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 angelbaby53
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 604
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Ha,desperate to get married?--No way. Ive met some men that were.
 leebossa
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 605
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 3/29/2009 3:52:52 PM
i can't speak for them...i have no idea why they want to get married. At that age it';s not going to be to have kids, not likely. I guess because they don't want to live alone or die alone and don't have to 'look' anymore. But as far as i'm concerned...yech. No thanks!
 veteran heart
Joined: 1/28/2009
Msg: 606
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 3/30/2009 6:52:33 PM
For me, I am not desperate, but I do not want to die alone or spend the rest of my life alone. I loved being married. And would not waste my time with a live in. I don't believe in that.
 xxxVASSARETTExxx
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 607
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:22:01 PM
I know for me...marriage isnt something I plan on doing for a while. Yes I loved being married, and I dream tat one day I will find that man who will just make me thinkabout doing it all ovr again, but its going to take one helluva man ! I guess some women maybe do it because they just dont like being alone and lonely. Some fo money issues maybe ? I dont know. I think you have to reallllly get to know someone for quite a while before you could even start thinking along those lines, but thats just my opinion.
 ptlca
Joined: 4/16/2008
Msg: 608
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:30:17 PM
I'm not in this category, of course, even though I'm way over 40,



but maybe they realize they aren't getting any younger and don't want to die alone

or knowing that men die younger than women, want one with some life left in him..
 daffie
Joined: 8/1/2007
Msg: 609
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/5/2009 2:23:59 AM
are they?
dear me.....all these years i've been doing the wrong thing,
let me think......desperate.....does that mean i have to grab the next willing male i come across?
i knew my mum forgot to tell me something!
 just sayin...
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 610
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/5/2009 3:51:16 AM
they aren't. you are just "addicted to chaos"....and they were just feeding your frenzy.
 Fancy45678
Joined: 1/3/2009
Msg: 611
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/5/2009 2:02:26 PM
I don't even know if I would ever marry again. I have been married twice in my lifetime. One was short, 2 years and the other was 12 years. I don't even know if I could answer the question " would you marry me?" I is kind of scary to even consider. The man would have to be very special and important to me. He would also have to be very much in love to want that. I would have to be the same. I have not even thought of saying the L word to anyone in a long time. I believe the last time was several years ago. The last guy I dated which was last month was to young for me and I know it would have never worked out. I guess there are just women out there who need to think that someone wants to marry them and they are afraid of being alone. Being alone isn't all that bad. You can do whatever you want and no one is going to tell you that you can't.
 d.sweet
Joined: 3/21/2009
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Posted: 4/5/2009 4:04:52 PM
wow

i take it you chose women of a certain age imagining we are either more experienced or more grateful perhaps.
i personally have no biological clock or need for one, but i do have an insight for you....say up front what you want make it clear as women can be emotional and assume they can change your mind.
i've worn the other boot and left a man hanging or should i say more than one, but the one in question was a player that i played .................. oh the power more women need to try it then they will realise the mans view.
alone doesnt mean lonely and over 40 doesnt mean ill give you a visa if you lay me.
MAYBE im just a **** who knows
 *Sassy Redhead*
Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 613
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/6/2009 9:11:08 PM
Who says women over 40 are desperate to get married? I'm not so sure I want to get married again. I have a lot more financial perks not being married. I get way more back on my income taxes, I don't have to budget for his needs, I don't have to ask anyone's permission to spend my own money, and I don't have credit card debt. Now, don't get me wrong. I would love to find a partner to love me and be loved by me...I'm just not sure that would result in marriage. Who knows what the future holds but I know that I'm not rushing to unite in marriage because if I get married again....it will be for the rest of my life. I don't want to make any more mistakes in that area of my life.
 abby156
Joined: 10/15/2007
Msg: 614
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/6/2009 9:16:27 PM
I miss a man in my life. If I dont remarry its all good. I am still content as I am.
 Browngreeneyes
Joined: 12/21/2008
Msg: 615
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/6/2009 11:04:57 PM
We are? I am?

