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 Musky62
Joined: 9/23/2009
Msg: 576
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Are women over 40 desparate to get married? I have been divorced about 7 years and only dated one woman that was interested in marriage. Most liked their independence and found it hard to open their life to a man on a regular basis, at least that seemed to be the type of woman that I was dating. Is that mostly true? I would like to get married to the right one also. Who is the right one? What does love mean at age 60 vs at age 25? Does being a good man, honest, loyal, and a good lover count for anything anymore?
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 577
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/17/2009 4:09:10 AM
Does being a good man/woman, honest, loyal and a good lover count for anything anymore?

Absolutely, the issue...............finding someone who recogonizes it in you and in whom you find the same things.............
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 578
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/17/2009 5:11:32 AM
Just about every man I've met and ended up in a committed relationship with over the last few years has told me they intended to marry me. Eventually, they turned out to be emotional cripples or just insane, so needless to say, I didn't marry them.

But I NEVER told them I was looking for marriage - the idea always came from them.

I think the majority of women today are NOT looking to get married again because they do just fine on their own without having to cater to a man on a fulltime basis.
 FarmExe
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 579
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:16:24 AM
If I don't get married, any good man is just a person who doesn't relate to me. Having a nice marriage will be my dream that may come true or may not. I am good and successful so it's not easy to find one who interests me!
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 580
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:34:57 AM

If I don't get married, any good man is just a person who doesn't relate to me. Having a nice marriage will be my dream that may come true or may not. I am good and successful so it's not easy to find one who interests me!


True - If I am NEVER going to be his wife, then he's just another boyfriend to me - nothing special. They come and they go.
 FarmExe
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 581
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:55:46 AM

True - If I am NEVER going to be his wife, then he's just another boyfriend to me - nothing special. They come and they go

I understand Western culture but I never get used to have a boyfriend without the purpose of marriage. I have understood everyone who doesn't want to be in a marriage since I learned many things from the forums. Many people only want to have fun and don't want to be responsible because they are unable to be responsible. When they get old, they can still play with someone else in a nurse room...LOL!
 FarmExe
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 582
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:41:44 PM

I think some of these people are doing the responsible thing by not wanting to marry,,,

Truly, you are positive! Playing around is being responsible, not bothering one only forever but enjoying everyone!
 FarmExe
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 583
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:48:42 PM
I understood you and thank you! I won't marry someone who isn't good enough for the marriage material...
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 584
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 3:56:29 AM
I worked with a man who referred to everything as 'the' rather than 'my'..............the stove, the car, the wife.

One day, he made the comment that he had bought a washer and dryer for the wife. We asked where he bought her. He looked at us strangely. He treated her as 'the' rather than 'mine' in that she was just another something that he had acquired.

I like marriage but I understand what you mean about partner and equal, but the longer I am single, the better I like it.I am not ruling it out, just not the end to the means. I come and go as I please. I don't have to cook, clean or any number of other things if I don't want to. It is a trade off, there are things to miss about having someone with you all the time. I remember the good times of a marriage but I also remember the bad. Other side of the coin, I realize that it was the combo of he and me that made it not so good greater majority of the time.

Considering the pond content that I have had the opportunity to meet...it wouldn't be likely to happen anyway.
 FarmExe
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 585
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 9:30:53 AM
I am well-educated, professionally and financially successful, fit, good hearted, and never do bad things. I seek someone for marriage only. I am wondering who has an ability to marry me!!!
 fairfaxguy
Joined: 5/24/2006
Msg: 586
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 9:40:02 AM
"Considering the pond content that I have had the opportunity to meet...it wouldn't be likely to happen anyway"

Little algae floating on that pond, huh?

Don't forget to check for mercury, either!
 SSWWEET
Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 587
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 9:44:12 AM
I like being married. I think those of us that want marriage think of it as security. I realize at this time in my life that it isn't but I still want it. I want to grow old with someone and make memories and share a life instead of "well when it's not fun any more move on". Yes I've heard that. Relationships take work and commitment it and neither is easy.
 Wind Doe
Joined: 8/29/2009
Msg: 588
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 10:53:45 AM
Who the heck wants to get married again, been there done it and not interested in ever doing it again??

