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 cjInSac
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 176
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"Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?"

That's funny, I've found men to be more anxious than I am to talk about a marriage. I've been married, not opposed to it, but can't we just have "married fun" without the paper to seal the deal? I don't need marriage to be honest, faithful or sexually loyal to just one man, particularly when trust is reciprocated.
 zippylarue
Joined: 5/21/2006
Msg: 177
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 8:22:50 AM
Here's one gal that's not 'desperate' to get married again. My marriage wasn't all bad, but the last 10 years I was so lonely as he had moved on with his life and didn't invite me along. Four years after my divorce I met a gentleman and ended up moving in with him, to his house and his world. He showered me with attention and his time while we were dating, but once we moved in together, he went right back to living the life he had been living alone for 14 years. I failed to notice he was a loner!

Anyway, I'm not against marriage at all. When two people who are so right for each other meet and work towards making a life together and want to make that legal and spiritual committment to each other, I think that's a pretty darn nice place to be.

 rodrich
Joined: 4/27/2007
Msg: 178
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 2:41:53 PM
I'm not desperate to get married again either. So.... do I have to wait for our first date Zippy, or will you marry me now? What's a few thousand miles and an international border between bedrooms?
 retired and crazy
Joined: 10/29/2007
Msg: 179
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 3:54:37 PM
Gee I have not seen this. I know a bunch of women over 40 who it could be said are looking. But I dont think I know one who is desperate.
 Mike72801
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 180
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 4:48:45 PM
I don't know why I read these forum pages. They only frighten me.
 sweetvirgo912
Joined: 10/24/2007
Msg: 181
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 5:18:15 PM
Well, I'm a few years over 50 and I am definitely not looking for marriage. I don't have to cook, talk, entertain, or clean up after anyone. And I really do not want to share my bed. There is a lot to be said for living alone which does not mean your lonely OR desperate for marriage.

Maybe you attract emotionally needy women.

Good luck with your search.
 Redhead62
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 182
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Posted: 11/2/2007 5:21:46 PM
I had to laught at your subject line. I am 45 years old and have been happily divorced for ten years. I am by no means desperate to get married, own my home, and pay my own bills.

You are correct in assuming you cannot paint all women with the same brush, as we are all unique (thank goodness). Maybe you are sending out the wrong signals to these women? Or maybe you just met the wrong females. I looked at your profile, perhaps you should clarify that you are only looking for companionship and not a serious relationship. Just a thought.

Good luck!
 Redhead62
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 183
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Posted: 11/2/2007 5:22:42 PM
Amen to that Sweetvirgo912!
 Guesswhoo
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 184
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 5:53:13 PM
Many are far from desperate, perhaps you just attract the desperate?
 travel_theworld
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 185
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 9:11:09 PM
Happily divorced for 16 here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I would like to find a life partner but desperate? nope.
 uniqueasasunset
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 186
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 9:13:57 PM
Riddle me this: If the women are desperate, why are the men the ones proposing on the third date??
 Pink Rose Lady
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 187
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/3/2007 8:53:24 PM
Why are some men so desperate to get married? I've been proposed to 3 times already, seriously. Thanks, but no thanks! Tried it once, that was enough, like many other women have already stated above.

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 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 188
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:14:51 PM
darn...........travel theworl has a year on me...............poo.

I have nothing against marriage.........................Just let me fall in love with a person who is my equal, and I would marry..........or not depending or the cirumstance.

Sorry world..............I don't do desperate. Hold a gun to my head, and I will fight you for it, as any person would.
 topjack
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 189
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:20:15 PM

Riddle me this: If the women are desperate, why are the men the ones proposing on the third date??


Not all the men! I've encountered this bizarre situation with women as well.

The only thing I'm proposing on the third date, provided it goes well, is a fourth date!
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 190
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:28:04 PM
"I've encountered this bizarre situation with women as well.

The only thing I'm proposing on the third date, provided it goes well, is a fourth date! "

Good Lord, children...........play nice.

NO...............NO marriage until you have know each other for at least year..........
Good Grief!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 191
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:30:42 PM
^^^^You sure a year is long enough sweetie???
 topjack
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 192
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:33:25 PM

NO...............NO marriage until you have know each other for at least year..........
Good Grief!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I never realized how fast I could run, until this happened to me. I made tracks so quick outta there, it would've made Jesse Owens look slow.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:42:22 PM
Hell no, a year isn't long enough. It is just for starters. Five years works much better for me. ............. ahhhhh make that 10.
 WarmthNpassion
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 194
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Posted: 11/4/2007 4:02:02 AM
It's funny how the aging process works. When people are 45 they can often pass for 35. However, as one gets near 50, the aging process kicks in and most start to look their age and at best can pass for only a few years younger. I think that can panic some women into the fear that they will be alone in old age and the drive to get someone they can count on later in life becomes a priority.
 friendlyldy
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 195
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Posted: 11/4/2007 4:20:52 AM
Most of the women I know are in no rush to get married again even when they are over 50 and do start to look their age. I know that I'm not in any rush..........Yes, I have LTR as what I am looking for but it's not because I'm desperately looking for that. It's more so the guys who are looking for just one night stands or just anyone to fit into their lives when they feel like it will know that that's not where I'm coming from.

I've taken care of myself most of my life so I don't need some guy to come along and take care of me. And I think that's true for most women my age. I would like to find someone to retire with and have fun with and do things with but if I don't find a guy, I have lots of friends, too.........

I think guys are more desperate to get laid then women are to get married...
 TimothyAL
Joined: 4/7/2006
Msg: 196
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Posted: 11/4/2007 6:39:14 AM
WOW! What a response! It looks like a lot of women feel strongly about this subject. But it's been my experience too that a lot of women close to my age are looking for someone to "grow old with" as they say. At least that's what I keep hearing. I don't think of myself as a great catch either. That is, I'm not rich, handsome, or famous. But still, there have been women that I liked and dated that came on like a ton of bricks after a few dates.

It will be a long time before I will be ready for marriage. My daughter is a senior in high school and lives with me full time. After graduation she wants to go to college. Those two things are the biggest events in my life and will be for a while. Sure it would be nice to settle in to a long term committed relationship, but not right now.

What are other guys running into "out there?"
 travel_theworld
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 197
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 10:12:20 AM
Timothy for the right woman you will be a great catch. You don't have to be perfect to be perfect for someone. Many women here have children and don't want to get married until their children are out of the house. That had been the case with me when the kids were young. I believe there is someone for everyone. Most of us over 40 , men and women are far from desperate to get married.
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 198
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 2:36:34 PM

I think guys are more desperate to get laid then women are to get married.


I second that!!!
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2007 3:48:36 PM
I have absolutely no desire to get married again...ever. I'm done breeding, and I'm not interested in starting again with infants... I'm not 20 and need to "build" a life with someone..I have a life already.

My experience with "marriage" has not been very positive..it seems to me the quickest way to screw up a good relationship is with a wedding.

Now companionship is an entirely different matter... but I don't see marriage as necessary for that. Maybe it's the women you are attracted to? I don't know...I do know a lot of my friends that are close to my age feel the same as I do.

Good luck!
 uniqueasasunset
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 200
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Posted: 11/4/2007 5:18:28 PM
Topjack,
It's probably your pictures. I may have to think about moving back to Florida! Calla lilies are a favorite of mine. :smile:
I'm not saying some women aren't desperate but they aren't alone. Some men are too.
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