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Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 51
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Why do "older people" go to these bars and clubs and such that are supposed to be the young'uns turf? Ive worked as a bartender and seen dozens of older ladies sitting in the bar until last call when all the men are drunk 0ff their butts and desperate, every night.!
yah i gotta defensive attitude, i ran and told my mommy on you but she told me to be a big girl.
Joined: 10/7/2007
Msg: 52
Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 11/16/2007 4:15:40 PM
I'm here for the same reasons as anyone else, trying to find a decent person to spend some time with.

I'm a little shy, and have slight social anxiety. I'm not the kind of person who can just go up to anyone and start a conversation, and apparently neither are the couple of close friends that I have. In our society we have become all too disconnected in real life and have become connected through the computer. It's true, there are some young social butterflies on here who will have no idea what the heck I'm talking about, but yes, there is a large portion of people who primarily connect to others through the internet.

Also, I used to think that I was "just starting my life" as you mentioned, and that I had plenty of time, but lately I've realized that life started a long time ago, it goes by so fast that it's scary. Life is so short, why waste it hoping you might meet someone at the laundry mat or at the book store, if the resource is available to you? Why not open your options up? I don't care if I meet someone at the book store or if I meet someone on POF, in the end, it only matters if I MEET someone who I am compatible with.

Besides, I AM a parent, and I will soon be in college, and not too long ago I WAS helping take care of my mother (she had a total hysterectomy), so no, we're not all obligation-free.

Joined: 9/1/2007
Msg: 53
Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 11/16/2007 6:57:36 PM

Why are the young people on here?

Probably a sign of our times - our children have probably grown up feeling scared silly following media outrage and parent's insecurities about the dangers they face in the 'real world' reinforce that. It might follow, then, that they feel more comfortable in a virtual world - albeit with its own inherent dangers - than an exciting, hazardous, learning curve out there. Maybe....

do you feel threatened?

If a man is looking for an age range from young, say 20 through to my age (43), then he's not for me - no threat there. If I were seriously looking, then I do think a woman nearer my own age would be a definite threat to the sort of man I was looking for.
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 54
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Posted: 11/16/2007 7:09:58 PM
I joined last February when I was 25.
At first it was for the wrong reasons. Standard crappy breakup desire to have self-esteem by saying that I was "on the market" again. I won't bore with details beyond that.

I've never been a "bar" guy. I don't generally try to pick up strangers. I don't know many people in the area.... so this (theoretically) would allow me to get to know people before trying to date them.
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 55
Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 11/16/2007 8:01:27 PM
This is the information age. People realize that the world may be "smaller" than what it was 50 years ago(aka more attainable) but that means there is a larger "market" in the dating scene. I have no issues admitting I'm far from a magazine cover, or even your average "hot". Do I consider myself ugly/unattractive? Not at all. But I know there are lots of options out there, whether its through personal networking, job related networking, internet sites, or even the Bar/club scene. So I try all of the above, and see if any thing clicks for me. Honestly, the internet end of things has ended up a bit drier than I expected.
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 56
Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 11/16/2007 8:14:50 PM
I'm double majoring as well as working 2 jobs. I don't have time to try to meet people offline! I sure as hell don't do clubs or bars and while at school, I'm actually trying to study.
Joined: 8/5/2007
Msg: 57
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Posted: 12/4/2007 10:41:30 PM
When I was 18-25 I was way too busy to meet people in bars or online. I am 28 a little older than 18-25 but I am on here because I met people in "real life" that are on here. I talk to them and I have met a few friends, that I would have never met in the tiny town I live in. I am more skeptical about meeting people online then in real life, but in the town I live in you either know the person or know someone who dose. The net is a nice change of pace full of diversity and culture.
Joined: 11/2/2007
Msg: 58
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Posted: 12/4/2007 11:15:38 PM
(from a 21 yo man)

1. Girls had cooties until Jr. High
2. Learning to interact with the cootie-ridden over instant messaging is a poor excuse for real-life communication.
3. It seems so easy for some people. I'm not one of those people. For me, meeting new, attractive, available women is hard, and I can't afford to limit myself. Computer engineering classes are a horrible place to meet women, and Notre Dame has a horrible dating environment as it is.
4. Best of luck to everybody.
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 59
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Posted: 12/4/2007 11:18:59 PM

I can understand older people being here... moms, dads, business, those of us having to care for their own parents etc.... but what I don't understand is the need to be on an internet dating site for all you young, obigation free, im hoping child free, people who are out there just starting your lives. Those again that I assume are out and about having a good time with your peers.....

