The problem is you, not the fact you were abused, but you allowed someone to treat you badly and stayed with them. Your descion making is bad, as your self esteem was before you ever met him. Until you work that out, your just going to keep meeting guys like him
I think..this sums it up.....A person should never allow another to treat them badly....simple.
YOU can only look after yourself...in a situation.....don't think the other person is going to change.
It's a fine line to walk now.....don't hold the bitter in but be aware of someone with control issues.
A relationship is about "both" people feeling good about themselves....(self esteem)..