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 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 635
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?



Where, who, what????!!! Heck, I'd just be happy with a man that complements ME! Forgetaboutit..................
 Jenny113007
Joined: 12/1/2007
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/5/2010 7:42:42 AM
Not all women want to get married number one, number two, women that age aren't going to settle on just anyone.
And number three a good marriage where both people work at it is hard to beat.
Nobody can force you to get married, stay single until your too old to find someone, ask the younger ones out while they laugh at you, and then join the elks lodge and hope and older one dances with you, and have plenty of insurance to pay the old age home, because you will have no one looking out for you.
I've seen a lot of older men living that exact life.
Pick someone and make it work.
L.A. Is the city of the young, and that goes for the men too. Hope it works out for you.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 637
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/5/2010 7:52:02 AM
Women over 40 are desperate to get married because they are
really tired of constantly going out to dinner with men just so
they can get free meals.
They are also tired of trying to dig that gold out of guys that hardly
have two coins to rub together on a good day.
And who wants to constantly worry about the 3 date rule? Why not
get married on the second date so you don't even have to worry about
the 3rd one.
I can think of tons of reasons why these elusive 40 year old women
are DESPERATE to get married...and maybe if I ever actually saw one...
I'd know the real reason.
 kailania
Joined: 4/10/2008
Msg: 638
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/6/2010 1:22:36 PM
if i were desperate to get married i would have married my ex fiance. he had it all.
or one of my ex boyfreinds who asked me to get married.

men are wanting it just as much.
i have had an e mail proposal from a man i knew for 5 yrs. i asked him why he didnt do it in person (after we hadnt seen one another for over 3 yrs) he said he was afraid of what i might say.
heck....i told him i probably would have been happy and said yes. too late now.
i wont say yes to a friggin e mail proposal.

another guy texted a proposal. and he was Serious. wow.

anyway....Yes...i am a woman who does want to get married. but desperate? no way.
i want to get married to the right man for me.
someone who i love, who loves me,...who knows what commitment is, who knows we are both growing old and wont look the same. who will agree to stick it through and work at our relationship.
when we are old...if we get the chance to become old...i want to be able to take a walk with my husband holding hands.
sit on our front porch and have a glass of tea or wine.
go out dancing if we still can.
i love watching those elderly couples who look like they are still in love.
they look happy together.

and i want a ring too.
so if someone thinks thats old fashioned and meaningless then they are not the person for me.
to each his own. we are all entitled to our own opinion.

what happens when one wants marriage and the other does not.?
does one person walk away?
who does the compromising?
if marriage means nothing but a piece of paper...then why is the one who says that so opposed to it if the one they love really wants that?

it is much more than paper. come on.
 kailania
Joined: 4/10/2008
Msg: 639
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/6/2010 1:25:38 PM
i agree with Jenny the poster above.
we dont want to settle.
funny Jenny and so true.
i have seen it over and over.
i hope that you will be with a great guy one day very very soon and he will cherish the woman you are.
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/7/2010 6:25:26 AM
Dunno... the relationships I've been in have gone swimmingly well until the proposal... that's pretty much the beginning of the end...
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 642
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/7/2010 9:10:19 AM
It's kind of funny. Have you guys noticed that older (over 35) feminists are very ugly, and the younger ones, that were so into it, change their minds around 35 and become housewifes.

Wouldn't that be "housewiVes" (plural)?
I'd rather be ugly than forever immature and shallow judging everyone strictly upon appearance.
Got maturity?



Well, it's pretty simple, it's last call for making babies and to find a "hubby" to support them


Oh yes - because we all want to be tied down with 3 or 4 of your little brats, and are not capable of holding a job.


I know this was a troll post, but I couldn't resist.
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/7/2010 3:43:44 PM
Funny, how even though the OPost starts out "I know I can't paint all women with this brush...", about every other poster feels the compunction to publicly declare "But I'm not like that!".

Does anybody do anything other than just read the thread title?

Whenever you say anything about any woman which can be construed as being bad, almost all of them blurt out “Not all women are like that.”

