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 *Don*
Joined: 1/30/2009
Msg: 551
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They are ?!? ... not as far as I've seen. Every time the subject of marriage has been brought up when I've been with women over 40, they've run out of the restaurant, took off out the door of the apartment, and in one case, even out through the door of a moving automobile. So obviously, it's because women over 40 want nothing to do with being married. I have the proof.

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 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 552
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 5:55:14 PM
A friend said:
Marry the first time for love,
the second for money
and the third for sex.

Would love to find all three with one ring...................
 barbiesmiles
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 553
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/21/2009 11:21:36 AM
OMG not sooooooooooo I was married for 14 years ...together for nearly 16.....the separation/divorce took an additonal 2 1/2 years .....

no no no no .....I am desiring to find

a friend/lover
confidante
companion

NOT marriage again...if ever....
 texasbaby
Joined: 7/21/2005
Msg: 554
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/21/2009 11:33:08 AM
I will never, never get married again!
I have no room in the closet, but most of all ~
NO ONE is allowed to touch my remote control!!

tb
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 555
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/21/2009 4:27:28 PM
hmmm.
Choice #1 Keep dating at least 3 times a week, usually handsome younger men.
getting treated to nice dinners, flowers for most days of the week.
No one ****in and chewin that his dang dinner isnt ready.
sleeping with men i really want to sleep with.

choice# 2 Being desperate to saddle myself with one man, and we all know the
inevitable biatching will start. Whether it is the toilet paper roll is hung
backward or i squeezed the toothpaste from the wrong dang end.
having someone demand sex when i just want to sleep.
having someone biatch and complain about what i do or where i go.

Me thinks i have a winner. Choice # 1
 MsYesterday
Joined: 10/30/2008
Msg: 556
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/22/2009 9:16:36 AM
ARE YOU DATING WOMEN WHO ARE VERY INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES?
DO THEY FEEL THAT TO FEEL "COMPLETE"THEY JUST HAVE TO HAVE A MAN?
MARRIAGE IS THE LAST THING IN MY MIND WHEN DATING........WHY SHOULD I SETTLE DOWN WITH A GUY JUST TO HAVE A MAN.......I WOULD BE SO HONORED TO FIND A MAN WHO KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS .........AND WHO KNOWS WHO HE IS.........."DESPERADO"IS OUT OF MY LEGUE!
 bob2013
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 557
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/22/2009 6:32:27 PM
kpook thanks with that statement you have added about 7 more pages to this thread.
 oldsoul
Joined: 3/10/2007
Msg: 558
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/22/2009 6:52:22 PM
^ Nah. Some things (and some people) are simply not worth getting upset over.

I prefer to let the numbers speak for themselves in just who is more ugly and running out of options.

I'm older than that poster by almost 10 years yet it's easy to see that I haven't ran out of options yet.

Unless of course all my "options" are attracted by my ugliness...yeah that must be it;)

Who would have thought there would be so many men who clearly hated women on a dating site?

Oh wait...now I'll be called a hater for pointing out the obvious.

Whatever. And as far as this lovely thread with the lovely leading title, I personally don't know one woman over 40 who even wants to get married, let alone one who is desparate. Most of us date younger anyway and marriage is the last thing on our mind.



IMHO

 GreenwoodUnion
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 559
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/22/2009 7:15:37 PM
good post. i'm over 40 and a few things come to mind. i think that after our divorces or being widowed, a lot of us feel time is passing us faster than before and we realize we don't really want to end this life being alone. another thing is that we still have a need for companionship, want a little more financial security for our retired years and now that our kids are grown and gone, we would like to have a relationship that only includes 2 people instead of all the hustle and bustle that we've experienced when we had to concentrate more on the kids. for myself, i'm fine the way i am but if i find someone that will commit again and enjoy the rest of my life with then i'll probably go for it but it would have to be something that i can really go for. at this point in time in life, i wouldn't be able to just settle. some of us have too much to lose and don't want to go through all that garbage again.
 tina58572000
Joined: 2/15/2007
Msg: 560
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/22/2009 7:21:29 PM
I can tell you that I'm one of those that have never been married and am not looking to ever be married. Anyone who would bring up marriage in that short of a time frame must need . I'd be the one to as fast as I could.

Never been married and after watching friends and relatives, think I'm the smart one.

 simpletimes2
Joined: 2/7/2009
Msg: 561
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/22/2009 7:39:01 PM
Not desperate, but not closed to the idea either.

