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 simplykay
Joined: 6/18/2008
Msg: 524
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???Page 23 of 23    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23)
Your are so right, I lost 2 husbands two younger women and on didn't last the other is just starting out. He is 62 and she is in her 30's and now they have a new baby. All I can say is I'm glad I don't have a new baby at my age as I want to have fun without changing diapers and travel. Good luck to all thos men and women that want the younger partner, but remembe your age will not stop......
 Dreamerxoxoxo
Joined: 3/2/2006
Msg: 525
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 2:16:22 PM

msg. 528 >>> Well Son, let me fill you in just a tad on the cold/hard truth. My son is three years younger than you and has the wisdom of YODA if compared to you (in case you don't know who Yoda is, rent Star Wars, he's the wise little hairy dude with a brain/insight/intelligence and the common sense to keep his mouth shut when he's likely going to say something stupid.) Does your Mother know you have so little regard for women in general? I'm embarrassed for her. I'll bet she tried to raise you to respect ALL women. If she didn't shame on you both.


omg VGE... you never fail to make me laugh. It just goes to show you that even a master's degree can't help some who are so obviously socially challenged. There's still hope for him, though he IS only twenty-something..

I don't know of many men who prefer the immaturity of younger women. Most guys prefer the youthful sophistication and grace of a mature woman who is in a place in life where she is able to be in control of her life, knows how to get what she wants and achieve her set goals. Most guys have the intelligence to recognize and appreciate a woman who displays graceful energy and subtle alluring sexual magnetism that only comes with maturity.

It doesn't take intelligent guys long to realize that mature women have an edge over younger women who for the most part lack sophistication and are unwittingly game players who are uncertain and insecure in their relationships with guys. It doesn't take an intelligent guy long to discover that a mature woman won't ask him out of the blue what he is thinking because a mature woman is secure and content with herself and doesn't need to know what he is thinking and doing every second of every day. He appreciates the fact that the mature woman insists on her space and alone time be respected just as she respects his need to have space and time that doesn't include her.

Thank goodness that short sighted immature guys like the one VGE quoted and so eloquently scolded is in the minority. Perhaps a little more social experience will dispel his ignorance.
 Zeanah59
Joined: 9/25/2007
Msg: 526
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 2:45:25 PM
Well I sure do not look at young boys or even young men! I Have a young son/man and that just is not my style! I'd much rather have a more mature man my own age that I would have more in common with. AND....I like experience and his wisdom.

As for men wanting younger women, so be it...doesn't bother me! They have no clue what they are missing when turning away experienced mature women who can satisfy them in all respects of life, just not the bedroom. Plus...younger women usually move on to the younger guys after they get what they want out of the more established older men. Younger pretty women know how to play their game and get very good at it. I hear young women talk all the time about it. They giggle and laugh and know they got the body to lure in their Sugar Daddy! SO...Be careful whatcha ask for!

"Z"
 ~Azul Ojos~
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 527
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 3:27:37 PM
"I think some men dont want to get old so being around and dating younger women
make them feel younger."

This is true, but in actuality it makes them in appearance look older! An older man with a young, fresh, hot girlfriend just brings out the oldness in him.

I dated someone 10 years older than me for a few years. When I showed pictures to my friends of us together, they always commented on how old he looked... On serveral occassions I was asked , "Where is your father tonight?"

I think only certain younger women want the older guys for the security and riches. The majority of young women want the more appealing, handsome, physically fit men their own age. I don't see any of my daughters friends dating the older guys, in fact they always mention why on earth would that lovely woman be with that old man... when they see them.

I think the men that have healthy boundaries on their age limits are more my type anyway, so I am grateful to these younger women for taking away these men I wouldn't even consider as potential partners. I want a more mature, sophisticated and classical man with style and high morals, so the men that are dating younger women are eliminated from my dating pool, which makes life easier all round...
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 530
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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 4:46:51 PM

This is just as biological then it is physical.


I think both!!!
 10of6
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 531
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 5:05:02 PM
Since I haven't had the time to read the previous 20+ pages, OP...for the same reason people choose stoneware over china. It's called "preference" and as such is a matter of choice. Getting steamed about it makes about as much sense as losing my cool when someone picks a mocha shake instead of butterscotch (which is my fave).
 blueangel33
Joined: 9/17/2008
Msg: 532
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 5:46:30 PM
Thank you Neosoulman66
, it is nice to see a man who thinks with his big head instead of his little one,

I am sure us older women will appreciate your post.
I go for a little younger because they still know how to date and romance a girl.

Some older men think with their little head,, me I like to be courted, romanced, find out if we are compatable before going to the next level,, kissing is very important and cuddling. some older men forget that part..or forget how,,,,
 HappyTree22
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 533
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 7:14:43 PM
I want to make an amusing observation.

