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 blondebeauty2010
Joined: 6/23/2007
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yes it definately is possible i'm over 50 and last summer i had a red hot romance it was so great i wrote poetry (didn't give it to him or tell him) wrote him a song it was the best romance i ever had in my lifetime and i'm over 50 but our time ended when his x wife decided she wanted him back she didn't want him when he was with her but as soon as she saw someone else wanted him she wanted him back but at least i know it is possible and could happen again so no matter what the age all things are possible so keep your chin up!
 hypermode
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 1/22/2008 1:49:16 AM
Are you kidding all the products out there even natural ones you can still make love like you were in College. Don't give up believe me the saying get your groove back will come, don't have doubts it very much is possible.
 Sals815
Joined: 2/18/2006
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Posted: 4/29/2008 4:24:06 AM
Well I am a very sensual guy so I am hopeful it is,
a lot on here aren't so I know what you mean,
I guess we have to keep, plugging along...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 4/29/2008 6:23:28 AM
Yes, hot romance is possible. To my mind, if its not a hot romance, what is the point? When I feel my mind filled with the thoughts of a woman, and know she has gotten under my skin, I know that things can go somewhere.
 Blue Twilight
Joined: 8/16/2007
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Posted: 5/14/2008 4:43:23 PM
I don't know if red hot romance is possible after 50, but I'm still hoping it is possible after 60! I've had two such involments in my life ( the last one at nearly 50 )
It's the only way to go, without chemistry and passion you can't fall in love.
At least I have never been able to.
And although it did'nt last ( one for 20 years, the other for 2 ) I still have feelings for them, but I wouldn't want either of them back.
So they probably lasted as long as any other relationship.
Let's hope there's still one more out there!
Good luck!
 TxSippiGal
Joined: 9/30/2007
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Posted: 5/14/2008 6:20:19 PM
Yes you can.. I just finished dating a guy who I was crazy about.. hadn't felt that way about anyone in years. The chemistry was so hot between us that you could have hooked a turbine up to us and powered the Northern part of the State with it!!! I am not kidding. It was crazy.. I was totally suprised that someone could affect me like that. He awakened parts of me I thought were dead for ever.. no they are not dead I assure you hehehe. It was so passionate that I would literally get weak kneed when he kissed me.. it was ridiculous.. but boy was it fun.

What I learned about myself through this experience was that I do still want the whole nine yards and I am not going to settle for a so'so relationship at least long term. I want fireworks.. and a burning passion with a man.. and while I might date men who are fun and great to be around.. I absolutely want to meet someone that I am madly passionately wild about!

So a bit of advice.. hindsight is 20/20 right?? If you meet a woman who you have that chemistry with..treasure it.. and her. Don't let things get outa hand.. back off and let that slow sure burn endure.. If you get into the fast track thing you will burn out.. you are in for the long hall .. ok? Be wise and control the relationship for the long haul.

I hope you meet someone who will take your breath away.. it is sooooo worth it!!!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 5/14/2008 10:13:44 PM
...Right about now I think I'd be willing to settle for something luke warm.... things are not looking good in the romance department....I'm obviously am not a very good fisherwoman.

...maeflowers
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 9/1/2008 4:07:40 PM
Keep trying. No you are not nuts. cant tell much about you from this short post but clean habits, good hygiene and lots of searching should be inorder to find someone. Perfect? never. you may have to shorten your "must have list".
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 9/1/2008 4:11:23 PM
Rose Mary wrote regarding "red hot romance " -"get the fireproof sheets and the fire extinguisher ready! SMOKIN!!!!"

Absolutely.....i did years of home health nursing with older folks.....age does not change desire.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Posted: 9/1/2008 4:35:33 PM
Shove him full of chili peppers if nothing else!!!!!!!!!

OP, you orginially posted this in 10/07...gosh I hope you didnt settle. Red Hot Romance is possible at any age...
 Optimistic for 2008
Joined: 5/2/2008
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Posted: 9/1/2008 4:44:30 PM
I have no doubt that not only can they, I'm ready to be 50% of one of them, any takers, lol
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
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Posted: 9/1/2008 5:06:47 PM
I turn 50 in November so I'm thinking that I'm not gonna be any different then as now.