The legalities were pointed out very eloquently by another poster in a similar thread...
...If I am fortunate enough to have a loved significant other in the future and an emergency arises and they end up in the hospital...Do I want to track down children that may live across the continent to approve of medical procedures etc? Power of attorney goes only so far and it needs to be talked about and planned. Love is one thing. Emergencies and Health Issues are not events that can be planned ahead of time. Just a thought...
 GreenwoodUnion
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 562
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/22/2009 10:14:59 PM
not desperate to get married again but if you do remarry and there's a health issue and the adult children having a power-of-attorney.....don't you think your husband should have put that power in your hands as his wife instead of his adult children whether they live down the street, out-of-state or in another country? you can't just marry someone to be married without having these things ironed out. whatever real property one brings into a new marriage in regard to a new will being drawn up and dividing assets amongst the new spouse and adult children.......well, what does anyone think of this stuff? these things could be all major turn-offs to getting married again over the age of 40+ because they're complicated matters.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 563
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/23/2009 11:24:32 AM
My personal thinking is that a couple who are over 40,who are contemplating marriage, need to sit down, possibly with one or more professionals, and realistically evaluate what will happen with Social Security, pensions, income taxes, estate and probate issues, and every "worst case scenario" that could occur. And even couples who consider cohabitation need to consider their financial and practical safety and wellbeing should the relationship be unsustainable or one partner passes away.
Given what I saw happen to my own mother, it's my opinion, that if each person owns a home, the one who moves in with the other should retain ownership of their home,renting or leasing it,letting a family member rent it for either money or maintenance service, however you want to do it.
If one sells their residence, even if the proceeds get put into a separate bank account, it's all too easy for one partner to sway or pressure the other to spend the money, or for both of them to decide to fund nontangible or undividable expenditures. Then if the marriage breaks up, the partner who sold their home is left with seriously reduced funds to create another optimal living situation. Or the court forces sale of the remaining home and division of the proceeds, that(especially NOW) might leave BOTH people struggling to rebuild their lives.
Cindy O
 bob2013
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 564
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/24/2009 9:21:42 AM
Thought this might end the great debate and inject a valued opinion. This is what Andy Rooney said on 60 minutes awhile ago.

As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think. If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around and whine about it. She does something she wants to do, and it's usually more interesting. Women over 40 are more dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it they will not hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it. Older women are usually generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. Women get pyschic as they age. ( here I'll add my own view they've seen more, so their BS meter is more finely tuned). You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk and acting like one. You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her. Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons, unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies I apologize.

For all those men who say "why buy the cow whenyou can get the milk for free", here's an update for you. Nowadays, 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig to get a little sausage!

Andy is no dope for sure. Neither are most women. Time to wake up guys, women work, pay their own bills, some even fix their own cars. The only reason for women to have a man is because SHE WANTS TO not because she has to. As for those older among us (like me, although not guilty on age thing) time to wake up and smell the coffee, if she's young enough to be your daughter, the reason she's ther is suspect and you should know that if not from common sense then at least from life experience from generations before you. Good luck to all, Bob.
 BOT TAK
Joined: 8/4/2006
Msg: 565
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/24/2009 11:00:40 AM

For all those men who say "why buy the cow whenyou can get the milk for free", here's an update for you. Nowadays, 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig to get a little sausage!

at least now I understand why people are so against marriage...if they consider it as only "milk/sausage" deal - why to bother?
 spacetolet
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 566
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/24/2009 12:27:35 PM


For all those men who say "why buy the cow whenyou can get the milk for free", here's an update for you. Nowadays, 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig to get a little sausage!


at least now I understand why people are so against marriage...if they consider it as only "milk/sausage" deal - why to bother?


Add some waffles and eggs and you got Sunday breakfast.
 bob2013
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 567
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/24/2009 12:39:08 PM
Don't forget the biscuits.
 spacetolet
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 568
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/24/2009 12:48:35 PM
I believe missynne is bringing them.
 SweetSmartNSassy2
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 569
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/24/2009 3:11:17 PM
ROFLMAO!!!!

bbw2love, good one!!!!
 Murco
Joined: 8/26/2008
Msg: 570
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 3/20/2009 1:56:31 PM
I didn't know they were? Must be me!
 angelbaby53
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 571
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 3/20/2009 3:56:36 PM
Ha,desperate to get married?--No way. Ive met some men that were.
 leebossa
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 572
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 3/29/2009 3:52:52 PM
i can't speak for them...i have no idea why they want to get married. At that age it';s not going to be to have kids, not likely. I guess because they don't want to live alone or die alone and don't have to 'look' anymore. But as far as i'm concerned...yech. No thanks!
 veteran heart
Joined: 1/28/2009
Msg: 573
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 3/30/2009 6:52:33 PM
For me, I am not desperate, but I do not want to die alone or spend the rest of my life alone. I loved being married. And would not waste my time with a live in. I don't believe in that.
 xxxVASSARETTExxx
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 574
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:22:01 PM
I know for me...marriage isnt something I plan on doing for a while. Yes I loved being married, and I dream tat one day I will find that man who will just make me thinkabout doing it all ovr again, but its going to take one helluva man ! I guess some women maybe do it because they just dont like being alone and lonely. Some fo money issues maybe ? I dont know. I think you have to reallllly get to know someone for quite a while before you could even start thinking along those lines, but thats just my opinion.
 ptlca
Joined: 4/16/2008
Msg: 575
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:30:17 PM
I'm not in this category, of course, even though I'm way over 40,



but maybe they realize they aren't getting any younger and don't want to die alone

or knowing that men die younger than women, want one with some life left in him..
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