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 travel_theworld
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 201
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Happily divorced for 16 here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I would like to find a life partner but desperate? nope.
 uniqueasasunset
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 202
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 9:13:57 PM
Riddle me this: If the women are desperate, why are the men the ones proposing on the third date??
 Pink Rose Lady
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 203
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/3/2007 8:53:24 PM
Why are some men so desperate to get married? I've been proposed to 3 times already, seriously. Thanks, but no thanks! Tried it once, that was enough, like many other women have already stated above.

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 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 204
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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/3/2007 9:14:51 PM
darn...........travel theworl has a year on me...............poo.

I have nothing against marriage.........................Just let me fall in love with a person who is my equal, and I would marry..........or not depending or the cirumstance.

Sorry world..............I don't do desperate. Hold a gun to my head, and I will fight you for it, as any person would.
 topjack
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 205
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/3/2007 9:20:15 PM

Riddle me this: If the women are desperate, why are the men the ones proposing on the third date??


Not all the men! I've encountered this bizarre situation with women as well.

The only thing I'm proposing on the third date, provided it goes well, is a fourth date!
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:28:04 PM
"I've encountered this bizarre situation with women as well.

The only thing I'm proposing on the third date, provided it goes well, is a fourth date! "

Good Lord, children...........play nice.

NO...............NO marriage until you have know each other for at least year..........
Good Grief!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 207
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:30:42 PM
^^^^You sure a year is long enough sweetie???
 topjack
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 208
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/3/2007 9:33:25 PM

NO...............NO marriage until you have know each other for at least year..........
Good Grief!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I never realized how fast I could run, until this happened to me. I made tracks so quick outta there, it would've made Jesse Owens look slow.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/3/2007 9:42:22 PM
Hell no, a year isn't long enough. It is just for starters. Five years works much better for me. ............. ahhhhh make that 10.
 WarmthNpassion
Joined: 7/18/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2007 4:02:02 AM
It's funny how the aging process works. When people are 45 they can often pass for 35. However, as one gets near 50, the aging process kicks in and most start to look their age and at best can pass for only a few years younger. I think that can panic some women into the fear that they will be alone in old age and the drive to get someone they can count on later in life becomes a priority.
 friendlyldy
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 211
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Posted: 11/4/2007 4:20:52 AM
Most of the women I know are in no rush to get married again even when they are over 50 and do start to look their age. I know that I'm not in any rush..........Yes, I have LTR as what I am looking for but it's not because I'm desperately looking for that. It's more so the guys who are looking for just one night stands or just anyone to fit into their lives when they feel like it will know that that's not where I'm coming from.

I've taken care of myself most of my life so I don't need some guy to come along and take care of me. And I think that's true for most women my age. I would like to find someone to retire with and have fun with and do things with but if I don't find a guy, I have lots of friends, too.........

I think guys are more desperate to get laid then women are to get married...
 TimothyAL
Joined: 4/7/2006
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Posted: 11/4/2007 6:39:14 AM
WOW! What a response! It looks like a lot of women feel strongly about this subject. But it's been my experience too that a lot of women close to my age are looking for someone to "grow old with" as they say. At least that's what I keep hearing. I don't think of myself as a great catch either. That is, I'm not rich, handsome, or famous. But still, there have been women that I liked and dated that came on like a ton of bricks after a few dates.

It will be a long time before I will be ready for marriage. My daughter is a senior in high school and lives with me full time. After graduation she wants to go to college. Those two things are the biggest events in my life and will be for a while. Sure it would be nice to settle in to a long term committed relationship, but not right now.

What are other guys running into "out there?"
 travel_theworld
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 213
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 10:12:20 AM
Timothy for the right woman you will be a great catch. You don't have to be perfect to be perfect for someone. Many women here have children and don't want to get married until their children are out of the house. That had been the case with me when the kids were young. I believe there is someone for everyone. Most of us over 40 , men and women are far from desperate to get married.
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 214
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 2:36:34 PM

I think guys are more desperate to get laid then women are to get married.


I second that!!!
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2007 3:48:36 PM
I have absolutely no desire to get married again...ever. I'm done breeding, and I'm not interested in starting again with infants... I'm not 20 and need to "build" a life with someone..I have a life already.

My experience with "marriage" has not been very positive..it seems to me the quickest way to screw up a good relationship is with a wedding.

Now companionship is an entirely different matter... but I don't see marriage as necessary for that. Maybe it's the women you are attracted to? I don't know...I do know a lot of my friends that are close to my age feel the same as I do.