Not all birds sh1t on my car either, but I don’t park my car under a pigeon roost unless I want to stop by the car wash on the way home.
 untamedspirit009
Joined: 6/10/2009
Msg: 647
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/7/2010 10:09:02 PM
Woowww!!! I must be missing something here...when did women over fourty become desperate for marriage?...last time well (last week) that I read in the 'forums' we had men going over seas for 'mail order brides'.... come to think of it...where are the 'mail order grooms'???? yaaa....I think I could swipe a 'visa card' for something ...I mean someone who was 'exactly' as I ordered...

1. keeps fit
2. smiles continuiouslyyyyyy
3. cooks three meals a day while being sexually erotic at all times
4. always has the energizer bunny mentality...he keeps on going....
5. keeps the car maintence...
6. tends to the dry cleaning...
7. keeps the yard looking great...
8. keeps the kids updated, AND gets them to all their activities on time, stays and cheers them on etc...
9. maintains a romantic outlook..dresses sexy
10...tends the pool
11. grooms and works the horses..
12..feeds the farm animals and domesticated ones...
13.. greets me with a smile and a hard one...hehehe..
14. and He tends to the endless list.....
15. ohh and key point...he worships meeeeee for giving him a new life of 'freedom'...smirks.


sure sign me up for those mail order grooms...I need a few, as we all know 'one' can not do it all...
 *pisceseyes
Joined: 9/30/2009
Msg: 648
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Posted: 2/24/2010 10:10:32 PM
^^^GREAT response...and the studies support it.

http://www.divorcesource.com/CA/ARTICLES/peter1.html

the legal mess is just not worth it IMO, longterm companionship yes but not marriage..I dont see it happening
 ButchofLockhart
Joined: 4/28/2011
Msg: 649
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 5/2/2011 9:34:10 AM
My experience in my younger years is that women are the ones who do not want to get married. I do not know if this changes with age, but frankly, although I still want to get married, I've gotten less desperate over the years.

But I'm going to be honest here, too. You probably make a "decent" wage and women don't like poor men like me. Basically, most women who are still single either love money or do not want to marry.
 Casper66
Joined: 3/2/2007
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Posted: 5/3/2011 10:08:23 PM
Well I certainly haven't ruled out marriage but I'm not desperate to get married or even live with a guy, just looking for a good relationship with someone who is compatible. I have a great career, family and friends, time to travel and enjoy my interests and hobbies, just missing my partner in crime.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 5/3/2011 11:54:08 PM
Msg.1

It is not desperation that a woman wants to get married at the age of 40 or any other age,the reason is they don't want to be a free milk ,so if a man wants milk he has to buy the Cow...
 Whatisnewwithyou
Joined: 1/25/2011
Msg: 652
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 5/4/2011 7:49:20 AM
I don't actually know any that are desperate to get married, just ones that desperately want to get unmarried.
 magicallaroundme
Joined: 3/9/2011
Msg: 653
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Posted: 5/4/2011 9:12:36 AM

It is not desperation that a woman wants to get married at the age of 40 or any other age,the reason is they don't want to be a free milk ,so if a man wants milk he has to buy the Cow
That would be true of women of any age. It couldn't have escaped anybodys notice that the instant a woman gets married she starts turning into a cow.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 654
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 5/5/2011 11:55:32 PM
desperate to get married ? pfft come to my neighborhood, you cant even get out to coffee. god bless that seattle freeze
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 655
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 5/6/2011 10:34:21 AM
Jazzmin,
I had much the same experience. There was a period of time where I was quite interested in remarriage because being married was what I was used to. But I got through that,and now actually find men who don't want to date me, because I DON'T want to get married or live together.
Cindy O
 NewToTN9
Joined: 11/12/2010
Msg: 656
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Posted: 5/6/2011 2:40:17 PM

Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?

I don't know if that holds true for the women in their 40s (or I haven't witnessed it). However, I knew a few older gentlemen who dates women in their 50s and 60s and they have witnessed a heightened desire for women wanting to get married at that age. In most cases (according to them) the underlying rational for this increased desire was caused by one or more of the following:
- Access to health insurance
- Underfunded retirement accounts
- Cost of living reductions
- Transfer of pension or other benefits in case of death

http://www.businessnewsdaily.com/retirement-gender-gap-women-less-prepared-0954/
http://medicine.jrank.org/pages/1493/Retirement-Patterns-Gender-retirement.html
 Zephyr70
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 657
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2011 2:03:53 PM
At 40, I have too much going for me to ever marry a man and risk losing it. Just sayin'
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 2/9/2016 3:44:52 PM
browneyesboo

Oh yeah the free meals. lol!! Who is desperate enough to sit through a meal with some loser just so they save a few bucks?

