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 little_kitty_714
Joined: 3/24/2006
Msg: 3
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First you need to decide what it is you want, are you willing to wait around for her to make up her mind? Think carefully about that, you could be getting yourself in the middle of something you may later regret.

Personally I would cut off the relationship and move on if she is not interested in ending it with her boyfriend. Who knows how long she may be confused and really it doesn't sound like she is taking the steps to try and figure it out.

Best wishes
 Q37
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 4
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 9/20/2007 10:12:03 AM
you are not a friend if you do not tell her that you have some specail in your life, so stay with him our time has past and we can ONLY BE FRIENDS and nothing else. if she is doing this to her boyfriend now and just think what she would do to you in a few months, if someone else came around that she felt the same way for.
 MDNinja
Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 5
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 9/20/2007 11:28:19 PM
Don't even think about dating this girl. If you want to hit it and quit it, that's fine, just make sure she knows that. Either way, just move on and most importantly, do not get emotionally involved with this chick.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 1/4/2008 5:19:29 PM
Thing is, if you don't find someone else to date, then she's got you and him, and she could end up getting confused picking between you. So give her an incentive to make a choice. Start dating other girls. That way, she has to choose, because if she stays undecided, you might end up in love with someone else, and then she's stuck where she is.
 naeco
Joined: 12/16/2007
Msg: 7
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:46:34 PM
Don't hang around at all. You don't want someone who doesn't know 100% for SURE that she wants you. And she doesn't even know IF she wants you.

These games are okay when you're 15. It's time to be a man now, and that doesn't include playing kids games.
 Naughtical
Joined: 4/27/2007
Msg: 8
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:56:00 PM

hey ain't those teeny weeny boppers funnier that hell with their so called love problems

The OP is a young man (22), he is not a teen ager. His problem is very real to him, just as your problems are very real to you...would you want someone making in fun of you???

OP: You have been given some good, sound advice here...it is now up to you what you do with it. Good luck.
 aprincelyfrog
Joined: 7/25/2006
Msg: 9
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/4/2008 7:13:39 PM
If she has a boyfriend then she is off limits. Its as simple as that.

A) If it were your girlfriend, how would you want her to behave?
B) How would you want another man to behave towards you in this same situation?
C) Why would you want to cause another man pain?
D) Why would you want a woman who would put you or her in that position?
E) If she's willing to jump from him to you, what will she do with you?
F) Why would you jepordize your own integrity for anyone?

If she was involved you were wrong to say anything to her. Back off and let them work out their own relationship. Live your life, if things end between them and she's emotionally whole enough and your involvement would not cause pain to the other guy then go for it.
 rustytalent
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/5/2008 7:48:21 AM
I'd tell her how you feel, then space yourself from the situation. Let her do what she's going to do, and stay out of it till that happens. Sounds lame, but if it's meant to be it will happen.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/5/2008 9:37:12 AM

The OP is a young man (22), he is not a teen ager. His problem is very real to him, just as your problems are very real to you...would you want someone making in fun of you???
Naughtical, if a young person at 22 is a man, then why is any woman under 25 a child and/or not responsible for her actions?

Not criticising. Just asking a question.
 Naughtical
Joined: 4/27/2007
Msg: 12
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:44:51 PM


Naughtical, if a young person at 22 is a man, then why is any woman under 25 a child and/or not responsible for her actions?

Did I say this at some point?
If so, please refresh my memory, that is not what I believe.
 lisafine
Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 13
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 4:50:39 PM
And IF and WHEN she dumps her current bf, who she's " not sure about" for you- ask yourself this.
How long til she finds ANOTHER guy, who seems a bit more interesting, hotter, more $ etc, and suddenly- YOU'RE the guy she's with, but "not so sure about".
?????
 fabrial
Joined: 10/6/2007
Msg: 14
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:12:18 PM
I would suggest you wait some time and see what happens.

One thing I found out about his website is that people here are very negative in general. They view everybody as a potential cheater unless prove otherwise. Why just look things in positive ways and give you and the girl some time? things will be clear, say, about half a year later.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 1/6/2008 11:30:36 AM


Naughtical, if a young person at 22 is a man, then why is any woman under 25 a child and/or not responsible for her actions?
Did I say this at some point?
If so, please refresh my memory, that is not what I believe.
Not saying you did. I'm just clarifying that anything else would be sexist.
 Davey_Jones78
Joined: 5/10/2007
Msg: 16
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:49:02 AM
First off, forget all of that "once a cheater, always a cheater" garbage. If people really believed that then no politician would ever get elected to a second term. If she's willing to cheat on her current BF with you, it's because he isn't fulfilling her needs in their relationship. And if you end up dating her and you don't fulfill her needs, then she'll cheat on you too. But if you truly are the best man for her then she'll have no reason to cheat on you.

What you need to do is spend some time with this girl and get to know her. Then you can decide whether she's even worth pursuing and give her a chance to figure out what you bring to the dating table. Why would she leave her current BF when she doesn't even know what you have to offer her? Lots of people don't like their job but they don't quit it unless they have another one lined up. Same thing with dating. A lot of people (girls mostly it seems) won't leave the person they're dating until they find someone else.

