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 mm143
Joined: 5/31/2007
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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???Page 18 of 23    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23)
i think some men dont want to get old so being around and dateing young er women
make them feel younger
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 511
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/16/2008 11:30:51 PM
Ladies, the hard cold truth is this, most women have a very very narrow window of time to trade on that youth and beauty to find the best long term mate possible. You either make the most of that time or you waste it. Find me an older broken down woman who is single and pining for a date and I'll show you someone who probably wasted it. Always? No, there are exceptions to every rule, but most people out there aren't the exceptions. But likely? I suspect so.

Well Son, let me fill you in just a tad on the cold/hard truth. My son is three years younger than you and has the wisdom of YODA if compared to you (in case you don't know who Yoda is, rent Star Wars, he's the wise little hairy dude with a brain/insight/intelligence and the common sense to keep his mouth shut when he's likely going to say something stupid.) Does your Mother know you have so little regard for women in general? I'm embarrassed for her. I'll bet she tried to raise you to respect ALL women. If she didn't shame on you both.

Younger women aren't better just because they are usually better looking, they are often seen as more desirable by desirable men with status because they haven't proved they have wasted their youth yet.

Not all of you older ladies out there can say that much.

I wasted my youth on azzholes and jerks. God it's great to get old.
 The Glock Man
Joined: 6/3/2005
Msg: 512
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Posted: 10/16/2008 11:45:01 PM

I wasted my youth on azzholes and jerks. God it's great to get old.


VGE some people feel they have to fumble at the key board and type furiously because they feel typing lots makes up for not having anything to say, the long and short end of it is we all get old regardless of gender.Some will age with grace others will grow even more stupid and arrogant then they already are.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
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Posted: 10/16/2008 11:58:57 PM
What fascinating answers!
What I learned reading all these posts:

1) Many people agree that anyone can love regardless of age. Live and let live -- amen!
2) People who see others enjoying themselves... just be happy for them. Jealousy or bitterness never helps anybody.
 Flutterbyblue
Joined: 3/12/2008
Msg: 514
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Posted: 10/17/2008 4:48:35 AM
Duh..... Have you seen the bodies on 22 yr. old chicks????
Men are stimulated visually. They cant help it.
If thats what floats their boat, then have at it.
More power to em'...
Live and let live, ya know...
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 10/17/2008 10:13:06 AM
Isn't it nice when we do not need anything other than equality of companionship???......

OT.......I can not speak for all men, but I can speak for me and my personal experience, and that is that age is not the main requirement for dating and a connection, but rather, attraction that forms into a mutual chemistry for both.

I have met and dated women both younger and older, and it was never the date on their birth certificate that mattered, but the quality of their character that is attached to a body that attracted me in the first place. What kept me coming back for more was the total package, and that has little to do with age, and much more to do with maintaining what you have had all along.

Just my opinion........
 javalover_53
Joined: 2/12/2008
Msg: 517
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Posted: 10/17/2008 12:55:42 PM
Hey flutterbyblue.......All a 22 year old chick has to do to remind men of that age variance and the other obvious differences is when she opens her mouth....to speak. The deal is now over...lol.

A mature woman with wisdom ...anyday....is far better than the "body of a 22 year old".
 BGSU
Joined: 10/18/2006
Msg: 518
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Posted: 10/17/2008 10:07:39 PM
I have found that most women in there 50’s, (where I live) got married in their late teens and stayed at home while their husband supported them. All they did was: take care of kids/grand kids and the house (barefoot and pregnant); watched TV; let themselves go and got old.

When I try to talk to them about what has gone on in the world or anything else, they have to rely on what they remember for an episode of Oprah. Most of them never had a job since high school. They still live in the same town that they were born in and never left (they did move down the street). As far a wisdom goes, some may think they have it, but I highly question it.

I have done a lot in my life (including teaching a few college courses) and have worked in many cities throughout the USA and in a third world county. So, I have very little in common with women of my chronological age where I now live, except how long we both have been alive and the fact that we both eat, sleep and sh_t.