Oh yeah and the gold diggers. This from guys who have no gold, of course.

oh yeah the third date rule. Who wants to put out just because it is the third time and the guy has spend $20. lol!!

I don't know any woman over 40 who is desperate to get married. Just the reverse. Once they have had their families. are divorced and free, the last thing they want is to be the domestic slave or dealing with his kids from the previous relationship. Unless of course they are really supportive of each other, genuine in their feelings, it is financially beneficial to all and then nothing better.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 659
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Posted: 2/9/2016 8:02:41 PM
I don't know any woman over 40 who is desperate to get married. Just the reverse. Once they have had their families. are divorced and free, the last thing they want is to be the domestic slave or dealing with his kids from the previous relationship. Unless of course they are really supportive of each other, genuine in their feelings, it is financially beneficial to all and then nothing better.

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Exactly. I know more women my age who DON'T want to get married than I those who do. I don't, I'm very happy just living in my beautiful house with my kids and just going out on dates when I feel like it. I don't need to wash somebody else's underwear again to feel "complete". I was married before for 20 years, and I'm good.
 lil_poppy
Joined: 1/18/2016
Msg: 660
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Posted: 2/9/2016 8:34:00 PM
I'm sure there are more than a few men that would like the same gig ^^^^. Have some woman take them out, pay the bill, have some sex and then go home, to their own home. Why would a man want to marry again either. Most men feel the same way - been there/done that/have the divorce papers.

BTW, I think it's an age thing with both genders. Both genders are questioning "why marry again?" It's not like someone in their late 40s and beyond wants to start a family, most are content in their living space, work space, head space. Why clutter it up? Personally, I like a shared home and a shared life, but that's just me.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 2/9/2016 9:02:02 PM
ahh Karma, how I wish I was 45 again and fit!!!!. I would be doing exactly as you are. Internet dating had more stigma than it does now and meeting people was harder than it is now also.

It is my experience that it is the men that want the marriage situation again, mainly I guess they want someone to run their house etc and it is well known that men do not do well alone, as women do. A hot guy with plenty going on can have his pick of women and wine and dine them etc and move on to the next beauty but the average guy really wants some kind of steady domestic set up. Correct me if I am wrong, guys.
 Lasthookbringsme
Joined: 11/8/2015
Msg: 662
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Posted: 2/10/2016 1:18:37 AM

I'm sure there are more than a few men that would like the same gig ^^^^. Have some woman take them out, pay the bill, have some sex and then go home, to their own home.


I don't relate to those type of men.


Why would a man want to marry again either. Most men feel the same way - been there/done that/have the divorce papers.


I seek like men who do want to re-marry.


BTW, I think it's an age thing with both genders. Both genders are questioning "why marry again?"


...and I answer: WHY NOT!



It's not like someone in their late 40s and beyond wants to start a family, most are content in their living space, work space, head space.


I'm in my early forties and I'd love to have another chance at having another baby (I just don't prefer to raise somebody else's children). I work from home and I'm also a home-maker happily chained to my stove and washing machine. My life is centered around my home and academic life (whether I center it here or abroad). But that's me.
 lil_poppy
Joined: 1/18/2016
Msg: 663
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 2/10/2016 5:51:15 AM

I'm sure there are more than a few men that would like the same gig ^^^^. Have some woman take them out, pay the bill, have some sex and then go home, to their own home.



I don't relate to those type of men.


I'm sure you don't relate to those type of men. I was pointing out that many women are happy to date around, have men pick up the tab, have fun, have sex and then go home.....and that many men would probably like the same gig - have a woman take them out, pay the tab, have fun, have sex and then go home. Some women supplement their income quite nicely by having a few dates every week.

So no, you wouldn't relate to this type of men, you're used to being the one catered to and paid for. Just guessing, I don't know for sure.
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