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 leolair
Joined: 12/12/2007
Msg: 101
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My friends husband is doing this to her right now and she just found out today. He showed her his profile that says "sorry ladies im taken". He says he just talks to males/females all over the world. He bought the webcam without her knowing and she's quite upset over it...Also, she said that it was new in a bag on the fridge the other day and when she asked about it, he got upset and said she was nosy....Apparently, he never even told her that he was gonna buy it...i think that he's scum. She is not sure what to think and is making excuses up for him...what a loser.
 flormimi
Joined: 4/7/2006
Msg: 102
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:38:28 PM
Are you kidding me of course its cheating
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:54:44 PM
Anything deemed sexual outside of your relationship is indeed cheating and should not be contemplated as regular activity. If you do - be prepared to have your relationship abruptly ended!!
 SILady10306
Joined: 12/20/2007
Msg: 104
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:56:02 PM
my vote: It's cheating...a sexual experience is a sexual experience.
 Ave Caesar
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 105
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:07:12 PM
I'm not sure whether this is a suitable topic. This is a private matter, really.
 1brnsuga
Joined: 3/28/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:33:14 PM
YES!
Listen, my rule of thumb is if you are involved, and you use anyone other that your significant other to "get off"...it's cheeting...PERIOD!
 Next Time Round
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 107
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:32:04 PM
Not if he told me so relatively early on in the relationship. Don't want to meet and the coffee shop, shake hands, and hear "Hi. I whack off online. You must be [name]".

But it's just porn to a lot of guys and if they have a willing participant it wouldn't bother me even if we were exclusive. Dates, yes. Meeting her folks, yeah.

OMG -- I'm never going to get to sleep at this rate. As soon as I typed that a song started playing on the radio ("I guess that's why they call it the blues" is part of the lyrics). Except "time on my hands" was sung in perfect harmony with my last keystroke. ROTFLMFAO
 Stove Top
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 108
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/1/2008 10:30:41 PM
If your SO found out about your camming, and she/he contacted your camming partner and they both ended up having webcam sex.. (without you) would that be double cheating? Or, if you had sex with your SO and your webcam partner found out.. would she/he feel you cheated... ah my, it's all so confusing this thing called love
 yepimlonelytoo
Joined: 10/18/2007
Msg: 109
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/13/2008 6:04:50 PM
Nah, I wouldn't, I just wouldn't want him to hide it from me. If you like it, go ahead baby, I'll watch.
 Pixy Dust
Joined: 9/6/2006
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Posted: 1/13/2008 6:37:13 PM
I guess if two people set up their own rules on what is cheating it's one thing.. and has been stated over and over....

but to compare it to porn is not in the same league in my opinion.... cybersex often entails getting to know the person on some level on the other side of the screen and making dates to be online at the same time and often as long as both parties are willing they will continue for months... I would imagine lurking at odd hours of the day or night when the girlfriend isn't home is deception, and once you've spent a hour or two with someone online how much energy do you have left? I find it creepy to have virtual threesomes to be honest and it doesn't sound like much of the type relationship I would want with a man...

for those men who do this while single and then get a girlfriend how easy is it to stay off the net with strangers? Is it compulsive? There are many men out there looking for this type of action online and you have to wonder how many are in relationships?
 regalrose
Joined: 8/28/2007
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Posted: 1/13/2008 11:26:46 PM
Listen to Marc. he's dead on right!!! I should know....my last ex started there and went on to the physical, from what I gather. Not good, unless it's something they do together, but if he does it "in addition to" his gf....in the context of needing something 'more' than her....heck yeah it's cheatin'! What she's upset about it that when he does this, it's like a huge banner saying, sorry hon, ya just don't QUITE do it for me. I'd be upset too, were I in her shoes.
 _relle_
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Posted: 1/13/2008 11:42:21 PM
esad.....

you make me laugh....dont u think u have gone a little overboard with ur answer!!
 garnet73
Joined: 1/2/2008
Msg: 113
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:51:37 AM
Msg 52, Michealann wrote
Personally, I'd NEVER put up with a guy who looks at porn (video or pics), or has cyber with other chicks. As far as masturbating goes, I know it is "supposedly normal" & for single guys, well it kind-of is like in the "it's in the past, so just ignore it" category, for me, anyway. But I would find it unacceptable in a relationship, because it clearly implies that either I am not capable of satisfying him, which is BULL$hit, or he has committment &/or intimacy issues that make him incapable of being a good partner.

I first read that to mean that she wouldn't accept a partner masturbating in her relationship, re-reading it, I think it means just that she wouldn't put up with a guy camming. Regardless, if you have a problem with your man masturbating, do you also feel obligated to take care of his needs every time he's horny? Men and women seldom have the same sexual cycle, and a little lube and kleenex goes a long way to equalize things.

