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 outlawtomboy
Joined: 12/19/2007
Msg: 226
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Many profiles announce that they like to be spontaneous and open minded, yet I notice frequent limitations...

~They only eat at chains or the Chinese buffet
~Listening to live music is out of the question because they Don't Do That Scene Any More.
~They can't go to a football game because they don't like crowds and they won't know anyone.
~A play sounds boring and they've never done that before.
~They can't be around my friends because they might be hoity toity and they are uncomfortable meeting new people
~They can't go out on weekends because Their Children Come First. Or their Harley
~Travel is impossible because they like The Simple Life
~A concert would be unheard of, for reasons stated above
~They despise women (or men) in general
 NoseyNeighbor
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 227
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:09:08 PM
Geezuz, hope you have hobbies.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 228
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 7/20/2008 3:43:56 PM
Honestly I've always thought "open minded" means just that!
This thread is so funny.
So there is all these add on meanings attached?
Food for thought and conversation. Very interesting.
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ria-lee - that's what I thought too, come to find out I guess I am not so openminded. I think that they should define what openminded means to them. Sounds like it has quite a few different definitions.
 redneckI
Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 229
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 7/28/2008 4:56:09 PM
My profile doesn't say I want an open minded woman, but I do. I use emails to determine if a woman is open minded by asking questions that will determine if she is willing to learn new things, try new stuff, and has a sense of humor. I get bored fast with the same old routine, and if something looks fun I have an overwhelming urge to try it. I look for women who are open minded enough to try it with me. If we like it we can do it again, if not we don't have to.
 Remington55
Joined: 9/23/2007
Msg: 230
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 7/29/2008 5:02:02 PM
There are various common definitions of being OPEN MINDED & to most of the
posters here, they are correct based on the local customs & geographical areas to
which they live.

However when used in advertisements in some areas of the local newspapers (Adult
Sections for those soliciting for sexual purposes), the definition of "open minded"
changes to:

1) a primarily a willingness to have anal sex. Prostitutes & those using this type of
media use this so as not to offend the general public (the readers) or attract attention
(of the law) to their willingness & openness of their preferences.

2) Sometimes secondary meanings reflect "open mindedness" to an "open
relationship" thus opening the doors to "open minded sexual activities" primarily as
swingers & multiple partners, however that may be extended to include & not be
limited to golden showers, BDSM, cross-dressing, bi-sexualism, homosexualism,
beastism, necrophilia & a willingness to any number of other sexual activities.

So for those who use the term they must be very adament about what it means to them
& what they're looking for. In Business, Political, Bible belt & Relationship terms, the
definition of "open-minded" at this higher level of thinking means exactly what most
of the posters here have been using. It's reference being the opposite of being closed-
minded.

I see the confusion in the use of this terminology & it brings out the best in us as well as
the worst in some, thus the gender bashing, the taking of positions & the FEAR. There
is no need for political corrective posturing, you are all right in what it means to you.
Fear leads to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to Hate. Hate leads to
suffering.

**~Remington55~**
 Loneangler
Joined: 12/16/2008
Msg: 231
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/5/2009 7:48:33 PM
Seems to be a good way to weed through the perverts. If their idea of open minded includes sex then you know to avoid them.
 HEART66
Joined: 12/17/2008
Msg: 232
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/7/2009 1:24:48 PM
WELL...SIMPLE AND EASY MEANS,,,,,TELL ALL ABOUT THE PAST GOOD AND BAD IF UR INTERESTED OF KNOWING IT ,,,,THE LIKES AND DISLIKES,,,,THATS IT !!!!THEN YOU HAVE SOME IDEA B4 U MEET IN PERSON OR EVEN YOU MEET HIM ALREADY OPEN MINDED IS STILL THERE TO KNOW BETTER EACH OTHER B4 LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP,,,,THIS IS MEEEE,,,I WANT OPEN MINDED MAN TOOO!!!
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
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men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/7/2009 1:48:47 PM

..."open minded" women. Just WHAT does that mean???

It's empty, meaningless, standard filler because you never hear anyone saying they want a closed-minded person.
 SpiggyLib
Joined: 12/8/2008
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When men say that they want an "open minded woman"...
Posted: 1/7/2009 2:14:39 PM
What they're REALLY saying is...

- She must be into NSA sex
- She must be ok with it if he wants to have other girlfriends
- She must be afraid of commitment
- She must be into BDSM*
- She must totally be into the same "lesbian" porn that he is
- She must want a FMF threesome
- She must be willing to make out with another woman for his entertainment



*BDSM of the variety that she's willing to dress up like a dominatrix, and then let him have "kinky sex"** with her.***

**"Kinky Sex": let him fvck her in the ass while she's wearing a leather corset and stiletto boots and calling him daddy.

