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 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
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...so did the second time!
 ayorkie
Joined: 12/11/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/16/2009 7:17:19 PM
Women over 40 Desperate to get Married? I don't think so. By this age its not to far up on the list. I think when you are young looking to have children that's all fine. I think someone my age would think about living with some one but I wouldn't think that would be fast coming. Why rush into anything. That sounds like someone young. Someone that thinks the guy on the white horse really is coming in to save the day and they live happy ever after shit. Hey who knows, never say never.
 breath~
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 528
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/16/2009 8:00:52 PM

I'm not too sure if I'm desperate for anything at this time of living.

Not too sure if the word "desperate" has been in my vocabulary about much of anything for all these years, either.

Yeah, maybe during times of severe crisis I've felt some desperation... for moments., not for lengths of time.

So, in my mind, the word "desperate" really should be reserved for just those severe crisis minutes.

But then, there's a lot of people walking around who really LIKE heavy drama, (and lots of it).
I guess those people use "desperate" often. Dunno.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/17/2009 9:51:18 AM
Not too sure about marriage, but how bout a Sugar Daddy? My stove oven doesn't work and the washing machine spewed its contents all over the basement floor last nite. Not to mention the vaccuum cleaner being broke! Woe is me. This is when a second income would truly come to my advantage!
 missfee1
Joined: 3/27/2008
Msg: 530
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/17/2009 10:33:37 AM
Couldn't agree more with you moonchild-got alot of chores here for a Man but as for getting married - NO thanks - desparate...hmm for a handyman but not for a Husband
 bella-rosa
Joined: 10/4/2008
Msg: 531
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/17/2009 1:16:54 PM
Desperate to get married...............hell no.

It would take me along time to make that decision this time round. A piece of paper doesn't mean anything.

As I have gone further into my 40's my confidence in myself has grown and I don't need the marriage certificate as a security blanket like I did when I was in my 20's.

Although like the girls above I could do with a handyman around the house to fix a few things, but I am willing to pay for them to get done and out of the way with no complaints
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 532
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/17/2009 2:32:06 PM

how bout a Sugar Daddy?

Sounds great. Problem is...I am too old and not cute enough to be arm candy or an arm charm.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 533
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/17/2009 2:56:22 PM
I could have a sugar daddy right now (who does not think that I am too old and does think I am good looking). However, I found out that he is married, and I don't do married men. It does not seem like any of the over 40s women are desperate to get married in the POF pond.
 SweetSmartNSassy2
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 534
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/17/2009 3:31:29 PM
I have no desire to be married and I'm well over 40. a mutually committed relationship sounds ok, preferably with separate houses.

I know this is an old thread, but geez luise! can we stop tarring all people with the same brush? why would anyone think that women over 40, in this day and age, are desperate to get hitched?

it was interesting to read the responses from those of you women who have been married and are now single. I couldn't find one that said, yes! I'm dying to get re-married! I don't care what he's like! I just need that MRS in front of my name!

my, we've come a long way! good for us!!!
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/17/2009 8:37:40 PM
What is so horrible about a woman who does want to get married if she meets the RIGHT guy? Am I some kind of a social leper for wanting that? Geez some guys act as if they would rather be dead than be married to a good woman. I take it very seriously and think many have entered into it way too lightly. It is not the instution of marriage that burned every divorced person here, it is the person that you chose to enter into it with. Maybe I'm stupid, but I just don't get why everyone has such a god-awful opinion of commitment and marriage. There are other benfits besides a ring or piece of paper - why do you think the gays are fighting for the right to marry? It's not just for a piece of paper. If the OP just wants to use a woman, then so be it - just make she knows that from the start. I have an FWB set up - it's not a problem for me if I know what it is going in. If that's all the OP wants then he should make sure that the women are in agreement with that from the get go. Then he won't have to complain (brag) (be deluded) about all the women's hearts that he seems to be breaking. Apparently his actions towards them led them to believe that he cared for them.
 ScubaGal1956
Joined: 9/2/2006
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/18/2009 4:19:59 PM
OMG .. this is ALL too funny ... I am single and have been single for 10 years now ... I am in NO HURRY to get married and don't even know if I would EVER consider getting married again ... I have a great group of girlfriends that I hang with and don't have to deal with the drama and baggage most men that I meet seem to carry with them ... Maybe I have been meeting the wrong type of guy but most of them seem to be VERY NEEDY, have resorted to couch potato-ism and really don't know how to have fun .. I am EXTREMELY active and if what I have met is all that is out there gals save yourselves ... get some gal pals and go have some fun - learn to be independent and don't reply on a guy !!! ... Just my two cents worth !!!!
 Cherrybeary
Joined: 1/28/2009
Msg: 537
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/18/2009 4:45:14 PM
Who thinks this now come on. OP.
No way do I want to ever get married again. I mean never say never, if the right man and the right time but I don't see it happening nor do I want to get married again.
Happily divorced 10 years. I want to be in a relationship yes, marriage no.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 538
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/18/2009 7:08:01 PM
If the right man asked the right question on the right day and I was in the right frame of mind, I would say yes if there was a left-handed Russian tank driver scratching his right ear on a Thursday in Podunk, TN at three fifteen in the afternoon on the 13th of July.
 spacetolet
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 539
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/19/2009 1:01:49 PM
We are? First I knew about it.
 SweetSmartNSassy2
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 540
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/19/2009 4:30:12 PM
bbw2love, learn new something every day, huh? lol <img

