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 riffstar
Joined: 6/28/2003
Msg: 111
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?Page 7 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
Interesting....when I've dated younger WOMEN, I get criticized...by WOMEN...for robbing the cradle and/or ignoring the beauty and charm of women in my age group. I think I'm detecting a bit of a double standard from some of you.
 NittanyLion
Joined: 2/19/2005
Msg: 112
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 3:49:45 PM

I think I'm detecting a bit of a double standard from some of you.
Only if it's the same women criticizing you and dating younger men.
 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 123
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:49:37 AM
I hooked up at 18 with a 27 year old with kids. It was just about sex 24/7, but at 18 is there anything else a guy thinks about?
 Huggablehottie
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 124
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 10:46:03 AM
Hey, you are right ^^ that is about all you could have
in common.
One day the younger guy realizes he doesn't want you anymore.
 LillySoprano
Joined: 10/17/2006
Msg: 125
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 10:53:05 AM
Been there, done that. Enjoy the great sex....but chances are it won't last. Go into the relationship realistically and all will be well.
 Pink Rose Lady
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 127
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 10:59:02 AM
Enjoy the moment! Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, so enjoy every day while you can, and good luck.

BonBon: up:
 doubleohseven
Joined: 3/7/2006
Msg: 137
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Posted: 1/31/2007 3:35:38 AM
Go for it !
When I was 21 I dated 30 and 40 year olds more than women my own age and never regretted it, they didn´t either-
If they love each other and treat each other well then that´s what`s important !
36 is not old and she can have more kids if they want.



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 doubleohseven
Joined: 3/7/2006
Msg: 139
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 2/16/2007 2:04:54 AM
Think about how it wold be when the wman is 144 years old and the guy 84 years old ??????????
 doubleohseven
Joined: 3/7/2006
Msg: 140
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Posted: 2/16/2007 2:05:32 AM
Think about how it would be when the woman is 144 years old and the guy 84 years old ??????????
 classy_lady99
Joined: 4/5/2006
Msg: 144
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Posted: 2/17/2007 3:16:22 PM
Well younger men and much older women generally click. Yes they can have good relationships too. Only thing that would concern me is that 21 is much too young to be making a commitment with a woman of any age.

So if I were you I would enjoy the now and keep things at a slow pace. If you are needing more than that I'd find someone past their mid 20's and up.
 ~breathlesshush~
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 146
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Posted: 2/18/2007 9:05:19 PM
Quadmom:

I just wanted to say good for you!! I enjoyed reading your story, and it made feel less guilty about being attracted to younger guys. I haven't really dated one yet, although my ex was six years younger(which I don't think is a huge age gap, especially when you consider everyone thought he was the older one!! )

I would be interested to know if the OP did follow her heart and date the guy, if she's still around. Would make for an interesting story.

Kudos to you Quadmom, you give me hope for the future!!!
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 148
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 3/28/2007 10:39:35 AM
cougar!!!! DO it do it! and go watch "the Graduate" with Dustin Hoffman
 ThatsNOTmybaby
Joined: 10/27/2008
Msg: 153
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/27/2008 10:54:29 PM
Yes it's "doomed"! A 36 year old woman "banging" a 21 year old? She must really yearn for those old "college" days??? I thought guys in their 20's were "immature" according to women ( I guess it''s different when SEX is involved)

Most of those situations don't last cause when that 21year old sees a nice 18-22 year old walks by (especially if he's in college) it's curtains for the that older woman! NO way I would date a 21 year old no matter how mature she "claims" to be. I just don't see the relation in any form or fashion. I prefer women along my age range for now and a female in her's 40's (hell to the NIIII--ZZZZZ oooooo!)
 Minau
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 154
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:58:53 PM
It takes an exceptional 21 year old...I met one...not your typical young guy...he's actually a lot wiser then a lot of older guys I know and sometimes more logical then me...lol...very domesticated and independent...does most of the cooking, cleans the dishes, likes kids...he looks at them in awe more then me...lol. So, in terms of being in different stages in life...once again...he's the exception and probably more ready then most younger guys and even some older guys...lol. So, it is possible but they're the exception. I hope things work out for you :)
 PaisBo
Joined: 9/15/2012
Msg: 162
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/22/2012 5:46:54 AM
Well, sjmh, that would only happen if math changed.

60-15=45

Might want to think things like that through first.

