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 Cynderella
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 jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
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Posted: 10/8/2008 10:16:14 AM
eye candy that's why. It makes no sense to me. i want a mature woman I can relate to on isuues of the world and reminisce about the past with her. It is almost like buying a sports car. You look good when you're in it and think it impresses everyone.
 ManeRider
Joined: 5/22/2005
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Posted: 10/8/2008 3:04:05 PM
AMazing Amanda:
You have some amazing moral judgement if you refrained from hazing the old goat that reached WAY down inside herself to offer us up some of her diatribe. Old women are truly hateful to younger women, which is particularly one of the reasons guys avoid them like the plague. And I commend you for not retaliating to her venomous remarks. Jealous old hags aren't worth wasting your time over, so my hats off to you for not giving her stomach a turn with the knife.

It's encouraging to know someone like yourself can see past the age gap. So many other countries worldwide have long since known the benefits of younger women dating or marrying older men. Men mature slower than women; that's probably first and foremost, and an older woman, like that goat that ushered her nonsense in a few post back, typically enjoy younger men (as was admitted in her post's) because they've seen their friends do so. That's a psychological phenomenon we're seeing in older women (cougars) today, who feel they're refreshing their sexual libido by fawning attention from younger guys. SOme women think it's ok to do just whatever they saw men doing, even if it's being a user of the opposite sex for merely sexual gratification. Nevermind that the mentaility of that scenario is forever a throwback into a Freudian nightmare.

Go to Costa Rica....BRAZIL.....europe....asia.....middle east..... these people have, for generations, come to appreciate a younger woman and an older man. The reasons are endless. Older men offer maturity that the women's counterparts do not, in addition to financial success. In most cases, the older man is far less likely to stray, and offers a sense of fidelity unmatched in the females gender equivalent. In many cases, there's an interest level that the female finds with an older man, who wants to be stimulated with controversial, in depth thought that her gender counterparts are not capable of. The list continues.


I admire you for your youth but some of you have the manners of goats

Did you say some of us young people have the manners of goats ? Did you dip that reply in venom when you typed it?

I'd say yes, she did, on both accounts.


vrb1955: The biggest problem I see with an older man dating a younger woman is the younger woman drains this guy's bank account

Sounds like a stereotype.


Again, it's admirable you refrained from name calling. At 22, you're most certainly more mature than the woman who's twice your age, who's clearly not able to restrain her disdain for women who are younger than she is, and who clearly illicits less mental faculty than yourself.

Feel free to email me if you'd care to chat sometime.
 Amazing Amanda
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 479
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Posted: 10/8/2008 4:06:43 PM

manerider: Again, it's admirable you refrained from name calling
Thx
manerider: ....hazing the old goat...
Now you're justifying her words and proving her point by calling her a name.

manerider: Feel free to email me if you'd care to chat sometime.
My answer

Amazing Amanda post 474: I was taught to have respect for my elders and you won't find evidence to the contrary.
Chatting with someone who disrespects and calls older people names is not something I'm interested in at this moment in time.
 ManeRider
Joined: 5/22/2005
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Posted: 10/8/2008 4:23:23 PM

Now you're justifying her words and proving her point by calling her a name.


Chatting with someone who disrespects and calls older people names is not something I'm interested in at this moment in time.

