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 SomethingManly
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 141
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^^^Oh, now i get it! lol
 Verissa
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 142
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/5/2008 2:35:16 AM
While he is doing this is he also establishing a relationship/friendship with these other women? If its annymous no biggie, but if he MSN's them and is getting to know them, meets with the same woman on line multiple times or talks to them at all, this WILL lead to more outside of the internet.
 Wolfcova
Joined: 5/31/2006
Msg: 144
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 9/26/2008 11:05:04 PM
No matter how you slice this one, It's cheating....Who would want someone who shares himself in this way with Ho's online????
 Aerynn
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 145
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 9/27/2008 5:45:40 AM
Yes, it's cheating. You're engaging in a mutual sexual act with someone else. It's not jacking off to a mag. That's not interactive and doesn't actively involve another person. Webcam sex is.
 Joulesaffection
Joined: 8/6/2008
Msg: 146
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 9/27/2008 10:56:06 AM
I agree with marcob

Anything not previously agreed upon as a couple, should be considered cheating.


Communication is the key.

I do consider it cheating in general.
 OneMoreTimeWithFeeling
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 147
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 9/27/2008 12:00:36 PM
Back in the early stages of internet porn and chats, I used to be a webcam girl. (Don't judge) Guys could view me, but I never saw them. Which is probably a good thing now that I think of it. They could even call in for extra money. Anyway, quite a few times they would tell me if they left all of a sudden, would mean their wives/gf walked in and they were sorry. Then they would be right back the next day. What was I going to tell them? "Hey think of your wife and don't cum here no more". LOL I don't consider it cheating though. I even told my bf at the time that he could sign on and have sessions with the other girls that worked there. He didn't care too much for it. I only wanted their money. Men love to think they are the only one that can get you off. Even I can't get off 50 times a night. They were all "special" to me.
 phishkev
Joined: 9/19/2008
Msg: 148
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 9/27/2008 2:47:44 PM
Tough call-depends on the relationship-maybe they can pull of more dough by showing their stuff on the internet!!
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 152
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:05:37 PM
Cheating is irrelevant. I'm not big on labels; especially if you can dance around an issue with them. I like to measure things accordingly:

1/If you are sneaking around to do it...it's wrong, and you know it
2/If you would be upset if your SO walked in... "
3/If your SO would be upset if they walked in... "
4/If you would mind someone calling and telling your SO... "
5/If the shoes were reversed, and YOU would be upset finding your SO doing exactly what you are doing...it's wrong and you know it.

If you cannot be honest and comfortable with whatever it is that you are doing; it is wrong and you know it.
 bigsexyteddybear
Joined: 8/22/2007
Msg: 157
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2008 4:29:30 PM
This is not a right or wrong type of answer....its a "depends"...why? Well its a morality answer...and it all depends on what you and your partner agree on. We can get as simple as its wrong to look at another person to its OK to get a BJ in the Oval Office since it was only oral sex and everything that falls in between. "Cheating" comes in many forms from as some people claim just thinking about another and simple flirting to flat out screwing someone else. Its all what direction your moral compass points.

A lot of people of people consider webcam sex to be harmless and not much different than watching an adult movie. And for some people watching an adult movie and masturbating is wrong. So where you choose to draw the line is something that you need to decide with your partner. If they don't agree or don't like it then a decision needs to be made.
 fridayboo
Joined: 10/25/2005
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/3/2008 4:22:16 AM
hell naw!! beatin ain't cheatin
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 164
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/6/2008 11:12:21 AM
NOT if she lets me watch ...seriously me and my so was chatting on the net one night ...and she was approched by a guy that wanted to cam ....so i told her why not ...he was very surprised when after they played on the cam for a while ...I appeared and then we really gave him a show ...he wanted a repeat but we said no .....but we may well do it again for another person ... It satisfies the voyeur/exhibitionist in us without knowing the 3rd party ... safety in anonymity

and yes if she wants to do this when I am not there I have no problem with it ...as long as she tells me about it ...as I know she will ...if it was with someone she knew I would object ...because we have set the rules and that is against the rules
 MyDesire
Joined: 9/14/2007
Msg: 166
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:19:28 PM
Subject: Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Message: "if you have a problem with your man masturbating, do you also feel obligated to take care of his needs every time he's horny?"

^^^^^^
what he said !

I do have a problem with masturbating,it would horrify me, coz in my rules i say that a man can ask me anytime anywhere.... the only time wud be for mutual or to share.... alot of men that i have chatted to doing the cam thing, not just a one off with that woman, alot do it with the same woman all the time, so to me they are building a friendship/relations.

