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 varinia
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 356
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I haven't read all the pages, so this has probably been brought up.

I adopted my first dog 6 years ago and didn't know anything about Alpha behavior. I learned the hard way, when after 3 weeks this dog became aggressive towards anybody else, in order to protect me - his pack.

I learned that the Alpha always has the highest and best place, so by letting the dog sleep on the bed I 'told' him that I'm not above him. Banishing him off the bed made a difference, among other things. Once a month or so I let him spend a night on the bed and he was more of a brat the next day.

So, I learned that I will never again let a dog sleep on the bed. My present dog has no desire to anyway. She prefers to sleep in a different room from me.
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 359
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Posted: 7/12/2009 6:15:14 PM
I've had my cats for years 1 is 7 the other 11. They have been here when boyfriends have come/gone. Yes they sleep with me at night. They won't leave me for another woman ever.
 HazelRose
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 360
Pets in Bed
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:02:32 PM
Pets just make non petlovers nervous and jealous. Yes jealous. Only another petlover would understand the bond between a pet and a human. Alas for the snide comment that petlovers should be treated like animals, well we are animals. Treat us as we are. The only animal with an opposable thumb, and the depressing ability to destroy every life on Earth. Yeah, we are the rulers of the universe (heavy on the sarcasm).
 Harley_Quinn999
Joined: 5/27/2009
Msg: 361
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Posted: 7/12/2009 8:06:52 PM
I sleep with both my cats at night...and i love it
i dont really care if people dont, cause my cats are here first :)
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 362
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Posted: 7/12/2009 9:48:27 PM
Pets in bed? deal breaker!
 rockondon
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 363
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Posted: 7/12/2009 10:20:22 PM
My cat sleeps with me. When there was another person in bed with me she'd find a little spot that was out of the way. You'd never know she's there.
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 364
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Posted: 9/28/2010 7:41:47 PM
I have 2 cats - I will always have 2 cats, and more often than not they sleep at the foot of the bed in the "kitty corners" - where do you think that term came from? My cats prefer to vacate the bedroom when anything too wild is going on. They're much cleaner than many men.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 365
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Posted: 9/28/2010 8:41:20 PM
There is no way my rotties are ever going to be allowed on my bed, no matter how much any man begs me to let them on the bed
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 367
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Posted: 9/29/2010 4:13:23 AM
i recently started shutting the cat out of the bedroom at night. he squeezes himself between my face and the book i'm trying to read. then he rubs his little wet nose all over my face. plus he jumps on me and bites if i won't get up and play with him at 3 a.m. so he's banished. he fussed at first, but now he's used to it. and i actually get to sleep.
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 370
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Posted: 9/29/2010 9:17:40 AM
Talking to a man yesterday, who contacted me, that said if he was going to be in a relationship with me, he would only allow one cat & would not allow 2 & they wouldn't be allowed in the room were he sleeps. Ummm noooo - he would not be allowed to sleep where my cats & I LIVE.
Sometimes they sleep at the foot of the bed & sometimes they don't. I do know if they were shut out they would be pawing at the door and crying all night. Why put them through that stress?

The fact he chose to ignore the picture I have with them, and that he would expect to me to put them out. I could see a problem if someone has a housefull of animals & doesn't clean up after them. I don't allow them anywhere food is prepared, but other than that, being housecats their world is small, no need to reduce it for a man who is likely just making a guest appearance.

and to the ones squicked by cat hair on the sheets, men will dirty your sheets faster and worse than a little bit of hair.

I say there are pet people & non-pet people - you don't don't mess with people's attachment to their pets. I think people who are incapable of understanding the unconditional love from a pet, lack empathy and compassion. Not a good trait in a mate for me. Even more than a difference of religions, a relationship between a pet person and non-pet person, is what I call unequally yoked.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 371
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Posted: 9/29/2010 9:20:22 AM

My bf doesn't mind- most of the time--

He will if you're really rockin' and you both toll over onto the cat.
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 375
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Posted: 9/29/2010 1:19:24 PM

i dont have cats but when i did i couldnt figure that one out either. how do you do it?

I've always owned declawed cats - then have a leather couch. Cats are always going to like soft, high places. Give them alternatives.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 376
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Posted: 9/29/2010 1:41:17 PM

How on earth do you keep a cat of a sofa?!

Get a doberman to guard it.
 Steveo480
Joined: 5/27/2010
Msg: 377
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Posted: 9/30/2010 11:18:05 AM
Whats so gross about a pet in the bed? Its no differant than you lovers skin flakes, hair, farts, dandruff, drool and other wet spots in the bed.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 380
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Posted: 9/30/2010 1:00:56 PM

Whats so gross about a pet in the bed?

Well, for one thing, I don't want a cat cleaning itself while sitting on my pillow.
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 381
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Posted: 9/30/2010 1:14:05 PM
My dog has his own bed in another room and happily chooses to lay on it and conk out for 8-10 hours during the night (yup, I exercise my dog enough so he "sleeps in" thus, I can sleep in!). I have a big bed but as dog owners know, they won't lay in a "spot," they have to be touching you at least a little. I don't want the hair and the heat factory on my bed, period.

