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 BGSU
Joined: 10/18/2006
Msg: 476
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???Page 20 of 23    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23)
I don’t know about you guys, but I want to live life to its fullest and I’m turned off by a young 50+ year old woman who’s ad sounds like she is in her 80’s and can’t wait until she is 90 and dies.

I’m 54, and now after voluntarily taking a year off work, I feel like I’m in my 30’s again.

I previously gained about 80 lbs. due to previously taking an office job for a few years and sitting at home in the evenings for several years taking care of my son. I’ve lost 30 lbs. in the last two years and I’m going to loose the other 50 lbs.

I beat my diabetes and don’t have it anymore. So I’m in better shape than a lot of the kids in high school.

The only thing that makes me old is my gray hair and that’s because it’s in my genes. My Grandfather had white hair when he was young. I started getting gray hair when I was 22 years old. I was salt and pepper when I was 27 years old. My son found a gray hair the other day and he just turned 19.

I’ve been around the military and law enforcement about all my life, so I have dealt with people dieing about all my life. I use to respond to traffic accidents where people died. I remember when I was seven, I helped my mother get the can food together that we were going to have to put in my red wagon and pull it with us when we had to walk to the Civil Defense Fallout Shelter once the sirens went off and also knew that when we eventually come out of the shelter, life would not be the same (we lived on a military base next to Washington D.C. during the Cuban Missile Crisis). Later, I worked around storage areas that housed thousands of nuclear weapons. Most of my best friends have died due to accidents, and many other good friends have also already died and most of them were my age. My brother who lived a very active life died at 48 years old. I learned very early in law enforcement that one needs to enjoy and live every day to it’s fullest because it may be your last..

I know more than most people how it is to get old because I just got done taking care of my very active 83 year-old Mother every day for three years because I promised my father who had also lived a very active life.

I hate to break people’s bubble, but the term “Golden Age” was used to be nice. It’s the age where one starts becoming handicap and start not being able to do stuff anymore.

There is a difference between changing jobs and retiring. Retiring is when one stops working and starts becoming a burden on society, with the next step in life being death.

Now age is only a number in your mind but too many people in their 50’s act older than my parents and grand parents did when they were 82 years-old.

I, myself, am not setting around waiting till I get older. Some people just can’t wait until they get into the Rocking Chair and rot.

I have learned from the past and live for the future. So I don’t sit around and talk about where I was when I found out JFK died. JFK is dead but I’m still alive. For those of you who remember JFK, do you think that he would want us to sit around and waste our time talking about him or do you think he would want us to live our lives to the fullest and strive to make this world a better place?

Now, other than the three years that I’ve spent taking care of my mother, I have been around young people through out my life, either in the military, in college, or teaching.

The definition for “Mature” means: Complete in natural growth and development, ripe.
Look it up: http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/mature

Will, I am mature (ripe) but I’m not old and ready to rot, I’m in my prime. If a person is in his/her prime, why would he/she want to quite and go sit in a rocking chair?

So, when I read a profile from a young 50+ year-old woman who’s profile sounds like she is in her 80’s and can’t wait until she is in her 90’s and die, how do you think I feel?

So, I am not looking for someone who has been alive as long as I have, I’m looking for some one to LIVE with and have a FUTURE together. I’m not concerned about finding someone to remember the past with.

I’m seriously thinking about dying my hair.
 Dempcey
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 477
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/12/2008 3:40:14 AM
I will not sit up here and mock "older men" for preferring younger women when I myself as a "older women" prefer younger men. Key word "prefer."

I think at this time in my life I realize we (male and female) have been on this earth for few hundred years and if we haven't gotten it right by now, don't think it's going to happen so I am just going with the flow and get in where I fit in.

I would think that some of us older ladies should take advantage of the "men" that do enjoy an older woman because we know what we want and we aims to please as well. And as you say look past their "flaws", use our other senses.

We the women are just as guilty as the men. Focusing on what we have rather than what we don't get is a grand start.
 grasshopper76
Joined: 7/25/2008
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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/12/2008 8:11:00 AM
Well, while there certainly are people whom will use others for their own personal gain and self satisfaction, I do not believe that every young person is " gold digging" and every young person is "clutching for their youth". If two people feel a connection and age does not bother them, then what is the big deal.

