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 Theonly1!
Joined: 5/1/2007
Msg: 6
Date tonightPage 3 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
I suggest wearing a large name tag to the date and see if he laughs or not... if he laughs and says "ya, I'm terrible with names, sorry"... then it's cool!
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 13
Date tonight
Posted: 9/29/2007 6:32:38 AM
Yea that's it lady don't go for some stupid reason. Just another case of making a mountain out of a molehill. No wonder most of us are still single.
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 16
Date tonight
Posted: 9/29/2007 7:18:59 AM
"i decided not to go and will be making a phone call today and explaining why. I feel i owe him at least that"

Don't you think you owed him this phone call before you stood him up not after?. But i guess this is your way of getting back at him for not remembering your name.... touche, well done, hope it made you feel better

I think that this guy dogged a bullit by forgetting your name. You're really clueless.
 wickedgood
Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 33
Date tonight
Posted: 9/29/2007 10:23:29 AM
Well, OP and all, there are a couple of different threads going on here, and obviously a couple of different opinions.

My name is Henk, and nearly no one can pronounce it correctly, its a Dutch name, and it becomes Hank. I try to help people pronounce it, but it is much easier to say Hank, and it's acceptable to me.

OP mentioned that the name the guy said was close, not that he didnt remmber some
"but this guy keeps calling me the wrong name...close but not my name...".

I can only guess and I won't try to psychoanalyze, but maybe OP, you are also nervous as any of us would be on a first date? Its a tough call because there are perhaps other things going on, subliminally that your intuition is picking up but can't put words to it. And you may even be afraid to confront people or in particular this person.

Other folks, be gentle, I am sure that each of us has hesitated doing what we knew was "right" or "polite" when we were afraid. And sure we can also rationalize that there's nothing to be afraid of ..... but yet we are afraid ....


You have to be commended on following your gut. From my own experience, you can't go wrong if you follow your gut instinct, no matter how weird at first your decision may have seemed.

Be gentle with yourself, and you can be gentle with others ...

Henk
 dentwebb
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 35
Date tonight
Posted: 9/29/2007 11:02:57 AM
I would say go with your gut feeling! But, I have a difficult time remembering a name of someone I have never met yet myself. After that no problem...
 kwh56
Joined: 8/7/2007
Msg: 36
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Date tonight
Posted: 9/29/2007 11:14:28 AM
Wow I dont believe this!! Go out with the guy and see how it goes. I for one have trouble remembering names. I can forget one within seconds but can remember a number,Dates times and about anything else. Give the guy a chance. He might well be one you dont want to get away!
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 42
Date tonight
Posted: 9/29/2007 12:03:19 PM
"maybe because most of you have the sensitivy of a rock!"

Ouch i am guessing that comment was directed squarely at me. In my defence Livingquestion you do have a name that's very easily mispronounced


But unlike the Op and her nondate we did make it past the name thing.
 litlebear
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 44
Date tonight
Posted: 9/29/2007 12:35:03 PM
if you dont want to go out with him i will go out with you anytime sweetheart what is your name and number. my name is mark i am 44 yrs old been div 1 yr now let me know thanks mark
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