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 Wolfcova
Joined: 5/31/2006
Msg: 144
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No matter how you slice this one, It's cheating....Who would want someone who shares himself in this way with Ho's online????
 OneMoreTimeWithFeeling
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 147
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 9/27/2008 12:00:36 PM
Back in the early stages of internet porn and chats, I used to be a webcam girl. (Don't judge) Guys could view me, but I never saw them. Which is probably a good thing now that I think of it. They could even call in for extra money. Anyway, quite a few times they would tell me if they left all of a sudden, would mean their wives/gf walked in and they were sorry. Then they would be right back the next day. What was I going to tell them? "Hey think of your wife and don't cum here no more". LOL I don't consider it cheating though. I even told my bf at the time that he could sign on and have sessions with the other girls that worked there. He didn't care too much for it. I only wanted their money. Men love to think they are the only one that can get you off. Even I can't get off 50 times a night. They were all "special" to me.
 phishkev
Joined: 9/19/2008
Msg: 148
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 9/27/2008 2:47:44 PM
Tough call-depends on the relationship-maybe they can pull of more dough by showing their stuff on the internet!!
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:05:37 PM
Cheating is irrelevant. I'm not big on labels; especially if you can dance around an issue with them. I like to measure things accordingly:

1/If you are sneaking around to do it...it's wrong, and you know it
2/If you would be upset if your SO walked in... "
3/If your SO would be upset if they walked in... "
4/If you would mind someone calling and telling your SO... "
5/If the shoes were reversed, and YOU would be upset finding your SO doing exactly what you are doing...it's wrong and you know it.

If you cannot be honest and comfortable with whatever it is that you are doing; it is wrong and you know it.
 bigsexyteddybear
Joined: 8/22/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2008 4:29:30 PM
This is not a right or wrong type of answer....its a "depends"...why? Well its a morality answer...and it all depends on what you and your partner agree on. We can get as simple as its wrong to look at another person to its OK to get a BJ in the Oval Office since it was only oral sex and everything that falls in between. "Cheating" comes in many forms from as some people claim just thinking about another and simple flirting to flat out screwing someone else. Its all what direction your moral compass points.

A lot of people of people consider webcam sex to be harmless and not much different than watching an adult movie. And for some people watching an adult movie and masturbating is wrong. So where you choose to draw the line is something that you need to decide with your partner. If they don't agree or don't like it then a decision needs to be made.
 fridayboo
Joined: 10/25/2005
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/3/2008 4:22:16 AM
hell naw!! beatin ain't cheatin
 VivaciousVixen2010
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 168
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/16/2009 1:48:47 AM
anytime you are entertaining somebody something other then your partner you are cheating including porn mags ect........
with some people it is okay to f uk around
with others it is not
whatever you want with your lover
if you both get off on wanting other people whatever.....................
stay out of my bed
 alihayder40
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 169
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/16/2009 2:21:55 AM
I think he is not that intrested in her girlfriend. Coz he can do better sexual acts with her gf rather than jerking off on a webcam.
 VivaciousVixen2010
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 174
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/16/2009 11:33:45 PM
my husband(ex) was P A R A N O I D and crazy as a loon. i had found out 6 months into the marriage that before he was came to America and married me, he was living with a married woman in England. We used the webcam. He was such a FREAK !
When men ask me to webcam, I know that they are some type of perv. They don't want to look at my face. If it is a real friend who wants to webcam that is one thing, if it is some man
who says that he is single but can be anything, he is a perv.
I never pull out the webcam for anybody unless it is family or friends.
If my partner was camming, that would mean that he is NOT WITH ME. He is has the time and energy to check out, fantasize, focus and get off on other women then what the f uk
do I need him for?????????????? Seriously???????????He is just a waste of space in my life and has added another hole in my heart. I have had too many men say they are faithful BUT TO FIND OUT they are looking elsewhere. If a man has time to take OUT of OUR RELATIONSHIP and SEX LIFE then he can get OUT of MYBED
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 185
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 7:22:23 AM
Its really pretty simple - cheating implies DECEPTION. If you are in a committed monogomous relationship, and you're hiding something like this, then yes, its cheating. If you tell your SO "Hey, I'm gonna go have some cam sex with Suzie, be back later..." and she says back "OK, have fun!"... then its not cheating.

