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 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 54
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in WomenPage 3 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
So, I happened across this thread with my GF looking over my shoulder. I wasn't going to reply, but she insisted I do:

"Hot baths and horseback riding". Were apparently her "go to" things before we met. Granted, the horse thing might not be applicable. (we live in Kansas, where horses are literally everywhere).

Oh, she also says that kids will also kill one's libido pretty effectively. Not sure if it was a joke...
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 55
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 7:25:44 AM

Oh, she also says that kids will also kill one's libido pretty effectively. Not sure if it was a joke...


Baby's do. But after that, young kids go to bed early. For older kids, well, there's MindKraft. They are so stuck to that game that they are like a babysitter and give you privacy.

Actually, I found a way to turn ON a woman's libido. It's so effective, that the other day I saw it listed in a Psychology Today article about improving intimacy. And that is....

Okay I am not going to tell just yet...

You guys are going to think I am making this up....

That I am just bragging....

But...

It really, really works....

Women may tell you that it's not true, but they all fall for this one thing...

In the end they love it...

And guys, this is so easy to do...

And it will rub her libido to no end...


Okay, I will tell right now.

It's doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen. Don't even go for the sex. In fact, after that do something "guy like" and kind of ignore her. Then she will come around and look and go nuts and either force you to go to the bedroom, or later on take advantage of you. Women are so bad, the way they objectify men.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 56
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 7:36:06 AM
InnerGorilla...I read all the way through your post without scrolling to the answer. I totally knew that was going to be it as it used to make a past girlfriend nuts when I would get out of work early, do her grocery shopping, and then scrub her bathrooms and kitchen before she got back to her home. She was pretty much insatiable at that point. We lived separately, so she really liked that treat when done as a complete surprise. Try it, gents!
 Aradia96
Joined: 10/25/2014
Msg: 57
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/3/2015 7:36:13 AM
Well the increase in workout is causing an increase in testosterone which is causing the heightened libido.

It may just go away on it's own.

In my experience anti-depressants cause orgasm to take much longer but not necessarily a loss in libido, it sometimes happens though. Depression does cause a loss in libido however.

Diindolylmethane, or DIM, is a natural supplement made from cauliflower and broccoli, and is known to reduce androgens, or male sex hormones (among which is testosterone). Drink herbal teas or consume them in capsule or tincture form to help you lower your testosterone levels. Perhaps one of the best (and tastiest) herbs for correcting this problem is spearmint. Also having lower fat and more fiber in your diet will reduce testosterone levels.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 58
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/3/2015 3:33:55 PM
No kids here, no horses... other than the ones I talk to on my walks.

Yesterday took the dog on 13km of walking. Yes did talk to some horses. Did not help.

Sadly for me this is not a recent phenomenon.
And yes I sometimes do think it may be a forever situation as despite all my best efforts I have basically been single for 10 years - with a few few false starts - including an 18 month live together stint.

Have 2 first meets this week. Thursday and Friday.
Am organising another for next week and my 'date' for next Saturday with the lovely widower (Valentines Day).

I certainly get lots of offers of sex.
That would be easy.
Most women on here could have 4 or more different men a week if they wanted.
Possibly even 4 different men a day if she was open to men married to another woman or the young studs.
No that is not bragging, just a reality.

But a casual romp, whilst possibly fun at the time and can certainly take the edge off it is not a long term solution.
Can also be emotionally destructive and mechanical.
Let alone dangerous from a host of medical and other viewpoints.


Ahh the joys of being a sensual single woman.

And Eric
Normally I enjoy your posts.

But this one.


The timing (going to bed and waking up) makes complete and understandable sense.
My girlfriend says she loves when she first opens her eyes and feels cold...she snuggles against my back to warm herself.
Your observation is typical of what many of us feel when we are in an "alone spot" for whatever reason.


Made me feel very lonely.
You have got it exactly right.
Waking up and going to sleep alone surrounded by pillows ....... not the same.

 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 59
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 7:29:40 PM

It's doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen. Don't even go for the sex. In fact, after that do something "guy like" and kind of ignore her. Then she will come around and look and go nuts and either force you to go to the bedroom, or later on take advantage of you. Women are so bad, the way they objectify men.


I tried this before. The lady kept yelling something like "Who are you and why are you in my house?!"

Needless to say, I don't dishes anymore. :)
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 60
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/3/2015 8:06:56 PM
ozsealady

So you have someone to accompany you on your zoo outing? That is great. You certainly have made huge efforts in meeting men and I must give you "A" for effort. I would find it all too draining I think but you seem to enjoy most of the experiences.