I really am strating to understand this mentallity at 32. The "young" people think I am old, and the "old" people think I am young!! Really don't fit in anywhere except with my own age demograph, or so it seems. This is amplified by having life experiences on par with a 50 year old, but still have the the energy and "kid at heart" of a 25 year old.

I think people should only worry about age if it affects them directly. I mean, yeah I look at a older woman and wonder, what would it be like 10-20 years from now. She will be retired and I will still be in the middle of my life. Will we have anything in common? Will we still like doing the same things? Like wise I say the same thing looking at a 25 year old woman. Is she mature enough yet. Will we be playing stupid games? Will she like me when I am alot older and she isn't? Will we share same interests? I prefer a woman around my own age, but I will not limit myself on this factor either.
It is my belief, key word BELIEF, that people whom harp on this whole age thing are feeling threatend. It is so hard to find a good mate now. People do not like having competition with something they can't compete with. If an older woman thinks that most guys are only interested in 20 something year old girls, of course they are going to feel jaded. No differently than if most woman only wanted a guy with a 12 inch pecker. That would leave most of us out in the cold. How could we compete with that? It is hard enough as it is. The key is understanding.
 Larissan04
Joined: 4/28/2004
Msg: 479
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/14/2008 11:29:31 PM
look... men are visual. our society reinforces this idea that beauty and youth are all that matter. to a man, beauty is the promise of happiness, but of course that is only an illusion.

i am over 40 now and there are plenty of men who wouldn't date me because of my age. i am tooo old for them. men also treat you much differently when you are in your 40's ... also, i get all these young guys trying to date me like i am mrs robinson or something... that totally grosses me out... yeck!

just face it... women ahve a shelf life... we have an expiration date... there isn't alot you can do about it... and yes... men prefer younger women in general... all you can do is just be happy in yourself and be selelctive about whom you chose to date.... because these guys will be happy to sleep with you all the while thinking..."well... she 's a bit old for me... but it's ok for a fling..."

be careful who ya date.... that's all i can say...

lar
 Faconnable
Joined: 10/8/2008
Msg: 480
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/15/2008 5:45:29 AM
everytime I see wrinkles I get this urge to iron my clothes. I dated this older gal once who lost all kinds of weight but it left her skin all loose and hangy. Infact, her legs did look like a couple thousand year old tree trunks. I had to staple her to the bed to keep her in place. When I flipped her over and seen all those creases, folds, pock marks and chips you were referring to I couldn't take it any more. I then had to rely on my 6th sense of running
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 481
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/15/2008 5:54:05 AM
i'd think that some men think younger women are better for a myriad of reasons - it could be to do with their soft smooth and supple skin, the fresh glow of youth, their often more naive and trusting outlook, the potential for *molding* them into who they want them to be... or it could be because that particular young woman has a personality they enjoy, an attitude they find compatible with theirs, or a desire to have a bazillion babies which they share...etc...

everyone has their own preference, as seen by the countless postings stating such... sometimes those preferences won't include us and that's just the way it is

no biggie

(oopsie, just noticed i'd already replied... ah well... move along, nothing to see here...ah um...aren't the leaves pretty this time of year?)
 ManeRider
Joined: 5/22/2005
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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/15/2008 6:56:19 AM

i'd think that some men think younger women are better for a myriad of reasons - it could be to do with their soft smooth and supple skin, the fresh glow of youth, their often more naive and trusting outlook, the potential for *molding* them into who they want them to be... or it could be because that particular young woman has a personality they enjoy, an attitude they find compatible with theirs, or a desire to have a bazillion babies which they share...etc...