SO, now you're justifying her.
BTW, Just what point of hers have I proved?
I have no idea what possesses people to attack others the way she did to you. And I have absolutely no problem calling a spade a spade. I suppose if that derelict side of me offended you, best wishes to you. I tend to take issue with people who are so asinine as to make the initial comments she made. WHat's disgusting to me is how so many older women act so scorned by the thought of younger women dating older men, and whether that offended you or not, I still felt I wouldn't let it go without mention, no different than if someone had made that comment in person or in public.
I stand by my comments.
Cheers
 RENE.V.456
Joined: 10/15/2007
Msg: 481
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Posted: 10/8/2008 4:39:43 PM
look men are very basic and very shallow, so what i say now is not to offend but to tell the honest truth, men go for younger women because they are more fit as far a body, a lot of young women who have no kids have a more perky body type and men like that blame hollywood and the media, men want the stripper, aerobic instructor, and the dreaded bikini blonde, sorry but its true, they don't want the women with the stimulating conversation, 3 kids, and body imperfections, thats not me, my girlfriend has a few extra pounds and i don't mind but most men do
 phishkev
Joined: 9/19/2008
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Posted: 10/8/2008 4:48:36 PM
Been killed by death already-I personally want no young thing with no brains, morals, etc.-but that's ME! You may find yourself saying, "My, God, What Have I Done?" ...Once in a lifetime...
 ManeRider
Joined: 5/22/2005
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Posted: 10/8/2008 4:49:04 PM
^^^^^^Moneycheeba, totally a bunch of hogwash.
I work among some rather elite families, and attractive women often follow the money. The homeowner I'm now working for is somewhere near 40, but puts many younger women half her age to shame for the fact that she takes such good care of herself. I'd have no problem dating/marying a woman her age, but they're usually few and far between ,and generally spoken for.
Per example....Sarah Palin is my age,.....had five kids, one just a few months ago. Does she look all disheveled and baggy? I dont' agree with her political tactics, AT ALL, but.... she's very attractive.
If the above poster says men are shallow, I'd say he ought to speak for himself. And as for not caring if a woman is overweight, again, matter of preference. I take very good care of my body, and enjoy more youthfulness than a vast majority of men my age. So, when I eat sugar or foods that aren't supposed to be good for you, I take for granted that I burn a lot more calories and burn out more toxins than most men my age. Thus, I can afford some luxuries. The same holds true with (my) dating younger women.
Trust me, at any age, if she's lame in the brain, good looks or youthfulness is a complete wash. I'm looking for a diamond in the rough, which is precisely how I see myself.


BTW, Just what point of hers have I proved?

Still awaiting a response to that, Amanda.
 RENE.V.456
Joined: 10/15/2007
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Posted: 10/8/2008 5:04:48 PM
yeah like you said some older women take care of themselves by working out or watching what they eat, but most don't, i don't know how old you are but i will say i have friends probably younger than you or your same age and most of my friends prefer younger
 Plastic Sturgeon
Joined: 12/5/2007
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:12:53 PM
Kind of related, but it NEVER ceases to amaze me how money
definitely helps to keep people younger looking! So, in a world
that so cherishes youthfulness, how can so many people keep
saying money isn't important? Someone isn't telling the truth!
 captainkirk56
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 486
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:44:55 PM
i enjoy the company of woman my age...but then again...age is only a number..

i still have some life left in this body,,,just i take it a little slower...and nothing wrong with that either...
 arthur56
Joined: 9/4/2008
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Posted: 10/11/2008 4:45:58 PM
To vrb 1955

Unfortunately so do I, and I remember the exact moments and where I was. but I just want to realte a small story which those of my age may appreciate. Stevie wonder was also known as Little Stevie Wonder. when I was a kid in Montreal, there was a club in Montreal that used to open up their door on sundays, serve no alcohol, so people could see some of the performers. I think it was the Esquire Show Bar. It was the first time I saw Little Stevie Wonder. He was 15 years old at the time, and he was electrifying. I write this only because, when you talk with someone, you need to have a common ground, and you need to relate on more than just a physical basis, you have to relate to their minds.
 BGSU
Joined: 10/18/2006
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Posted: 10/12/2008 3:10:33 AM
I don’t know about you guys, but I want to live life to its fullest and I’m turned off by a young 50+ year old woman who’s ad sounds like she is in her 80’s and can’t wait until she is 90 and dies.

I’m 54, and now after voluntarily taking a year off work, I feel like I’m in my 30’s again.

I previously gained about 80 lbs. due to previously taking an office job for a few years and sitting at home in the evenings for several years taking care of my son. I’ve lost 30 lbs. in the last two years and I’m going to loose the other 50 lbs.

I beat my diabetes and don’t have it anymore. So I’m in better shape than a lot of the kids in high school.

The only thing that makes me old is my gray hair and that’s because it’s in my genes. My Grandfather had white hair when he was young. I started getting gray hair when I was 22 years old. I was salt and pepper when I was 27 years old. My son found a gray hair the other day and he just turned 19.

I’ve been around the military and law enforcement about all my life, so I have dealt with people dieing about all my life. I use to respond to traffic accidents where people died. I remember when I was seven, I helped my mother get the can food together that we were going to have to put in my red wagon and pull it with us when we had to walk to the Civil Defense Fallout Shelter once the sirens went off and also knew that when we eventually come out of the shelter, life would not be the same (we lived on a military base next to Washington D.C. during the Cuban Missile Crisis). Later, I worked around storage areas that housed thousands of nuclear weapons. Most of my best friends have died due to accidents, and many other good friends have also already died and most of them were my age. My brother who lived a very active life died at 48 years old. I learned very early in law enforcement that one needs to enjoy and live every day to it’s fullest because it may be your last..