Why are you here???

Because, thanks to feminism and the ****iness and controlling of women hitting a fever pitch ---- most women are finding that men just aren't interested anymore.

The young men want older women whose entitlement mentality has been dented by a few crow's feet (and the fact they know what they're doing in bed is a big plus). The women are just lonely. Want to order the perfect boyfriend like picking one on Amazon LOLs
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 60
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Posted: 12/5/2007 2:50:40 AM
^ I don't know-- I don't think that it's that men aren't interested anymore.... I think that it's that our gender is having somewhat of a crisis.

The "I don't need a man" mentality of the modern woman conflicts with the preprogrammed desire that many men have to be needed. While some of these women think that it's complimentary, "I don't need a man.... so wanting one makes him more special," it conflicts with the idea that we've been given about what our place is in society. (Note to anyone who is angry at this point: I'm not blaming the women-- far from it... I just think that the massive through shift brought on by the 20th century has to have SOME impact on our minds and interactions. Stop and think for a second: The considerable change in gender roles over the last 100 years change our preconceptions of how life is supposed to be for hundreds upon hundreds of years.)

In short-- I think that many modern men are suffering from a crisis of identity due to the fact that they aren't sure what a "man" is supposed to be anymore. They don't know what their role is supposed to be, what to expect, or how to apply this to their relationships.

I may or may not write more later.... I'm tired.
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 61
Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 12/5/2007 3:07:36 AM
("18-25 yr olds have no lives. some are in school or working working (most of the time both). some have children....")

Or in my case all four!!!!

I come on here to replace my lack of social life!

Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 62
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Posted: 12/5/2007 3:17:06 AM
I'm 24 and I'm on here trying to meet some people down in Sydney before I move next year. I live in a smallish country town and the guys here aren't my type and I'm over (mostly) the club scene as they are just filled with teeny-boppers these days. So being on something like this site lets me meet more of 'my kind of people' that I wouldn't get to meet unless I was on something like this.

Also you say all us 'youngings' are getting defensive, which isn't really the case if you actually read what we/they say. Saying why were here being defensive. After all it IS the question you asked. ;)

In the end it's kinda simple as were all here for the same reason. To meet people.
Joined: 2/23/2007
Msg: 63
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Posted: 12/5/2007 4:09:52 AM
I am so much cooler online...

<**Is now talking in the 3rd person perspective. Alex never hooks up on the internet, but feels its fun to play around on in his spare time. Alex throws up POF gangsigns to represent his e-gangsta self!**

But seriously, the grown-ups are talking now children. Dont take it so lightly, internet is serious business.

This site is good fun, now if it could only get me laid... I dont think I would ever leave the house.
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 64
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Posted: 12/5/2007 5:25:13 AM
because we have every right to be here...just the same as you...why do you care so much?
Joined: 12/1/2007
Msg: 65
Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 12/5/2007 6:37:39 AM

So why should I not be on this site looking for something different. It is just as valid an arena for meeting people as it is for the over 30's. So to even ask that question in the first place astounds me. And to call us kids is a little bit patronizing.

You can say i'm being defensive and maybe i am, but without sounding arrogant, we ( the under 25's) ARE the internet generation. Most of us can type faster than you can think. We learned how to do our annual budgets on this software, rather than transferring them like the slighly older people did. We get our music from it, most of us don't even own cd's anymore. I could go on and on.

I agree with this. Also when you think about the huge popularity of sites like Facebook and Myspace, it only makes sense that young people expand onto dating sites as a way of widening their network.

They are all very busy with their own lives and just don't have the time or patience to go out doing cold approaches to people. (That is even weirder than messaging someone!) Also, people want to expand their social circle a bit - again, nothing wrong with that.
Joined: 6/22/2007
Msg: 66
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Posted: 12/5/2007 9:02:02 AM
I agree absolutely with what most of the responses have been so far.