Do you have actual meets from POF or mostly other sites? As for the offers of sex, sometimes they just blow hard, pardon the pun and are not really up to it.

I find the radio very good company at night and have been alone so long I could not sleep all night with someone in the same bed. OKay if he would be prepared to leave in the dawn hours or sleep in another room, but mostly they do not want that.

 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 61
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/3/2015 8:16:30 PM

Made me feel very lonely.
You have got it exactly right.
Waking up and going to sleep alone surrounded by pillows ....... not the same.


Wow. It's amazing that something so positive would feel so negative. I understand your statement and your feelings. I understand the words of my fellow friend and cyclist and ultimate positive person Eric. Moment of reflection. And thanks. To you Eric for being always positive.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 62
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/3/2015 9:26:29 PM
Hi Petula.

I meet and go out with men from here, RSVP, eHarmony and real life.
Usually a few a week.

In the next 10 days now have 4 'dates' and can arrange more quite easily.
3 are from the internet, 1 from here - that is a coffee meet tomorrow morning , one from another site - dinner at a sailing club overlooking the harbour on Friday, another yet to be confirmed then my boat buddy for the Zoo concert.

Plus rehearsals 2 nights a week for my theatre, sailing and outings with family and friends.

So yes I am busy and out there meeting new people including men.

As to the sex offers.
Yes, I consider them to be real when offered to me face to face.
This week so far 2 invitations for sex from men, acquaintances, I have known in real life for quite some time.
No staying overnight, just a bonk then go home.
Certainly not seeking anything more than a no strings bonk.
Sorry not my style.
I do not count the typed nor telephone or text offers of people I have never met.

Plus going out for general activities:
* This week have rehearsals for a musical... 2 nights
* Sailing on the weekend
* Dinner with friends last night.

So I am certainly not sitting around twiddling my thumbs.


I am seeking a way to stop me wanting more.


Risking this becoming a 'good girl' rant..... I find it lonely sleeping alone and having to sort myself out for sexual satisfaction.
Rather than take up some of the bonk offers, or pay for a male prostitute, I am trying to find a way to turn off the desire till I find a partner.
However long that may take.

Hence the question.

Petula, I could introduce you to quite a few men who want sex and no sleeping over.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 63
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/3/2015 9:43:19 PM
OZsealady1...I certainly hear from where you are coming here.
Back when I was seeking a girlfriend I tirelessly went on LOTS of first meets.

It was paradoxically because I similarly wished to not go on so many dates!
Your strategy seems sound and you are an intelligent and pragmatic woman.

You are undoubtedly incredulous about what is happening. Stay strong.
One of these days good fortune is just going to randomly appear. Hang in there. :-)

p.s. InnerGorilla...thank you for the kind words.
Your posts are gracious, practical, and well-considered.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 64
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/4/2015 5:53:26 AM

Rather than take up some of the bonk offers, or pay for a male prostitute, I am trying to find a way to turn off the desire till I find a partner.
However long that may take.


I think the most common drug and easy to get that can lower a women's libdo is birth control pills

Cyproterone acetate will lower sex drive in men, along with a score of other drugs. However IMO the whole thread was contact-broadcasting/billboarding by the OP.

BUT the whole subject of lowering libdo is a vicious circle and a catch 22. It's not some remote control you can switch off and on like a TV.

Lower your libdo, and you won't be driven to find a partner.

And hormones and libdo affect a lot more than just wanting to have sex.

It's nearly impossible to sort out the hormonal reasons for dating/sex from the purely psycholigcal need for social interaction. Unless you have experimented with your own hormone levels, you will never know how much they affect your behavior.

My suggestion, you could get a dog, they love you unconditionally and like to curl up next to you while you sleep.

BUT if you do find a partner, for mercy sake get the dog another dog to sleep with.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 65
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/4/2015 1:02:16 PM
Ha ha

Thanks dragonbytes.

I do have a dog.
And no he does not sleep in my bed.
I have always had dogs.

These days, post hysterectomy, contraception is not necessary.
Must say, not having menstruation is a wonderful thing.
You men certainly drew the winning card in that department.

The times in my life I did take the contraceptive pill it did not agree with me.

Yes I ideally would like to turn it off and then on again when needed.


However IMO the whole thread was contact-broadcasting/billboarding by the OP.