Why buy the hole pig for a little sausage?
 Onlyluvcando
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 589
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/23/2009 10:47:00 PM
Why buy the hole pig for a little sausage?

that is soooooooooo cute, LOL


but I think it's the other way around, I am meeting men who want to close the deal right away..asap !
fear they are getting older I suppose, and don't want to be alone.

 debranator
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 590
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/23/2009 11:06:25 PM
That is exactly what I am getting..I have to cut it off after a few dates..
they act..like they are going to die quick and have to grab whatever woman they can find..
It is scary..
It seems that no one wants to date..just for dating..
even on emails..they all ask what my intentions are for the future..
when I say thart I don't know..A lot of em get angry..
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 591
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:35:46 AM
FYI. Alert, alert. Some males have been brainwashed all their life. You are not the end all, be all, of any womans life. Women actually expect you to bring to the table, an equal to what they bring, financially, culturally, even, education. Most women can perform your basic function, artificially, or with a dildo. Dont you just love "electronics" and medical science? Unless you are one of the few and far between, who actually are looking for something extra, who actually have some color in your personality, believe me, we are not desperate for marriage, or even a date with you. We do have other options.

To do list: Call the sperm bank, and replace those dang batteries.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 592
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:25:36 AM
Because after 40 we learned it's more fun to f*ck-up two ppl's lives instead of one...
 Browngreeneyes
Joined: 12/21/2008
Msg: 593
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 4:05:10 AM
Dunno... I am 47 and not married. Don't feel like it either
 FarmExe
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 594
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:25:01 AM

Ah,,, I get it,,, I guess that counts me out since I don't have my green card

Don't guess nothing by using your poor brain!
 LadyDancingAlone
Joined: 7/7/2006
Msg: 595
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:24:23 PM
I know men and women who are in a hurry to get married again, I know others who swear they'll never bother with it again.

Some assume that is my goal, since I am open that what I seek is a LTR, but I honestly don't know if I ever want to marry again. I do want a LTR; I like the feeling of being part of a loving relationship, the feeling of a partnership, and of the two of us being greater than we were separately.

When I find my LTR, marriage is something we may or may not discuss when it fits into our plans. As I see it now, the 'marriage' aspect would be more to address practical matters than to define the relationship itself.

So, I suppose this "over 40" is hardly 'desperate' to get married again.
 eastendwoman
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 596
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:59:21 PM
Addicted: Women want to go slow (before sex) in order to make sure the man actually cares about them. However, men push and push and rush them into sex, then 'after they get sex' they say 'whoa', we're not exclusive. Slow down! Men are liars from the get go. You evidently led those women to believe that you cared about them and then put on the brakes when you had to 'prove it'. You're a worm. Those women had every right to be angry with you. Get a hold of yourself. You're not 17 anymore. You're irresponsible behavior is no longer cute, or mischievious or endearing. Grow up and stop lying to women.
 cifuareal1
Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 597
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:22:05 PM

This was without hints, discussions, or talking about this subject.


I am confused. If there was no discussion about it, how do you know marriage was the next intended step?

I have been single since 2001 and prefer it. I do desire a close relationship, but not marriage. We are not all alike.
 aaamm
Joined: 7/5/2009
Msg: 598
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:41:17 AM
So that we never have to worry about who pays for the coffee or dinner again.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:18:10 AM

Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?


Most likely because they don't have husbands and really want one.....
 1961 Classic
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 600
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:42:59 PM
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?

I know of no woman over 40 who's desperate to get married. However, if you've run into a few, my best guess would be that they're scared. Need the security of a marriage.
So, if you'd like to be that secure guy, go for it. If not, then don't.
And by the by - did you try asking them why they're in such a hurry?
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