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 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 101
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Not sure if there is a “season” or not, but I seem to be getting quite a few “youngins’” in my inbox recently. Anybody want referrals????
 ShowSkiDiva
Joined: 8/26/2008
Msg: 102
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/5/2008 9:53:31 AM
OMG I hope so! Even if the dangly bits don't work so well...we can always get creative
 Dpilot1
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 103
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/5/2008 10:02:33 AM
I am happy to say it is possible and more! Poetry, day dreams, waking up hugging your pillow when she's not there with you - these are things you can feel at any age. Just be sure you can't have them with this woman first before you leave her. Perhaps a little talking and a change in your patterns of dating will help. Go somewhere new and go without a plan. Just be together and explore.

I'm a bit older than you. Maybe it will fade whem I'm 85 but I hope not. Hang in there , she will come.
 caliladee
Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 104
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/5/2008 3:12:29 PM
I truly believe believe there is--but it won't be the same as young love. It can come close to that though. When it comes to caring for someone that is always the same. When it comes to sex, then it's really up to both to make it a hot searing experience. We're both older, maybe some arthritis setting in or have health problems that may delay some experiences; but we can work together on that on a mutual basis. It's up to the both of us to make that happen--and when it does----look out
 sensualmassage42
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 105
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/4/2008 11:17:08 AM
oldfolkie

While libido and interest are still there, capability becomes an issue. There are a host of illnesses and medical conditions that begin to appear in men as they age...diabetes, excessive weight, poor diet, high blood pressure, enlarged prostate, medications for X conditions, etc. ad nauseum...all of which can combine to cause the dreaded ED.


At 58 I am extremely fortunate not to have any of the health issues you mentioned. Some of that is certainly due to genetics but other problems are not a part of my life due to a desire to live a healthy lifestyle. I must admit to eating two Almond Joys or brownies for desert after a good sandwich for lunch at work each day. But when my weight hit 135 lbs. (I'm only 5'4" tall) and I started developing love handles at my waist, I decided to cut out the sweets. Oops! Just weighed myself: 136! Time to cut back again.

We can choose what we want to enjoy. If it is unhealthy food you crave and you get excessively overweight, that could affect your enjoyment in other aspects of life. If you want to experience great sex, go on a diet, eat healthy food, stop smoking, cut back on alcohol, exercise and do what you can to make your body capable of performing. It certainly won't work for everyone but definitely for some. To some extent, the choice is yours.

The mental aspect, I've discovered, is very important for me. I met a lady that wanted sex every night and every morning. I found myself losing my erection 15 seconds after penetration at the beginning of the relationship. I had never had that problem before. As the relationship developed, the problem went away for the most part. Just to improve on the fun I ordered Cialis online about four months into our relationship. She enjoyed the results as much as I did. Before going out for the evening to a hot club she'd ask: "Did you take a pill?" We'd end up having intercourse 4-5 times in 24 hours. One time we had coitus with no interruptus for an hour and 15 minutes! What a switch.

Now I am mainly dealing with a loss of sensation in the skin of my penis. There is some pleasurable sensation but not enough to send me over the top. Here is where I'm discovering the potency of the mind. We can have extended foreplay with lots of oral stimulation of both of us and extended intercourse but me not being able to cum. But if both of us start talking dirty and fantasizing, I can reach a fantastic orgasm in a minute or less. This hasn't been easy for my partner. She had never used the f-word, as she says, or the p-words or the c-words or any of the other "dirty" words nor fantasized with her partner. But very kindly she is doing that now gradually for me to make me cum.

As others have mentioned in the foregoing comments, sometimes you just have to be open with each other and find solutions to problems. My problems may not be the same as yours. And my solutions may seem shocking to you. But they are working for us and we are having sex daily and it has been as many as 5-6 times in a 24-hour period. Not all with me having an orgasm though. But I'm finding that sex without cumming is better than no sex.

