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 harvestmoon_huntress
Joined: 6/7/2009
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I do not think that this is necessarily true....Women in my age bracket late 40's and early 50's that I know. Are Not eager to get married again....I think what we are looking for is a Nice stable relationship. This does not always mean marriage. We have been there done that, like you say having babies are NOT an issue now..lol
Hell no, most of us have already raised our kids, and do not want to start over again!.
When I say stable...monogamous ( for health concerns ) stable in his emotions,
able to be Flexible, agreeable to work together on nurturing a loving relationship.

For the person who posted this topic, did these women come right out and tell you that they were looking for marriage, or did you just assume thats what they wanted???

I personally do not know if I would ever get married again..its going to take one heck of a solid/decent guy to make me change my mind...lol.....but it would be nice to have that nice, stable relationship.
 again50
Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 602
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:53:30 PM
I don't even think the person who posted this is still reading the replies since it was originally posted two years ago - but- for whatever it's worth - I just turned 50 and I don't know anyone in my age group who is desperate to get married. All my friends and I are financially independent and have been so for years. We value a fun loving stable relationship but marriage at this point is not necessarily on our agenda. Now, I have met many men over 40 who are too eager to get married and find it odd that a woman is comfortable not getting married. So I have come to believe that the men want us to believe this myth when statistics show that it is they who become more lonely as they age!
 horselady48
Joined: 1/10/2006
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/14/2009 5:00:20 PM
We're not - times have changed and so have we
 joe hickey
Joined: 5/30/2009
Msg: 604
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:24:38 AM
i agree with ya ,id have to, be nuts to jump back into a relation ship so fast again,this last one was a act of desperation stationed in germany thought with the little head instead of the big one ill be sure this time hell im 50 bet i can fig out????? lol
 joe hickey
Joined: 5/30/2009
Msg: 605
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:26:53 AM
now that is funny my dad did that the prick
 joe hickey
Joined: 5/30/2009
Msg: 606
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:40:03 AM
yep rings mean half been there but got it alll hehe
 joe hickey
Joined: 5/30/2009
Msg: 607
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:42:56 AM
wow lil fire cracker hu??
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 608
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:51:40 AM
I might be open to marriage more than most women my age since I have not been married. However, if I was desperate to get married I could have gotten married, and at this point in my life don't seek anything with desperation. (except chocolate, caffeine, and a few other things)
 mrsgutierrezceja
Joined: 7/13/2009
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 8:17:48 PM
Hi. I read your opinion..... I think different... I'm 40... Most of my friends are like me and we don't want to get married again..I'm got divorce 10 years ago, I got a lot of friends and a lot of good experiences...beside....When you get a husband..Idon't know what it happens but everything changes.... also you talk about biological clock ... come on!!!! we don't need a husband in order to have a baby.....ok.... It's just my opinion.
 ncessential
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 610
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 8:44:23 PM
I would say I disagree OP. Most women I know over 40 do not want to get married again. Yes they may want a long term relationship. But married? No,I don't think so.
 builderforfun
Joined: 5/13/2009
Msg: 611
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 9:29:34 PM
I don't know what women your talkin about but pretty much every woman I have met in their 40's is in no rush, most by that time know more of what they don't want as well as what they do want, and will not settle for anything less.
 Wyatt Earp1
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 612
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:16:49 PM
I'd agree. Me thinks the OP is wrong and lots of ladies 40+ aint in no rush. Good Lord man...I'm a gonna have to give one of em an ultimatim....marry me or....or...or..
wait one I have to think...marry me or I wont give you a back rub? Nah...uhm...er....?
Marry me or you won't know the sweet sugar lips I got...ouch that sounds too...sugary
dem diabetics might run.

Marry me or I won't have a pillow fight (let you win of course...) then throw you down on the bed and bite your neck (full moon habit...) No...that won't work...golly gee whiz. Uhm...there's gotta be a way...I know...meet someone, date them and don't ask? Treat em as great as could be...and get them to want to marry you first!