Thanks for telling me how I feel.
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/7/2009 8:52:22 AM
desperate to get married? My God, I dont even know that I want to date, let alone marry again.
 mblady2009
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 617
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/7/2009 9:22:29 AM
Who are these women you are referring to that want so desperately to get married? Can you provide any details?? I think you may be dreaming. Most women I know over 40 don't care to get or even be married. We know we don't need a piece of paper to tell us who we love.
 shipoker58
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 618
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:36:37 AM
PEOPLE are desperate for security...no matter what gender! However, I am secure within myself!


...JMO
 4FunThings4FinerThings
Joined: 11/27/2008
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Posted: 4/8/2009 12:55:51 AM
Nice sense of humor, esap! I don't know where OP is meeting these "desperate" women, but someday he may wish he could find one!
 KCLady
Joined: 5/17/2005
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Posted: 4/22/2009 11:44:30 PM
Wow, I can't say that I know anyone in my age group that WANTS to get married again, including me. The trick now is to separate the ones who want no commitment at all from what I and most others I know are looking for - a really terrific, long term relationship. That's what really hard to find ----
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
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Posted: 4/23/2009 4:53:41 AM

Wow, I can't say that I know anyone in my age group that WANTS to get married again, including me. The trick now is to separate the ones who want no commitment at all from what I and most others I know are looking for - a really terrific, long term relationship. That's what really hard to find

I know - I never jumped into marriage like everyone else and I'm still patiently waiting for the right one. I don't want to start screwing things up now so a man would have to near walk on water to convince me he's the right one.
 Brownlady1953
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 622
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:41:11 PM
As we separate the "wheat" from the "chaff", the chaff pile grows ever higher......
 naturelover48
Joined: 1/4/2008
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Posted: 7/2/2009 7:33:49 PM
I was with my X over 30 years. I am not in any hurry to rush into marriage. I don't like waking up alone but marriage is not where it is. I would love to find someone who is all together and ready for a relationship, but the men I meet, seem to always want me to commit to them right away, move in, are controlling or just want to hang around. I have had guys after 2 dates offer me money to stay in a relationship and marry them. I am talking like 50k. Told them I didn't need their money and not wanting to get married. Broke it off when they tried to insist that I was going to wear their wedding ring. I have been divorced for almost 4 years and am not ready for marriage. Looking for a long term relationship though. I don't care for dating. Would love to meet someone that I can come home to, fix dinner and cuddle to watch a movie, even give good back rubs.
 deserthottie
Joined: 6/18/2009
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Posted: 7/2/2009 8:06:51 PM
many, many women over 40 are NOT desperate to get married! (see the forum for this topic "being without a man")

I never wanted to get married in the first place, ever! but, I did cross the path of a man that absolutely gave me the impression he was everything I could possibly ever want - and he did look like my dream man. so I went ahead and agreed to get married. it was all a huge mistake. I should have stuck to my own personal commitment of NOT getting married. oh well, ...

I think you just got ahold of two women who saw / felt something - perhaps some kind of vibe - you give off that gave them the impression that you were ready to take that step. I "dated" a man for about six months without even so much as holding hands with him, but just one kiss and B A M, he was off in "love" land! I had to back it off and then after a couple of tries to slow things down, finally break it off completely. (so your situation is no unique in the opposite!)
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
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Posted: 7/8/2009 8:02:53 PM
Well I guess it all boils down to - if the guy is also over 40, chances are he'll die first and we'll inherit his estate. What's wrong with that?
 leglover
Joined: 6/21/2007
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Posted: 7/9/2009 5:52:14 AM
of course the women who are marriage freaks will not join this and those who are not will so it`s one sided but i agree with the guy. i have met quite a few who are on a marriage mission and get upset when they find out i have no interest in such a thing. as many have recommended i try not to date that type but few come with warning labels so on to the next.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 627
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:46:47 AM
They have no reason to get upset if you tell them you do not want to get married from the get go. If they get upset later on after they assumed you were going to change your mind, then they are the ones who did not realize that a leopard rarely changes his spots. Honestly is the best policy here, and believing what someone says as the truth.
 no_excuses_please
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 628
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Posted: 7/9/2009 6:51:46 AM
Some are.
Some are not.

Some are afraid of dying alone.
Some aren't.

Never good to generalize.
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