I dated a woman once who slept with her shitsu and that was fine. But, I politely asked that the dog be removed until we're done fooling around. It was a real weird thing to be having sex and see/hear/smell this dog panting away and even barking when she (the human she) made noise! She got all pissed off and insisted that the dog always be there. That was the deal breaker. I can take a dog in her bed, that's her business, but I'd like to have sex without a barking dog sitting there on the bed. What's next, she bites my nards off for screwing her "mom" while I'm asleep???


and to the ones squicked by cat hair on the sheets, men will dirty your sheets faster and worse than a little bit of hair.
So will women, if the man's doing a good job. Good sex is messy, with fluids and hair and who knows what else distributed all over the place. The question now becommes, who sleeps on the wet spot?
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 382
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Posted: 9/30/2010 1:59:00 PM

There is nothing worse, than seeing a person with pet hair all over their clothes. Its tacky, and looks ridiculous.

Nothing worse?????

I would think there are many many many more things "worse".
What a thing to get all shook up about.
Kinda makes YOU "look ridiculous" when you say such a thing.

I've been alive quite a few decades.
Lived many places. Experienced many things.
Might have met maybe 5 people have with all THAT much pet hair "all over their clothes".

But anyway, back to the subject... pets in bed.
There are just those that do and those that don't and those that will change their mind (one way or another) for their lover..
So it goes.
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 390
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Posted: 9/30/2010 4:33:10 PM
Its gross to meet someone that smells of their pet, and has their pet's hair all over them.

My cats always smell like Bath & Body Works Vanilla Bean Noel because I'm, always pulling an "Elmira" on them wth hugs.


I would think there are many many many more things "worse".
What a thing to get all shook up about.
Kinda makes YOU "look ridiculous" when you say such a thing.
I've been alive quite a few decades.
Lived many places. Experienced many things.
Might have met maybe 5 people have with all THAT much pet hair "all over their clothes".


Yup - Some people act as though they poop Godiva Chocolate, pee champagne, fart Febreeze, their saliva is from a mountain spring, and their semen is better than soft serve ice cream.

Pet hair is a minor inconvenience that is brushed off easily. I keep my clothing hung up and put away, run my Dyson regularly, and brush off the corner of the bed. It shouldn't be a big deal.


I've gotta say, I love my Sammy but, truly, he is THE most digusting creature...in fact, when you get right down to it (not sure about smaller ones since I've never had one) but really, dogs ARE kinda disgusting when one thinks about what they get up to in a day...


I have to admit, the disgusting things that dogs gravitate towards do squick me a bit, and they stink a lot more than any cat I've had. Although having a dog might be a good solution - he can keep the litterbox clean. Bon Apetite!

Now the guy with the goat? A barnyard animal with cloven hooves would NOT be bedroom friendly, and think there might be laws against that. He couldn't get a sheep?


 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 391
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Posted: 9/30/2010 4:43:32 PM

plus he jumps on me and bites if i won't get up and play with him at 3 a.m.

i hadda bar my cat from the bedroom at night for similar reasons, although his method was to trample my testicles.

^^What made it even more hilarious was it was a Christmas card. There he was, with his goat, both of them wearing reindeer horns. And big smiles. And there it was - a lollypop pink hard-on poking out ...lol...

yep, nuthin evokes the holiday spirit like goat boner.
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 395
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Posted: 10/1/2010 8:01:28 AM

Before someone comes in here squawking about the inevitable,Yes I am quite certain that there are humans out there who do these things but no one I know,or would ever want to know, does.I speak only about the men I have been with.

Not saying people eat poop or rotting corpses, but people do eat some real junk and have poor personal hygiene.
Let's just say a farting (from lousy food), body odor smelling, ungroomed and unshowered person would be welcomed in my bed AFTER my dog; I'd rather have my stinky hairy dog in a bed over a stinky person, anyday.
Only clean humans allowed in my bed, and after a night of sex, a change of sheets
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 397
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Posted: 10/5/2010 1:12:32 PM

Doesn't change the fact that they are still human and are not eating theirs and every other creatures feces they can get their mouths on.


Hey if you want a dog in your bed then by all means go for it,but I have no interest in it whatsoever.I much prefer non poop eaters.


Nope, dogs NEVER allowed in my bed, EVER.

However, either are poop eating humans. If it came right down to it, I'd rather have a bathed and brushed dog than a person who eats junk all day (equating to poop in some cases haha) thus having stinky farts, or is unkempt and poorly groomed, or hasn't taken a shower in a week, any day. That stuff does matter to me, and some people just plain REEK!!!!!

Not all dogs eat poop, btw, only poorly adjusted bored ones engage in that sort of behavior from my experience with dogs (which is vast). Like, I've never seen my dog eat poop of any kind, but maybe he's just weird like that... Lucky me!
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 400
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Posted: 10/7/2010 12:37:33 PM

he likes to watch. Sorry. Can't expect him to be perfect.


My friend had a beagle who walked in on him and his gf having sex one morning. He looks over and sees his dog grab a pillow on the floor, drag it near the bed side and start humping it. Like owner like dog.
 RazzleRoadRunner
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 401
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Posted: 10/7/2010 12:44:10 PM
My dogs insist that no other humans are in bed with us.........Whoever has the biggest teeth makes the rules in some cases
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 402
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Posted: 10/9/2010 11:01:27 PM
I have a very simple rule. If it can't wipe and wash it's own ass....it isn't living in my house, far less sleeping in my bed.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 10/10/2010 12:15:53 AM
^^^^Yep, I love animals too...but in their own domain. I leave that bedding down with them to Tarzan and Jane. A friend of mine went on a date a few years ago with a lady that really impressed him...until he got home and found fleas jumping around on his arm. About ten years ago, another friend had to have his house fogged for a flea infestation that came from his girls friends clothes. I've also found that most people that will sleep with their pets, will also allow them to lick them in the mouth and face. Needless to say...me and that person won't be doing any kissy kissy.
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