I know more than most people how it is to get old because I just got done taking care of my very active 83 year-old Mother every day for three years because I promised my father who had also lived a very active life.

I hate to break people’s bubble, but the term “Golden Age” was used to be nice. It’s the age where one starts becoming handicap and start not being able to do stuff anymore.

There is a difference between changing jobs and retiring. Retiring is when one stops working and starts becoming a burden on society, with the next step in life being death.

Now age is only a number in your mind but too many people in their 50’s act older than my parents and grand parents did when they were 82 years-old.

I, myself, am not setting around waiting till I get older. Some people just can’t wait until they get into the Rocking Chair and rot.

I have learned from the past and live for the future. So I don’t sit around and talk about where I was when I found out JFK died. JFK is dead but I’m still alive. For those of you who remember JFK, do you think that he would want us to sit around and waste our time talking about him or do you think he would want us to live our lives to the fullest and strive to make this world a better place?

Now, other than the three years that I’ve spent taking care of my mother, I have been around young people through out my life, either in the military, in college, or teaching.

The definition for “Mature” means: Complete in natural growth and development, ripe.
Look it up: http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/mature

Will, I am mature (ripe) but I’m not old and ready to rot, I’m in my prime. If a person is in his/her prime, why would he/she want to quite and go sit in a rocking chair?

So, when I read a profile from a young 50+ year-old woman who’s profile sounds like she is in her 80’s and can’t wait until she is in her 90’s and die, how do you think I feel?

So, I am not looking for someone who has been alive as long as I have, I’m looking for some one to LIVE with and have a FUTURE together. I’m not concerned about finding someone to remember the past with.

I’m seriously thinking about dying my hair.
 Dempcey
Joined: 8/5/2008
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Posted: 10/12/2008 3:40:14 AM
I will not sit up here and mock "older men" for preferring younger women when I myself as a "older women" prefer younger men. Key word "prefer."

I think at this time in my life I realize we (male and female) have been on this earth for few hundred years and if we haven't gotten it right by now, don't think it's going to happen so I am just going with the flow and get in where I fit in.

I would think that some of us older ladies should take advantage of the "men" that do enjoy an older woman because we know what we want and we aims to please as well. And as you say look past their "flaws", use our other senses.

We the women are just as guilty as the men. Focusing on what we have rather than what we don't get is a grand start.
 grasshopper76
Joined: 7/25/2008
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Posted: 10/12/2008 8:11:00 AM
Well, while there certainly are people whom will use others for their own personal gain and self satisfaction, I do not believe that every young person is " gold digging" and every young person is "clutching for their youth". If two people feel a connection and age does not bother them, then what is the big deal.

I really am strating to understand this mentallity at 32. The "young" people think I am old, and the "old" people think I am young!! Really don't fit in anywhere except with my own age demograph, or so it seems. This is amplified by having life experiences on par with a 50 year old, but still have the the energy and "kid at heart" of a 25 year old.

I think people should only worry about age if it affects them directly. I mean, yeah I look at a older woman and wonder, what would it be like 10-20 years from now. She will be retired and I will still be in the middle of my life. Will we have anything in common? Will we still like doing the same things? Like wise I say the same thing looking at a 25 year old woman. Is she mature enough yet. Will we be playing stupid games? Will she like me when I am alot older and she isn't? Will we share same interests? I prefer a woman around my own age, but I will not limit myself on this factor either.
It is my belief, key word BELIEF, that people whom harp on this whole age thing are feeling threatend. It is so hard to find a good mate now. People do not like having competition with something they can't compete with. If an older woman thinks that most guys are only interested in 20 something year old girls, of course they are going to feel jaded. No differently than if most woman only wanted a guy with a 12 inch pecker. That would leave most of us out in the cold. How could we compete with that? It is hard enough as it is. The key is understanding.
 Larissan04
Joined: 4/28/2004
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Posted: 10/14/2008 11:29:31 PM
look... men are visual. our society reinforces this idea that beauty and youth are all that matter. to a man, beauty is the promise of happiness, but of course that is only an illusion.

i am over 40 now and there are plenty of men who wouldn't date me because of my age. i am tooo old for them. men also treat you much differently when you are in your 40's ... also, i get all these young guys trying to date me like i am mrs robinson or something... that totally grosses me out... yeck!