Younger women are of a newer generation, who have different ideas about life than the women who are in their 50’s. I met a young lady the other day that just got out of basic training in Texas. It has been along time since I went through it, but we had a nice long talk about it and she wanted to see me this Saturday night. As far as intelligence goes (as a post has previously mentioned), I have found that younger women either have, are or want to improve their education, where as, women my chronological age where I now live are just happy taking care of their grandchildren and haven’t had, don’t have and will never have any desire to improve their education. Since I’ve been around younger people most of my life, I can relate to them better than the women my chronological age where I now live.

Also, I have found that most women of my chronological age are on the decline, where as, I am still growing better and improving myself and I always will until the day I drop. I still have many mountains that I want to clime and challenges in life that I want to meet. I haven’t made my first million yet and I haven’t ran for President yet. I may never meet some of my challenges, but at least I’m going to continue to try while I’m alive. Remember, the word "Can't", is a four letter word that is not in my vocabulary

I have the zest for life of someone in their 30’s, the body of someone in their 40’s and have chronologically been alive for 50+ years.

So, I have very little in common with women where I live who are of my chronological age except we could talk about where we were when JFK died, but I have no interest in that.

In closing, let me remind you what the title of this Thread is: “So please tell me...what is it with (SOME) men that think younger women are better???” I do not in any way speak for anyone but myself. This was a question and some men are trying to answer the question. However, some people on this thread sound like they think that this is a vote on what should be normal. We all know what the norm is (You HAVE TO date someone your own age!), so why keep on repeating it?

Hopefully, some women (and men) will learn something from this thread and realize that everyone in this world is a deviant in some way or form because there are no real norms in this world.

Some people are extremely concerned about keeping up with the Jones next door, I have never been. Some people do stuff because they have to feel that they fit in. A lot of people are no more than a rubber stamp. Believe me, they broke the mold when I was born. I don't want to be like everyone else, I want to be me!
 Sweetenuff074
Joined: 7/28/2007
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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:57:49 PM
The bottom line is some men think younger women are better because they have a right to their opinion.

I say if she contributes to your happiness, noone is hurt in the process, and it's legally okay for you to be with her, be happy.
 blueangel33
Joined: 9/17/2008
Msg: 520
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Posted: 10/19/2008 4:32:38 AM
i dont think women look at teenage boys, that sounds ridiculous. ive never ever. infact i try to avoid the teenagers..

It does sound rediculous, I 'll leave the younger boys to the school mams, they seem to go for that,
I never liked dating anyone younger than my sons, but have a couple of times,

I go for younger men because that is what I am attractive to and seems to be the ones who want to date me.
Actually I date who I feel comfortable with, many men my age have one foot in the grave, "not to offend anyone, I still have a zest for life,
I do think the older guys date young because it makes them feel so much younger and is an ego boost.
My self I try and pick a younger guy who looks older than his age,,if that makes sense.
It's like an older guy that's still got it...
My 2 c
 *Bulldog*
Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 521
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Posted: 10/19/2008 9:06:39 AM
The one thing I don't get is that, according to some men, how many I don't know, women 15 and 20 years younger are interested in them. This is something I can't figure out. Fifteen and 20 years ago I was not interested in men in their 50's.


Many (most) women marry for power, prestige, money, and security -- older men are more likely to bring those to the table than a guy in their twenties or early thirties. Also, men's looks don't fade as easily: not only can older men look vital and youthful, but even the lines of age often give an older man a handsome and dignified look. Furthermore, an older man will tend to fit the maturity level of a younger girl. Girls almost always date a guy a few years older anyways; a girl who's mature for her age often has to look 10+ years older to get that compatibility. Moreover, it can be argued that an older guy will be more loyal to a younger girl because he'll appreciate her more. Finally, lots of girls are looking for a father figure.