it was news to me, too! src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_126.gif border=0>
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/19/2009 9:44:14 PM
Because they think they're getting too old and ugly and running out of options, so they better ensnare you quick.
 spacetolet
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 542
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 2:24:41 AM
^^^^^No need to sugarcoat it, kpooks.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 543
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 3:05:24 AM
Hope you find that young, beautiful woman kpooks.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 544
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 3:11:51 AM

Because they think they're getting too old and ugly and running out of options, so they better ensnare you quick.

...and all the old, bald, overweight, impotent men that I have met think they are God's gift to women. Go figure!
 Discerning Virtuosa
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:08:11 AM
...and all the old, bald, overweight, impotent men that I have met think they are God's gift to women. Go figure!

I'll compare my face to a man's my age any day - Almost all of the time he has more wrinkles and lines, and less hair (on their head) . I guess that's why a lot of the guys here lie about their age, use pics over 3-4 years old, or don't have a clear close up picture of their face.
I had a boyfriend about 6 years ago who thought he was in good shape - he had so many stretch marks up and down his torso he looked like the american flag with no stars. I eventually asked him what they were from because they looked like scars. It didn't matter, because his physical beauty was not why I was with him.
I guess if you're peter pan, the whole youthful thing is more important than a woman's character. To those men, I say "good luck with that" and hope they like spending a lot of time alone. When a man middle aged man is still that shallow, it's just downright sad that he will probably never reach any emotional maturity. When men show ageism towards women, it is about as hypocritical as they can get.
 just sayin...
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 546
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:22:58 AM
"addicted to chaos" are ya? why are you attracting this type i wonder? some people are needy and irrational, lucky you found 4! lol

but...it takes two to tango, so have to wonder what signals you may have given off that led them to think...
 Pixy Dust
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:37:38 AM
Well OP you need to get with the program in todays dating world... refer to prior thread on women dating several men at once... you can assume your exclusive after a few dates...why not pick out the white dress after a few months????

These guys I tell ya, want their cake and eat it too....
 fishin4u266
Joined: 6/29/2007
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 1:53:48 PM
I agree with MissMewsic.

I just picked the wrong one the first time. A good friend of mine said that the only way to do this right the second time is to date a person long term and really get to know them. He has been dating his girlfriend for about 15 months. She does let him know in no uncertain terms that she wants to get married. He has told her that he wants to date for 2 years and then if they believe they are really compatible, get engaged and work on blending their family rules and beliefs into one before the actual marriage and moving in.

I agree with this. He said he got married too fast and so did I. I want to date someone long term and make a life lasting marriage with that lady. I only want to walk that aisle when I am positive that we can make it.
 kellygrl51
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 549
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 3:31:31 PM

...and all the old, bald, overweight, impotent men that I have met think they are God's gift to women. Go figure!


Exactly....
 SweetSmartNSassy2
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 550
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Posted: 2/20/2009 4:56:08 PM
kpooks, so you've talked with every woman in America who is over 40 and not married? you think they consider themselves "old and ugly?" where do you get your facts?

go back and read posts from women who have been married before and sure aren't in any hurry to get remarried. lots of women don't want to get married just to have that "Mrs" in front of their name. this is the 21st century. get with the program.
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