (short of keeping them locked up) so I don't worry about it...


but that's the point... most of us wouldnt want to be with this type of person, so what would would the point of accepting a partner meeting someone married for coffee, as per the OP...?
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