Camming is form of porn, doesnt do anything for me to be honest!!!
 VivaciousVixen2010
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 168
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/16/2009 1:48:47 AM
anytime you are entertaining somebody something other then your partner you are cheating including porn mags ect........
with some people it is okay to f uk around
with others it is not
whatever you want with your lover
if you both get off on wanting other people whatever.....................
stay out of my bed
 alihayder40
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 169
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/16/2009 2:21:55 AM
I think he is not that intrested in her girlfriend. Coz he can do better sexual acts with her gf rather than jerking off on a webcam.
 VivaciousVixen2010
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 174
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/16/2009 11:33:45 PM
my husband(ex) was P A R A N O I D and crazy as a loon. i had found out 6 months into the marriage that before he was came to America and married me, he was living with a married woman in England. We used the webcam. He was such a FREAK !
When men ask me to webcam, I know that they are some type of perv. They don't want to look at my face. If it is a real friend who wants to webcam that is one thing, if it is some man
who says that he is single but can be anything, he is a perv.
I never pull out the webcam for anybody unless it is family or friends.
If my partner was camming, that would mean that he is NOT WITH ME. He is has the time and energy to check out, fantasize, focus and get off on other women then what the f uk
do I need him for?????????????? Seriously???????????He is just a waste of space in my life and has added another hole in my heart. I have had too many men say they are faithful BUT TO FIND OUT they are looking elsewhere. If a man has time to take OUT of OUR RELATIONSHIP and SEX LIFE then he can get OUT of MYBED
 logs2bcut
Joined: 12/23/2006
Msg: 175
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 3/12/2009 1:06:34 PM
i'm currently seeing a divorced woman who divorced her husband when he did the "webcam" thing while in Iraq. she said her vows are sacred and he violated them. i'm glad he did cause we get along great.
 yna6
Joined: 1/21/2007
Msg: 176
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 3/12/2009 1:26:27 PM
Some courts are agreeing that it is cheating and granting divorces because of it.
As far as I'm concerned, if it isn't physical, it isn't cheating. But, that's my opinion. The idea of using it as foreplay is kinda cool!
hmmm...wonder if that would make me a freak? Naww......no worse that looking at naughty pictures together and taking things from there.
 Vincent Alexander
Joined: 4/7/2009
Msg: 182
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 185
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 7:22:23 AM
Its really pretty simple - cheating implies DECEPTION. If you are in a committed monogomous relationship, and you're hiding something like this, then yes, its cheating. If you tell your SO "Hey, I'm gonna go have some cam sex with Suzie, be back later..." and she says back "OK, have fun!"... then its not cheating.

Web cam, cyber sex etc is connecting interactively with another person. Its not like a porn vid, and its sharing an intimate part of your life (your sexuality) with someone who is not your SO. And, since this seems to be more of a guy thing, turn it around - how would guys feel if their woman we cybersexing and webcamming with other guys? Most likely you'd be pretty pissed.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 187
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 7:54:46 AM
If you are interacting with another person, then I'd say it's cheating. However, I think there are shades of grey here too. Web-cam sex is not as bad as real-sex, IMO. If there's no interaction, then I don't think it's cheating - masturbation to a mental fantasy or to a picture or even a porn video would not be - you're not interacting with anyone but yourself.

Ultimately, it depends on the couple and what they agree on.
 Andi_4U
Joined: 10/29/2007
Msg: 188
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 10:02:47 AM
It's cheating, plain and simple. If you are in a loving intimate relationship, why the need to look for outside sources?
You can not compare playboy to interactive cyber sex. You don't have a prayer of meeting one of the playboy models to have physical sex with them. How many men have actually met and had intimate relations with someone off the net? Very easy to do. Many marriages and relationships have broken up for this very reason.
For me, it would be a real concern that he is not satisfied in the relationship and it would only be a matter of time before he looked elsewhere.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 189
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 2:06:34 PM

If you are interacting with another person, then I'd say it's cheating. However, I think there are shades of grey here too. Web-cam sex is not as bad as real-sex, IMO. If there's no interaction, then I don't think it's cheating - masturbation to a mental fantasy or to a picture or even a porn video would not be - you're not interacting with anyone but yourself.


Dayyymm!! I split hairs for a living, but this /\ is real skill!!!

OP, your "friend" can either puff out her chest cuz she's married to a porn star, or throw a flag and argue about it. Either way, there's probably not alot she can do to modify that behavior- it either corrects itself with time, or . . . . not.
If my partner was working the crowd, either "virtually" or otherwise, I'd take a step back, let her have that stage, and probably fade into the curtains. Buh-bye! But with a smile.
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 191
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 5/8/2009 6:49:45 AM
Cheating is the act of lying to a partner or spouse. You can cheat by eating meat if you are vegetarian (bad example), cheat on your spouse by being emotionally connected to someone else in a romantic way, or sleeping around.

The arguement cyber is not cheating... its cheating if the spouse or partner doesn't know.
 Kohavah
Joined: 11/4/2009
Msg: 197
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 12/15/2009 7:28:42 AM
This is sexual addiction, which equates to mental illness. If you see nothing wrong with this type of behavior, then it is quite obvious that you are not a Self Master, and that you are mentally ill, and addicted to low class sex yourself.

Kohavah
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