But you can't let things go on for too long. It's like one of the other posters said; she'll be having her cake and eating it too. You eventually have to drop her an ultimatum. Either she dumps her boyfriend and dates you or you're gone. Then she has to make a decision and if you're really what she's looking for, she'll dump him. If not, then you move on. At least then you'll know. If you walk away right now you'll never know and that can drive a person crazy.

Good luck!
 m409998m1
Joined: 2/18/2007
Msg: 17
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:37:14 AM
You're probably too young, but James Taylor sang best. I'm your handy man!
 ZombieFood
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 18
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/7/2008 5:43:38 PM
Dont go for it.

From what I hear:
You are her out. the crush part may be true, but she wants out and the easiest way out is to cheat on the current guy.
 rolfen
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 8/19/2008 12:53:52 AM
If the bf is in the same town and all, it's tricky. If it's long distance, then it's in the pocket.
If you decide to stick to her, make sure she leaves her bf after a couple of weeks max, otherwise you'll feel used, and she will be in a situation where she can choose between him and you... you're bad she goes to him, then when they fight she goes back to you... believe me some girls (most?) would love to be in that situation.
And you will loose face big time.
Just make sure she leave him soon enough.
Also, expect this girl to dump you for someone else later... just as she did with her bf now. But it's ok, happens all the time.
gd luk
 mattypriz
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 20
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/7/2008 3:06:45 PM
update on the situation i did take most of all your advices and i havent talked to this girl in over 7 months now she is still with her boyfriend ,me ive stayed away from that situation and have basically moved on
 Eir
Joined: 12/31/2007
Msg: 21
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/8/2008 10:52:59 PM
Don't get near someone if they're dating someone else! You're just setting yourself up for drama. If this girl has any respect, she'll figure out how she feels and what she wants with her current b/f, either decide to stay and work things out, or end the relationship and possibly pursue things with you. Why would you want to be the 'other guy'? Let things take their course, live your life, don't wait around, and who knows what will happen down the road! If you're meant to end up together, you will......when she's single.
 Boutac
Joined: 9/29/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 10/3/2009 2:13:12 PM
The question is how valuable is the friendship? I am in this very same situation right now. The only difference is we weren't friends to begin with. She made it obvious to me that she is interested, and for over a month now, I've played it "cool". We just talk in a casual manner, and I never bring up the boyfriend, but she hints that she is not happy. She lives a couple hours away, and sees him once a week at most. When I asked her what her weekend plans were, she said with a great lack of enthusiasm "going to our old high school homecoming game." Now I figure, and this is my opinion and my situation, may not apply to you and you may not go this route. I am going to ask her to do something completely innocent, a coffee or something. If she drops any hints, or comes out and says what she feels for me, then I will let it known that I do as well. To hell with the consequences. She is a woman, she has free will, and is not something to be owned. Pressuring her to make a decision is wrong, but quietly being myself has worked so far. If we end up together, sure, she might cheat on me, or the relationship could blow up in my face. But I won't know unless I let my balls drop and go for it. I believe if you find a shot at happiness, you grab on with both hands and don't look back. The only thing in life are the experiences. Good and bad, and you will look back on them later, and you will have regrets if you think you should have done something and did nothing. It's better to get hurt than not know the answer to your "what if?" 10 years down the road. That's what happened to me, and probably why I feel differently than others on this thread.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 23
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:27:17 AM
op, the biggest prob is as follows: she is willing to cheat on her bf! enough said!
 johninsd
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 24
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/4/2009 2:24:09 PM

im in a sticky situation and really dont know what to do about it. ive known this girl for a very long time and recently she told me shes had and still has the biggest crush on me. which i didnt see the clues for a very long time untill now the problem is she has a boyfriend.


This one's easy.

Tell her to dump the boyfriend.

Boyfriend / girlfriend isn't marriage. It's dating. Sometimes, these things don't work out. C'est la vie. There is precisely nothing wrong with telling someone you're dating, "You know, this just isn't working out, so sorry, here's your stuff, have a nice life".

If she won't... walk away and do not communicate with her again. For here there be dragons.
 GuyN3xtDoor
Joined: 4/6/2008
Msg: 25
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Posted: 10/6/2009 2:19:03 AM
Well, she seems to like you, but she also likes another guy. If she was really into her boyfriend, she wouldn't be telling you the feelings she has for you. But, beware she's not with you which also tells you something. She may not really know what she wants.

You have told her how you feel about her, so now you need to take a step back and see how she responds, if at all. Also, you need to be respectful of her boyfriend as long as she is seeing him exclusively. You would want the same respect from other men and from her, too.

You shouldn't wait for her because she's with someone currently. So there is no point in waiting. If I were you I would continue to date and keep your options open until you meet the woman that you feel compatible with, whether it is her or someone else.

Hope that is helpful!
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 26
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/7/2009 12:52:15 AM
Shes ambivalent to her current boyfriend, and didnt tell you for YEARS that she liked you (or she was dropping hints and you missed them, because YOU dont like her like that) move on, move over, move up, but get outta this one. If anything you will be rebound boy for a month and a half, and then she will meet someone that is the "ONE".
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 27
this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:43:03 AM

.. if she ends up cheating on her current boyfriend with you, because she likes you, somewhere down the road somebody else will come along that she likes and she will cheat on you with him. That's what cheaters do in many cases. If they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you.


Any man who considers being with another man's woman deserves to be cheated on so its not a big loss.
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