But what I don't understand is, why does everyone equate 50 with some sort of magical cut off point where everything just dries up and blows away?

I sure hope it's still "red hot" 'cause if it's not then just shoot me now.........
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 9/1/2008 10:48:41 PM
Yes. Definitely. Si. Da. Need I say more? (Apparently so, because this won't go through without a minimum number of words.)
 sensualmassage42
Joined: 7/17/2007
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Posted: 9/2/2008 9:10:44 AM
One morning I received an email from a lady at another dating site who liked my smile. My response was back to her a bit later and that evening we talked on the phone. We agreed to meet for drinks in an hour - 10:40 PM. Our first greeting was a warm hug followed by kissing - pretty passionate for a first kiss. Applebees was already closed so we decided to find another restaurant. I rode with her and we kissed a few times at the stop lights - like teenagers. While we were driving she made a comment that she had never parked. You know the expression. Teenagers in high school. Dating. Looking for a secluded place to park the car and to follow their lusts. An interesting thing to say five minutes into a first date, I thought.

At 1:40 AM we had to leave the restaurant because they were closing. We drove back to where my car was and started talking. And kissing. She has big boobs. 40 D. They feel very nice. I caressed them. We kissed passionately. She's a great kisser. Twirls her tongue very nicely. I was getting turned on and some caressing let me know that she was too. She started to pull my hand away but I said she should just lean back and relax and enjoy the experience. She responded very nicely to the gentle stimulation. In the course of this hot session she reached the peak of pleasure five times. Eventually all her clothes were on the floor of the car. Sometime about 4 AM she said something about wanting to have sex. It had been over two years since her deceased husband had gotten cancer. So she got into the passenger seat and put the backrest all the way down. Funny - a trash truck pulled up almost directly next to us to empty the dumpster. That made her nervous but we didn't stop.

Never before had I had such a long and slowly building time of hot sex in a car. We both had turned the clock and calendar back 40 years and acted like teenagers exploring their lusts. I’m 58 and she’s 56. Is red hot romance possible after 50? You be the judge. Never before in my life have I had as much fun and excitement as I’ve had since I turned 52.
Neil
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 9/2/2008 9:46:53 AM
OP I would never live with someone I didn't care for. I don't care how old one is, if there is no passion between the two, then there is simply no point to carry anything further. And yes, truly, it is possible regardless of age! Now for me to simply find that again....dayum!
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 9/2/2008 11:36:19 AM
For every action there is an equal reaction ... be it a red hot romance
 Sky at sunset
Joined: 12/20/2006
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Posted: 9/2/2008 1:12:10 PM
Sure as long as it was possible for you before LOL
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:57:21 PM
it's MORE possible after 50, i know that for fact! the problem is not in the "red hot", but in the romance. specifically, the problem is in finding someone who is able to love, as well as who is able to be loved. too many are afraid to risk and are settled into their safety zones, for a very long winter night.
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 9/3/2008 4:54:15 PM
Yes, yes and YESSSSSSSSS it is possible.
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 9/3/2008 6:53:53 PM
ranran18, i think all that you suggested contributes to inablitity to love and to risk--perhaps even more than that. for a lot of people, it's hormones, menapause, erectile dysfunction, preferring to "blame" rather than self improve, ridiculous expectations for others versus self, fear of failure, fear of success, dysfunctional upbringings upheld throughout adulthood, depression, addiction, and I GUESS (UNLIKE YOURSELF) SOME PEOPLE DO LIKE SHUFFLEBOARD!!!

then there are those who sincerely prefer to be alone and are not all that sensual, sexual, passionate. sometimes i envy them, but not when i am with a red hot man!!!!

then there are the ones, who are still hot to trot, but prefer to remain single and players or get as much as they can out of younger men and women, who are not in their "developmental range".

