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 Viel
Joined: 9/14/2007
Msg: 76
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Huh? I'm not sure about marriage, but would like to find a man who will be dedicated to me and me only.
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 77
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:43:03 PM
Artz wrote:

"It is nice to see that There are not as many desperate woman out there as one would think. Now i do have a question. If you are not necessarily looking to get married., why are so many first dates like a police interrogation? It is one thing to get to know each other it is another to question a guy like it is a high security job interview or Like your questioning a suspect ."

'Cause women go into every meeting with a man...thinking "Is this the ONE?" Because most of us never see sex as just sex (well occasionally , we get buildup too) like you guys do! Or even want just 'that', especially as we get older...we've been there and done that and it's usually a disappointment with someone who only wants sex....usually selfishly just wanting to get his own. Plus it makes us feel like sh1t, cause everyone knows sex is better with someone we love. Who wants to be swatting born again 16 yr olds?

We want to love and embrace and nurture , respect, enjoy and relish being with the one WORTH waiting for, who cares for who we are and how we are....that's the way most healthy women are. It's hardwired in, just like you needed to procreate the planet, we needed to care for the offspring and the good of the family.

But at this point populating the planet is not on the agenda, so wouldn't it really be ideal to have a joining of best buddies and conspirators to sample the delights now that we're less encumbered by all those pesky responsibilities of middle life?

Marriage or no marriage most women like being connected emotionally
 MiriamEtienne
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 78
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 12:24:00 AM
Well I was DESPERATE to get MARRIED ( oit of High School ) to get away from my bossy mother. got married for the WRONG reason.............got divorced, then got into a long ten year relationship then at he end of 1999 he decided we should not evne see each other anymore.


Now I have changed my views on men.............if the right one ever comes along, I will give him my time and my undivided attention but my heart is now under lock and key and NO I do not want to get married again for what ?


Men are like babies................they never grow up...............somneone told me that men are like computers......................yes those creatures they love so much.

" They both have MEMORY but none have BRAINS" .
 Sweet*Child
Joined: 6/11/2007
Msg: 79
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 1:34:01 AM
Chaos...................sorry to give ya the wake up call. I would not even DATE you unless you

1.Lost enough weight that you could go on a jog or a hike and not get winded.
2. Shaved the fur off of your face!
3. Developed more interests that would include a woman (something BESIDES classy women.)

One of your interests is "LDS". LDS women ARE marriage oriented. The LDS church IS marriage and family oriented!
If ya don't like water, you have to stay out of the ocean and lakes.
 Sweet*Child
Joined: 6/11/2007
Msg: 80
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 1:53:07 AM
Chaos.......in post #59

You should re-read your own posts. You sound very angry, cynical and downright arrogant.

You should be re-assessing yourself right now, then start exercising, get a makeove which includes a shave and some Rogaine treatments on the top & probably the patch in back.

Don't date LDS women if you don't want to get married.

Men like you are the very reason I do not date ANYONE over 35.............and I am in no way shape or form wanting nor desperate to get married. At 30 I was not desperate, nor will I ever be desperate at 40 or 50 or 60 OR EVER!

and

I AM

LDS
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 81
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:50:54 AM
What the heck am I going to do with a 70 year old man... change his depends????

Gosh, Sweetie that smarts a bit. You telling me I got three years? And here I was planning on doing Machu Picchu that year, lol! Give it up, hunh?

AS for OPie's point, I think the observation on stats pretty much takes care of that. I did in fact get married at 42. To a 24 year old guy. It was his idea, and he was pretty special, and I haven't really regretted it. Lasted 12 years, and 11 of the 12 were pretty good. My last live-in relationship took care to tell me it wouldn't lead to marriage. And I did have to think about it for a bit: I'd never lived with an adult male that I wasn't married to. But decided it was all right. And it was. Maybe part of the reaction to OPie's announcement was the manner of it?

 highwater
Joined: 9/6/2007
Msg: 82
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 3:34:58 AM
Dude, you must be such a great catch that these ladies want to hook up with you permanent like. Keep up the good work!!! Maybe you will end up with the love of you life, however remind them to keep it SLOW.
 Hopesangel402
Joined: 10/30/2006
Msg: 83
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 4:45:54 AM
WOW OP,
You Think that this many women are just Angry and in Denial!!!

OK So What Your Saying is that We Really Are just Jumping at the Chance to Get
Remarried????? That is Just NOT Fair, You Should Of Told Us That You Were A
Mind Reader Also. Is That How You Found Out The Other 4 Women Wanted Too Marry YOU???
What Part of NO Do You Not Understand? Is It The N Or The O?????
 dustyroads
Joined: 8/22/2005
Msg: 84
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 7:49:10 AM
Wow! I have never had a woman ( at any stage of my life) ask me to marry them. Especially after only a couple months. My girl and I have been together a year, and there has little mention of the M word. If it aint broke......... Hearing OP might give me a complex!! lol!!
 cincydeb
Joined: 6/4/2007
Msg: 85
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 9:28:20 AM
Wow, Rustytraveler, well said girlfriend, well said.
 smartazzjohn
Joined: 8/11/2007
Msg: 86
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 10:13:05 AM
after pondering this I think I may have the answer, some women over 40 are desperate to get married, but they aren't just desperate for marriage, they are just desperate. In fact I believe they are desperate enough to date anyone who looks like they wouldn't be able to get anyone else. It's like they are looking for easy prey. In order to save time by just dating this person they bring up marriage right away.

Remember I said some women, IMO most women aren't desperate regardless of their age. The same principals apply to men. Desperation isn't a gender thing.