I've heard countless women in day to day life and on these forums constantly that most men are very "immature" and take a "long time to mature"

If that's true, wouldn't it stand to reason that younger women might desire men who are moderately older because they have matching maturity levels and that brings some level of added compatibility?

Sorry ladies, you can't have it both ways. You can't claim "more maturity" than men at the same age and not realize that that kind of argument becomes a factor in why younger women might actually desire older men and why older men might get along with younger women.

And I want to thank the several posters in this thread who felt the need to launch into personal attacks. Good bait, poor execution though. It's a typical MO. Launch some insults, hope you get some back, then run crying to a moderator.

Here's something that's universal - Most people date to their best option. It's that simple. If an older man can secure a younger fitter more physically attractive woman to date and mate with, he probably will.

I'm very sorry for older women in general, it's not all that fair, but who said life was fair? Most of the very desirable men at the age range of older women can and do date younger women. The rest of the men out there are probably either undesirable, already taken or gay. It's sucks women are socially deemed less desirable with advancing age. Well it sucks to be a guy and be judged on height, career, earning power and Alpha male status. It sucks for everyone. But I don't think it would kill anyone to age with a little grace and dignity. I see far too many responses that basically say younger women are less mature and have less to offer and older women are somehow "better" mates and dates relatively.

The proof is in the pudding, man or women ALIKE, if you are a desirable mating and dating candidate, the most desirable options from the other sex will pursue you and desire you. If they don't, then you are not. It's that simple. It's completely inexplicable, if the men you truly desire, 99.9 percent of them don't even give you second glance or want to date you, is that not one big fat clue that maybe you aren't their most desirable dating option in return?

People have the right to desire what they like in a dating partner. All the older women here were young once themselves, sorry ladies, most of you had your turn for your 15 minutes. You either made the most of it or you didn't. Now it's someone elses turn.
 heelsRSO4ever
Joined: 8/12/2008
Msg: 534
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/19/2008 8:09:40 PM
As my late father once replied to me on my 50th birthday.....he said "Happy Birthday Sweetheart".....I said, "Ahhh, Thanks Dad...funny Dad I don't feel 50...I don't even think I look 50, do you?"........he looked at me straight faced and all serious and replied..."No....but, I remember when you did!"....LOL LOL

Spank me hard what humor! I couldn't help but laugh myself....you just gotta laugh at a lot of this stuff.......Perhaps 'some' men are attracted to the 'younger' woman...simply because they 'look' younger....and the fella thinks she complements him when shes hooked on his arm.....Maybe they act younger as well...maybe some men like that too!.......or maybe....just maybe.....the younger gals just don't know any better yet....and some men REALLY LIKE THAT!
It's all good!

R.I.P. Dad 10/05
 10of6
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 535
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/31/2008 6:57:46 PM
Msg 555, well said! I was formulating a line of thinking much like yours, but felt that writing mine would merely be a reiteration of yours. By the way, I've been hit on by older women embarrassingly often.

(I found your comment about the process of manipulating or orchestrating forum boot-offs by people who do not hold themselves accountable for outrageous and uncalled-for attacks. Good that others call their bluff; bad that it ends up as you stated. Yet it is so revealing on so many levels.
 TheHandbagMaiden
Joined: 10/24/2008
Msg: 536
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/31/2008 7:25:02 PM
I work in an industry almost completely dominated by men so my day to day interaction with women is limited, or at least muted, compared to others I know. For that, I'm pretty glad. Sad to say it though.

The truth is most women are extremely competitive with each other. Most will go on the offensive, young or old, against whomever is getting the most attention.

My observation is when men get together and have a common goal ( like being in the military) they tend to build each other up. They focus on the goal ( like winning the war or scoring the touchdown).

Most women, on the other hand, tend to want to tear each other down. It's not a win, even if the group wins, if that individual woman can't be on top during the victory.

Here's an example, at the very first job I worked out of college, I sort of just came to work and worked hard and kept a very low profile. As a new person, you don't know anyone and you don't want to make waves. I was asked out by a male coworker there who was a decent bit older. ( Age doesn't bother me to some degree but I don't date coworkers ever and told him so) Unfortunately later I found out the "Alpha" female, again someone a bit older than me, of the office environment wanted to date him and he had consistently rebuffed her advances. So I spent the rest of my time working there being treated like absolute crap by her and basically every other female in the office ( because most women have a pack mentality when they can turn on one specific woman) even though I did my job and they really didn't know me.

I do not think "younger women are better" I do not think, as a younger woman, that I am, in some fashion, superior to other women, even older women. I just think most men want to date women they find beautiful and most will probably chase younger women instead of older women.

