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Joined: 9/5/2005
Msg: 512
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"I'd jut like to ask as you see this in a lot of profiles '' Must not do drugs''.

what do people consider Drugs?? obviously someone with a daily heroin or coke habit is doing 'drugs'.

but what about people who smoke cannabis? do you consider cannabis a drug?

And if you use this contact restriction, why do you use it?"


I was looking for a thread on this, and without reading through 21 pages of banter, I just went back to the OP's post. I hope this is ok. Some think others are ignoring it.

No one said anything about legal drugs. Caffeine. Alcohol. Nicotine. Even things like aspirin. Does anyone think of possibilities that people abuse these too?

I don't smoke cannabis so I can't answer that one, but I look more at how responsible a person is, including their physical health. If their health or behavior is suffering from something they're doing, then that is pretty much a dealbreaker. You won't catch me doing cannabis, not because of "repercussions" or "legality" but because if I did want a vice, it wouldn't be that one because of the side effects.

To some extent, a few of these can actually help us, keep our weight down, and what not. Its back to the responsibility thing.
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 513
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 11/15/2008 3:26:19 PM
I think it's generally accepted that the "drugs" question on profiles refers to illegal drugs. Not caffiene, nicotine, aspirin, etc.

but what about people who smoke cannabis? do you consider cannabis a drug?
People can never-ending arguments in these forums about whether or not pot is dangerous, or evil, or as bad as crack, or better/worse than alcohol, etc. But, the simplest answer, regardless of anyone's person opinion is: since it's considered an illegal substance, it should be included among the drugs being refered to in that profile question.

And if you use this contact restriction, why do you use it?"
I don't bother to use the restriction.
But, based on other people I know on this site who have used that restriction, most people who use it do not want to be contacted by anyone who uses illegal substances, including pot. In fact, many of them specifically don't want to be contacted by the burnt-out pot-head who tries to justify his pot use by using the "but it's only pot" argument
Joined: 6/3/2004
Msg: 514
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 11/15/2008 4:44:20 PM
but what about people who smoke cannabis? do you consider cannabis a drug?

In what Sphere? A person under the suspected Influence of Marijuana can be sent in for Testing and be fired on the Spot if Traces are found. Who cares what some junked-out Druggie thinks about Pot Use? Many Companies now require Drug Testing as part of the Qualification for Employment.

And if that won't suffice, both the FDA & Health Canada classify Cannabis as both a restricted and illegal Substance. Why listen to some Dope who can't think straight anyways?
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 517
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 11/15/2008 8:24:53 PM

First off, if ANYONE has a "I don't do drugs" profile; they are down right lying or they don't under stand what drugs are. Get this, some people will list that they don't do drugs yet they drink occasionally or socially....WTF?
There's already a seperate place to list whether or not you drink. duh?

Third, I believe the "Must not do drugs" is too general. It should be "Must not do illegal drugs
Most people, who haven't fried their brains, are capable of realising that it obviously refers to illegal drugs.
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 523
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 1/1/2012 8:24:01 AM
I get the impression some of you have never heard of the medicinal benefits of marijuana.

It not only happens to be prescribed by doctors all over Canada but it is an excellent alternative to opiate use, especially for long-term pain management.

This thread is of particular interest to me since I've noticed some intriguing women with enough common interests to guarantee a good discussion over coffee but for those four words in the Subject line. (Must not do drugs)

Being lumped in with heroin addicts is ridiculous.

My initial thought was to point out that some women are missing out on amazing opportunities because they hadn't considered that legitimate use of drugs would be lumped in with everything else.

Then I read some of the comments in here. You do realize that unless you live in a cave somewhere and eat moss, chances are very high that you use "drugs" all day, every day? Our entire society lives by the idiom, "better living through chemistry"

Some of the comments in here sound like Scientology sermons.

Maybe it's a good thing I get lumped in with everyone else after all?
Joined: 7/2/2011
Msg: 525
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 1/1/2012 10:23:23 AM
(I wouldn't want to date anyone that felt they must use a substance to change/enhance the way they think and/or feel )
What were you thinking and or feeling when you became addicted to cigarettes, alcohol, makeup, and hair coloring chemicals?
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 526
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 1/1/2012 10:36:10 AM
Maybe it is just me, but I assume that "doinjg drugs" means illegal use of recreational drugs. Perhaps that needs to be clarified by POF? I do not use illegal, artificial stimulants to enhance my experience, although I do take prescription drugs if prescribed. I am fine with other people using alcohol, tobacco, weed, etc. (in moderation; ie, their use would never put others at risk). That's just not my lifestyle. It's not going to change.

I understand when people get frustrated by the arbitrary legality of some drugs and not others. The bottom line for me is that some things are illegal and I can lose my job for being "caught" with them. I'm not taking that risk, period. Not a judgment about you; it's about protecting myself.
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 527
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Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 1/1/2012 11:11:16 AM

I wouldn't want to date anyone that felt they must use a substance to change/enhance the way they think and/or feel.

I take Lexapro, by prescription, for anxiety. How would you feel about that?
Joined: 7/2/2011
Msg: 528
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 1/1/2012 11:53:24 AM
Heartburn is now acid reflux disease and there's a drug for it.
I used to get heartburn when I ate food from a restaurant or from the store, mostly from canned/ highly processed food, and I would eat ice cream to settle my stomach.
Now I grow and cook my food and eat homemade ice cream, because I like the taste of ice cream.
During prohibition, alcohol was illegal, but now that it's great source of tax dollars and causes all kinds of problems it's OK because its legal.
Maybe pof should have. " Do not contact if you ever did one thing that was then or now considered illegal "
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 530
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 1/1/2012 5:47:13 PM
All the answer to this question does is indicate whether or not more clarity is necessary. That's all.

This is exactly the problem as I see it. Because I am honest and upfront about my choice to deal with pain through marijuana, I won't ever have a chance to offer any clarity since I am forbidden from initiating any contact whatsoever.

The only chance to have a conversation with a woman about this issue (other than this forum obviously) would be to wait around until one of these women who are opposed to drug use, stumbles across my profile, overlooks the "Often uses drugs" part at the top of my profile and then reads my profile to understand what I mean by "Often uses drugs".

I won't hold my breath.

Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 532
Must not do drugs....?
Posted: 1/1/2012 7:51:06 PM

Clearly my communication skills need improving. My point is simply that having "Must not do drugs" filters out people that weren't necessarily intended to be excluded by some users.

My hope is that these women might reconsider how their filters are set, in the off chance that they might care to do so.

Entitlement doesn't come into it. Thanks for the profile review, it seems the drug stuff got cut out during one of my many edits over the past few days since I got here.
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