OP if 50% of the women you are dating are desperate perhaps you should rethink your criteria for the women you date. Talk to them before you ask them out and if you are clever enough you will be able to find out what their agenda is.
Geez I'm not normally this serious and I have a headache now.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 87
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:32:12 PM
So " desperate" to get married...and "desperate" ? Asks a 47.75 year old who hasn't. Thanks for the laugh!
 WaywardSeeker
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 88
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 10:21:07 AM
"why buy the cow when the milk is free has turned into:
when a woman wants a little sausage, why buy the pig that comes along with it?"
is one I will long remember. I am going to add a question about this saying to my fishbowl that I draw my "first meeting" questions from.

In two years I have yet to meet even one lady desperate to get married, but I have met a number who would like to have a sensible exclusive intimate relationship just like me. Sure they ask a lot of questions, but so do I. Nothing wrong with that as far as I can see. I found if you ask questions, you do have to be ready to answer them, and it can be fun if everyone keeps a sense of humour.

OP sounds like he would rather dispense with all this yakking to just drop trousers and get on with it. If that's what you want, there are ladies who provide such services for a fee, but they don't hang out in these forums. I can readily understand why the ladies here are after him like a pack of Mako sharks!
 restlessinhi
Joined: 6/3/2007
Msg: 89
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 3:09:01 PM
Well I'll be 48 Thanksgiving........I've never been married nor had children and I'd make a fine wife..........thing of it is........you're not here in Hawaii with me.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 90
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 3:39:06 PM

Ok Hotchild...what is an LDS woman?


I was hoping google might give me some other options on this, but it didn't. LDS = Mormon. (Latter Day Saints, short for Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints)

That's it.

 mlsaarln
Joined: 9/23/2006
Msg: 91
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 8:20:35 PM

I wonder why your experience isn't with women? lmao.

Huh? Please clarify; I have never had a woman want to marry me, as I only date men! My point was that he is generalizing, nothing more.
 SimplySweet45
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 92
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 9:06:23 PM
I looked LDS up on the *internet acronyms dictionary* and it's not there either lol.

Not desperate to get married here. Til death do us part can just as easily be done without getting married.

But...
If the man I was in love with asked I would say yes. :)
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 93
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 9:11:36 PM
Church of the Latter Day Saints I think....Mormon.
 weefishee
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 94
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 11:02:38 PM
Perhaps it is something in your profile. But oh! Whats that? "2 out of 4 women"? Those are not exactly very good numbers to draw conclusions from you know. Perhaps you might consider going back to the drawing table and taking a few hundred more tries before you make such conclusions. Just a suggestion thats all.
 weefishee
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 95
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 11:06:05 PM
Bravo Pink Lady. Doesn't a beautiful fullfilling relationship sound better to you than a marriage full of stress? I do salute you.
 great_kahuna
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 96
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:35:14 AM
Addicted_2_Chaos.....Since it is a rainy day ,I have taken the time to read most of the posts here.
It seems that most women here are in agreement that mariage is a big No No. Some women have even tried to answer the poster in a sensible way.

But I must say that some of the "Ladies " on this forum try to seize every oportunity to launche personal attacks at the poster, or towards men in general.
It just goes to show that maturity does not necessarily come with age.

Kahuna
 great_kahuna
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 97
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:42:48 AM
Post 106......

theres hope for all those ugly guys and girls out there! i personally would,nt give you a second look let alone MARRY you! have you looked in the mirror lately? i would if i were you! then i,d get back to those 4 so called over 40's DESPERATE women and BEG them to marry you! GET THE PICTURE!!


This is just one example.

Kahuna
 aNgeLiCbLoNdiE
Joined: 9/7/2006
Msg: 98
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 5:28:48 AM
I can only speak for myself in this thread...there have been MANY valid points made here & I hope I can learn from all of them. Some of the stuff I read in here...well, you know that old saying, if you don't have anything nice to say...

Personally, I would like to meet a man who is as close to what could be termed "my soulmate"... marriage comes secondary.

It doesn't take much to get married, it takes ALOT to have a mutually satisfying, healthy relationship.

Lately, I have been pursuing activities I LIKE w/ friends or alone. I am tired of meeting a man for a cup of coffee just for the sake of doing so. I want to be w/ someone who "clicks" w/ me...

I guess I am NOT desperate to get married. But it would be nice to have some of my needs met in a relationship, instead of trying to meet their needs... a mutual caring & sharing


Today I am celebrating 17 years (October 17, 1990), of being on my own, without the benefit of living with a "husband". I'm over 40, horrors, I'm over 50, and am definately not "desperate" to get married again.......why mess a good life up with that complication? In all relationships, someone has to be "dominant", or so it seems, and that person is usually of the male gender. That could be a problem for me, because after 17 years of making my own way in the world, I've turned into an "Alpha" female. Conversely, I would love to have a gentleman companion for an exclusive, long term relationship, but not if it means that I have to become someone I'm not (can we say "Suzy Homemaker"?) Personally, I don't want to be an albatross to anyone, nor do I want anyone to be an albatross to me!

Most of the over-40 women that I know feel the same way; and we pretty much feel sorry for the "desperate" ones, because no one wears "desperation" very well.
awesome post by a very smart lady, sorry I can't email you to tell you how m,uch I enjoy your posts!
 chelsea_hou
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 99
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 7:38:17 AM
LDS is Mormon. I know I have family members who are mormon. They like having big families, so marriage is appropriate.
 JagGuy1960
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 100
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 2:00:32 PM
My experience is that I've never met a woman yet, who is capable of loving. No one wants more than a fling. No one wants commitment, or God forbid . . . . marriage. I wonder sometimes what things have come to when females now behave like the males of yesteryear?
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