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 LillySoprano
Joined: 10/17/2006
Msg: 126
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Been there, done that. Enjoy the great sex....but chances are it won't last. Go into the relationship realistically and all will be well.
 sjmh
Joined: 9/23/2006
Msg: 127
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Posted: 11/16/2006 10:56:47 AM
The thing I would worry about is what happens when you are 60 and he is only 35?
 Pink Rose Lady
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 128
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 10:59:02 AM
Enjoy the moment! Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, so enjoy every day while you can, and good luck.

BonBon: up:
 sjmh
Joined: 9/23/2006
Msg: 129
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 11:08:17 AM
I only say that because I have been in the same situation I was 47 and he was 28. When I am 70 he would only be 49. The feelings were deep on both sides but I guess we both knew that it probably couldn't work. We are still good friends and he will always be special to me. I do truly hope it works for you!
 Jarbarian
Joined: 2/9/2006
Msg: 130
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 11:11:04 AM
Hmmm -- because I look so young I end up dating women 10-14 years younger than I am. It doesn't bother me because to me, age is a state of a mind, not a number.

Sometimes you just have to do what makes you feel happy and not worry so much about what society thinks. You don't have to make anyone else happy but yourself and your s/o in this life.
 strummer52
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 131
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Posted: 11/16/2006 11:28:07 AM
My x is 15 yrs younger than me,we were married for 14 yrs, and we had a great time togeather... As long as your both happy, its all good!! ... But....right now your still young, in 10 0r 15 yrs, when hes still early to mid 30's,and your 50 , that is when it could be an issue, and you could end up with a broken heart... But what the hell, if its the best 15 yrs of your life, it might be worth starting over then, to be that happy now...Id say follow your heart....
 bluejeansgal~*
Joined: 10/14/2006
Msg: 132
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 11:30:48 AM

age should be no factor......As long as two Adults are Happy and enjoying each Other


I have to agree
 ssssweetttgrl
Joined: 9/18/2006
Msg: 133
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 11:41:31 AM
if meowmix's boyfriend is 26, why is she on Fish as Single and still looking, she has all these stipulations up and one of them is no g/f or can't be married but yet you are on here looking.

As for 36/21 relationship..go for it girl..i did and I had a blast, now that is all that i date, younger guys are alot of fun if it goes farther than that, then great if it doesn't then you lived a great experience. Watch the movie PRIME it is about a 37 year old women who is seeing a 23 year old man..even if you don't like the movie, the guy in it is HOT!!
 I love hockey
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 134
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 3:21:49 PM
Personally, I wouldnt be getting involved with someone that young. You're not allowing him to be in his 20's... you are asking him to grow up and be where you are in life. I dont find that fair.
Also, if I were his mother... you'd be hating it. I have a teenage son and the older women better stay away. I want him to know his 20's... not miss out on them.
 athletic2222
Joined: 10/13/2006
Msg: 135
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 3:30:52 PM
^^^^ Hockey ..... such a smart chick. Except for the massive tattoo.
 I love hockey
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 136
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 3:38:05 PM
No mocking my tattoos!
 quadmom
Joined: 11/6/2006
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Posted: 11/16/2006 3:44:31 PM
Theres no guessing how it will turn out. I tend to be the realist here so far...so let me tell you how I see it.

He is probably being sincere...he doesn't mind your having children. And right now, he's ok with the thought of not having his own. But the reality is...well, how much do YOU recall your ideals changing between 21-36. He may change his mind. He will likely argue til he's blue in the face that he never will. But he's still growing into adulthood, no matter how "mature" he might be. He just can't have had the life experience to say ANYTHING with anything other than what he feels in the moment.

I hope you guys figure it out and find some happiness, and that might just happen. Good luck.
 doubleohseven
Joined: 3/7/2006
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Posted: 1/31/2007 3:35:38 AM
Go for it !
When I was 21 I dated 30 and 40 year olds more than women my own age and never regretted it, they didn´t either-
If they love each other and treat each other well then that´s what`s important !
36 is not old and she can have more kids if they want.



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 sadiemk1
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 139
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 1/31/2007 9:14:48 AM
yes act on it because u will always wonder of what if so wat ur age its about whether u happy and you get on u could meet a 36yr old man and it not last a month ?? so ave some fun and if its right then it will carry on to be x x
 Crane Man
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 140
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 1/31/2007 10:09:44 AM
I would suggest you take a pass here. He is young and may be the best guy, but let him be young and have a chance at having his own kids. I have dated a lot of older women, in the past, and at 21 I would have agreed to move to the Moon if she had asked me. You may be a great catch yourself but the unselfish thing to do would be to set him free and experience life.
 doubleohseven
Joined: 3/7/2006
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Posted: 2/16/2007 2:04:54 AM
Think about how it wold be when the wman is 144 years old and the guy 84 years old ??????????
 doubleohseven
Joined: 3/7/2006
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Posted: 2/16/2007 2:05:32 AM
Think about how it would be when the woman is 144 years old and the guy 84 years old ??????????
 Hoirm
Joined: 1/21/2007
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Posted: 2/16/2007 2:01:58 PM

The one thing you have to consider is what life will be like when you are 60 and your partner is 45.
15 or 16 years isnt that big a gap right now, but that gap will seem much larger in the future. ....how much will you have in common then?




