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 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 7
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36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!? Page 2 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
I've met a few people like that. I'm like that. But that just means that you're different than most people. Is that a bad thing? Only if someone cannot appreciate someone truly special.

I'd want to hear your life story. Really find out why, not just ask and expect you to know why your life didn't turn out the way you expected. Then I can make up my own mind.

By the way, if WTF means "How is this possible?", there is one answer I can see: "It happened. Get used to it." If he can, then he's worth it.

Also, discussing your past is something I think is better left to the third date at the earliest.
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 10
36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 11:12:29 AM
There are some valid reasons why some people in their 30s have never had a serious boy/girlfriend.

1. They were shy/awkward when they were younger.
2. Too busy with work and school.
3. Never seriously looked for a boy/girlfriend.
4. Had a few dates, but noone of them worked out
5. Looking for a FWB/NSA relationship

I could understand why some people would lie about this. Other people could think that there is something wrong with them.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 12
36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 2:45:40 PM
So what happens, after you go out a few times the bore you, you bore them, they dump you, you dump them? Do you then date a lot of people? Are you afraid of commitment? Or are you so reserved and picky that nobody seems to match your expectations? Are you so set on your ways that men just become a nuisance to your lifestyle? So, tell us more?
 Karrpilot
Joined: 1/26/2007
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36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 3:05:48 PM
I have met a few women in their 30's that never had a boy friend. Even though the number of them was quite low, they all had serious issues. Could not hold a job, complete slobs, lazy, whiney, b!tchy, complaining, etc. It was almost as if they were trying to drive men off. And it sure seemed to work pretty good for them. And i thought i was a late bloomer. I did not have a serious girlfriend untill i was 27. And then she came into my life. And completely ruined me from that point on. I sure miss her now. But being picky is good up to a point. And after that, i think the next stage would be maybe a convent for you.
 Karrpilot
Joined: 1/26/2007
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36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 3:33:38 PM
And wears glasses the size of the Hubble telescope.
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 16
36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 3:40:18 PM
Sassy -I so find this hard to beleive as
you are gorgeous.
You know what- this is you. This is your life.
They think you have RED FLAGS - fuck them. They, again
are not the one.
I see nothing wrong with not having a long term. what is the problem-
you didn't waste your time on someone who could not return the feelings
to you, thats all.
You played smart, you probably had alot going on which is fine. Nothing wrong
with you and don't let anyone ever make you feel that there is.

curlygrl~
 nollaigo
Joined: 5/20/2007
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36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 3:52:18 PM
so what u never had a BF

if someone was worried about that they are not worth going out with

hes out there somewhere you'll find him don't worry
 Karrpilot
Joined: 1/26/2007
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36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 4:26:18 PM
You left out porno and booze.
 Chippy2
Joined: 6/21/2006
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36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 5:38:53 PM
Op I would not worry about the fact you have not had what you feel you can call a boyfriend, it is all in the perception any way, some peeps go on 2 dates and start calling each other bf/gf.

From your profile you appear to have had a busy life, so I would consider maybe slowing up a bit and giving some one a chance to get close. But never have any regrets, it just means no guy has made a real big impression on you yet.

As for the answer to that question that always comes up;

"Your single because you choose to be, and so far no one has made an impression on you to change your mind so far. You have that chance if you want it"

Only put the last sentence in if you like them, live your life with no regrets, and dont let any one start making you regret your choices you have made so far in life.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 25
36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:21:49 PM

I may be fooling myself but I really think I will know when I meet someoneif this person is someone I want to consider for a potential long term relationship and that has not happened yet!! I do go out on dates about once every two weeks or so!! I would definitely not mind if I had a BF around to cramp my lifestyle!!!! There is always the guy that you like that doesn't like you but I am ok with that I wont stop looking!!!!


Funny, you quote me yet didn't answer a single one of those questions. Hmmm. Perhaps you've been kissing a lot of frogs hoping to get a prince and in the end reality dictates that you have just been kissing a lot of frogs and they taste like, well frogs. So my advice, stop kissing frogs, and stop looking for princes, both are bullsh¡t. Close your eyes and think of the closest you've been to be with your ideal guy. What was wrong with him? Why did you dish him out? Or why did he dished you out?

I will be honest with you, I would not date you for more than three months. It's time you start seeking more depth and that means that other person also includes dirty laundry, smells, desires, a time when they need you, a time when you will need them and they will be with you even when you are nasty in your underwear on the floor.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 27
36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/18/2007 11:04:19 AM
Ahh, thus the problem. You are serious about meeting that someone. Consequently your expectations go very high and your internal voice (of probably your mother or dar or someone like that) tell you that they are not good enough. Give yourself more permission to fail, to be a goof-ball, to have a good time with a guy.
 dirsup
Joined: 9/28/2005
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36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/18/2007 11:22:25 AM
I will be 62 on 12/12 and have never actually had what one would call a "girlfriend".
I will qualify that by saying I was in the US Navy for over 26 years and in a job that I was gone all the time. No time and who would have wanted to be married to a guy that was there 1 days and gone for a year? This also happened after I retired and went to work for a Federal agency which will go unamed. I was on the road there also. BTW, I spent 19 of the 26 years in Asia so t here were innumberable opportunities.
My sister and I had kind of a joke going, she would not get married until I did and vice versa. She got married at 48 (2 years ago) and there I was, out there without any excuse. Of course, I can blame it on legacy... my father did not get married until he was 55. I used that excuse also. It should be known that I am not gay or bi-sexual either.
If the OP has not foundnd what she is looking for, as this website proclaims "plenty of fish", she can just hang her bait out a little longer. Sooner or later it will happen, she will either become the fisher-person or the fish. Go for it kiddo.
 dpd22
Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 32
36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/18/2007 2:14:48 PM

No, don't EVER lower your standards!


That's true if your standards are reasonable and realistic.
 greenIsis777
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 33
36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 9/29/2012 4:24:48 PM
I know exactly how you feel. last year I came out of a 3 year 'relationship' which was really the first one I ever had. I put that in quotations because it was more like a friendship, we got along so well that we just decided, what the hell. I've dated and had short lived seeing-a-person flings, but as for a defineable rltshp... not really. why should that throw up red flags to a guy? some people don't have the need for romantic relationships and companionship like that. It's not a real priority. I would rather be this way than be like some women who always have to have a boyfriend. why??? I don't think it's strange at all. next time a guy asks you that question just wink and say *I've had lots of boyfriends :)
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 38
36 and never had a boyfriend and you ask me WTF?!?!?
Posted: 12/26/2012 4:47:47 AM
This thread was started in 2007. Who knows-maybe the OP is married by now and has a litter of kids.
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