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 toomuch13
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 46
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I always hate it when a woman states "all women" fake it at some time and if another woman states she doe not fake it, the woman states she is lying. This is so not true. Maybe there are women who do fake it. I don't know since I don't have sex with women, but that does not mean all women do. Before I even had sex, I knew it would be stupid to fake it.
 toomuch13
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 48
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 6:39:55 AM
"Any guy who says that he 'can tell when a girl is faking it' please"

I would think by muscle contractions. My muscles contract when I orgasm. I have put my hand down there and felt it so I am sure guys could notice that.
 ripley65
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 49
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 6:55:41 AM
my question is if there are any girls who can say that they, themselves, have NEVER faked it (an orgasm)? and if there are guys who are pretty SURE that a girl has never faked it with them?


Never faked one? Nope cant say that. And,,i really doubt a man can tell a woman is faking (you can contract your muscles as tho you were having one), unless she's a horrible actress and is going way overboard like some porn flick chick.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 50
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:45:09 AM
well my SO says she has never faked an orgasm ..and I believe her because there are times when she just tells me that it aint going to happen and she wants me to finish ...and I see no reason for her to fake

but on the other hand ...I have faked and will again ..and she has never asked and I hope she dont ..as i would be torn between confessing and hurting her feelings

now I have never not enjoyed sex ..but there are times when it becomes evident that im just not going to cum ..this happens sometimes when i have gotten to the brink and held back to make it last for her ...do this a few times and after that it aint gona happen ...now men have learned to accept that sometimes a woman wont get off ...but if my SO thought that i didnt cum she would take it as a failure on her part ..or worse that i was somehow upset or turned off by her ...y'all talk about the male ego ...but I have found that the insecurities of the female ...make it better just to fake ..and every ones happy ...and I guarantee if a woman is wet she cannot tell I have faked ...I would never fake with any other motive than to make her feel comfortable thinking that i had climaxed ...i never faked enjoying sex just cumming ....women think that the climax is necessary for us to enjoy sex ...not true ..i have heard many women say that orgasm is not necessary for them enjoying sex ..but they cannot accept that the same is true for us ...whos fault is this ....probably ours
 TXBrownEyedGirl
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 51
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:04:09 AM
Girls....sshhhhhhh
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 52
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:33:39 AM

What can I say as my eyes are rolling in ecstasy? It worked! There are all kinds of communication darlin!


I know there are sugar dumplin'... but that's counter productive to the kind of communication your other thread is about, isn't it?


there are times when she just tells me that it aint going to happen and she wants me to finish ...and I see no reason for her to fake


I have done this too... there are many times where I knew it wasn't going to happen, or I wasn't in the mood to orgasm but I still enjoy the physical contact with him. Some men get a little freaked out when you give them the greenlight to go for their own pleasure.. "are you sure? you don't want to?" The physical sensations are fantastic regardless of the outcome.


but on the other hand ...I have faked and will again ..and she has never asked and I hope she dont ..as i would be torn between confessing and hurting her feelings

now I have never not enjoyed sex ..but there are times when it becomes evident that im just not going to cum ..this happens sometimes when i have gotten to the brink and held back to make it last for her ...do this a few times and after that it aint gona happen ...now men have learned to accept that sometimes a woman wont get off ...but if my SO thought that i didnt cum she would take it as a failure on her part[/] ..or worse that i was somehow upset or turned off by her ...y'all talk about the male ego ...but I have found that the insecurities of the female ...make it better just to fake ..and every ones happy ...and I guarantee if a woman is wet she cannot tell I have faked ...I would never fake with any other motive than to make her feel comfortable thinking that i had climaxed ...i never faked enjoying sex just cumming ....women think that the climax is necessary for us to enjoy sex ...not true ..i have heard many women say that orgasm is not necessary for them enjoying sex ..but they cannot accept that the same is true for us ...whos fault is this ....probably ours


Deerdog... wow... are you sure you aren't part female?? Hehehe... It's not that my ego is hurt, and perhaps with my age I have come to learn that pleasure isn't linked directly to orgasm. I just want to know that my partner is satisfied to the best of my abilities. If that means that neither one of us achieves orgasm, then fine. As long as we are both enjoying ourselves and our bodies... sometimes all we need is the physical closeness of another body... I crave the sensation of his body over mine, or him being inside me... as close as possible.

