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 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
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One example...as a pagan I'm not particularly sensitive about nudity. Some rituals call for it... with others involved in the ritual (may not include SO). To someone of more christian or traditional views they may not understanmd this in context.
Nearly all people I know would have a problem with their S/O dancing round a campfire naked, even atheists and agnostics.

Thank you so much for directing me down that google path. I'm going to have to wash my brain with soap. Some of that Crowley stuff is going to make me want to gargle all evening. Describing his Thelma religion as "Other" is the only kind choice.
I read over 20 years ago that Crowley was Hitler's astrologer. Just look how successful he was.

Edit: Look at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aleister_Crowley
This guy was sick. He bragged about taking hard drugs, including cocaine and heroin.
He defended Anti-Semitic mass attacks against the Jews, even though he read the Kabbalah.
He defended the use of violence against the Chinese, even though he read the I-Ching.
He regarded women as secondary social beings in terms of intellect and sensibility. But he still asked a woman to help him with his rituals.
 vladtepes97
Joined: 8/14/2007
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Posted: 9/22/2007 9:25:46 PM
darn right we do! otherwise, it will become a serious point of contention later. i mean, what religious man wants to be with someone who won't go to church with him? it's not as if it's a hobby that he does once in a while, like collecting stamps, or it shouldn't be.
 vladtepes97
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Posted: 9/22/2007 9:28:56 PM

I like driving Jehova's Witnesses nuts. Its SOOOO easy.


mt brother once kept a joho couple standing and talking at the door for 45 minutes. he told us later it was because the woman was smokin' hot!
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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Posted: 9/23/2007 9:12:50 AM
Great replies

I don't go into detail about my beliefs on my profile...other than to state pagan, because I can't really describe it in a minute or two. It's much more complicated than that... with buddhist, hindu, pagan and shamanistic elements, and I also take interest in traditional Judeo-christian ideas also.. to me it's all little puzzle pieces to the bigger picture. There is no one definition I can use.

Samhain is a blast also! My personal favorite

I'm not complaining...just interested. Gotta go..I'm off to the zoo with my kid!
 Ravenstar66
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Posted: 9/23/2007 9:21:43 AM
Where's the chickens' blood!

Only on horseback during the Sacred Hunt!
 vladtepes97
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Posted: 9/23/2007 12:00:18 PM
it seems the majority of responses are from people who do not have much of a religious life to begin with. so, for them, religion doesn't matter. however, i venture that it will matter to whoever those men are with, if the ladies were religious to begin with. an unreligious person going to church with you is not really the kind of sharing that couples like to experience. besides, there's not only weekly services, but occasional prayer meetings someone might want to attend, retreats, special ceremonies, choir practice and pilgrimages.
then, what about possible marriage? will it be a religious sacramental ceremony that requires study and classes with the celebrant, or will it just be a civil contract signed before a judge?
and what about children? will only one parent take them to church while the other stays home, thus giving every indication that going to services or otherwise fulfilling the requirements of a faith means nothing?

if you don't care, better hope she doesn't either.
 Ravenstar66
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Posted: 9/23/2007 3:05:25 PM
Yes..I can see it becoming an issue if the people involved were thinking about marriage or children. That's not an issue for me anymore. I have my child and do not wish to get married. Handfasted....maybe

I personally wouldn't care what a man's religion was ..if (big if) he was open-minded and tolerant. The only time it would bother me is if he couldn't give me space for my own, or he tried to convert me. But part of my belief system is tolerance and respect for anothers spiritual life.

I've really enjoyed reading all the replies here.
 vladtepes97
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Posted: 9/23/2007 6:51:12 PM

I care either cannot have one and thats fine or she can have the same as me and that is fine but god and budda and cannot live in the same house. Know what I mean Jean


you know, this resembles english, but i don't recognise the dialect or the syntax. translation please.
 Ravenstar66
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Posted: 9/23/2007 7:03:47 PM
Dear Vlad

hehe

I think it means (I'm going out on a limb here) she can either not have a religion or have one (religion...I think) as long as it is the same as his...hopefully they both speak the same language! And somehow the Buddha got confused with "God", (I'm thinking the judeo-christian Jehovah here). I didn't know the Buddha was considered a deity? Like Confucious? Okay, sorry, I am being facetious here.

Personally I think Jesus and the Buddha would get along just fine. They have a lot of the same ideas.
 Ravenstar66
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Posted: 9/23/2007 7:06:14 PM
AlexSB

Did I ever tell you I love you? You are probably one of the most real people on these forums..I really enjoy reading your posts.

Just needed to say that
 MONEMPERER
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Posted: 9/23/2007 7:42:12 PM
as long as they are practical about their religeon I seem to run into alot of wiccans in my life and alot of them are not quite the most rational people. Then again most religeous Fanatics of all sorts whether they are buddist or Taoist or Any stripe of christianity or any other religeon tends to not be very rational. Now I am a deist I know in my heart god exists but I dont think any of the religeons have got it down right.