These are all very objective reasons. Every person ages, and science has shown we, as a whole, find youth more attractive. The color of the eyes is more vibrant, the tone and touch of the skin is suppler, the mentality of "molding" someone before society wreaks its evil spell, these are all social and scientific reasons why some people are attracted to younger women, or men.
However, the balance of maturity weighs heavily in favor of a relationship being functional with an older man and a younger woman. Men actually have more to offer and women have a more mature mentality in these relationships. It depends largely on each individual, but in general terms, women are more mature and capable of relationships long before their gender equivalent men are.

look... men are visual. our society reinforces this idea that beauty and youth are all that matter. to a man, beauty is the promise of happiness, but of course that is only an illusion.
i am over 40 now and there are plenty of men who wouldn't date me because of my age. i am tooo old for them. men also treat you much differently when you are in your 40's ... also, i get all these young guys trying to date me like i am mrs robinson or something... that totally grosses me out... yeck
Men are more visual, men also care little what a woman does for a living or how much she makes, but if she's beautiful in his eyes, he's willing to do more for her and be loyal, less likely to stray, as so many men are prone to do. Frankly, Lar, you seem to be one of the exceptions of lifes rules. Some few women have an ability to keep their youth much much longer than others, and that usually starts with a trim waistline, petite figures, andgood healthy living, which is evident in their facial expressions, how healthy their hair looks and feels, and so forth. Women over 35 (or so) who have maintained a healthy regiment of good eating, exercise, etc. should be able to continue attracting men. I disagree that women have a shelf life,...but I do think a "lot" of women give up trying to keep a sexy figure. That, first and foremost, is what keeps a mans visual admiration.
 Ellissima
Joined: 8/24/2007
Msg: 483
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Posted: 10/15/2008 8:22:53 AM
A lot of it is simple biology. Men are very attracted to visible signs of fertility and health. Things like symmetrical features (indicating healthy genes), glowing skin, good muscle tone, shining hair (all indicating health), appropriate hip to waist ratio (indicative of good fertility). These things are universally found attractive across all cultures.

Women, having to invest more in the creation of each potential child, pursue two mating strategies. Long-term mating, where they chose the man most likely to provide for them and any potential children. These are usually either older/wealthier men, or they can also be the "nice guys" who would work hard for their family and not stray. But what is less well-known is that women also pursue short-term mating strategies, where they will be attracted to the same signs of health and fertility as seen in men with little thought to ability to provide.

Now, if you put these tendencies (just that...tendencies, not rules) into affect in a culture where women have fewer economic options for self-sufficiency, you'll find a lot of younger women trading their youth and fertility for stability and financial support. The trend gets weaker in cultures where women are able and even expected to support themselves. They can choose mates for some of the same reasons that men do with less need to find someone to keep a roof over their heads.

So yes, in simple biology, women have a shelf life. But we all have a shelf life. And while men can fight this fact to some degree with wealth, it does not make them any likelier to have a successful relationship. Because the chemistry that simple attraction provides is just the genesis. If there isn't something else going on, when that fades, the relationship is doomed.

As for me, I'm definitely more attracted to signs of youth and health. I'll check out a fine young man and think bad thoughts. But do I want a relationship with him? Probably not. Same goes for a wealthy man (and I've dated a few.) Money is nice. Money is fun. Money is better than poverty. But I don't need someone to pay my way. And if money is all someone has to offer, I'll pass.

Give me someone that I can take a long roadtrip with and enjoy hours of nothing but chatting or comfortable silence. Someone who can make me laugh at myself and life. Someone who truly knows that this fleshy vehicle of mine is just a shell. I'll take the sags and wrinkles that are the reality of aging along side someone with his own outward signs of human fraility. Someone who understands me and the way I think.
 NORTY01
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 484
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Posted: 10/15/2008 10:05:17 AM
Older women have "patina." As long as they shower, it's good to enjoy the experiences of an older woman. Younger women don't know anything and more importantly, don't know how to go about achieving those asperations. I guess opinions are just like, well, you know...

 Romantic4love
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 485
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:53:17 AM

However, the balance of maturity weighs heavily in favor of a relationship being functional with an older man and a younger woman. Men actually have more to offer and women have a more mature mentality in these relationships. It depends largely on each individual, but in general terms, women are more mature and capable of relationships long before their gender equivalent men are.


I am in a relationship with an older man. Now, I prefer a man who knows what he is doing and lot of the time, I've run into issues of this. My X was 5 yr older but I would say mentally he is still at least 10 yrs younger then me. He needs help with issues that a man of his age(35) shouldn't have problems with...making dinner, doing dishes, etc. He also though I feel is lazy about the above things.

Yes, there is a balance, but you also have tho have that special connection and a functional relationship to make it work. And at times, there will be things that no matter what can not be controlled and change the relationship or the individuals have to make choices that it is only fair to let the other go.