You know... I'd rather he just be upfront with me, like I will be with him. "Baby, it just isn't gonna happen right now..." goes a long way!!! Sure, fine, I might pout for about 3 seconds, but it goes away when he pulls me down into his arms for a snuggle.
 surely im shirley
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 53
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:00:16 AM

I know there are sugar dumplin'... but that's counter productive to the kind of communication your other thread is about, isn't it?


My other thread that you refer to is based on my experience as a 47 year old woman. As an inexperienced new wife with a new baby...I was 19. Get it? I've changed......

So baby....you appear to have some kind of personal agenda against me. You've referred to my posts from other threads a few times now. Whatever. I can only assume that I threaten you somehow. Sorry. Its' not personal.
 jazz and bourbon
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 54
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:05:37 AM
I hope the fakers realize what they are "saying" when they fake it. Because what they are saying when they fake one is "You don't need to finish me".

My feeling is, if that is the case...just tell me honestly. Fake O's are just a form of lying. Shows a lack of willingness to communicate openly and honestly.
 surely im shirley
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 55
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:08:26 AM

My feeling is, if that is the case...just tell me honestly. Fake O's are just a form of lying. Shows a lack of willingness to communicate openly and honestly.


Absolutely!
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:12:08 AM
Shit, even I have faked it with a rubber on. Fo' Real Estate.
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:28:51 AM
1samrap...simple really...if a guy has a rubber on...how would you ever know he came.

Of course...this would not be possible if the guy is rawdog.

Total guy...I will just sit back and watch this one. You are about to get eaten alive by these chicks in here.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 59
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 11:36:08 AM

Fake O's are just a form of lying. Shows a lack of willingness to communicate openly and honestly.



Ok ill give you that ...IM a liar ...but are all lies bad ??? if i fake an orgasm to perserve her feelings is that a bad lie

if my wife is sick and we go out to eat and she ask me how she looks ..and say Darling you are beautiful ...but in reality she has had the flue for two weeks and actualy looks like death warmed over ..but if she dont get out and start getting better she probally will die ...do i tell the truth hurt her and send her back into hiding or Lie knowing that a night out will make her feel and rsult in her looking better before the night is over ...
so when i thrust deep hold it for a few seconds ..make my legs quiver ..let out a deep breath ..act like i am having a hard time getting the next one ...snuggle up kiss her and say you are wonderful roll over and cough a couple times ...and she thinks i have cummed ...and i tell her no different ..she feels good and so do I ..is this a bad lie

or do i keep going untill we are both sore knowing it aint going to happen and then tell her i cant cum tonight and roll over leaving her wondering if its something she did wrong or if i am not turned on by her as much as i use to be
 smilinpixie
Joined: 7/9/2008
Msg: 60
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 11:55:18 AM
I haven't had a need since my divorce

Some nights it was just easier to let him think he pleased me so he would hurry up and finish. Bad sex is not always better than no sex!
 jazz and bourbon
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 61
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 12:30:13 PM
Well deerdog...here's my approach...

She gets told the truth. Going out to eat 'cause she need to get out of the house (but still "looks like she feels") and she asks "How do I look?" I answer with something along the lines of "Better" (than she did before she cleaned up) or "Like misery in nice clothes" or "Good enough" or some other line of rye wit. She knows I can only see her, in wedding day WOW or pale white sick UCK, as beautiful...because I know her well enough that the visual aspect is irrelevant to me. I simply cannot look at her and not see beauty. But she has asked that I give some degree of detached honest response to questions like "How do I look?". So I do. I also have a rather well-developed wit that I attribute to years of watching M.A.S.H., so it often comes thru in alot of my responses.

