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 Tarelle
Joined: 12/27/2006
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I'm sure that you've heard this before but I am in my forties and am definitely not in any rush to get married. I've been there, done that and don't really want to go through that again anytime soon.
It's funny because after being burnt one too many times over the years I opted to stay competely out of the dating field for a few years. I'm just not thinking that it might be time to get back out there. I can tell you that if some man started talking marriage to me that soon...I would run in the opposite direction too.

Tarelle
 Maddie51
Joined: 4/22/2005
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/7/2007 11:55:05 AM
Dear Addicted:

Since I do not know about the women you are meeting, I can only speak for myself and the women I know and call my friends or acquaintances. Most women over 40 are NOT really desperate to get married again. We have jobs, our own homes, family, friends, et-cetera, and we are on dating sites because most men cannot deal with an independent woman.

Granted, I am sure there are some women out there hoping to meet "Mr. Right" for companionship/security or whatever, and that is fine.

Anyway, just my 2 cents.
 49andkickin
Joined: 7/3/2007
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Posted: 11/8/2007 2:19:13 PM
I have not ever responded to any forum thing before but I guess part of this sort of got to me. Yes some men are pigs, though I do not consider myself part of that percentage. In my former marriage I cleaned, laundry, mowed, fixed and ohhhh yes I worked to support us while she pursued an education (never finished) and other outside interests. And then I gave her a nice going away present too.
Sorry bearwoman, this is not an exclusive thing of "men only".
Also, by in large some women look at marriage as something desired, not all but some.
me
 lstar999
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 254
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Posted: 11/8/2007 2:44:35 PM
THE GOOD WIFES GUIDE....

I remember when I was in high school back in the 50's, they were teaching these things in Home Economics class. My grandmothers and mom said same thing.

While some of these things sound really ridiculous the way things are now, back then, they made a lot of sense, and fit for almost everybody "back then". My 47-yr old daughter just gets a chuckle out of it.

OT: There's a lot of reasons nowadays why women have mixed feelings about getting married. Many want to keep what they have for their children without complicating legal issues (just like guys do), and they see husbands leaving to pursue younger, etc.

The experts (whoever they are) say that since women are now experiencing the stress of working outside the home as well as the men, that the death rates for the sexes will even out more in the future. That means the man:woman ratio will be much more favorable for women then it is now. Then, I wonder who will be more desperate? Supply - Demand
 smartazzjohn
Joined: 8/11/2007
Msg: 255
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Posted: 11/8/2007 2:59:56 PM
Now I know why they are called "THE GOOD OLD DAYS" !!!!!!!!!!!!!
 knipknip
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 256
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Posted: 11/8/2007 3:25:55 PM

indigo rose:::: We are? I am thinking you must have something that doesn't show
I am not sure why women over forty want to marry you??? Are you loaded?
Maybe you throw out the challenge...let me gander at your profile..brb..
Maybe it is the cute little way you slouch???


that is exactly what I thought!..
 SimplySweet45
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 257
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Posted: 11/8/2007 4:00:59 PM

A good wife ALWAYS knows her place


Thats the only thing I agree with and our place is NOT to do anything on that list.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 10/27/2007
Msg: 258
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Posted: 11/8/2007 4:35:30 PM
I thought a woman's place was in the house, or the senate and if Hillary has her way ---in the big house---no I am not pushing politics--just a sad attempt at humor.
 travel_theworld
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 259
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Posted: 11/8/2007 5:52:40 PM
Yes and a men's place in the kichen... Have you guys seen hot guys that cook?

