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 alihayder40
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 169
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I think he is not that intrested in her girlfriend. Coz he can do better sexual acts with her gf rather than jerking off on a webcam.
 VivaciousVixen2010
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 174
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/16/2009 11:33:45 PM
my husband(ex) was P A R A N O I D and crazy as a loon. i had found out 6 months into the marriage that before he was came to America and married me, he was living with a married woman in England. We used the webcam. He was such a FREAK !
When men ask me to webcam, I know that they are some type of perv. They don't want to look at my face. If it is a real friend who wants to webcam that is one thing, if it is some man
who says that he is single but can be anything, he is a perv.
I never pull out the webcam for anybody unless it is family or friends.
If my partner was camming, that would mean that he is NOT WITH ME. He is has the time and energy to check out, fantasize, focus and get off on other women then what the f uk
do I need him for?????????????? Seriously???????????He is just a waste of space in my life and has added another hole in my heart. I have had too many men say they are faithful BUT TO FIND OUT they are looking elsewhere. If a man has time to take OUT of OUR RELATIONSHIP and SEX LIFE then he can get OUT of MYBED
 logs2bcut
Joined: 12/23/2006
Msg: 175
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 3/12/2009 1:06:34 PM
i'm currently seeing a divorced woman who divorced her husband when he did the "webcam" thing while in Iraq. she said her vows are sacred and he violated them. i'm glad he did cause we get along great.
 yna6
Joined: 1/21/2007
Msg: 176
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 3/12/2009 1:26:27 PM
Some courts are agreeing that it is cheating and granting divorces because of it.
As far as I'm concerned, if it isn't physical, it isn't cheating. But, that's my opinion. The idea of using it as foreplay is kinda cool!
hmmm...wonder if that would make me a freak? Naww......no worse that looking at naughty pictures together and taking things from there.
 Vincent Alexander
Joined: 4/7/2009
Msg: 182
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 185
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 7:22:23 AM
Its really pretty simple - cheating implies DECEPTION. If you are in a committed monogomous relationship, and you're hiding something like this, then yes, its cheating. If you tell your SO "Hey, I'm gonna go have some cam sex with Suzie, be back later..." and she says back "OK, have fun!"... then its not cheating.

Web cam, cyber sex etc is connecting interactively with another person. Its not like a porn vid, and its sharing an intimate part of your life (your sexuality) with someone who is not your SO. And, since this seems to be more of a guy thing, turn it around - how would guys feel if their woman we cybersexing and webcamming with other guys? Most likely you'd be pretty pissed.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 187
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 7:54:46 AM
If you are interacting with another person, then I'd say it's cheating. However, I think there are shades of grey here too. Web-cam sex is not as bad as real-sex, IMO. If there's no interaction, then I don't think it's cheating - masturbation to a mental fantasy or to a picture or even a porn video would not be - you're not interacting with anyone but yourself.

Ultimately, it depends on the couple and what they agree on.
 Andi_4U
Joined: 10/29/2007
Msg: 188
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 10:02:47 AM
It's cheating, plain and simple. If you are in a loving intimate relationship, why the need to look for outside sources?
You can not compare playboy to interactive cyber sex. You don't have a prayer of meeting one of the playboy models to have physical sex with them. How many men have actually met and had intimate relations with someone off the net? Very easy to do. Many marriages and relationships have broken up for this very reason.
For me, it would be a real concern that he is not satisfied in the relationship and it would only be a matter of time before he looked elsewhere.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 189
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 2:06:34 PM

If you are interacting with another person, then I'd say it's cheating. However, I think there are shades of grey here too. Web-cam sex is not as bad as real-sex, IMO. If there's no interaction, then I don't think it's cheating - masturbation to a mental fantasy or to a picture or even a porn video would not be - you're not interacting with anyone but yourself.


Dayyymm!! I split hairs for a living, but this /\ is real skill!!!

OP, your "friend" can either puff out her chest cuz she's married to a porn star, or throw a flag and argue about it. Either way, there's probably not alot she can do to modify that behavior- it either corrects itself with time, or . . . . not.
If my partner was working the crowd, either "virtually" or otherwise, I'd take a step back, let her have that stage, and probably fade into the curtains. Buh-bye! But with a smile.
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 191
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 5/8/2009 6:49:45 AM
Cheating is the act of lying to a partner or spouse. You can cheat by eating meat if you are vegetarian (bad example), cheat on your spouse by being emotionally connected to someone else in a romantic way, or sleeping around.

The arguement cyber is not cheating... its cheating if the spouse or partner doesn't know.
 Kohavah
Joined: 11/4/2009
Msg: 197
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 12/15/2009 7:28:42 AM
This is sexual addiction, which equates to mental illness. If you see nothing wrong with this type of behavior, then it is quite obvious that you are not a Self Master, and that you are mentally ill, and addicted to low class sex yourself.