Good luck!
 uniqueasasunset
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 216
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 5:18:28 PM
Topjack,
It's probably your pictures. I may have to think about moving back to Florida! Calla lilies are a favorite of mine. :smile:
I'm not saying some women aren't desperate but they aren't alone. Some men are too.
 chelsea_hou
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 217
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 5:59:14 PM
Sometimes I wonder just how stupid men think women are.
 WarmthNpassion
Joined: 7/18/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2007 6:17:24 PM
Looks like ladies that write in forums are not so desperate to get married as I read through the replies. Although, given the right guy entering their lives, that can change. Single gets old fast for some women. They enjoy all the attention for a while but there are always occasional times where they end up alone when they don't want to be alone or with a guy that they don't really want to be with if they had better options. Enter into the picture a man that when he looks deep into your eyes, your heart skips a beat and you feel your face warm; a guy that really cares about you and not just how to get into your pants;. a man that looks handsome and sexy; a man you LOVE to talk with because he is funny and smart and caring and so on; one that just keeps on popping up in your mind when you are not together; a guy that loves you up like no other. I guess you gals are right.... who'd ever want that?
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 219
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 6:41:04 PM

Looks like ladies that write in forums are not so desperate to get married as I read through the replies. Although, given the right guy entering their lives, that can change. Single gets old fast for some women.


The OP question was "Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?"
It wasn't "would you like to get married at sometime or ever again?" or "if the right guy came along would you consider getting married ?". While I am not "desperate" to get married again and to a point have considered the possibility I may never get married or meet someone I would want to marry, I wouldn't completely rule it out either. I have met someone that in my view would probably be a good candidate, but as others have mentioned not in any rush. In fact I would be perfectly content if things stayed they way they were if it meant they would stay this way a very long time.
 tbaylady
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 220
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 6:53:55 PM
i know of some who want to get married for the sake , theyre afraid of being alone. I personally dont think i will marry again. i lived my life for others and now its time to live for me!!! I have a career i enjoy....friends i adore....and a life i love.
 alliina
Joined: 10/9/2007
Msg: 221
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 8:47:37 PM
being new to this on line "getting acquainted" "dating" site, i would assume that the people involved(usually 2) would address this kind of potential problem right off the hop. without communication, why are they so surprised to have these unwanted or unseen life goals present themselves out to the blue. "blindsided" i think was the word used.
don't people usually say "dating, long term, chat etc. in their profile? and 2,3 or 4 months is not nearly long enough to make decisions for the long term. for me ,i'm not looking for a quickie marriage or anything else. just want to meet someone, and maybe like each other,.... and perchance to dance( metaphorically speaking.)
happy fishing everyone
 WarmthNpassion
Joined: 7/18/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2007 8:55:37 PM
blondblueyed: I didn't feel off topic because the answers coming in for the most part were... "I don't wanna get married - I can pay my own way - I like shopping for shoes more then being with a smelly man..... The story that followed the question in the heading was about this guys girlfriends wanting to marry him and quickly - after a few months. The question assumes that you have a HOT guy that you can't keep your hands off of. So how's the weather over in Tampa. Opps - off topic -- SORRY
 Woodstar
Joined: 2/16/2006
Msg: 223
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 9:08:57 PM
Sorry folks, I only read the first few pages.

One detail of this sordid affair has been overlooked.

He's LDS. Probably met his ladies at a "Special Interest Dance" (an lds function).

They can't help it dude...its in their DNA.

forgive me if this little bit of information has been mentioned previously.

ps..MSG 62...how's Your Poker Game???
 timetripper
Joined: 10/17/2007
Msg: 224
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Posted: 11/5/2007 3:44:49 AM
whats LDS??????

If this was Chao's desperate attempt to get attention from women over 40 then he succeded.
Narrow views give u a very narrow path in life.
Enough said.
Except for I agree with the lady that suggested getting run over by a bus is a less painful alternative to getting married, only lets make it a bus with flat tyres!!!!!!!
 ORCAANNA
Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 225
Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/5/2007 3:49:13 AM
maybe OP, you need to really get your bearings straight!!! i read your profile, and it seems to say that you inspect the government, as your career. Well , get on with the inspecting, the government has been lackluster as of late. Are you , maybe too worried about us women over forty, and letting the inspecting fall short?? By the way, to answear your question..... No, i am not desperate at all to get married AGAIN. been there and some already--- i'm not even sure if i want to " SHACK UP" with a man
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