There are just a lot of older women out there, from my experience and viewpoint, that get really upset because they can't get what they want and it's easier to blame men and younger women instead of facing their own problems.
 bob144
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 537
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/31/2008 7:35:34 PM
It is a creation issues. Men that survive among the ancients had good genes and so they were driven to mate with younger beautiful women with full breasts and lips and symetrical features because those features exemplified health. So an old geezer with his superior sperm socked it to the young sexy women (with large firm breasts) to provide a stronger gene pool and healther clan or tribe. So it is not our fault. This is how we are created. Just like high school. The chicks always went with the jocks. That wasn't right either but thats how the mop flops.
 BuzWeaver
Joined: 7/7/2007
Msg: 538
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/31/2008 9:01:56 PM
Well, for the sake of argument younger women are more likely to want to have children more so than some women my age or a little older.
 lelathecat
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 539
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 10/31/2008 11:10:35 PM
When I was in my 20s being with a guy 40 to 50 years old NEVER crossed my mind. None were even remotely attractive to me even though so many would hit on me acting like they still had IT. They didn't lol.

I almost always dated a few years younger or around my own age.

This last relationship was with a man 20 years younger and really before that I didn't seek out nor could imagine myself with someone so much younger. I was thinking more like 10 plus or minus for an age range.

His workmates were mostly late 20s and early 30s and they seemed to be jealous of him. I think he rubbed it in a few times too when someone's immature 20 something year old girlfriend was calling the guy at work and pestering him and crying like a loon cause her car wouldn't start or some other childish thing. He's say wow I'm glad my girlfriend doesn't act like that. hehehe

Now I still think I am happy with the 10 plus or minus age range.
 freesoulck
Joined: 2/2/2009
Msg: 542
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 3/20/2009 9:26:32 PM
I am o.k. with older lady. I think they are smart and cute. That's probably a cultural thing. I found ladies of my age from the same culture are very boring. Mainly because of cultural background. Don't take it too hard.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 543
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 3/20/2009 9:32:21 PM

So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???

For some men, younger women are better. Just like for some women, younger men are better.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 544
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 3/21/2009 6:16:55 AM

socked it to the young sexy women (with large firm breasts) to provide a stronger gene pool and healther clan or tribe.
Unless you are in it to breed, why? Granted we all like healthier, attractive mates, but much of what was hardwired in our DNA no longer applies. We are already overpopulated. Yes, I have children and I understand the need/want to have children, but I find it sad to see a number of children who are pre-school with 60-70 year old fathers who may probably never live to see them grown up. (I know there is no guarantee that a 20 year old dad will do the same--just looking at logistics here).

Secondarily, personally I want this time in my life to be one where the SO and I focus on each other. If an older woman is with a much younger man, at some point, he may regret not having children. It works both ways. I have know several much younger women who married much older men and the men already had children and chose to have no more, he died and she regretted that she never had children and is now too old to do so. Younger men that I have known married older and the marriage ended for whatever reason and he sought out younger woman for children bearing purposes.

Life is about choices---skip the numbers game--are the interests similar and can he keep up?
 bathsheba3
Joined: 2/20/2009
Msg: 545
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 3/21/2009 6:47:31 AM
Too funny, saritamiami. But, I have to agree. Hey. People like who and what they like because we have choices. We have too many choices and too few people willing to say, "Look, bub, go find someone you're own age." These people who want what they know is really out of their league make me laugh. That's why the emergency rooms are never empty. Very few can live long-term with someone half their age. Really. Exceptions to the rule exist. But, come on, now. You went through your ups and downs, right? Telling me you actually want to repeat that? Not. There is a medium. Find it. Looking is no sin; that's what we've got eyes for. But, get real. Leave the way-too young babies to the young guys/girls out there who they were meant for. There are SOOOO many great-looking and intelligent REAL WOMEN out here who really know what's going on and how to make a man happy. Please! Don't bore me.
 hockey dad 456
Joined: 2/20/2009
Msg: 546
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 3/21/2009 8:29:12 AM
my last 2 relationships (6+ months both) were with 2 women 10 years younger i won't do that again they were completely and totally im mature
 TitusBreast
Joined: 3/18/2007
Msg: 547
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 3/21/2009 1:42:49 PM
Haha! I'm sorry you describe your slow and graceful flow of age with the metaphor of a 10,000 year old crackling redwood! I died laughing...but you're a good writer, nevertheless! I believe that both ragged and haggard sexes are merely JADED with the other at this point of near-death, is all...plus, the true die-hards love to provoke p1ss-offs and jealousies to feel alive...BECAUSE they're almost dead! (Only kidding! Re: the half-dead one-liners...haha!) You're only as ancient as you feel! Lighten up, bro (or sis...I didn't read your profile, YET...sorry! Hope you're still among the living...) and work with what you've got, for God's sake! If you gave up already (on yourself, that is), that's too bad. Get an attitude adjustment and deliver your best everyday. Fvck 'em if they don't dig you. (When they walk the other direction, start laughing audibly. They'll feel self-conscious and uncomfortable. They'll wonder if there was something odd about their appearance, or something...) I thought everybody knew that we're supposed to get better with time. Oh well, good luck! Love, Titus
 Experiencedone
Joined: 8/12/2008
Msg: 548
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 3/21/2009 2:09:45 PM
I can't speak for other men, but since my wife was killed 7 years ago, I have just started really dating again. It seems that younger women don't have as hard of time making the first move, which nowdays makes things alot easier. With the political correctness and sexual harassment issues, some men hesitate before initiating conversations to any women. If I find the right woman to get into a long relationship with, it won't matter what her age is at all..if she can keep up with me!! hahahaha
 foxyfoxy74
Joined: 9/22/2008
Msg: 549
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 4/8/2009 9:48:22 AM
Hey now my boyfriend is 16 years older than me and he drives me crazy, he is the most amazingly thoughtful lover I've ever had, he makes me laugh more and makes me feel happy, ecstatic safe and secure.

