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 agedwine4u
Joined: 10/1/2009
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Wake up PLEASE!, your over here saying women over 40 are so desperate to get married, and I on the other hand can't even get a date!, not that I would make your eyes bloodshot, but if this in fact were a fact, hide your bank book and insurance profile....you may be the next victim of (Women Who Kill For Money)...
Been married, and change, as all things do, changed with it. Don't think I would do it again, but, I don't have a crystal ball, everything happens for a reason! Don't for get that.....
Good luck.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 677
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 3:56:29 AM
I worked with a man who referred to everything as 'the' rather than 'my'..............the stove, the car, the wife.

One day, he made the comment that he had bought a washer and dryer for the wife. We asked where he bought her. He looked at us strangely. He treated her as 'the' rather than 'mine' in that she was just another something that he had acquired.

I like marriage but I understand what you mean about partner and equal, but the longer I am single, the better I like it.I am not ruling it out, just not the end to the means. I come and go as I please. I don't have to cook, clean or any number of other things if I don't want to. It is a trade off, there are things to miss about having someone with you all the time. I remember the good times of a marriage but I also remember the bad. Other side of the coin, I realize that it was the combo of he and me that made it not so good greater majority of the time.

Considering the pond content that I have had the opportunity to meet...it wouldn't be likely to happen anyway.
 FarmExe
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 678
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 9:30:53 AM
I am well-educated, professionally and financially successful, fit, good hearted, and never do bad things. I seek someone for marriage only. I am wondering who has an ability to marry me!!!
 fairfaxguy
Joined: 5/24/2006
Msg: 679
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 9:40:02 AM
"Considering the pond content that I have had the opportunity to meet...it wouldn't be likely to happen anyway"

Little algae floating on that pond, huh?

Don't forget to check for mercury, either!
 SSWWEET
Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 680
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 9:44:12 AM
I like being married. I think those of us that want marriage think of it as security. I realize at this time in my life that it isn't but I still want it. I want to grow old with someone and make memories and share a life instead of "well when it's not fun any more move on". Yes I've heard that. Relationships take work and commitment it and neither is easy.
 Wind Doe
Joined: 8/29/2009
Msg: 681
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2009 10:53:45 AM
Who the heck wants to get married again, been there done it and not interested in ever doing it again??

Why buy the hole pig for a little sausage?
 Onlyluvcando
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 682
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/23/2009 10:47:00 PM
Why buy the hole pig for a little sausage?

that is soooooooooo cute, LOL


but I think it's the other way around, I am meeting men who want to close the deal right away..asap !
fear they are getting older I suppose, and don't want to be alone.

 debranator
Joined: 10/8/2009
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/23/2009 11:06:25 PM
That is exactly what I am getting..I have to cut it off after a few dates..
they act..like they are going to die quick and have to grab whatever woman they can find..
It is scary..
It seems that no one wants to date..just for dating..
even on emails..they all ask what my intentions are for the future..
when I say thart I don't know..A lot of em get angry..
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:35:46 AM
FYI. Alert, alert. Some males have been brainwashed all their life. You are not the end all, be all, of any womans life. Women actually expect you to bring to the table, an equal to what they bring, financially, culturally, even, education. Most women can perform your basic function, artificially, or with a dildo. Dont you just love "electronics" and medical science? Unless you are one of the few and far between, who actually are looking for something extra, who actually have some color in your personality, believe me, we are not desperate for marriage, or even a date with you. We do have other options.

To do list: Call the sperm bank, and replace those dang batteries.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:25:36 AM
Because after 40 we learned it's more fun to f*ck-up two ppl's lives instead of one...
 Browngreeneyes
Joined: 12/21/2008
Msg: 686
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 4:05:10 AM
Dunno... I am 47 and not married. Don't feel like it either
 FarmExe
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 687
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:25:01 AM

Ah,,, I get it,,, I guess that counts me out since I don't have my green card

Don't guess nothing by using your poor brain!
 LadyDancingAlone
Joined: 7/7/2006
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:24:23 PM
I know men and women who are in a hurry to get married again, I know others who swear they'll never bother with it again.