^^^ Was this aimed at me?
If so, sorry wrong.
I have never met anyone from these forums.
Have met a woman from forums from RSVP. She arranges the occasional bloggers get together in Sydney.

Ahh well.

Time to take the dog for another walk.
Thank you.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 66
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/4/2015 8:13:19 PM

^^^ Was this aimed at me?
If so, sorry wrong.
I have never met anyone from these forums.
Have met a woman from forums from RSVP. She arranges the occasional bloggers get together in Sydney.


Ha, not hardly aimed at you, the OP that started the thread back in 2007.

Complaining that he was oversexed.

Now you have to realize the last 5 posts used to be automatically included in your profile. Which I am 100% sure resulted in a lot of post trying to show what a great catch someone was.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 67
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/4/2015 8:30:14 PM

Now you have to realize the last 5 posts used to be automatically included in your profile.


I did'nt know that. Interesting, I guess that would have been the catalyst for a lot of picless profiles. Lol
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
Msg: 68
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/7/2015 10:10:26 AM
Fvck or no fvck, c0ck's days pass so you should ask your wife for more. She will feel flattered.
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 69
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/7/2015 4:26:07 PM

Does anyone know of a real way to reduce your Sex drive. ... I have increased my work-out time recently since Winter is coming up and I feel like a 14 year old boy in Math class all over again.


- Beat your pee-pee with club
- Watch gay porn
- Watch gruesome real-life violent injury-videos 3 times a day
- Put a picture of your grandma naked on your desk, next to your bed, and on your dashboard
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 70
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Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/8/2015 5:04:02 PM
My God! Just jerk off a lot more. Enough of that will take care of the sex drive!
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 71
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/8/2015 7:47:27 PM
"does anyone know of a real way to reduce your sex drive?"

>>>get old, if you're a guy, eat wedding cake, if you're a woman :) Seriously, get a bunch of hobbies that syphon off/divert your passion for life. Such distractions work. Tho getting laid regularly can help for some people. Like the old joke goes, sex is like oxygen--ain't no big deal, you don't think about it, until you aren't getting any.
 Olympian2121
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 72
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/9/2015 11:31:07 AM
Having a high sex drive is awesome, not a bad thing. Though if youre worried about pushing sex on your wife all the time, just make sure you don't pounce on her, finish and then leave and go about your day.

When im back in the gym , I get a much higher sex drive and I take my GF anywhere and everwhere all day. But I always make sure I stick with her and joke and hold her and let her know im not just using her to empty my bucket.
Also make sure you don't say "hey im horny because of the gym" tell her its because of her and you just have to have her.

I hate that if It takes longer than ten seconds to write and post, I have to re sign in to pof to post what I wrote.
dammit!
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 73
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/9/2015 11:43:37 AM
OZsealady1...hope the "edge has been taken-off" these past few days since thread was raised again.
Darn it, there it goes with that word "raised" in the sentence.
Well, you know what I mean...hope things are calm, beautiful, and serene for you! :-)
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 74
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/10/2015 12:36:48 AM
Thank you Eric.

I have just returned from 4 days sailing with other yacht owner buddies.
3 sailing boats and a speed boat... not sure how that one managed to sneak in. We yachties must have been in a good mood.

Spectacular weather and the most perfect location.
Kayaking, diving over the side for a swim.
Shower under a waterfall.
Good, like minded friends, good food, wine and the brightest phosphorescence I have ever seen.
I was up last night at midnight kicking the water.

So if I cannot find a boyfriend I will just have to enjoy paradise instead.

Am home now. Hopefully the euphoria will last a little while.
 Never_in_Life
Joined: 1/13/2015
Msg: 75
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/10/2015 4:18:56 AM
^^^Golly, that sounds rough. I'll put you on suicide watch.

All that serenity sure puts my days in perspective. How lucky I am to live in -30 Celsius temperatures! Oh bliss!

Do I sound bitter? I tried to keep my seething jealousy and envy at bay. I think I succeeded.
 Toonie
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 77
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Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/14/2015 12:49:07 PM
OMG Too Funny......................................................^^^^^
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
Msg: 78
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/15/2015 3:31:41 PM
You can get a temporary castration and see if that works out for you. They give that to pedophiles and it works...until you inject testosterone.

Or, you can get addicted to opioids and that's guaranteed to kill your sex drive for a good while.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 79
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/18/2015 4:07:46 AM
^^^ How does a woman get a temporary castration?

Or a permanent one for that matter?
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