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 feeldown
Joined: 9/11/2009
Msg: 601
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As i found out, somehow when a women don't need a man to marry she has her security either given to her,or had a good job to over ride her spending. Then is not willing to share like a man has to, if the man wants a women. Security has a lot to do with the average women getting older,if she always blew her funds in life. But the reality of it is now,most men don't have these jobs anymore. As the majority took over, the women had more time to go back to school, either while married,or after divorces to get better paying jobs. Pretty soon there will be too many office jobs and no products to buy to keep them going. Unless it is all for them buying cosmetics,purses,and their own new cloths. But why get all prettied up when they don't need the men anymore,ha ha.
 screenangel
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 602
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:03:56 PM
Perhaps some feel desperate because they haven't had children yet...or have never been married...? Thankfully, I married in my twenties and had my children. To get married now, we would have to be "head over heels" in love and very good for each other in every way. No one has ever tempted me again, although, you never know about the future.
 Sugar_Jones
Joined: 4/15/2009
Msg: 603
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:19:14 PM
Because she needs someone to lift heavy things and work on her car.
 lilemilyem
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 604
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:50:44 AM
I can't speak for others however, I don't think I have much of an interest to marry again. Been there and done that. I would be happy with a relationship. Take if from there maybe somewhere along the way if it felt right. No rush here.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 605
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:12:30 AM
op,
different strokes for different folks. i see marriage as an albatross...too much responsibility...i can walk around like a slob in my own house & not have to worry about someone else getting uptight about it. it's way too much work for what seems to be something sort of blah over time. i just don't have the desire or energy to work on something where i feel perpetually nagged and harangued. too many 'shoulds'... i like to come & go as i please with none of those constant expectations. just the thought wears me down. help!!!!
 HumanPopsicle
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 606
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:07:52 PM
And kill spiders. It's always about the spiders.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 607
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:17:04 PM

And kill spiders. It's always about the spiders.


Nah. I have a perfectly good little shop vac that gets rid of them nicely. And believe me, there are plenty of them in Oklahoma!

I didn't bother looking back to see what, if anything, I said before, but while I would like a long term, it doesn't have to be marriage, and I'm not feeling particularly desperate. Just somewhat surprised that virtually all of the males in my age group within a 200 mile radius of me who claim to be looking for the same thing still aren't interested in finding out if we might have enough in common to even be just plain friends. In fact, I just found another site where nearly all the men over 59 are looking for women from 28-40. I wish them luck, considering the photos they have posted.
 jeffnovi
Joined: 12/5/2009
Msg: 608
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:46:54 PM
I have found the same with a couple of women I dated. They were ready for the "i do's" in just a couple months!! I am not opposed to it, I just want to move slower and they only knew fast and stop.
 NoVaBuckeye
Joined: 12/3/2009
Msg: 609
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:56:00 PM
Well, by the looks of it, then its you that needs to change your dating behaviors not the women over 40. Seems like the consensus is that they are actually in no rush to the altar at all. Pick different types of women next time.
 Lisa_Annn
Joined: 3/8/2009
Msg: 610
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/14/2009 10:18:26 AM
I'm in no hurry to get married and I'm way over 40..53 (today actually). I'd like to find one man that wants only me but really really slow about the marriage thing. What I don't understand is the ones that talk for awhile then..nothing. What's that about? You can't tell a person by writing a couple times, believe me, I've met 8 men and only 2 were what the wrote like.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/14/2009 10:35:44 AM
I'm not afraid of spiders. Now bats, bees are a different thing altogether.


Bats are our friends, they eat all those mosquitos that carry nasty diseases. And bees make honey and pollinate flowers, so unless you're allergic...

Wasps, on the other hand - we've got these BIG aggressive red buggers, and they really hurt. I start spraying for them when I see the first can of spray on a shelf in the store.

And I don't need a man to either buy it or hold the nozzle, I can do both my very own self.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 612
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/16/2009 3:39:15 PM
op, cuz time is a ticking! who the heck is want the old woman or old man??? they gotta move while they still can!!!
 Savona
Joined: 11/22/2009
Msg: 613
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/16/2009 7:49:34 PM
""Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?""

'Cause the men on this site are just so friggin amazing.