Yeah that's the ticket. But wait, what about if I'm afraid to marry them? Ok breathe in slow and deep... Well if I choose the right one and the right one chooses me
(no not the the Matrix "the One") then maybe we can take it real slow and enjoy our courtship...

Course we will have a hugging great time at the holidays!

Then maybe even live together... And when we want to ruin things, then get married

Ok I'm joking...I'm a romantic (sh! don't tell anyone) at heart.
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:40:11 PM
I am EXTREMELY happily single. Thank You!!

 kellygrl51
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 614
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/20/2009 4:12:19 PM
I think the OP must NOT be meeting career women....obviously
 poptartssuck
Joined: 4/21/2009
Msg: 615
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/21/2009 6:07:29 AM
I've found over the years, women that don't have financial stability or security are a lot more WANTING to get married as where women that are finacially stable or secure DO NOT wanna get married. I'm not saying that this is the case everytime but this seems to be the pattern.
 swimminhokie
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 616
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/21/2009 6:38:51 AM
I'm well over 40, and not really wanting to take the plunge again- maybe eventually...
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/21/2009 4:22:31 PM
Who cares? I'M in no rush to get married, until we've established that we love each other, have the same life goals, views about domestic life, finances and children.
 Visa47
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 618
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/22/2009 6:54:10 AM
For me I think that wanting to be married to someone I love is just a part of my moral fiber. I think growing with God as a focus in my life and the attitude and morals of my parents make me feel that intamcy should be associated with commitment and marriage. I was married for 27 years and although I don't want to be married again anytime soon, I know if I meet the right person, it will come into play for me, not only for the moral reasons, but financially it is better (IRS, insurance). I am fine finanacially, so that is not the issue at all. I know that I am probably old fashioned in my ideas and views (although I am no saint), but that is just what feels right for me.
 Valfield
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 619
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:16:21 PM
I am not Sooo sure Melanie that you are Sooo happy ...single...
It is a feeling ...
Don't have to thank me
 Free-At-Last
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 620
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Posted: 7/24/2009 9:14:05 PM


Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?


Huh?????

Me thinks OP's a little bit delusional
 jemjem57
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 621
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:34:26 PM
My opinion...either woman or man.. If someone is hearing wedding bells... it takes two to make them "ding dong"... Sir, maybe you are more charming than you realize? And again.. both sexes don't like to hear about "time-outs"...if they aren't expecting it. We are all only human... Don't read to heavily into the book... :)
 monsoon_rain
Joined: 9/21/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/25/2009 6:44:23 AM
So out of 4 women that you date, 2 wanted to get married .... and your general conclusion is that women after 40 are desperate to get married?
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 623
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/25/2009 6:52:07 AM
When did I say I wanted to get married, much less that I am desparate to do so? I am not saying never, but it would take a pretty darn fabuloso hunk to convince me to walk down the aisle.

I told someone the other day that I had been to 4 weddings in 4 weeks and that I would attend 4 in one day as long as it was not mine.

There could be someone for whom I am willing to put on the ring but right now I come and go as I please, cook or don't cook when I please, spend what I want on what I want. Change the decor, move the furniture and no one says a darn thing. I don't have to consult or ask anyone before I do anything. Someone told me I was selfish----only if there was someone else in the house that I was not considering---the dogs don't care.

I know how to give and take in a relationship and every man I have ever dated or was married to, has said I was one of the most generous giving people they had ever met--that I was too good for my own good. So I am willing to do that if the right man came along. Problem for me has been, the men I have run into take advantage when being spoiled and don't know how to return it. Treat one like you don't care and he won't give up but what kind of a relationship is that?

Never say never.....................just not desparate...
 strawberi50
Joined: 6/18/2008
Msg: 624
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/25/2009 7:19:45 AM
Women who are desperate to get married fall into the same category of men who are desperate to get laid! .... Do tell!!
 koitree
Joined: 1/21/2009
Msg: 625
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/25/2009 9:06:11 PM
You must be what they thought was a "keeper" and they wanted to marry you! There are plenty of women who reject men and don't want to marry them. It's a great compliment to you, so you're just going to have to tone down your attractiveness meter. ha ha.
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