so, one must focus to get through this storm!
 OldFolkie
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 9/3/2008 7:26:55 PM
I'm sure I'll be flamed for this, but I'll give the minority opinion.
For women, I think it is absolutely possible. But for men over, let's say 55, little problems start to creep in. While libido and interest are still there, capability becomes an issue. There are a host of illnesses and medical conditions that begin to appear in men as they age...diabetes, excessive weight, poor diet, high blood pressure, enlarged prostate, medications for X conditions, etc. ad nauseum...all of which can combine to cause the dreaded ED. If you look over the posts in this thread, the folks responding are overwhelmingly female. And I applaud their enthusiasm and hopes. But you should be aware that men of your age may very well have problems keeping things red hot. It's not impossible, even for men with ED, to be full partners in a loving romantic life. It may, however, take patience, understanding and above all some humor and creativity.
Of course this doesn't apply to all men! I don't know the percentages. But it does become increasingly a problem as men age. There is a reason why Pfizer (who makes Viagra) stock sells at a premium. But even the little blue pill is not a cure all. If you are looking for red-hot, on-demand 24/7 sex then you should be posting on one of the Cougar or Milf dating sites. If you are looking for a loving relationship with a man your age, then be aware that you may need some of that patience and understanding and above all the ability to communicate. For us old guys, the combination of physical problems and performance anxiety can sometimes be just too much to overcome. It is possible, but it takes a lot more cooperation and compassion than it did when we were those studly 30 year olds.
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 9/3/2008 9:13:16 PM
well, you don't need a red hot penis, you need a red hot zest for humanity and life and not be afraid to hold someone, cry, laugh even harder, get pissed off here and there --and after all that, be forgiven. ... but, not ever ABANDONED or TAKEN FOR GRANTED... and always, always cherished and appreciated. (so you can see i have an issue with abandonment and lack of commitment, eh? )

it is definitely risk taking to finally not settle any more for some mundane level of comfort with no mutually shared goals and dreams and values. it is definitely way scarier to not give up and risk not getting what you dream about. but, it is depressing (to me) not to even try.

i have only been able to identify three sources of joy in my entire life. one is being in sync with nature and the other being in sync with my mate. then of course, there has been the adopting of my children with the mixed blessings we have had to endure. thus far, nature is the only consistent thing in my life. but i do believe, i've been my own worst enemy. i think i confused my passion with someone else's lust. i believe if i can pursue joy and peace on my own, the passion will evolve and begin to attract "like".

my "focus" has only been recent. for me, it comes out of a sense of self preservation and the reality that i am 59 years old and i need to stop farting around with my feelings about others and start looking for someone who also has equally deep feelings for me, as well as the potential to engage in those feelings. not just the feelings that link with what i can do for "him". i am talking about the scott peck kind of feelings that are truly rooted in someone taking joy and sharing amusement at "my" personal journey, as well as their own. i have had those feelings for others. they have not been reciprocated. only recently i have felt deep reciprocation from my eldest daughter. however, she always showed signs of greatness and just had to temporarily deal with her own survival issues. i was there for her and amazingly she is there for me now.

i think if i find myself a man who is passionate about life, human beings, and all the way up to the potential for some sort of world equilibrium --then i may be starting the rest of my life. viagra is not my solution. if the rest is there, then we can talk about viagra! not before.

women have been dealing with erectile dysfunction in their own bodies for years! it's nothing new to us. we know there are ways around "everything". if two people have the passion to try and stick with one another!!!! but, when someone does not really care for you as a human being, then why even bother. keep moving toward the goal. life is becoming way too short!
 OldFolkie
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 9/3/2008 10:02:09 PM
Thanks, RanRan, and Scotsdave, you are a so right. Serenity, that finding the right one is why we are all here. The right one, as you've so rightly pointed out, is the one that can give his or her all, and shake the fears and whatever ghosts they drag around with them (the proverbial baggage). It is possible, it must be possible, we just have to find the courage to reach out. The issues of abandonment and lack of commitment are something many of us have to try to find answers for. Hmmm....got a little off topic here, except that the older we are the more important it is to find that right one who can commit and care to make the "red hot" possible.
 bigbarry1
Joined: 1/2/2006
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Posted: 9/5/2008 6:05:23 AM
wow,,,,,,,,now with rossal for me, i believe red hot romance would be possible......that is of course if that is her picture.............b
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
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Posted: 9/5/2008 9:10:38 AM
^^^^Hmmm, at 53, I am hoping it is not the one in the football uniform.
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