Savona
 DonnyC1BAMA
Joined: 12/9/2009
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Posted: 12/16/2009 11:33:25 PM
Some women feel they have to have a man. Some don't. A lady friend of mine was burned because of that. She was so desperate and lonely. I explained to her what I thought would happen. It did, and she hasn't heard from him since.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 615
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/17/2009 9:39:10 AM
Who are these women?
Are these the same women that like free meals
with guys they don't even like,
don't want to have sex until after the hundredth
date, want to have sex within the first five minutes
of the first date, don't like decent guys, only go with
the bad guys, don't like to be treated nicely and expect
men to support them on wild and crazy world wide trips?
I don't know any women like this.
I think they are the figments of an under imaginative mind.
But that's just my opinion of course.
 DonnyC1BAMA
Joined: 12/9/2009
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/17/2009 1:24:38 PM
Don't blame it all on the ladies. Men are desperate to. Some men will ask a lady to marry them the 1st date.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 617
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/17/2009 1:50:28 PM

Some men will ask a lady to marry them the 1st date.


Some will even do it over an email.. I remember this one nice chap willing to crawl through glass to get to me.. He was just about ready to hitch up his huskies and rescue me from the frozen north!!

However when I turned down his proposal he ever very upset and swore at me.

thecatsmeoww
 DonnyC1BAMA
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Posted: 12/17/2009 2:16:56 PM
Funny over email. When they ask you on email you can pretty much tell you don't want to meet this man. I have had a stalker who, why did I give her my phone number? I changed phone numbers and email address. Just people careful what you give people. You're email address is a road map right to you're house. Phone number is worse. I am a computer expert. The internet people can find out anything about you or me if they have a brain. I personally have been divorced 4 years and really don't get to shook up about looneys. Search the internet for yourself. You will be surprised what you find. We can blame GOOGLE for that. Everything you type on the internet is not a secret.

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 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Posted: 1/19/2010 11:34:59 AM
This is an interesting article: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100119/ap_on_bi_ge/us_marriage_economics

It actually says men have more to gain, financially, than women do from marriage.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 620
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 1/19/2010 12:31:41 PM

Funny over email. When they ask you on email you can pretty much tell you don't want to meet this man. I have had a stalker who, why did I give her my phone number? I changed phone numbers and email address. Just people careful what you give people. You're email address is a road map right to you're house. Phone number is worse. I am a computer expert.


Yes over email and he was an actor from NY.. He just figured he had met his match..He went into a complete tirade about how he got these huskies and sled to come and get me. I freaked out and never went back on that site until 5 years later.. My phone number is unlisted and I have 24 security so am pretty safe as long as stay indoors..

Now just who said we were that antsy to get married?

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 just4- 4ums
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 621
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Posted: 1/19/2010 12:33:41 PM
Well there Miss catsmeoww, I think I can SEE why that fella proposed to you on an email.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 622
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Posted: 1/19/2010 12:44:03 PM

Well there Miss catsmeoww, I think I can SEE why that fella proposed to you on an email.


Indeed he probably spent plenty on the huskies and the sled.. Never mind the Rabbi with a pit bull he had already paid for waiting to perform the ceremonies..

thecatsmeoww
 TheRainbowsEnd
Joined: 11/23/2009
Msg: 623
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 1/19/2010 1:20:58 PM
Well I am a 40 year old woman out of a 23 year relationship and not eager to ever get married again. I agree with the others. You probably have chosen to date women who are looking for someone to take care of them. I mean isn't that why most people get married in the first place? laughing...and then once they are there and their needs are not met totally by the other person they wonder why the hell they got married in the first place?

I suggest when you meet a woman you are upfront and tell her you have no interest in marrying in the immediate future and then if that is what she seeks she has the option of moving on.

That's what I say. I say looking to marry I am not your woman!
 TheRainbowsEnd
Joined: 11/23/2009
Msg: 624
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 1/19/2010 1:22:28 PM
Yes it is called free labour!
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 625
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 1/19/2010 1:34:10 PM
Well, crap--as usual, someone didn't give me the manual how women over 40 are supposed to act. As a result, I didn't realize that I was supposed to be desperate to get married.

Or did the rules change at 50?
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