I suppose a better question is, why wouldn't younger girls go for older men?
 simplykay
Joined: 6/18/2008
Msg: 524
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Posted: 10/19/2008 10:15:22 AM
Your are so right, I lost 2 husbands two younger women and on didn't last the other is just starting out. He is 62 and she is in her 30's and now they have a new baby. All I can say is I'm glad I don't have a new baby at my age as I want to have fun without changing diapers and travel. Good luck to all thos men and women that want the younger partner, but remembe your age will not stop......
 Dreamerxoxoxo
Joined: 3/2/2006
Msg: 525
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Posted: 10/19/2008 2:16:22 PM

msg. 528 >>> Well Son, let me fill you in just a tad on the cold/hard truth. My son is three years younger than you and has the wisdom of YODA if compared to you (in case you don't know who Yoda is, rent Star Wars, he's the wise little hairy dude with a brain/insight/intelligence and the common sense to keep his mouth shut when he's likely going to say something stupid.) Does your Mother know you have so little regard for women in general? I'm embarrassed for her. I'll bet she tried to raise you to respect ALL women. If she didn't shame on you both.


omg VGE... you never fail to make me laugh. It just goes to show you that even a master's degree can't help some who are so obviously socially challenged. There's still hope for him, though he IS only twenty-something..

I don't know of many men who prefer the immaturity of younger women. Most guys prefer the youthful sophistication and grace of a mature woman who is in a place in life where she is able to be in control of her life, knows how to get what she wants and achieve her set goals. Most guys have the intelligence to recognize and appreciate a woman who displays graceful energy and subtle alluring sexual magnetism that only comes with maturity.

It doesn't take intelligent guys long to realize that mature women have an edge over younger women who for the most part lack sophistication and are unwittingly game players who are uncertain and insecure in their relationships with guys. It doesn't take an intelligent guy long to discover that a mature woman won't ask him out of the blue what he is thinking because a mature woman is secure and content with herself and doesn't need to know what he is thinking and doing every second of every day. He appreciates the fact that the mature woman insists on her space and alone time be respected just as she respects his need to have space and time that doesn't include her.

Thank goodness that short sighted immature guys like the one VGE quoted and so eloquently scolded is in the minority. Perhaps a little more social experience will dispel his ignorance.
 Zeanah59
Joined: 9/25/2007
Msg: 526
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Posted: 10/19/2008 2:45:25 PM
Well I sure do not look at young boys or even young men! I Have a young son/man and that just is not my style! I'd much rather have a more mature man my own age that I would have more in common with. AND....I like experience and his wisdom.

As for men wanting younger women, so be it...doesn't bother me! They have no clue what they are missing when turning away experienced mature women who can satisfy them in all respects of life, just not the bedroom. Plus...younger women usually move on to the younger guys after they get what they want out of the more established older men. Younger pretty women know how to play their game and get very good at it. I hear young women talk all the time about it. They giggle and laugh and know they got the body to lure in their Sugar Daddy! SO...Be careful whatcha ask for!

"Z"
 ~Azul Ojos~
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 527
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 3:27:37 PM
"I think some men dont want to get old so being around and dating younger women
make them feel younger."

This is true, but in actuality it makes them in appearance look older! An older man with a young, fresh, hot girlfriend just brings out the oldness in him.

I dated someone 10 years older than me for a few years. When I showed pictures to my friends of us together, they always commented on how old he looked... On serveral occassions I was asked , "Where is your father tonight?"

I think only certain younger women want the older guys for the security and riches. The majority of young women want the more appealing, handsome, physically fit men their own age. I don't see any of my daughters friends dating the older guys, in fact they always mention why on earth would that lovely woman be with that old man... when they see them.

I think the men that have healthy boundaries on their age limits are more my type anyway, so I am grateful to these younger women for taking away these men I wouldn't even consider as potential partners. I want a more mature, sophisticated and classical man with style and high morals, so the men that are dating younger women are eliminated from my dating pool, which makes life easier all round...
 ReneeLucky7
Joined: 7/24/2008
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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 4:04:01 PM
I think that the reason why men want and find younger women more attractive is basic behavior past down from generation to generation. This is just as biological then it is physical.