In short, he is my soul mate.
 wild heart
Joined: 10/14/2007
Msg: 550
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 4/8/2009 10:28:22 AM
With the political correctness and sexual harassment issues, some men hesitate before initiating conversations to any women.


This is BS. The basic rules of etiquette would say that your first contact would be respectful until you know the person a little more.

If one can't understand that the written word is very subjective and that one should not post jokes unless they are prepared to defend themselves after, they should keep their email communications respectable. The only exception would be a forum poster since one can read their postings and get a sense of them.

If a man is worrying about sexual harassment and political correctness, then he is breaking the basic rules.

I'm not a fan of political correctness, but many other people are so I try to keep the sarcasm out until we meet or know each other. This is not rocket science.

When I see a man I'm really interested in, I contact him. In person I will smile and YES even approach him, so it sounds to me that this stuff about sexual harassment and such is just another cop out or way of saying you don't know how to use the online dating tool.

If men like a younger woman, then let them.


Well, for the sake of argument younger women are more likely to want to have children more so than some women my age or a little older.


This is a good argument, but you might want to speak with my Dad who got himself a young woman when he was 40, had a child and then all sorts of crap ensued. All to say, he admitted it was all about ego and that they had NOTHING in common after the initial lust wore off. By nothing in common, I don't mean interests.

I have spoken with many men in the 36-45 age range who still want children and they all have the same problem. They can't find a woman their age who wants children, but they can't relate to the younger ones. Just order a mail bride or make a decision on whether children are what you really want or if you want to be alone just for the sake of children for another 5-10 years. If you really want kids, you may just have to make a sacrifice in the "wife" area.

I wanted children all my life, but at one point for my health, a potential child I could have's health, I had to make a decision - must be nice not to have to make that hard decision! I've realized that as I got older, I couldn't have everything I wanted.

Your other option is to become a polygamist and join a group out in Utah. You can have yourself a young 20 something when you are 86 apparently LOL

Seriously, I have no problem with anyone wanting to date someone of differing ages, the problem I have is that sometimes there are unrealistic expectations in the reasons. We all have them, and I know I constantly examine them to see if I'm going fubar. Can you say the same about yourself?
 Dyanna40
Joined: 6/28/2008
Msg: 551
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 4/17/2009 2:13:35 AM


I'm finding younger guys are seeking out older females much more often now. In the past month i've been approached by a 26 year old and 23 year old, and at 41 I couldn't imagine going out with someone that young.
 craazycowgurl
Joined: 5/20/2009
Msg: 553
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 6/19/2009 2:09:51 PM
I am not against mixed age relationships, I've dated younger and older, but a word to the older men out there... Most of the younger women that you are looking for have only one thought in mind. Free ride! Now girls, don't get mad at me, there is the exception to every rule, but this is sooo often true. Women are attracted to good looking men that are their age or younger, just like the guys. They don't dream at night of an older man that they will end up nursing while in their prime. All they are really thinking about is how hard they have worked and how nice it would be to sit back, be worshipped by an older man, and not have to work anymore. If a man is retired, or close to it, has a home, etc. they figure they will have it made! He will dote on them because they are young and pretty, and he will do what is necessary to keep them looking good. Letting them spend their days at the spa etc., so that his "arm candy" is in good form for a night out in front of his pals. Please don't judge me for these thoughts, they are just a thrown out to encourage discussion and to remind men to protect themselves and the life they have worked for. I think most people who marry much below thier own age will come to the realization that they don't have alot in common for the long late night talks that become the basis for our loving relationships.
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