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 1samrap
Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 57
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hmmm...too funny!

I didn't realize guys could 'fake it'...i have however, said many times before guys can orgasm without cumming and cum without having a true leg shaking, out of body, orgasm...i have made it happen so i speak from experience.

as for me faking it...ya, there are times when it happens...but then i usually fess up and talk about it with my partner about what was going on. once that communication happens then watch out as there has never been a need to pull out the fake after that.

as always, just my opinion...
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:28:51 AM
1samrap...simple really...if a guy has a rubber on...how would you ever know he came.

Of course...this would not be possible if the guy is rawdog.

Total guy...I will just sit back and watch this one. You are about to get eaten alive by these chicks in here.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 59
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 11:36:08 AM

Fake O's are just a form of lying. Shows a lack of willingness to communicate openly and honestly.



Ok ill give you that ...IM a liar ...but are all lies bad ??? if i fake an orgasm to perserve her feelings is that a bad lie

if my wife is sick and we go out to eat and she ask me how she looks ..and say Darling you are beautiful ...but in reality she has had the flue for two weeks and actualy looks like death warmed over ..but if she dont get out and start getting better she probally will die ...do i tell the truth hurt her and send her back into hiding or Lie knowing that a night out will make her feel and rsult in her looking better before the night is over ...
so when i thrust deep hold it for a few seconds ..make my legs quiver ..let out a deep breath ..act like i am having a hard time getting the next one ...snuggle up kiss her and say you are wonderful roll over and cough a couple times ...and she thinks i have cummed ...and i tell her no different ..she feels good and so do I ..is this a bad lie

or do i keep going untill we are both sore knowing it aint going to happen and then tell her i cant cum tonight and roll over leaving her wondering if its something she did wrong or if i am not turned on by her as much as i use to be
 smilinpixie
Joined: 7/9/2008
Msg: 60
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 11:55:18 AM
I haven't had a need since my divorce

Some nights it was just easier to let him think he pleased me so he would hurry up and finish. Bad sex is not always better than no sex!
 jazz and bourbon
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 61
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 12:30:13 PM
Well deerdog...here's my approach...

She gets told the truth. Going out to eat 'cause she need to get out of the house (but still "looks like she feels") and she asks "How do I look?" I answer with something along the lines of "Better" (than she did before she cleaned up) or "Like misery in nice clothes" or "Good enough" or some other line of rye wit. She knows I can only see her, in wedding day WOW or pale white sick UCK, as beautiful...because I know her well enough that the visual aspect is irrelevant to me. I simply cannot look at her and not see beauty. But she has asked that I give some degree of detached honest response to questions like "How do I look?". So I do. I also have a rather well-developed wit that I attribute to years of watching M.A.S.H., so it often comes thru in alot of my responses.

As for when I'm just not going to orgasm (yes, been there...once so far), after she had a few orgasms and I was getting sore I pulled out. She looked at me a bit confused and asked me if I had finished. I told her that I didn't think I was going to be able to. She said "well don't you want to keep trying" and I said "actually, I'm kind of enjoying the fact that I didn't...'cause that's the most orgasms I've given you in one setting...and I think your about as worn out as I am...so I'm just gonna fall asleep thinking I'm some kind of ultimate sex machine...*grin*".

Believe it or not...honesty can actually work.
 1samrap
Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 62
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 1:14:21 PM
rockmysocks...in response to your question how would i know if the guy faked it or not if he was wearing a condom...
Answer: I take the condom off and clean up.

-nuff said?? LOL
 Slightly_Uncivilized
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 63
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 1:46:34 PM

I have indeed faked it before. Sometimes women all women have other things on their minds besides having a orgasam. I know if I have had a hard day at work or other things are going on there is times that I would want to please who I was with however just wasn't into at that time. It happens oh well!!


Please speak for yourself, dont' come out here and lump All women this may be your experience not all of us. I can say I have never faked why bother to me. That is like wanting coffee for breakfast but settling for TEA. Yuck. somehow it just isn't the same.

Now are for men if they are intune at all with their partner they will know if it is faked of not. I know my man would right off the bat whether mine was real or not, and not just by the contracting of muscles but by other physical things that happen. For example a major rush of warmth and wetness, how about the flush on the upper chest.

I also agree with another poster that there are times it just isn't going to happen over and over for me. I let my partner know "hun, there just isn't any more in me please lets just concentrate on you I have had mine".

Fake it no way in Hell I may as well not even bother. I also am a firm believer a woman is 60% responsible if she is going to have an orgasm or not.
IMO Way to much pressure is put upon the man to achieve this.

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 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 64
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faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 1:48:58 PM
Nope...I just make them work harder!!!
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 66
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 2:03:56 PM
and if there are guys who are pretty SURE that a girl has never faked it with them?


There is no way for a guy to be sure if any woman hasn't faked it. The only sane approach is to assume a woman will do what's in her best interests. If she thinks faking it is in her best interests, it's her loss. I don't want to have to pry the truth out of someone when she's the one who ought to be motivated to be honest, especially since women get cranky if a guy does ask. I've gotten over trying to help people who fight it every step of the way.
 toomuch13
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 67
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 3:58:51 PM
"I still enjoy the physical contact with him. Some men get a little freaked out when you give them the greenlight to go for their own pleasure.. "are you sure? you don't want to?" The physical sensations are fantastic regardless of the outcome."