I had 2 gf's much younger than I am. One was 15 years younger and the other one 17 1/2 years my junior
Sometimes I imagined her being 40 and me being almost 58. . . . . And many many years ago I was 22 and had a gf who was 38.
BTW - None of those relationships lasted more than 1 1/2 years
 misticmaiden
Joined: 3/4/2006
Msg: 144
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 2/16/2007 3:06:53 PM
i think youll get hurt..hes young an one day hes going to want what you have for himself.
 This is Now
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 145
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Posted: 2/16/2007 4:57:19 PM
I don't have a problem with it in theory but I did have a problem with it in my personal life. My eldest son was 28 and was raised for the most part by his paternal grandparents.

I would visit but he only lived with me when they sent him as a form of punishment...we'll show you how good you've got it...we'll send you to live with your mother sort of thing. Obviously I found it all pretty insulting but I secretly hoped that one day we'd have some type of relationship even if it wasn't typical.

He came to visit me and was a real mess but I figured I'd have a shot at influencing him if nothing else. Then this woman upstairs from me laid eyes on him and thought he was hot. She was only two years younger than me and all of a sudden it became a case of her telling me on the one hand how she could do a better job of raising him while banging his ass off on the other.

I was stunned. Raising him? He was 28 freaking years old...kinda late for that!!! Anyway, apparently they got married so...whatever....

In your case, unless there is some bizzaro universe set of circumstances going on, I doubt you'll face any obstacles. It doesn't sound like there are and the age gap is smaller too. And if there's a loving respectful relationship then age could very well be just a number.
 classy_lady99
Joined: 4/5/2006
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Posted: 2/17/2007 3:16:22 PM
Well younger men and much older women generally click. Yes they can have good relationships too. Only thing that would concern me is that 21 is much too young to be making a commitment with a woman of any age.

So if I were you I would enjoy the now and keep things at a slow pace. If you are needing more than that I'd find someone past their mid 20's and up.
 quadmom
Joined: 11/6/2006
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Posted: 2/18/2007 5:53:41 PM
Huh Humm...(clearing throat) I posted back in the fall on this.. the child issue is the big one. It seems like you're set on not having anymore. Thats the hard part.

I'm 36 and my guy is 24, won't turn 25 til spring. It was something that kind of weighed on me the first few times we talked, but as time passed I realized that he was much more mature than most of the men my age I've dated.

I won't lie, it helps cuz he does have a baby with someone else. I don't feel the weight of "depriving" him of having his own kids because he has one. BUT, there is also the fact that I guess if it came down to it and things were swimming along the way I expect them too, I wouldn't have a problem having another child in the next couple years. Women a whole lot older than us are still having babies girl.

Its working. He keeps me real. He doesn't buy into my crap when I'm trying to throw a fit over something and I open him up, so we're good for each other. He said from the gate that the women he was dating his age were just not ready for the things he was...home, family, just settling down. He's unbelievable with my kids and they love him to bits. They are still really small, so again, thats another worry I didn't have going in because they are really too young to pine for someone too long if it didn't work out. It doesn't even occur to me most days to think of the age difference. He's just my guy. If anything, he might be a bit more mature than I am!

I'm 11 yrs older than he is. So ya, when I'm 60 he'll be 49...no spring chicken at any rate. And since we black ladies age so well.....haha! At 25 and 36 the gap is only gonna get smaller as we get older, not wider.

Hockey- she isn't "asking" him to do anything. And everyone is different. I know plenty of twentysomethings that got married young and have stayed that way. Not every 20 yr old wants to party and be irresponsible. Sure, if thats your thing, your twenties is the time to do it. But one can't assume thats what the guy wants.

My parents were 10 yrs apart, it just so happened that it was my father who was older. This seems to be such an issue when its the lady in question.

I say its hard enough finding love without limiting the field so much by having age restrictions. It TOTALLY depends on the two people involved. There are 20 yr olds that act more mature and take more responsibility than some 40 yr olds I know. If the minds me and theres physical attraction to boot, then go for it. Thats saying that you two can come to terms with the issue of children.
 ~breathlesshush~
Joined: 4/25/2006
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Posted: 2/18/2007 9:05:19 PM
Quadmom:

I just wanted to say good for you!! I enjoyed reading your story, and it made feel less guilty about being attracted to younger guys. I haven't really dated one yet, although my ex was six years younger(which I don't think is a huge age gap, especially when you consider everyone thought he was the older one!! )

I would be interested to know if the OP did follow her heart and date the guy, if she's still around. Would make for an interesting story.

Kudos to you Quadmom, you give me hope for the future!!!
 quadmom
Joined: 11/6/2006
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Posted: 2/19/2007 7:26:18 AM
Aww..thanks. Thats sweet.

You go for whoever you think might be good for you. Don't worry about what other people think.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 150
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Posted: 3/28/2007 10:39:35 AM
cougar!!!! DO it do it! and go watch "the Graduate" with Dustin Hoffman
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