In the past, men wanted younger women because she was concidered to be more furtel, and healthy. Now, some men want younger women, (do not take this the wrong way) because they view women in what stage of "prime" they are. A younger man wants a younger woman that can relate to him and grow with him. There are difference in our culture that we only really feel like the only people who would truly understand is someone are own age. An older woman to a younger man, is seen as someone is more likely to have personal "baggage" or other problems. Which include that most older women that are single want to settle down, and this is comletely differnet mind set of a man that is in his early 20's to mid 30's. Men this age want to have fun, they do not want to settle down, so most men think when a older single woman is interested in them, that that woman wants to settle down and get married, which is alot of a young man to handle, when he is trying to get settled himself, trying to decide what he wants to do with his life and carrer. They want a person that they can start fresh with., and progress with, to them it just feels natural.

I have seen older women on here, who have been divorced several times and have multiple children with differnet fathers. Alot of my younger guy friends have told me on here, that they feel annoyed when women like this try to hit on them. I'm not saying that all older women are like this, but most of my guy friends that are on here have one time or another told me that they do not feel comfortable with older women hitting on them, or writting then flirtty messages. If you older ladies want to try to find a younger man, then be prepaired to go with the flow of things, that in cludes, going bar and club hopping, on e after another, going to kegger's and other loud drunking parties, go to concerts, have alot of sex, doing spontanius things, and being able to get along with his friends and his family. If you think you can do this with no ease
 ReneeLucky7
Joined: 7/24/2008
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Posted: 10/19/2008 4:23:47 PM
My boyfriend is about 2 years older than me, but i think that you are out of line by saying that young woman are stupid, maybe the ones that you tried to get at are stupid, or maybe you just have been rejected so many times by younger woman, that you have nothing positive to say about them.

my father raised me to be a strong independent woman that can take care of her self, and I certainly don't have time, for older loser, who don't have they life together, to think that they can "fool" me, their only fulling themselves, because I'm driven in my personal life, no man can ever take avantage of me, because the kind of men that I'm attracted to are men that have a life of they own, and can take care of themselves.

my guy and I are building a life together, not trying to use one another. I advice that you let go of whatever issues taht you might have, because i'm sure that you will stay single for a very long time with that P*ss poor attitude
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Posted: 10/19/2008 4:46:51 PM

This is just as biological then it is physical.


I think both!!!
 10of6
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 531
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Posted: 10/19/2008 5:05:02 PM
Since I haven't had the time to read the previous 20+ pages, OP...for the same reason people choose stoneware over china. It's called "preference" and as such is a matter of choice. Getting steamed about it makes about as much sense as losing my cool when someone picks a mocha shake instead of butterscotch (which is my fave).
 blueangel33
Joined: 9/17/2008
Msg: 532
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Posted: 10/19/2008 5:46:30 PM
Thank you Neosoulman66
, it is nice to see a man who thinks with his big head instead of his little one,

I am sure us older women will appreciate your post.
I go for a little younger because they still know how to date and romance a girl.

Some older men think with their little head,, me I like to be courted, romanced, find out if we are compatable before going to the next level,, kissing is very important and cuddling. some older men forget that part..or forget how,,,,
 HappyTree22
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 533
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Posted: 10/19/2008 7:14:43 PM
I want to make an amusing observation.

I've heard countless women in day to day life and on these forums constantly that most men are very "immature" and take a "long time to mature"

If that's true, wouldn't it stand to reason that younger women might desire men who are moderately older because they have matching maturity levels and that brings some level of added compatibility?

Sorry ladies, you can't have it both ways. You can't claim "more maturity" than men at the same age and not realize that that kind of argument becomes a factor in why younger women might actually desire older men and why older men might get along with younger women.

And I want to thank the several posters in this thread who felt the need to launch into personal attacks. Good bait, poor execution though. It's a typical MO. Launch some insults, hope you get some back, then run crying to a moderator.

Here's something that's universal - Most people date to their best option. It's that simple. If an older man can secure a younger fitter more physically attractive woman to date and mate with, he probably will.

I'm very sorry for older women in general, it's not all that fair, but who said life was fair? Most of the very desirable men at the age range of older women can and do date younger women. The rest of the men out there are probably either undesirable, already taken or gay. It's sucks women are socially deemed less desirable with advancing age. Well it sucks to be a guy and be judged on height, career, earning power and Alpha male status. It sucks for everyone. But I don't think it would kill anyone to age with a little grace and dignity. I see far too many responses that basically say younger women are less mature and have less to offer and older women are somehow "better" mates and dates relatively.