I seen a funny card the other day... What is a dream man for a woman over 40?
The answer a man who does the disces!
I agree.
 MsChar
Joined: 10/4/2005
Msg: 260
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Posted: 11/8/2007 9:55:53 PM
Im 56 and working on a divorce that has been lasting almost 6 years ! i can almost see the end of the tunnel . me ever marry again .... nope run for my life before that happens ! fall in luv live together i sure hope so !!!
charla
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 11/9/2007 7:32:54 AM

Are you insane? Most women over 40 would rather be ran over by a bus, first!
LOL! well, I'm WAY over 40 so I'd rather be hit by 2 buses! But in all honesty, have you considered it might be a more genteel way of saying she wants regular sex, and lots of it??? Ya know, like maybe on Tuesday morning, and Wednesday night....and NOT just on Saturday date night? I mean seriously...by age 40, she's not wanting to start a family, she's got a home, and a job, car, she'd learned how to change a lightbulb and probably even knows how to fix the kitchen faucet....dude, let's face it....what's left for you to do?
 Annette050
Joined: 7/2/2006
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Posted: 11/9/2007 5:34:30 PM
LOL LOL.....I was married for 23yrs !!! Why in heavens name would I ever want to do that again. I love the fact I can go home after a date or long week-end and have alone time. I love the fact that there is no one over my shoulder 24/7. Living together even gives me the shivers. LOL
 pazoozoo
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Posted: 11/9/2007 5:44:29 PM
I feel almost guilty about what I'm going to type. I absolutely loved being married. If I could have my husband back, I would jump at the chance to be married again. Otherwise, I'm not too sure about the whole thing. From what I can see of men today, I think I had the last really good one.
 Twisted Sister
Joined: 6/5/2007
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Posted: 11/9/2007 5:50:31 PM
I'm another one who doesn't want to get married. The "M" word causes me to RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!!!!!
 friendlyldy
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 11/9/2007 7:39:40 PM
I'm not desperate to get married again but I have to admit that I loved being married. We did crazy things like setting the clocks back so we could put the kids to bed early and dropped water balloons on them.........We had FUN.........We didn't have a lot of money or a fancy house but we had a lot of great laughs and we always put the kids with a babysitter on Friday nights and went out so we could have time for each other.
And the sex? Great..........we really loved each other and it's always good when there's love like that.

When I was a kid, people would ask me what I wanted to do when I grew up and I used to say that I wanted to get married and have six kids, go back to work to put them through college, and then retire with my husband, watch grandkids, and travel with by best friend, my husband........ Guess what? I still want that........it just didn't work out that way!!!

I wouldn't marry someone just to be married but if I ever found love like that again, I would marry in a heartbeat.......... Okay, now you can flame me......
 redarcangel
Joined: 1/12/2007
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Posted: 11/9/2007 7:53:28 PM
Well friendly..no flames from me. Just sorry things didn't work out for you and your ex. I'm sure that's what all of us wanted at one time. I never had all that with my ex..and it's hard for me to relate to those who did. As I said..I had the marriage from h*ll..abused. I like my freedom now and would find it very hard to even think about marriage. Even the thought of living with a man sends shivers up my spine too. Dating on the weekend or a long weekend with a man is great..but..I too feel it's best to come home to my own house..put my feet up on the coffee table and go...ahhhhhhhhh!!! Peace..and..quiet!!!
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 11/9/2007 10:24:51 PM
LOL! Hugs friendlyldy....would never flame you! I think you're becoming my new Shero! LOL!
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
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Posted: 11/10/2007 6:57:51 AM
I find myself wondering if the ones that are so incredibly adamant that they would never get married again really hated being married or was it going through the end of the marriage and ultimately the divorce that has tainted the entire marriage in their minds.

In some small way that is what happened to me but I can remember that up to the point when things started to unravel I was happy in my marriage the problem for me was that the decline and the process of ending lasted longer than the happy years and those happy years weren’t even as many as our courtship .

Even with that I would never count out the possibility. I am just not holding my breath as it were and it really isn’t because of my fear but I have just accepted that it appears so many men out there are not as inclined these days so there is no point in getting your hopes up as far as ever being a Mrs. again.

I wouldn’t say I have settled on the fact that I would be in a long term relationship with someone I was just “passing time with” vs. being with someone that I truly adored I would say that I have “settled” on the possibility that the majority of men in my age group and older would never ask.