just face it... women ahve a shelf life... we have an expiration date... there isn't alot you can do about it... and yes... men prefer younger women in general... all you can do is just be happy in yourself and be selelctive about whom you chose to date.... because these guys will be happy to sleep with you all the while thinking..."well... she 's a bit old for me... but it's ok for a fling..."

be careful who ya date.... that's all i can say...

lar
 Faconnable
Joined: 10/8/2008
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Posted: 10/15/2008 5:45:29 AM
everytime I see wrinkles I get this urge to iron my clothes. I dated this older gal once who lost all kinds of weight but it left her skin all loose and hangy. Infact, her legs did look like a couple thousand year old tree trunks. I had to staple her to the bed to keep her in place. When I flipped her over and seen all those creases, folds, pock marks and chips you were referring to I couldn't take it any more. I then had to rely on my 6th sense of running
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
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Posted: 10/15/2008 5:54:05 AM
i'd think that some men think younger women are better for a myriad of reasons - it could be to do with their soft smooth and supple skin, the fresh glow of youth, their often more naive and trusting outlook, the potential for *molding* them into who they want them to be... or it could be because that particular young woman has a personality they enjoy, an attitude they find compatible with theirs, or a desire to have a bazillion babies which they share...etc...

everyone has their own preference, as seen by the countless postings stating such... sometimes those preferences won't include us and that's just the way it is

no biggie

(oopsie, just noticed i'd already replied... ah well... move along, nothing to see here...ah um...aren't the leaves pretty this time of year?)
 ManeRider
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Posted: 10/15/2008 6:56:19 AM

i'd think that some men think younger women are better for a myriad of reasons - it could be to do with their soft smooth and supple skin, the fresh glow of youth, their often more naive and trusting outlook, the potential for *molding* them into who they want them to be... or it could be because that particular young woman has a personality they enjoy, an attitude they find compatible with theirs, or a desire to have a bazillion babies which they share...etc...

These are all very objective reasons. Every person ages, and science has shown we, as a whole, find youth more attractive. The color of the eyes is more vibrant, the tone and touch of the skin is suppler, the mentality of "molding" someone before society wreaks its evil spell, these are all social and scientific reasons why some people are attracted to younger women, or men.
However, the balance of maturity weighs heavily in favor of a relationship being functional with an older man and a younger woman. Men actually have more to offer and women have a more mature mentality in these relationships. It depends largely on each individual, but in general terms, women are more mature and capable of relationships long before their gender equivalent men are.

look... men are visual. our society reinforces this idea that beauty and youth are all that matter. to a man, beauty is the promise of happiness, but of course that is only an illusion.
i am over 40 now and there are plenty of men who wouldn't date me because of my age. i am tooo old for them. men also treat you much differently when you are in your 40's ... also, i get all these young guys trying to date me like i am mrs robinson or something... that totally grosses me out... yeck
Men are more visual, men also care little what a woman does for a living or how much she makes, but if she's beautiful in his eyes, he's willing to do more for her and be loyal, less likely to stray, as so many men are prone to do. Frankly, Lar, you seem to be one of the exceptions of lifes rules. Some few women have an ability to keep their youth much much longer than others, and that usually starts with a trim waistline, petite figures, andgood healthy living, which is evident in their facial expressions, how healthy their hair looks and feels, and so forth. Women over 35 (or so) who have maintained a healthy regiment of good eating, exercise, etc. should be able to continue attracting men. I disagree that women have a shelf life,...but I do think a "lot" of women give up trying to keep a sexy figure. That, first and foremost, is what keeps a mans visual admiration.
 Ellissima
Joined: 8/24/2007
Msg: 495
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Posted: 10/15/2008 8:22:53 AM
A lot of it is simple biology. Men are very attracted to visible signs of fertility and health. Things like symmetrical features (indicating healthy genes), glowing skin, good muscle tone, shining hair (all indicating health), appropriate hip to waist ratio (indicative of good fertility). These things are universally found attractive across all cultures.

Women, having to invest more in the creation of each potential child, pursue two mating strategies. Long-term mating, where they chose the man most likely to provide for them and any potential children. These are usually either older/wealthier men, or they can also be the "nice guys" who would work hard for their family and not stray. But what is less well-known is that women also pursue short-term mating strategies, where they will be attracted to the same signs of health and fertility as seen in men with little thought to ability to provide.

Now, if you put these tendencies (just that...tendencies, not rules) into affect in a culture where women have fewer economic options for self-sufficiency, you'll find a lot of younger women trading their youth and fertility for stability and financial support. The trend gets weaker in cultures where women are able and even expected to support themselves. They can choose mates for some of the same reasons that men do with less need to find someone to keep a roof over their heads.