If I were in a relationship, and I was online and a lady popped on and wanted to cam with me, I wouldn't feel right about it and I'd say no. But, intent counts for a lot. My ex said she'd rather I get a blowjob from a nameless whore than have an intimate conversation with a girl I knew (and once attempted to arrange a blowjob from a nameless whore for me, on my birthday). So, to the OP... if this guy really doesn't seem camming as being any different than masturbating, maybe he can get a pass for behaviour in the past. Now that his girlfriend has told him she doesn't accept it, there's no excuse for future events.
 XXX-Guy
Joined: 12/10/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/14/2008 4:05:03 AM

Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?


I think the best way to answer this question is to ask yourself if it would be okay if your partner was doing the same thing but you couldn't. How would that make YOU feel?
 Next Time Round
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 115
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/14/2008 4:11:06 AM
I look at it this way. If he was paying $3.99 a minute or whatever then it would be porn, right? If he found one Hell of good deal (i.e. free) then what is it?

It's like that old joke about a man who asks a woman if she'd have sex with someone for a million dollars and she says yes. Then he asks her, "how about ten bucks?"

She says, "How dare you!!! What do you think I am?" He says, "What you are has already been established, my dear. Now we are simply negotiating a price!"

If he's meeting her folks for dinner I'd be p!ssed. Otherwise it's a non-issue.
 myronlong
Joined: 1/25/2008
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Posted: 4/3/2008 5:19:32 PM
Maybe he just like stroking his thang... Maybe he gets a thrill from other women watchin him stroke his thang. Maybe he is obsess with cummin. Maybe he is obsess with women. The webcam should've never been invented anyway, most people are not using them for the right purpose anyway! Webcams does prove majority of people love to be teased because it's not real sex! If you ask my opinion, webcam sex is not something a person discovers during the relationship, he/she was already doing it and now can't leave it alone. If you discover your man/girl have webcam sex, then that person has too much time on their hands.
 Anti Elvis
Joined: 11/21/2007
Msg: 117
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/3/2008 5:52:12 PM
the answer is "yes" it's cheating.
 agoodguyinny
Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 118
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/4/2008 3:40:54 PM
Cheating implies deception, so if you are hiding it from your partner, then yes its cheating. If they know and are OK with it, then its not.

Its funny, my ex is the one who made the rule (somewhat jokingly) that if she caught me doing anything interactive with a person, that she would 'cut it off.' I agreed that it was cheating and never had any interest nor gave her a reason to suspect I did. The irony is that she was the one who strayed, first with cyber and then in person. I guess she was lucky that I wasn't as extreme in my reaction to her cheating as she would have been!
 Mirage111
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 119
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/4/2008 4:02:15 PM
Is he doing it behind her back without her knowledge? Its not the act of sex that breaks up a partnership its the dishonesty.
 22genuine
Joined: 3/31/2008
Msg: 120
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/4/2008 4:43:20 PM
I completely think it's cheating, and mostly because it was a hidden and lied about. Omission is betrayal, period! If it was talked about BEFORE he got caught may be it would be different. I know I'm an open person and would quite possibly join in on something like that but not after I was decieved about it. Now she'll always wonder if he's still doing it even if he said he'll stop. And is she ok with him still doing it, or is it just cause he tells her he loves her and she wants to stay together. It' not worth the stress and worry to me. I'd rather be with a partner who loves giving it to me all the time, maybe break out the webcams with eachother instead of being sneaky and hurtful.
 ~curlygirl~
Joined: 4/22/2006
Msg: 121
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/4/2008 5:38:49 PM
admittedly webcam sex is only a step up from a guy jerking off to porn, but it's how it differs that pushes it into the scope of cheating...it's INTERACTIVE. sure there's no physical contact, possibly there's no intent to meet his "anonymous" partner for some real-life satisfaction, but it is a physical person with whom he is relating and interacting, a person whom he is playing off for his gratification and hers...despite the anonymity, the "sex" portion of webcam sex still applies. so just like Bill, sorry buddy, you did "have sexual relations with that woman"...and yes, it IS cheating.
 Lucky_Vet
Joined: 3/27/2005
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 fly0nthewall
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 123
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Posted: 4/4/2008 6:51:44 PM
OP- To me? Absolutely. It is cheating.
 VirgoGrl
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 124
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/19/2008 4:13:47 PM
Yes it is cheating...emotionally and psychologically. And he is setting up a bond with another female that he might wish to pursue in person.
 54online
Joined: 1/27/2005
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Posted: 4/30/2008 5:32:35 PM
"if you have a problem with your man masturbating, do you also feel obligated to take care of his needs every time he's horny?"

^^^^^^
what he said !
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