Kohavah
 Mr.Versatility
Joined: 11/12/2009
Msg: 198
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 12/15/2009 7:30:08 AM
wow I didn't think prudes came into the sex and dating forums...lol


Learn something new everyday!
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 199
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 12/15/2009 8:57:40 AM
hfsrotflmao...you're kidding , right ?!?!? It's maybe like him looking at porn , only not at all and completely different. You know , some people will never be satisfied with one partner, they need online sex chat, flirting, apparently this , etc...That's fine. It's good to know yourself and what you need. And find someone else with similar tastes and values. Me personally..what you pay attention to flourishes. And I wouldn't have room in my relationships for this.
 zmon2
Joined: 5/7/2009
Msg: 205
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 12/28/2009 9:16:37 AM
Well, I actually just broke up with my gf over this. I told her how I liked "teasing", the act of one stripping or changing in front of someone, but there's no touching involved and it can't be with someone you have a physical or emotional attraction to at all. I had an experience with it at the start of the relationship and decided I should talk to her about it to gage her comfort level. She didn't seem to care all that much. I told her about it, the limits of it etc etc, told her I'd like it if she did it and that I didn't particularly enjoy doing it. Well, flash forward a few months and I'm loaded and go on webcam...change in front of the camera, no jerking off etc etc. Same deal, it was with someone I barely knew and had absolutely no physical or emotional attraction to. I decide to tell my gf about it and it didn't blow over well at all. I guess I got labelled as a cheater. Thing is though, I never developed any kind of emotional attachment or got close to a girl physically while I was with her, not while sober or drunk. Didn't even dance with another girl.

I guess what I learned from this is that the other person isn't gonna view something the same as you, that honesty is not always the best policy, and everyone has their own value systems. I guess you gotta find someone that accepts your sexuality and someone who has a similar value system. That is all!
 Harley17701
Joined: 10/24/2005
Msg: 206
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 12/28/2009 1:23:12 PM
cheating no? ... i mean yeah exactly its like looking a porno .. or a magazine ... or hell i wouldn't even consider chatting with someone on cam as cheating .. or even phone sex ... i mean its not easy hearing someone on the phone with a condom on lmao .. but come on really ... ok if looking at a magazine is cheating how about all the lies about who they are really thinking of while having sex with their partner? ... and i just dont mean men there ladies ... your just as notoriously known for doin the same .... just hiding it better ... or faking an orgasm isnt disrespectful to the man? ..... hell yes it is .. leaving him under false pretenses that he done you well .... the line can go on and on .. and sexual conversations or camming with anyone doesnt mean they are going to meet the person and have sex with them ..... its mostly all fantasy .... more times than not you feel more comfortable talking about sexual things to someone who isnt looking at you .. someone you dont know ... than someone you do know like a BF or GF .. because you know that other person is not going to be judgemental ... and even if they are ... whats it matter to you .. its not them your worrying about losing or looking at you differently than before .... and god knows ... there are just way to many people out there that are judgemental more than they ever should be... considering the skeletons in their closet and a past they do every attempt to hide ...
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 210
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/25/2010 8:03:57 AM
its not cheating and if my woman got off on it, i would not mind, i would actually love it, cheating, no, a little kinky yes
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 211
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/24/2014 8:27:30 PM
It may not technically be cheating. But I think it would be disrespectful unless your partner is okay with it.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 212
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/25/2014 6:38:59 AM
There's a big difference between let's say she masturbates to a porn video, vs some other guy at the other side masturbating to his junk. There's active human interaction. And to me, unless it was mutually consented, it's considered cheating. It would be considered cheating if they were writing each other sexual letters.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 213
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Posted: 11/25/2014 7:36:14 AM
Yup, it may not be "classic" cheating...but it's cheating nonetheless,unless he has her consent to do so....
In which case,he should have no problem with her doing the same if she's so inclined....
 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
Msg: 214
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/25/2014 12:43:46 PM
Most women are going to consider that cheating - unless they want to participate. That's what it feels like to them, and they can't change their feelings. Reality is what it is, despite our wants and wishes.

Relationships take work... part of that work is not going to go-go joints, not having naky dancing girls at bachelor parties, and not looking at other women (to not get caught looking, wear mirrored sunglasses!). If you want to do that garbage, do the nice girls a favor and leave them alone.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 215
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/25/2014 5:28:35 PM
I wouldn't call it cheating, I would call it alienation of affection.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 216
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Posted: 11/26/2014 6:49:33 AM

Relationships take work... part of that work is not going to go-go joints, not having naky dancing girls at bachelor parties, and not looking at other women (to not get caught looking, wear mirrored sunglasses!).


Once again, the key word missing is consent. When I was married and was invited to a bachelor's party, I told my wife, she made sure I had enough ones to buy table dances for the groom. Even now, with my girlfriend, when I see an attractive woman, I don't hide it. Of course I don't drool and look at the person in an obnoxious way. With that said, I don't go in the internet and exchange cam with some other women. Or email women with a sexual or get together intent.

Or the woman I see at the bar I start flirting with her. That is cheating.
 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
Msg: 217
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/26/2014 12:02:25 PM
^^^Consent is great, some are okay with it, some not.... but is she really okay with it, or is she just telling you what you want to hear? How do you know? If she resents you for it later, that could be a serious problem. That's what worries me. Unless you are absolutely sure where her head is at on the matter, I would error on the side of caution and not look at other women. A lot of guys who think it's okay will be probably be wrong. It's flirting with danger in a relationship.


I wouldn't call it cheating, I would call it alienation of affection.


- call it what you will, but the fact remains, it FEELS like cheating to many women... all the rationalizing in the world won't change that... read posts from the ladies here, it's very clear.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 218
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/26/2014 12:07:03 PM

I would error on the side of caution and not look at other women. A lot of guys who think it's okay will be probably be wrong. It's flirting with danger in a relationship.


Again, there's a tremendous difference between noticing an attractive woman and actively looking or engaging. How do I know where her head is? Simple, she is the one that tells me or notices the attractiveness of another woman, instead of me. As to the flirting part, you're right I would not even go there. Mainly because I am not interested at all. I am happy with my monogamous approach to life.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/30/2014 9:31:22 PM
Yes, it would be cheating, because I would not be getting sex with him. He be WASTING himslf, jerking off.
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