***This is not really BDSM.
 Xmiss_angelX
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 235
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/7/2009 2:56:04 PM
It means they want you to agree to having sex with them without being in or wanting a relationship and not to be too clingy about it either just be available when THEY need you...LOL.
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 236
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/7/2009 2:58:35 PM

It means they want you to agree to having sex with them without being in or wanting a relationship and not to be too clingy about it either just be available when THEY need you...LOL..


it probably does mean that for some guys, but not all.

Diablera Bruja in the post above yours makes a good point.

don't many of us , man or woman, like open-minded PEOPLE ?
 Lost and found78
Joined: 8/22/2008
Msg: 237
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/7/2009 4:02:47 PM
Not sure I agree with majority on this one... Sex may be what some of these fella's are talking about, but I think it is probably the worst way to weed out those whom the profile owner would call "prudes". A person with rather conservative sexual tastes can be very open minded about every other aspect of life.

If your a prude and you know it clap your hands!

If you just got done clapping your hands, here's a follow up question: Do you consider yourself to be open minded?

(I am really counting on you prudes to prove my point, so please don't let me down)


 pinlynch10
Joined: 12/16/2008
Msg: 238
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/7/2009 6:30:23 PM
Men don't want women that have preset notions of any potential love/romance/etc.

You want it to look "this way", or turn out "that way. Shoe on the other foot, women freak or shoot us men if we have preset notions to whom they should be.

It's tiring enough to try to find the "right person". But, if this means having to ward off neuroces to find him/her, then let's not and say we did.
 Adorata
Joined: 12/20/2008
Msg: 239
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/8/2009 8:50:19 PM
Well, it depends on the context. Open minded where and when? God , sometimes it just means they don't want a puritan bible thumper around. Once they called me closed minded. How dared they?

-I simply don't believe in God.
-Oh! You are being very close-minded!

- I don't believe in assessing sexual compatibility after the wedding.
-Oh, You are being close minded again!

- I visit Synangogue as well as buddhist Temples...
- How close-minded: you should only visit Catholic Churches, arent' you Italian after all?

- Yoga is a spiritual way of living
- Oh, I don't understand your obsession with morality!

That is 'being close minded' aka 'ignorant' of the way things are.


 p3hndrx
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 240
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/8/2009 8:56:41 PM
... who won't judge me for my own actions, opinions, or attitudes.
or feel that there is some definitive truth behind everything without understanding that life and people are complex...
 blackbourne
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 241
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Posted: 1/8/2009 11:19:58 PM

Someone who is open, to new challenges and experiences, not ruled by fear.Who is not conservative and tight assed.Who has compassion, insight and understanding.

An open mind is open to new things and lifelong learning. A closed mind is the kind, that creates tyrannies and corruption. It does not mean something sexual , though an open mind, increases the sexual experience and pleasure.It also gets rid of issues and prudishness around sex and sees it as a natural function of life.

An open mind means an open, free spirit, not necessarily an innuendo for sexual activity. In fact it rarely is.


Bravo, well stated indeed
 windypace2600
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 242
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 1/9/2009 12:12:58 AM
I think it simply means being exciting and adventurous... in all aspects... not just sexual.
 wonderboy_39
Joined: 5/9/2008
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men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 6/20/2016 3:39:35 PM
now you are open minded person
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 6/21/2016 5:41:01 AM

I've been reading on alot of men's profiles lately that at they are interested in "open minded" women. Just WHAT does that mean???


- It means something bad. Do not pass "Go", do not collect $100.00
 chinook1111
Joined: 4/1/2016
Msg: 245
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 6/21/2016 5:56:36 AM
It means they have boyfriends and need a woman for social outings.
 wolftxusa66
Joined: 12/17/2014
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men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 6/22/2016 5:48:37 AM
It means they like giving a Dirty Sanchez. No exception. That's what ALL men mean. Question answered.

...or how about you ask them what they mean? It may actually vary. I guess it's similar to the female version "adventurous and like to try new things". I used that once and autocorrect changed 'things' to 'thighs'. Didn't get many responses.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 12/2/2015
Msg: 247
men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 6/22/2016 6:39:05 AM

.or how about you ask them what they mean?

Lol....I did just actually ask a guy recently....
His response was...."Come on, at your age do I need to spell it out to you?".
Hhmmmm.....so, I will assume he was referring to "sex or whatever"....shrugs.
 hearton64
Joined: 6/9/2016
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men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 6/22/2016 8:31:56 AM
What's a Dirty Sanchez?
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 249
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Posted: 6/22/2016 9:31:52 AM
On a woman's profile it could mean any number of things.

On a man's profile it could only mean one thing :

S E X
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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men want an open minded woman...
Posted: 6/22/2016 5:42:06 PM
that you will engage in all sorts of sexual activities and perhaps tolerate other people in their lives such as ex partners
or who do not necessarily want to commit. Who knows??>
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