There are some people young and older having long term happily unwedded bliss. Since I am at a point where having children isn’t really an option anymore it doesn’t have the same negative implications in my mind. I do however think it is a shame that marriage seems to be such a horrible thought these days for so many people.
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 11/10/2007 7:02:21 AM

I find myself wondering if the ones that are so incredibly adamant that they would never get married again really hated being married or was it going through the end of the marriage and ultimately the divorce that has tainted the entire marriage in their minds.
Can't speak for the rest of the women here, but in my personal experience: Marriage = that institution where you get to pay 75% of the bills, do 95% of the housework and still can't get laid! Yup, I'd have to say it was the entire marriage.
 petitebell
Joined: 9/28/2007
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Posted: 11/10/2007 7:36:06 AM
Good answer!
The way some men, jump to conclusions is so infuriating! omg, leave a toothbrush at your place...or would like to see you again.. or smile too much...we want to marry you? what egos some have! give me a break! if you aren't sincerely interested in us, there's plenty of other men that we are blocking who would give their right arm to have us. So, wake up and smell the roses... as my dad once said, anyone... and i do mean... anyone can get married....if that was all we are looking for...

Do not catergorize ! Life's too short for such bull!

I have the cheerleader type personality.. and smile most the time..but, when i'm out with a man, i have to watch smiling too much...otherwise, they assume you're in love!
Give me a break, geeeeeeeee!

And, if i don't like someone, totally uninterested, i can't get rid of them.

and, it's funny how it's ok for a man to talk about us maybe having a future together... and the first time you say something, no matter how minut... they get scared, want to run, cause they take it as you're ready to get married.

Give me a break! Maybe, we just mean we would like to spend more time with you to see where it may go. Oh, and if we're too available, sweet, kind, loving, we're too needy. If we aren't, we are just called ****es playing games with your mind.

i am by no means in a rush to get married, had my kids, so why would i be rushing?
have a home and i'm happy, most the time ... but of course, i would enjoy, the company, of just one man... instead of trying to remember everything about all these other guys... and just settle into some kind of routine with someone that wants and enjoys seeing me as much as i do them...
 redarcangel
Joined: 1/12/2007
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Posted: 11/10/2007 8:55:04 AM
You got it right there Peitebell;

[ and just settle into some kind of routine with someone that wants and enjoys seeing me as much as i do them...]

No attatchments guaranteed! Just ONE on ONE dating!
 NiceFish2008
Joined: 11/10/2006
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Posted: 11/10/2007 10:34:57 PM
I cant help you understand because your "Addicted_2_Chaos" but as a 21 years old man, I do understand why they want to get married. They want to have a lovely life with a lovely family, whats so hard to understand about it.
 Just JJ
Joined: 2/20/2007
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Posted: 11/11/2007 5:51:09 AM
21 is UNDERSTANDABLE...... all young and starry eyed.....

Come back and post in about 20 yrs and tell us if that twinkle is still there.... or better yet.. if the twinkle is still there for your own wife... lol

Have a great Sunday all.

JJ
 outofthedesert
Joined: 10/27/2007
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Posted: 11/11/2007 6:11:51 AM
[Can't speak for the rest of the women here, but in my personal experience: Marriage = that institution where you get to pay 75% of the bills, do 95% of the housework and still can't get laid! Yup, I'd have to say it was the entire marriage.]/ GrandmaBooBoo, we may be ex-wives-in-law!
 blueyesrsmiling
Joined: 5/31/2007
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Posted: 11/11/2007 6:58:08 AM
Let me see my Daughter just moved out a year ago. Great life. Go and come as I please. My house is now clean. I cook when I want eat when I want. I buy all the clothes my heart desires. I have quiet in the morning. Take trips and enjoy life. go out and stay to long. Excerise all day long.............My Daughter tells me I have turned into a teenager. I love life. If I find someone that we both fit into each other's life styles that would be great. But honestly I haven't even thought that far. I am having the time of my life and am not looking for anyone to full fill me. Now that being said if I meant someone that enhanced my life maybe then.........but right now for the first time in a very very very long time I feel young again and I am loving it.
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