Being 'young' doesn't make it any easier for us to go about meeting people than it is for the older croud. Granted, we probably chum around with our mates more often in pubs and clubs than most older folks might. But that doesn't mean we automatically have the ability to make new friends any easier than the rest of the lot. And to be quite frank, while I still tend to venture into the outside world fairly often, I've grown quite tired of the riff-raff. I've met oodles of lasses at the clubs, but since when has that been the ideal place to meet anyone anyway? I should cetainly hope not, considering my past experiences. And besides, a lot of social places generally aren't good places to actually 'meet' someone outside of a very limited criteria you might have.

And to get to the point; many of you older folks didn't necessarily have the internet as a viable tool back when you were kids. And that's fine, I understand that. But you're here now, aren't you? Maybe those numbers would be much less if this was something you could have used back then. I don't know. But if this site gets at least one young person to find someone before they become old and looking for other 'alternative' methods, then I suppose it's doing it's job.
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 67
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Posted: 12/5/2007 9:07:12 AM
I agree with the poster who said age has nothing to do with the ability to meet people.
North American society in particular makes it rather tough outside of neighborhood, school or work.
And as for 'child free' , dunno how this looks where you live, but there aren't too many attractive girls in these parts over the age of 16 who are child free.
Joined: 6/15/2007
Msg: 68
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Posted: 12/5/2007 10:36:49 AM
Well for me personally..(I'm 20).. I work nights and during the day Im busy with other obligations so when i get home from work late at night the last thing I want to do is head to a club or bar. This is a relaxing way of being in a comfortable place and chatting with new people, at any time of the day. Old/ young/ parent...doesnt matter, for some it may be about insecurities, lack of time, etc. It's just the easiest way to meet people.
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 69
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Posted: 12/5/2007 10:46:19 AM
you know you're old when you no longer fit in the OP's 18-25 age range .....I actually joined this site shortly before I turned 25, it was a great way to meet friends after moving to a new city <img src= border=0>
Joined: 6/4/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 12/5/2007 12:28:18 PM
young men will be where all the young women are ..and they are on here.

your a fool if you think the old can stop the young from using new technology......its all on the internet now..
Joined: 9/25/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 12/5/2007 4:19:53 PM
We grew up on the internet. I can't remember a time since I've been 13 that I haven't had internet access. I met a lot of my friends from forums so why not loved ones? I work fourty hours a week and go to school full time sometime I really don't have the energy to go out and go to the club. The internet convenient and easy access.

I met my ex online also.
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 72
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Posted: 12/5/2007 4:32:26 PM
I can't speak for all my fellow "youths" haha but I know that theres always something that comes up that prevents me from doing what I had originally planned. This is just another way to put myself out there and who knows? Maybe meet an intellectual and not just another bar hopping jock! lol! Also, I'm bisexual so it tends to be a bit hard on my gaydar to see whose what nowadays hehe so I prefer coming on here and meeting people who are hopefully and in most cases who they say they are. No camouflage and guessing online- Its all usually laid out in the profiles haha
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 73
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Posted: 12/5/2007 4:34:10 PM
If this has been around when I was 18 I would have been here in a second. There's nothing wrong with giving yourself every opportunity to find someone, even the young people sometimes are outcast from their age group and social circles, so they need other ways to socialize. Seems like a pretty self-explanatory question to me.
Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 74
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Posted: 12/5/2007 4:42:00 PM
I'm 25 and have been on here for a while. I work full time, and go to graduate school. I don't have a whole lot of time or money to be going out every night trying to find someone. I'm also really shy. This gives me a chance to talk for a little while to get to know someone so I'm not all crazy nervous if I actually do meet them.
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 12/5/2007 8:00:30 PM
Dear Taralara:

When you say "our children have probably grown up feeling scared silly," you're referring to YOUR children and those of whom else? Certainly not MY mama, considering I've worked and lived in the Middle East without having my Mommy OR my Daddy hold my hand.

Maybe we just know that since all you old folk out there seem to be afraid of having us young hooligans out on the streets to all hours of the night, we're just being nice and keeping ourselves inside so you don't have to worry about us coming and smashing up your garden gnomes... or whatever else your generation thinks we "children" do in our spare time.
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