As for when I'm just not going to orgasm (yes, been there...once so far), after she had a few orgasms and I was getting sore I pulled out. She looked at me a bit confused and asked me if I had finished. I told her that I didn't think I was going to be able to. She said "well don't you want to keep trying" and I said "actually, I'm kind of enjoying the fact that I didn't...'cause that's the most orgasms I've given you in one setting...and I think your about as worn out as I am...so I'm just gonna fall asleep thinking I'm some kind of ultimate sex machine...*grin*".

Believe it or not...honesty can actually work.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 64
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Posted: 9/2/2008 1:48:58 PM
Nope...I just make them work harder!!!
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 66
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 2:03:56 PM
and if there are guys who are pretty SURE that a girl has never faked it with them?


There is no way for a guy to be sure if any woman hasn't faked it. The only sane approach is to assume a woman will do what's in her best interests. If she thinks faking it is in her best interests, it's her loss. I don't want to have to pry the truth out of someone when she's the one who ought to be motivated to be honest, especially since women get cranky if a guy does ask. I've gotten over trying to help people who fight it every step of the way.
 toomuch13
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 67
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 3:58:51 PM
"I still enjoy the physical contact with him. Some men get a little freaked out when you give them the greenlight to go for their own pleasure.. "are you sure? you don't want to?" The physical sensations are fantastic regardless of the outcome."

Sex is still fun even if you don't orgasm. I have done this too and men do get a little winged out by it.
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 68
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:54:32 PM
There seems to be a lot of ignorance in the comments here when it comes to a man's orgasm. Women seem to think it doesn't matter how good they are at sex and that we are so "simple" that all our orgasms and feelings are the same each time. Some are very intense while others (if our partner is less than stellar) can be so-so. In a sense, we could (and have) faked how good it was for us from time to time.
 Uncle Fist
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 70
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Posted: 9/3/2008 1:06:49 AM

of course a guy cannot fake because right after sex the cum flows back anyway and she would know


Perhaps you don't know about male multi-orgasms. Using your kegels to prevent ejaculation during orgasm. Very easy.
 GeminiMan66
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 71
faking it?
Posted: 9/3/2008 4:39:25 AM

of course a guy cannot fake because right after sex the cum flows back anyway and she would know


Perhaps you don't know about male multi-orgasms. Using your kegels to prevent ejaculation during orgasm. Very easy.


Yeah!......either that or pull out and spit on her back...
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 72
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Posted: 9/3/2008 5:58:54 AM

My other thread that you refer to is based on my experience as a 47 year old woman. As an inexperienced new wife with a new baby...I was 19. Get it? I've changed......

So baby....you appear to have some kind of personal agenda against me. You've referred to my posts from other threads a few times now. Whatever. I can only assume that I threaten you somehow. Sorry. Its' not personal.


Oh.. it's far from personal. Just pointing out the contradictions I've noticed in your postings is all.

RalphBX -
All woman fake at some point or another, they do it because they can.


And you've slept with ALL women to know this for a fact?? Funny.. I don't remember you... *rolls eyes and walks away*
 surely im shirley
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 74
faking it?
Posted: 9/3/2008 8:14:02 AM

Oh.. it's far from personal. Just pointing out the contradictions I've noticed in your postings is all.


Then get it right sweetheart....(rolls eyes and walks away)
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 9/4/2008 11:17:01 AM
I've never faked an orgasm. Thank God I've never HAD to.
 CCsMom
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 77
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Posted: 9/4/2008 12:23:50 PM
I have NEVER faked it. If I dont get off, Im going to let you know, cuz i'll be damn pissed about it!! LOL Sexual frustration sucks!
faking it?
Posted: 9/4/2008 1:50:33 PM
For the women who think a guy can't/hasn't faked it. Read my previous posts. Trust me. I KNOW you can. Provided a rubber is used.
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