Web cam, cyber sex etc is connecting interactively with another person. Its not like a porn vid, and its sharing an intimate part of your life (your sexuality) with someone who is not your SO. And, since this seems to be more of a guy thing, turn it around - how would guys feel if their woman we cybersexing and webcamming with other guys? Most likely you'd be pretty pissed.
 Andi_4U
Joined: 10/29/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/27/2009 10:02:47 AM
It's cheating, plain and simple. If you are in a loving intimate relationship, why the need to look for outside sources?
You can not compare playboy to interactive cyber sex. You don't have a prayer of meeting one of the playboy models to have physical sex with them. How many men have actually met and had intimate relations with someone off the net? Very easy to do. Many marriages and relationships have broken up for this very reason.
For me, it would be a real concern that he is not satisfied in the relationship and it would only be a matter of time before he looked elsewhere.
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 191
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 5/8/2009 6:49:45 AM
Cheating is the act of lying to a partner or spouse. You can cheat by eating meat if you are vegetarian (bad example), cheat on your spouse by being emotionally connected to someone else in a romantic way, or sleeping around.

The arguement cyber is not cheating... its cheating if the spouse or partner doesn't know.
 Kohavah
Joined: 11/4/2009
Msg: 197
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 12/15/2009 7:28:42 AM
This is sexual addiction, which equates to mental illness. If you see nothing wrong with this type of behavior, then it is quite obvious that you are not a Self Master, and that you are mentally ill, and addicted to low class sex yourself.

Kohavah
 Mr.Versatility
Joined: 11/12/2009
Msg: 198
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 12/15/2009 7:30:08 AM
wow I didn't think prudes came into the sex and dating forums...lol


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 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 210
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/25/2010 8:03:57 AM
its not cheating and if my woman got off on it, i would not mind, i would actually love it, cheating, no, a little kinky yes
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 211
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/24/2014 8:27:30 PM
It may not technically be cheating. But I think it would be disrespectful unless your partner is okay with it.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 212
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/25/2014 6:38:59 AM
There's a big difference between let's say she masturbates to a porn video, vs some other guy at the other side masturbating to his junk. There's active human interaction. And to me, unless it was mutually consented, it's considered cheating. It would be considered cheating if they were writing each other sexual letters.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/25/2014 7:36:14 AM
Yup, it may not be "classic" cheating...but it's cheating nonetheless,unless he has her consent to do so....
In which case,he should have no problem with her doing the same if she's so inclined....
 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
Msg: 214
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/25/2014 12:43:46 PM
Most women are going to consider that cheating - unless they want to participate. That's what it feels like to them, and they can't change their feelings. Reality is what it is, despite our wants and wishes.

Relationships take work... part of that work is not going to go-go joints, not having naky dancing girls at bachelor parties, and not looking at other women (to not get caught looking, wear mirrored sunglasses!). If you want to do that garbage, do the nice girls a favor and leave them alone.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 215
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/25/2014 5:28:35 PM
I wouldn't call it cheating, I would call it alienation of affection.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 216
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/26/2014 6:49:33 AM

Relationships take work... part of that work is not going to go-go joints, not having naky dancing girls at bachelor parties, and not looking at other women (to not get caught looking, wear mirrored sunglasses!).


Once again, the key word missing is consent. When I was married and was invited to a bachelor's party, I told my wife, she made sure I had enough ones to buy table dances for the groom. Even now, with my girlfriend, when I see an attractive woman, I don't hide it. Of course I don't drool and look at the person in an obnoxious way. With that said, I don't go in the internet and exchange cam with some other women. Or email women with a sexual or get together intent.

Or the woman I see at the bar I start flirting with her. That is cheating.
 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
Msg: 217
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/26/2014 12:02:25 PM
^^^Consent is great, some are okay with it, some not.... but is she really okay with it, or is she just telling you what you want to hear? How do you know? If she resents you for it later, that could be a serious problem. That's what worries me. Unless you are absolutely sure where her head is at on the matter, I would error on the side of caution and not look at other women. A lot of guys who think it's okay will be probably be wrong. It's flirting with danger in a relationship.


I wouldn't call it cheating, I would call it alienation of affection.


- call it what you will, but the fact remains, it FEELS like cheating to many women... all the rationalizing in the world won't change that... read posts from the ladies here, it's very clear.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 218
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/26/2014 12:07:03 PM

I would error on the side of caution and not look at other women. A lot of guys who think it's okay will be probably be wrong. It's flirting with danger in a relationship.


Again, there's a tremendous difference between noticing an attractive woman and actively looking or engaging. How do I know where her head is? Simple, she is the one that tells me or notices the attractiveness of another woman, instead of me. As to the flirting part, you're right I would not even go there. Mainly because I am not interested at all. I am happy with my monogamous approach to life.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/30/2014 9:31:22 PM
Yes, it would be cheating, because I would not be getting sex with him. He be WASTING himslf, jerking off.
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