Some assume that is my goal, since I am open that what I seek is a LTR, but I honestly don't know if I ever want to marry again. I do want a LTR; I like the feeling of being part of a loving relationship, the feeling of a partnership, and of the two of us being greater than we were separately.

When I find my LTR, marriage is something we may or may not discuss when it fits into our plans. As I see it now, the 'marriage' aspect would be more to address practical matters than to define the relationship itself.

So, I suppose this "over 40" is hardly 'desperate' to get married again.
 eastendwoman
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 689
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:59:21 PM
Addicted: Women want to go slow (before sex) in order to make sure the man actually cares about them. However, men push and push and rush them into sex, then 'after they get sex' they say 'whoa', we're not exclusive. Slow down! Men are liars from the get go. You evidently led those women to believe that you cared about them and then put on the brakes when you had to 'prove it'. You're a worm. Those women had every right to be angry with you. Get a hold of yourself. You're not 17 anymore. You're irresponsible behavior is no longer cute, or mischievious or endearing. Grow up and stop lying to women.
 cifuareal1
Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 690
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:22:05 PM

This was without hints, discussions, or talking about this subject.


I am confused. If there was no discussion about it, how do you know marriage was the next intended step?

I have been single since 2001 and prefer it. I do desire a close relationship, but not marriage. We are not all alike.
 aaamm
Joined: 7/5/2009
Msg: 691
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:41:17 AM
So that we never have to worry about who pays for the coffee or dinner again.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:18:10 AM

Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?


Most likely because they don't have husbands and really want one.....
 1961 Classic
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 693
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:42:59 PM
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?

I know of no woman over 40 who's desperate to get married. However, if you've run into a few, my best guess would be that they're scared. Need the security of a marriage.
So, if you'd like to be that secure guy, go for it. If not, then don't.
And by the by - did you try asking them why they're in such a hurry?
 feeldown
Joined: 9/11/2009
Msg: 694
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:43:50 AM
As i found out, somehow when a women don't need a man to marry she has her security either given to her,or had a good job to over ride her spending. Then is not willing to share like a man has to, if the man wants a women. Security has a lot to do with the average women getting older,if she always blew her funds in life. But the reality of it is now,most men don't have these jobs anymore. As the majority took over, the women had more time to go back to school, either while married,or after divorces to get better paying jobs. Pretty soon there will be too many office jobs and no products to buy to keep them going. Unless it is all for them buying cosmetics,purses,and their own new cloths. But why get all prettied up when they don't need the men anymore,ha ha.
 screenangel
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:03:56 PM
Perhaps some feel desperate because they haven't had children yet...or have never been married...? Thankfully, I married in my twenties and had my children. To get married now, we would have to be "head over heels" in love and very good for each other in every way. No one has ever tempted me again, although, you never know about the future.
 Sugar_Jones
Joined: 4/15/2009
Msg: 696
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:19:14 PM
Because she needs someone to lift heavy things and work on her car.
 lilemilyem
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 697
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:50:44 AM
I can't speak for others however, I don't think I have much of an interest to marry again. Been there and done that. I would be happy with a relationship. Take if from there maybe somewhere along the way if it felt right. No rush here.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 698
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:12:30 AM
op,
different strokes for different folks. i see marriage as an albatross...too much responsibility...i can walk around like a slob in my own house & not have to worry about someone else getting uptight about it. it's way too much work for what seems to be something sort of blah over time. i just don't have the desire or energy to work on something where i feel perpetually nagged and harangued. too many 'shoulds'... i like to come & go as i please with none of those constant expectations. just the thought wears me down. help!!!!
 HumanPopsicle
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 699
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:07:52 PM
And kill spiders. It's always about the spiders.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:17:04 PM

And kill spiders. It's always about the spiders.


Nah. I have a perfectly good little shop vac that gets rid of them nicely. And believe me, there are plenty of them in Oklahoma!

I didn't bother looking back to see what, if anything, I said before, but while I would like a long term, it doesn't have to be marriage, and I'm not feeling particularly desperate. Just somewhat surprised that virtually all of the males in my age group within a 200 mile radius of me who claim to be looking for the same thing still aren't interested in finding out if we might have enough in common to even be just plain friends. In fact, I just found another site where nearly all the men over 59 are looking for women from 28-40. I wish them luck, considering the photos they have posted.
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