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 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 2
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Christie has it in a nutshell! I've had both and wonder why it can't be mixed like peanut butter and chocolate.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 4
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Posted: 10/26/2007 7:53:33 PM
I buy spackle by the 5-gallon tub. If your partner doesn't make you punch through a wall every once in a while, there's something wrong with the relationship.
 Wreckless2
Joined: 9/13/2007
Msg: 5
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Posted: 10/26/2007 8:13:51 PM

wonder why it can't be mixed like peanut butter and chocolate.


W Missy, I have lots of PB and chocolate, if you wanna try it!!
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 10/26/2007 8:22:01 PM
I don't know about that Eeek... there's something sexy about having your hands and feet tied and only THEN noticing that possessed look in her eye, and the dental tools laid out on the nightstand.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/26/2007 8:33:57 PM

A truly adult, deeply-in-love relationship appears to be calm and tranquil, but the excitement lives and pulsates and runs much deeper as to be unnoticed except by those who "know".


Naw... I go for the "exudes sex" relationships every time... the ones where everyone in the room "knows".
 Wreckless2
Joined: 9/13/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 10/26/2007 11:12:12 PM
....Somehow this sounds a bit fishy....


and Santa, I've been a very very very good girl.


 Wreckless2
Joined: 9/13/2007
Msg: 12
Hot Passion or Comfortable, Settled and Safe?
Posted: 10/27/2007 11:08:08 AM

HEY NOW, BUCKO!
How did you know, that I like to be....

Ridden that way!!!! YaaaaaaaaaHoooooooooo!!1
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 23
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Hot Passion or Comfortable, Settled and Safe?
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:56:20 AM
Hot passionate sex with a fabulous man who is also my friend. Why can't I have it all?
 eb3267
Joined: 1/29/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/13/2008 6:30:35 PM
Looks at Boomer..

Well H*ll why do I have to choose ? Can't I just have both ??

Hot passion, then a cool off, then right back to the passion..

Wait a min, I kinda have that.. Hubba hubba !!

Hugs ya all... I've been missing the "Crew".

Pinches Wreck..
Ooopsies.. It was an accident...
 HereN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 26
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Posted: 3/18/2008 5:09:57 AM
I think I would be a lot more comfortable and friendly after enjoying hot, passionate, incredible, sex...........
 cncgandolf
Joined: 7/29/2007
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/18/2008 10:02:40 AM

In an emotionally safe and sane relationship, does passion grow over time if not there in the beginning?


Depends upon the people and their mental and emotional health. Some use temper or drugs to break through reserves and release passion. To get the walls down. Others can be passionate about other things in their life and take that passionate state into their relationship to ignite the relationship. For example, getting me going on a mentally stimulating conversation gets my passion going ... and it flows through all of my life when it does. That's why it takes a mentally stimulating man for me.
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 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/19/2008 9:31:03 AM
Those who are very passionate people can reveal a double-edged sword of a bad temper rather quickly.
I find them best to be left for someone who actually embraces drama.
<<<===drama-free zone
But, even the most vanilla beginning can grow into the most passionate love-affair over time.
I find it is like a good roller-coaster: you are free to throw your arms up and enjoy yourselves when you trust the ride isn't going to go crashing down around you.

In a relationship, possible combinations are many, but I definitely want to be considered the crazier one when it comes to "Us!"
 StrangerInTheHouse
Joined: 2/9/2008
Msg: 30
Hot Passion or Comfortable, Settled and Safe?
Posted: 3/19/2008 10:27:48 AM
As the vast majority of those who respond are currently without a mate, I should think that most here would say they prefer a passionate relationship; but I think it's worth noting that most people tend to go for the comfort factor... and many even do this when they're young.
Wish it was all about romance, but that's not how the world is, unfortunately...

I think it's good for single people to understand that...because alot of times when someone breaks something off; that's the real reason, not that they weren't in love...
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 33
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Posted: 7/31/2012 5:29:46 AM
Coming out of two volatile, intense, roller-coaster relationships, I will take sane with some passion, any day. These two men I was with (sequentially, not simultaneously) were from horribly abusive childhood backgrounds and had the borderline personality disorder features to show for it.

I'll take a more psychologically healthy man any day. There may not be constant emotional and physical passion but that doesn't mean there won't be ANY, and knowing that I am with an emotionally stable man and in a safe trusting relationship, my passion for him would only grow.
 Robert848
Joined: 12/9/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/31/2012 7:00:42 AM
... how about somewhere in the middle. Being comfortable with each other is important, but a little passion is required too. If there isn't passion at all, you are friends. It doesn't have to be one or the other, and I am guessing there is confusion being applied here with regard to passion vs. drama in the opening question (I maybe be wrong, but no middle ground was offered.) Passion does not require drama. Drama is the rollercoaster part of things, and I'll skip that one if I may!
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