I think that older men have since my x-husband, have been better for me. I find myself also happier when I don't have to "mother" a man. I don't mind taking care of a man, but I don't want to be a "mother" type figure in his life.

The men I have talked to say it is due to the fact of attraction, not just to looks, but to who I am. I'm someone who listens, talks, & helps out around the house(yes, I do clean house). But the big thing is that I am mentally able to be match with them.

I think of age as a number, if we flipped it around, we wouldn't know how old anyone was. I'm 30, flipping that it makes me 03... that would be 3. LOL or take someone who is 52, flip it and you have 25. Now the question to me is not is the person 52 or 25, but what do they act?

I think that many reasons, choices, and answers play into your question, OP, I hope that you find an answer.

Romantic
 prof48
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 486
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:06:48 AM

I think of age as a number, if we flipped it around, we wouldn't know how old anyone was. I'm 30, flipping that it makes me 03... that would be 3. LOL or take someone who is 52, flip it and you have 25. Now the question to me is not is the person 52 or 25, but what do they act?

Hmm. At 55, I guess I don't have much opportunity to change. I think I'll take Jerry Rubin's answer to the "don't trust anyone over thirty" remark. He said "Yeah, I still agree with it, except I think you should drop the zero." Maybe I can drop a 5.
 sunshine_824
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 487
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:48:45 AM
People generally end up with what they're looking for -

If an older guy just wants a young chick - he can end up with one. But for how long, what does she want with him, and does she love him or just use his credit card? These will be left open.

Likewise if a woman is just looking for someone to spend money on her, she can find that too. But again, for how long, does he respect or care about her, will he be with her when her looks go? These are left open too.

However, if someone looks deeper than age, wrinkles, bank account, and penis size, they may find something.... deeper. If you only look at those superficial things and those are your requirements, then that's what you'll get.

Just my opinion. :)
 Romantic4love
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 488
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Posted: 10/15/2008 12:46:37 PM

Hmm. At 55, I guess I don't have much opportunity to change. I think I'll take Jerry Rubin's answer to the "don't trust anyone over thirty" remark. He said "Yeah, I still agree with it, except I think you should drop the zero." Maybe I can drop a 5.


Sure..... just drop that bothersome 5.
 kewlpeeps
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 489
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Posted: 10/15/2008 12:48:54 PM
I have always dated women who were older and younger. There are many older women who are hot and blow away women decades their junior.

I'm 36 and while I do date older women I prefer to date younger women. The reason being is because I would like to have children. While older women still can have children the chances are higher with someone who is younger. Factor in the time for dating getting married and younger women are the preference for child bearing. And yes, science has come a long way to help fertality, but why start off with a low probability. And yes, adoption is an option, but again why not start off with the higher probability.
 ml456
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 490
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Posted: 10/15/2008 2:45:24 PM
There are many possible reasons. Some men only care about looks and want the "trophy wife". Some older men are generally more compatible with younger women. Some men want to have kids and maybe an older woman can't/won't have any kids.
 heelsRSO4ever
Joined: 8/12/2008
Msg: 491
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Posted: 10/15/2008 3:43:40 PM
When they say "they don't mind getting older".....they don't mean you.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 492
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Posted: 10/15/2008 4:03:39 PM
~OT~ Some men do think younger women are better. For them, they are probably right. I certainly wouldn't want to be with someone who secretly felt better with younger women. That would be like me dating someone I feel is too old for me. Settling is far worse than having age preferences. JMO
 Faconnable
Joined: 10/8/2008
Msg: 493
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Posted: 10/15/2008 8:59:12 PM
when I around 49 or 50 I dated a 28 year old. The difference being 22 years younger. I would never think of dating a gal 22 years older than myself. Does that make me a hypocrite?
 eclipseIDE
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Posted: 10/15/2008 9:38:01 PM
My reason (just mine) is because it seems like a lot of the youger women Ive met lately arent as judgemental as the women my age.

Ive hit some bad times and am in the process of trying to rebuild my life. The last thing I need right now is a woman telling me how worthless I am because Im working in some low end job to make ends meet for the time being because my job was shipped over seas. I in fact dont even attempt to find dates on here anymore because I dont need the rejection at this point of my life.