Sex is still fun even if you don't orgasm. I have done this too and men do get a little winged out by it.
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 68
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:54:32 PM
There seems to be a lot of ignorance in the comments here when it comes to a man's orgasm. Women seem to think it doesn't matter how good they are at sex and that we are so "simple" that all our orgasms and feelings are the same each time. Some are very intense while others (if our partner is less than stellar) can be so-so. In a sense, we could (and have) faked how good it was for us from time to time.
 Ms.Sweet Sinful Seduction
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 69
faking it?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:15:40 PM
There was only one man I NEVER faked with because he was the only one who could ever bring me to orgasm, all the rest including the most recent, yeah, I faked, lol, sorry.
 Uncle Fist
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 70
faking it?
Posted: 9/3/2008 1:06:49 AM

of course a guy cannot fake because right after sex the cum flows back anyway and she would know


Perhaps you don't know about male multi-orgasms. Using your kegels to prevent ejaculation during orgasm. Very easy.
 GeminiMan66
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 71
faking it?
Posted: 9/3/2008 4:39:25 AM

of course a guy cannot fake because right after sex the cum flows back anyway and she would know


Perhaps you don't know about male multi-orgasms. Using your kegels to prevent ejaculation during orgasm. Very easy.


Yeah!......either that or pull out and spit on her back...
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 72
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Posted: 9/3/2008 5:58:54 AM

My other thread that you refer to is based on my experience as a 47 year old woman. As an inexperienced new wife with a new baby...I was 19. Get it? I've changed......

So baby....you appear to have some kind of personal agenda against me. You've referred to my posts from other threads a few times now. Whatever. I can only assume that I threaten you somehow. Sorry. Its' not personal.


Oh.. it's far from personal. Just pointing out the contradictions I've noticed in your postings is all.

RalphBX -
All woman fake at some point or another, they do it because they can.


And you've slept with ALL women to know this for a fact?? Funny.. I don't remember you... *rolls eyes and walks away*
 surely im shirley
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 74
faking it?
Posted: 9/3/2008 8:14:02 AM

Oh.. it's far from personal. Just pointing out the contradictions I've noticed in your postings is all.


Then get it right sweetheart....(rolls eyes and walks away)
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 9/4/2008 11:17:01 AM
I've never faked an orgasm. Thank God I've never HAD to.
 CCsMom
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 77
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Posted: 9/4/2008 12:23:50 PM
I have NEVER faked it. If I dont get off, Im going to let you know, cuz i'll be damn pissed about it!! LOL Sexual frustration sucks!
faking it?
Posted: 9/4/2008 1:50:33 PM
For the women who think a guy can't/hasn't faked it. Read my previous posts. Trust me. I KNOW you can. Provided a rubber is used.
 GeminiMan66
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 79
faking it?
Posted: 9/4/2008 2:14:41 PM

For the women who think a guy can't/hasn't faked it. Read my previous posts. Trust me. Provided a rubber is used


Oh yeah?

Can you fake it....without using one?

I CAN.....see my previous post
faking it?
Posted: 9/4/2008 2:20:07 PM
Ah ha, my friend...if you spit on her back, wait for her to turn around...THEN hit her in the face with the real deal...you have "THE HOUDINI"
 john_raymond21
Joined: 8/6/2008
Msg: 81
faking it?
Posted: 9/4/2008 2:37:55 PM
As long as I do not know if it is faked or not, it does not matter if she screams and squeals like she enjoyed it. lol
 andie66
Joined: 5/27/2008
Msg: 82
faking it?
Posted: 9/4/2008 2:42:29 PM
[For every woman that has faked it is a guy that told a girl he loved her just to get some. ]

carolann0308 talk about truth! good answer!!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 85
faking it?
Posted: 9/15/2008 1:07:22 PM

A woman may be able to fake muscle spasms and contractions, but you can't fake flush skin, erratic heartbeats, swollen lips, and dilated pupils


I almost always agree with this man, but today, meh:

1. flush skin- a common symptom of exertion, trying to get over the top, but hardly conclusive proof of success;

2. erratic heartbeats- lying/prevarication does that, which is what rings the bell on the polygraphs, as do some medications, "legal" or otherwise; btw, do you really take her pulse at some point? lol;

3. swollen lips- hmmm, the northern ones? a mouth-mashing kiss, perhaps, or the effect of pursing them, or tightening them. Now, if the ones south of the navel, ime, digital, oral or penile stimulation, to which her blood rushes, almost always produces the "pout" and swell;

4. Dilated pupils- meds, meds, meds! shock at my remarkable dimensions?lol, any of various witchy devices.

Not saying all women would or could pull it off, but I have met more than one gifted liar in my life who could slip past a poly.
 startle
Joined: 7/22/2008
Msg: 86
faking it?
Posted: 9/15/2008 1:50:54 PM
it's always been very easy for me to orgasm. i had an immediate orgasm the very 1st time i did it. i can only remember 3 times i didn't orgasm. 2 times in high school because the guy was very inexperienced. the last time was about 13 yrs ago. i had to dump him. anyone can make me cum. although i've never tried having sex with someone who isn't hot. i know i'm a terrible actress so if i'm with someone i'm for sure very into him. so those guys who aren't hot (to me) don't make it pass a kiss. an orgasm isn't just about looks though. mental focus is key. living in the now and relaxing and going with it......it'll just happen.
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