So yes, in simple biology, women have a shelf life. But we all have a shelf life. And while men can fight this fact to some degree with wealth, it does not make them any likelier to have a successful relationship. Because the chemistry that simple attraction provides is just the genesis. If there isn't something else going on, when that fades, the relationship is doomed.

As for me, I'm definitely more attracted to signs of youth and health. I'll check out a fine young man and think bad thoughts. But do I want a relationship with him? Probably not. Same goes for a wealthy man (and I've dated a few.) Money is nice. Money is fun. Money is better than poverty. But I don't need someone to pay my way. And if money is all someone has to offer, I'll pass.

Give me someone that I can take a long roadtrip with and enjoy hours of nothing but chatting or comfortable silence. Someone who can make me laugh at myself and life. Someone who truly knows that this fleshy vehicle of mine is just a shell. I'll take the sags and wrinkles that are the reality of aging along side someone with his own outward signs of human fraility. Someone who understands me and the way I think.
 NORTY01
Joined: 10/5/2008
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Posted: 10/15/2008 10:05:17 AM
Older women have "patina." As long as they shower, it's good to enjoy the experiences of an older woman. Younger women don't know anything and more importantly, don't know how to go about achieving those asperations. I guess opinions are just like, well, you know...

 Romantic4love
Joined: 9/30/2008
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Posted: 10/15/2008 10:53:17 AM

However, the balance of maturity weighs heavily in favor of a relationship being functional with an older man and a younger woman. Men actually have more to offer and women have a more mature mentality in these relationships. It depends largely on each individual, but in general terms, women are more mature and capable of relationships long before their gender equivalent men are.


I am in a relationship with an older man. Now, I prefer a man who knows what he is doing and lot of the time, I've run into issues of this. My X was 5 yr older but I would say mentally he is still at least 10 yrs younger then me. He needs help with issues that a man of his age(35) shouldn't have problems with...making dinner, doing dishes, etc. He also though I feel is lazy about the above things.

Yes, there is a balance, but you also have tho have that special connection and a functional relationship to make it work. And at times, there will be things that no matter what can not be controlled and change the relationship or the individuals have to make choices that it is only fair to let the other go.

I think that older men have since my x-husband, have been better for me. I find myself also happier when I don't have to "mother" a man. I don't mind taking care of a man, but I don't want to be a "mother" type figure in his life.

The men I have talked to say it is due to the fact of attraction, not just to looks, but to who I am. I'm someone who listens, talks, & helps out around the house(yes, I do clean house). But the big thing is that I am mentally able to be match with them.

I think of age as a number, if we flipped it around, we wouldn't know how old anyone was. I'm 30, flipping that it makes me 03... that would be 3. LOL or take someone who is 52, flip it and you have 25. Now the question to me is not is the person 52 or 25, but what do they act?

I think that many reasons, choices, and answers play into your question, OP, I hope that you find an answer.

Romantic
 prof48
Joined: 3/17/2005
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:06:48 AM

I think of age as a number, if we flipped it around, we wouldn't know how old anyone was. I'm 30, flipping that it makes me 03... that would be 3. LOL or take someone who is 52, flip it and you have 25. Now the question to me is not is the person 52 or 25, but what do they act?

Hmm. At 55, I guess I don't have much opportunity to change. I think I'll take Jerry Rubin's answer to the "don't trust anyone over thirty" remark. He said "Yeah, I still agree with it, except I think you should drop the zero." Maybe I can drop a 5.
 sunshine_824
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 499
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:48:45 AM
People generally end up with what they're looking for -

If an older guy just wants a young chick - he can end up with one. But for how long, what does she want with him, and does she love him or just use his credit card? These will be left open.

Likewise if a woman is just looking for someone to spend money on her, she can find that too. But again, for how long, does he respect or care about her, will he be with her when her looks go? These are left open too.

However, if someone looks deeper than age, wrinkles, bank account, and penis size, they may find something.... deeper. If you only look at those superficial things and those are your requirements, then that's what you'll get.

Just my opinion. :)
 Romantic4love
Joined: 9/30/2008
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Posted: 10/15/2008 12:46:37 PM

Hmm. At 55, I guess I don't have much opportunity to change. I think I'll take Jerry Rubin's answer to the "don't trust anyone over thirty" remark. He said "Yeah, I still agree with it, except I think you should drop the zero." Maybe I can drop a 5.


Sure..... just drop that bothersome 5.
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