I read profiles of women my age and they have income/education stipulations while younger women are a lot more lenient. It appears to me that they can see potential and character in someone even if may have hit hard times like me. It seems like women my age have no patience for failure.

Lastly, a lot of women around where I live are overweight. Im 36 years old and play soccer against people anywhere from the age 18 and up. Im the oldest person on my team but Im probably in the best shape of my life. Im not looking for a thin woman either. My preference is average to even thick but not obese. Around here though average weight women are the ones who have the list of demands and youre automatically discarded if you dont meet their criteria.
 Mominatrix
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Posted: 10/15/2008 10:16:08 PM
When they say "they don't mind getting older".....they don't mean you.
Oh my holy hell!


My reason (just mine) is because it seems like a lot of the youger women Ive met lately arent as judgemental as the women my age.
You mean when you say that, they won't put up with bullshyt? Just wait, because that will get worse as you age... something to look forward to!

I can understand your point, but at 36, most women are not as concerned with you looking for younger women. If you are still looking for women the same age that you are now, in ten or 15 years... well, then prepare for scorn.

when I around 49 or 50 I dated a 28 year old. The difference being 22 years younger. I would never think of dating a gal 22 years older than myself. Does that make me a hypocrite?
Yep, it does.
 Dare to
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 10/16/2008 2:37:25 AM

So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Just like anything else it's a preference.. And each person is entitled to his or her preferences. I find it hard to comprehend why it bothers some women that some men like younger women... Is it because it puts "them" out of the running therefore it must be wrong??

It really p1sses me off when people project the way they think as the only right way to think and this is just another example. If a guy likes younger women.. Who cares?? It's his right to like whoever he wants to. Just like it's my right to like healthy fit men. You could ask "why do some women (me) think fit men are better?" The answer?? I just do!

I am also highly unlikely to ever be attracted to a man with an "old" mentality regardless of his age. Why? Because it's not attractive to me.. I think that men with a "young" outlook are better! Why? Because i do,they "fit" me better and that's just the way it is. Nobody owes it to anyone to explain why they have the preferences that they have. Their life, their decisions, their preferences....
 brown_eyed_woman
Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 497
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Posted: 10/16/2008 3:48:52 AM
Well...if they think younger women are more suited to themselves, and you are not younger...you click 'next'. Seems pretty simple to me.

I have preferences, you likely do as well.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 498
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Posted: 10/16/2008 4:10:07 AM
who really cares. If some men want younger women that is great in my world,cause that leaves alot of young goodlooking guys for me to date. Goodbye bald heads and beer bellies, hello ripped stud muffins.
 ManeRider
Joined: 5/22/2005
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Posted: 10/16/2008 7:18:13 AM

To Mold...........or control
I would strongly beg to differ. I would find younger women no less likely to be pliable and moldable, as most have reached an age and discipline that defines what that want in life. Most younger women I come in contact with are much more headstrong and willful. Are they more youthfully minded, perhaps more open-minded about going rock climbing and jet skiing than older women? You betcha.

Goodbye bald heads and beer bellies, hello ripped stud muffins

My point precisely, only the typical aging women effects dont' include balding. If I found a woman my age, who wasn't wrinkled as a prune, who could, like I do, wear the same size clothes she fit in in high school, and who didn't have closets full of cobwebs from previous relationships, the propensity of data would suggest she's already taken. That's the only issue here (for me) with older women. And it isn't as if youth comes with a trim figure as a L-O-T of younger women today are keeping an extra 20 pounds that hasn't always the case.
SO threading that needle is even increasingly more difficult. By and large, I believe men seek trim, attractive, youthful looking women, but the percentages of women who have those attractive features are predominantly younger, because, as with the bald/beer bellied men of 40+, women tend to fall prey to aging effects, and often lose the desire to maintain a trim figure. Doctors recommend 7-10 hours of r-i-g-o-r-o-u-s- physical exercise every week, but you have to find a gym bunnie who takes that initiative. SO, we just see the opportunity with younger women for the physical attributes, and the matched maturity of younger women and older men still applies. It's a win win situation.
 MetalVixxn
Joined: 4/4/2007
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Posted: 10/16/2008 4:19:55 PM
Good... the older men can date the younger women and the younger men can date us old ladies!
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