I have a friend who is 35 and married to 15 years older woman (so a realistic and mathmatically correct scenario for this situation). They have been married for 13 years and have an 11 year old daughter and you would never know the age difference.
 c0ffeemate
Joined: 7/23/2010
Msg: 163
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/22/2012 8:24:48 AM
You don't mention how long the two of you have known each other (if you have said in another post I missed it). You say the electricity is in the air, is there more than just sparks?
For myself, when I am in a relationship, typically it's with a man younger than me (within a 10ish year range) so I agree with the majority of the responders when they say age is a number. However with that being said, while maturity level is as not always related to age, there can be some 'common generalities' associated with 'typical' age-groups.
Open communication, expectations, and honesty are all very important ingredients to whether a relationship has a chance. Talk to the lucky man in question and see what he's thinking. Life's about choices :)
 Iggypops420
Joined: 10/16/2012
Msg: 164
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/23/2012 6:13:26 PM
My gf is 9 years older than me. I'm 26 she's 36 but I'm about to turn 27. She has a 19 y/o who's a bit of a waste of space and it's starting to become really bothersome. Court dates cuz of shoplifting, ambulance bills cuz she blacked out from drinking and got taken to the hospital. Not my kid so not a lot of parenting I can do.

Other than that we don't have a lot of problems.
 dontneednostinkinname
Joined: 10/28/2012
Msg: 166
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/25/2012 8:34:24 PM
Wow!!!!!! eeeee. MY opinion: he's a boy! I cant fathom having feelings for someone that young or that much younger, those feeling should pass in no time I would expect.
 KER6969
Joined: 12/16/2012
Msg: 167
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 10:10:49 AM
Go for it!!! Men date much younger women!! I see NOTHING wrong with women dating and having relationships with much younger men. I know women who are doing this and who have been in relationships with younger guys for quite some time.
 msright78
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 168
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 11:42:45 AM
MEh, to each their own I guess.

I would never date anyone that's 21. I'm 34 now and I feel that majority of 21 year olds are not mature. I mean it's great to have fun with them but relationship wise not sure about that.

When i was 21, I dated someone who was 18. He lied to me being 18, I assumed he was older but eventually he told me his age and had he not lied, things would have been different. I dropped him like a sack of rotten potatoes and moved on.

I don't have time for liars.

My closest friend is 35 and she's married to a 24 year. And they are very much in love and have 2 beautiful boys.

Some ppl need to be mature in their age and some are and some arent.

I haven't met any guy whose 21 and is actually mature. But age is only a number. Don't let it hold u from finding someone that u could in the end be happy with.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 169
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 12:05:36 PM
The way I would feel about it is if the older person in the relationship is closer to the parent's age than the partner's age, it would feel a bit creepy to me. A 21 year-old's parents could be around 40, so a 36 year-old would be closer to the parent's age range.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 170
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 12:44:35 PM
It all depends on the maturity and intelligence of the 2 specific individuals involved, even with people of the SAME age.
 ravenhair4u
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 171
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 1:34:36 PM
Go for it! I would!
It can work if both people are on the same page. By that I mean have things in common, have a desire to make it work & have a strong desire to be together. Don't worry about him having kids, maybe he doesn't want any. Neither or you knows what the future will bring. Just focus on the here & now, and girl, have fun!
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 172
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 1/2/2013 4:34:03 PM
yes, it is doomed. it will never last. you are wasting your time if you think that this will be a long standing relationship. this man is 21. to him, you are an attractive older woman, a novelty, an experience, he may even love you, but he hasn't even established who he is yet as a man. do you want to have more kids, because he will reach a point where he will want kids, and if you are too old by then, you won't be able to have one with him. also, men are very visual. you will eventually start to show your age, and even the best plastic surgery can not sustain a woman's youthful appearance beyond a certain point. when you are 55 he will be 40 and able to date women that are 30 or possibly younger. that is what you will have to compete with. he will eventually leave you once you are no longer as attractive as you once were, and he will most likely take up with someone that is younger or near his own age. dating much younger works better for men, and does not work out so well typically for women. all I can say is that you are taking a HUGE risk of wasting your time with this very young, recently out of high school, still not yet fully developed brain (the brain is still developing in the early 20s) of a young 21 year old...um...man. and that is just it, at this age he isn't even a fully developed grown...MAN.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 173
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 1/2/2013 4:37:57 PM
nmyers99999

"Mind you - I was 19, she was 34. Time of my life. Was never going to last forever, but I would not want to have missed that part of my life for all the amatuer fumblings with girls my own age back then! So I'm incredibly bias!"

...you illustrate my point exactly. to you, this woman was a sexual experience. it was fun for a fling, but you knew it was not something that was going to lead to a lifelong partnership, and any woman that thinks a man is going to stay with her when he's 40 and she is mid 50s or more is really delusional. the rarity of that working must be somewhere in the .999999 percentile. if the OP is just looking for a fun fling, than sure, yeah, they are both adults - legally. but if she thinks this is going to last as a lifelong partnership? no way.
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