I do think Jesus and buddha would get along the person of both not the gods that got created later. What has never made sense about christianity to me is the huge difference between the god of the old testament and Jesus its like one went from a right wing militia member wielding a shot gun (old testament god) to a socialist hippie puritan its just a huge difference.
 Ravenstar66
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Posted: 9/24/2007 7:25:26 AM
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 Ravenstar66
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Posted: 9/24/2007 12:44:13 PM
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Now that sounds interesting!

No..I am actually the kind of woman who knows men..well some men, are deeper than just a roll in the hay

This thread proves that...so nice

I'm no fanatic..in that I still use the reason I was born with... but spirituality IS important to me. I'm also no evangelist.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
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Posted: 9/24/2007 3:47:33 PM
It really doesn't matter to me what religion a girl is or even if she is religious at all.
But how I am spiritually, may matter to a girl.
So if a girl is very religious, I mention my views early.

If religion is not a big concern for a girl,
it's not for me either.

Stray
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
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Posted: 9/24/2007 3:47:56 PM
I wouldn't care unless she tried to shove her beliefs down my throat and was rude to people who don't share her beliefs.
 darkjedi1
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Posted: 9/24/2007 8:43:51 PM
Well ravenstar since were both pagan, we know how much our religion means to us. I sure as hell look at their religion first. It means probably as much to me as it does to you. And oh so disapointed most of the time when i check them out too lol.
 Ravenstar66
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Posted: 9/25/2007 6:36:49 AM
FeistyFaerie

so true.... it has taken me half my life to find my path, and I'm a much less neurotic person than I was trying to fit in with traditional religions. At peace..yes, that's a good way to put it.

being mostly a solitary I haven't really had the chance to be with lots of other pagans (except on the net) so I can't speak to their relative stability, but I would think there are those who are and those who aren't...I doubt the stability of any fanatics. Skyclad..hmmm... I started by doing my personal esbats (inside) skyclad. It really gave me a better sense of the divine feminine than the robes. I'm a little concerned about mosquitos outside! But I always go unshod outside.

To all who replied here, I want to thank you for your candor and thoughtfulness in replying. I think the consesnsus is nobody wants to have spirituality or religion shoved down their throats.

To my pagan friends.. yes, they should have an option for Pagans/Heathens, Buddhists and Hindus on here. Other is just not good enough. If you have noticed there are quite a few of us here.

Merry Mabon! I hope this years harvest was as abundant for you as it has been for me.

Namasté

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 Seavoyage
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:26:39 AM
Well, as long as a woman is not very dogmatic like Evangelical or hates people who ate meat, I don't care too much about that. I am a spiritual person. I don't put my views on others and focus more on the person than their religion, but sometimes someone's religious views can be a problem.
 Akutenshi
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Posted: 12/6/2007 12:18:27 AM
If she can handle the fact i dont care about religions, the after life or have faith in something someone has told me to believe then i dont mind what religion she is.

I will try to be understanding to it and all, but if she picks at my choice, then i will pick back at hers >.>

All in fairness, eh?
 Invictus01
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Posted: 8/26/2008 9:59:30 PM
Yeah... I cover it my profile.
 Double Cabin
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Posted: 8/27/2008 8:59:27 AM
If your status changed since your original post my apologies Ravenstar for this assumption:

If you're "not single/not looking" why would religion of any kind offer any greater deterence? You're beautiful, a lot of our heads simply will never turn beyond that however much we try and cultivate your intelectual passions. We are men, some of us are critical thinkers, some of us aren't nd some of us are down right deceitfull.
 Sparkopassion
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Posted: 8/28/2008 2:25:51 AM
I think everyone who sates they have a religion whatever it may be needs to be very clear about it and if they are practising ect, as this can avoid so much wasted time and confusion at a later date especially if your life evolves so much around it.

Sure there should be more catogories for your choice of religion, although im sure many men would run a mile if they found you to be practising witchcraft or whatever.

 abelian
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Posted: 8/28/2008 10:29:20 AM
Well, I am an atheist, but I only care about a woman's religion to the extent that she isn't going to make an issue of it, try to convert me or get pissed off because I consider a belief in the tooth fairy to be no different than any other religion.
 slybandit
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Posted: 8/28/2008 11:24:23 AM
ravenstar66, you are certainly right that it falls into the general category of "do men read the profiles."

Realistically, I would guess that it all depends on what the particular man happens to want or to be looking for. If he is looking for a longterm relationship, presumably some degree of religious compatibility is important. Obviously, some religions are perceived by their adherents as demanding this sort of comptability more than others.

Personally, I do not care about a woman's religion per se. You can probably infer a great deal about my personal belief system from my attitude to the topic, but so be it.

What I care about is how the woman in question acts, what she perceives her particular religion (or lack thereof) as requiring her to DO, and whether she supports or insists upon particular kinds of action with other people based on her belief system. It is also important to understand the religion (or lack thereof) that a woman's relatives happen to profess, because that can influence their behaviour also, not to mention hers.

I personally have found religious discussion rather pointless. Religion simply operates as one more in a long list of barriers to finding someone compatible with myself in the long term.
 whytwater
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Posted: 8/28/2008 1:34:58 PM
I've dated some witches. Most were really good, but some are the blackhearted, evil ones that make pastry out of children. But it's the Baptists that really scare me.
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