Is red hot romance possible after 50? Yes, but it won't happen without the right partner and probably won't just happen without any effort on your and your partner's part.
 4UMaybe
Joined: 8/3/2007
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Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/5/2008 6:25:33 AM
Yes, I want a red hot romance and I won't settle for less.....The stuff movies are made of...
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 10/10/2008 11:03:49 PM
Maybe not "red hot romance" but some sort of chemistry is in order. Give it a little more time....some people need to grow on us.
 Hammerman
Joined: 7/10/2006
Msg: 108
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/22/2008 4:22:54 PM
Romance after 50 is can be just as good as when younger . It really depends on the people involved the chemistry between them if its good in that kind of way , It can feel brand new and exiting at any age.
 hi-pockets
Joined: 11/5/2007
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Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/22/2008 4:37:50 PM
Would not be here if I did not think it could happen!!
 tallyover
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 110
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/22/2008 7:02:30 PM
I would hope that red hot romance is possible after 50. It might not be as easy, since by this stage of life most of us are extra cautious.
 northoftown
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 111
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/23/2008 10:37:57 AM
when my chance for red hot romance is nonexistent, that should mean there's dirt being shoveled onto my pine subterranean mini-condo

do they still shovel? or just back a dump truck up? oh, well. it won't matter
 ncessential
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 112
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/23/2008 4:49:13 PM
I am 49. But I believe it is very possible!
 Yankee again
Joined: 1/26/2008
Msg: 113
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/24/2008 12:03:36 PM
Physical attraction with chemisty yes...............
red hot can work and will. Don't settle.

I had it and want it as well. It is out there I have seen it.
 Yankee again
Joined: 1/26/2008
Msg: 114
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/24/2008 12:21:23 PM
Yeppers
Expectations are just that Omgaination works well too........
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 115
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:20:19 PM
I think is possible...but with few years younger man...
 Gaddflye
Joined: 9/10/2008
Msg: 116
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:20:30 PM
I have had several red hot relationships after attaining the age of 52. Two were the most exciting of my life. You just never know.
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 117
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:42:15 PM
I wish to have one red romance...and lasting!
 nanasgirl
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 118
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:20:49 AM
BRAVO !!!!!!!!
 nanasgirl
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 119
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:28:47 AM
Romance is something we all can have in our lives no mattter what the age........
Finding the right person can be a litttle problem so if you have someone you are intrested in and the other person feels the same , WHY not just enjoy one another ?
 tallyover
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 120
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 1/11/2009 11:40:07 AM
I'm all for RED hot with a sizzle.
Red hot romance, love, compassion, companionship, compatibility is possible, we just have to find it. *sigh*
 felisidad
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 121
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 1/11/2009 5:49:44 PM
What is "red hot romance}, and "incurable romantic", maybe you have too much expectations?
 felisidad
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 122
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:00:49 PM
what do you mean by "red hot romance"?
 jaguarkitten
Joined: 9/11/2008
Msg: 123
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 1/11/2009 7:56:06 PM
Please don't give up. I am 55 and though I've had fewer relationships based on extreme chemistry than I did when I was in my 30s, let me tell you that I still fall in love AND lust - and the experience is MUCH better than it was when I was younger. The issue that I run into more often than not is that so many are damaged from past experiences and therefore not able to receive (or give). Also desperation leads people to date people they know instinctively that they are not interested in. I believe you know in the first 5 minutes (even less) if a person is going to 'do it for you'. Visuals are very important (they get you in the door), and as I grow older I've come to realize that I'm just not attracted to the same number of men that I used to be. Age takes its toll on people physically, but we stay the same in our minds. A conundrum to be sure. For myself I keep slim and energetic, and I pay attention to fashion (as superficial as that may be). All of that generates attention, and hopefully one of these days I'll meet Mr. Right (instead of Mr. Right Now) again. My last wonderful relationship was a year ago, with several since who didn't click with me somehow. Oh well, it will happen again. It always does. Its about attitude! So change your expectations, and you will see that they will be met. You get what you put out.
 catkin2007
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 124
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:10:04 AM
OP, I'm approaching 47 and I truly believe red hot romance is still out there. It is an attitude and awareness not a number. Sure, things may change physically, but you still can have red hot romance. It is what you do not your age.

You can still write loving letters at 50, and you can still send flowers, bath together, shower together and be initimate. Hell, you can still do day trips, picnics, candle lit dinners, whatever. Just because things may not be as flexible, doesn't mean you can't have a red hot romance.

Case in point... My love life didn't suffer while I was taking cancer treatments or going through the surgeries and follow up. Things physically changed, but my attitude didn't. I still believed and still do.

The only thing hurting your romance at 50 is your mind set......
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 125
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 1/12/2009 11:59:26 AM

What is "red hot romance}, and "incurable romantic", maybe you have too much expectations?


Implies sexy to me. Clothes ripping, deep kisses, fabulous nooky. The whole enchalada. We want it all.


I'm with you on that,, I'd like to add,,, it's a lustful desire, that encompasses eroticism, without inhibitions,,all the while affirming the passion of love the bonds two people,,
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