The proof is in the pudding, man or women ALIKE, if you are a desirable mating and dating candidate, the most desirable options from the other sex will pursue you and desire you. If they don't, then you are not. It's that simple. It's completely inexplicable, if the men you truly desire, 99.9 percent of them don't even give you second glance or want to date you, is that not one big fat clue that maybe you aren't their most desirable dating option in return?

People have the right to desire what they like in a dating partner. All the older women here were young once themselves, sorry ladies, most of you had your turn for your 15 minutes. You either made the most of it or you didn't. Now it's someone elses turn.
 heelsRSO4ever
Joined: 8/12/2008
Msg: 534
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Posted: 10/19/2008 8:09:40 PM
As my late father once replied to me on my 50th birthday.....he said "Happy Birthday Sweetheart".....I said, "Ahhh, Thanks Dad...funny Dad I don't feel 50...I don't even think I look 50, do you?"........he looked at me straight faced and all serious and replied..."No....but, I remember when you did!"....LOL LOL

Spank me hard what humor! I couldn't help but laugh myself....you just gotta laugh at a lot of this stuff.......Perhaps 'some' men are attracted to the 'younger' woman...simply because they 'look' younger....and the fella thinks she complements him when shes hooked on his arm.....Maybe they act younger as well...maybe some men like that too!.......or maybe....just maybe.....the younger gals just don't know any better yet....and some men REALLY LIKE THAT!
It's all good!

R.I.P. Dad 10/05
 10of6
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 535
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Posted: 10/31/2008 6:57:46 PM
Msg 555, well said! I was formulating a line of thinking much like yours, but felt that writing mine would merely be a reiteration of yours. By the way, I've been hit on by older women embarrassingly often.

(I found your comment about the process of manipulating or orchestrating forum boot-offs by people who do not hold themselves accountable for outrageous and uncalled-for attacks. Good that others call their bluff; bad that it ends up as you stated. Yet it is so revealing on so many levels.
 TheHandbagMaiden
Joined: 10/24/2008
Msg: 536
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Posted: 10/31/2008 7:25:02 PM
I work in an industry almost completely dominated by men so my day to day interaction with women is limited, or at least muted, compared to others I know. For that, I'm pretty glad. Sad to say it though.

The truth is most women are extremely competitive with each other. Most will go on the offensive, young or old, against whomever is getting the most attention.

My observation is when men get together and have a common goal ( like being in the military) they tend to build each other up. They focus on the goal ( like winning the war or scoring the touchdown).

Most women, on the other hand, tend to want to tear each other down. It's not a win, even if the group wins, if that individual woman can't be on top during the victory.

Here's an example, at the very first job I worked out of college, I sort of just came to work and worked hard and kept a very low profile. As a new person, you don't know anyone and you don't want to make waves. I was asked out by a male coworker there who was a decent bit older. ( Age doesn't bother me to some degree but I don't date coworkers ever and told him so) Unfortunately later I found out the "Alpha" female, again someone a bit older than me, of the office environment wanted to date him and he had consistently rebuffed her advances. So I spent the rest of my time working there being treated like absolute crap by her and basically every other female in the office ( because most women have a pack mentality when they can turn on one specific woman) even though I did my job and they really didn't know me.

I do not think "younger women are better" I do not think, as a younger woman, that I am, in some fashion, superior to other women, even older women. I just think most men want to date women they find beautiful and most will probably chase younger women instead of older women.

There are just a lot of older women out there, from my experience and viewpoint, that get really upset because they can't get what they want and it's easier to blame men and younger women instead of facing their own problems.
 bob144
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 537
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/31/2008 7:35:34 PM
It is a creation issues. Men that survive among the ancients had good genes and so they were driven to mate with younger beautiful women with full breasts and lips and symetrical features because those features exemplified health. So an old geezer with his superior sperm socked it to the young sexy women (with large firm breasts) to provide a stronger gene pool and healther clan or tribe. So it is not our fault. This is how we are created. Just like high school. The chicks always went with the jocks. That wasn't right either but thats how the mop flops.
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