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 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 33
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how d'ya know they have a bad gramma'? she might just be misunderstood..



yeah, it's a lil on the off-puttage side.. but then i type as i speak/think, which isn't always grammatically perfect and often contains made-up words to convey a point.. (..usually that i'm feeling "flip" at the time.. hehe.. ;))

i love the english language, it's such fun to play with
 Banter-er
Joined: 4/18/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:00:00 PM
It really depends on many factors - what was said, how many misspellings and/or poor grammar. I'd also take a look at the profile to get a further idea of how that person expresses themself.

I don't think that people with poor spelling/grammar are "idiots" at all, contrary to some views expressed here. There are many reason why a person might not be strong in these areas, many of which have been mentioned already.

On the other hand - I know myself. Words and language are very dear to me, and I really appreciate a person with a good grasp of the language. Not necessarily a perfect speller, but somebody who can can express themself well and has an interesting (to me) writing style. And the truth is... good spelling and grammar go a long way toward good communication.

So yes - to me spelling and grammar make a difference, but are not the ONLY, or necessarily the most important, factors when deciding whether I want to correspond with somebody further. Regardless, I do usually respond, if only to say I don't see much compatibility.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:17:26 PM
Not usually, a person's intelligence level is important to me and I have no desire to be with an illiterate. If they do not care about how they appear the first time to you in print then chances of them caring about you at all are slim. The same goes for people that email me or post on the forums in cryptic text message form. HW R U?
Use the English language please.
I'd suggest they download a Google toolbar with spell check.
 smuttylittle_1
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 39
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:28:30 PM
Personally, I need someone that is intelligent. If they can't take a few minutes to spell well and use decent grammar for their first impression then I don't think this is someone that I will be able to respect. I don't think that you are being too critical, just honest about what is important to you. Grant it, it may not be way up there on the priorities list but spelling does count.
 vivienne3
Joined: 4/25/2005
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:33:50 PM
Misspelled words and bad grammar I can live with. My misspelling is often the result of the hunt and peck typing style I employ. When I find myself doing cross-overs with my hands, a technique that works on the piano, my words come out in a jumble. If I am chatting with some one I may hit the "enter" key instead of the "shift" key. That has more to do with familiarity with the keyboard ( where in the heck is the "z") than anything else.

My irk lies with the people who write in one long continuous sentence they have at least six distictive thoughts therein these long sentences make it difficult to read and understand I am sure that Mark Twain's work would be less enjoyable if there was no punctuation.
 miss_a-z
Joined: 10/18/2007
Msg: 42
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:37:49 PM
No. Or rarely. I responded recently to an e-mail without a trace of punctuation--I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I should not have, my initial judgment was right. But if they have word after word misspelled, horrible grammar, poor sentence structure, excess use of slang--all of which are usually coupled with (and made worse by) pictures of the person throwing up some gang symbol with three of his 'boys' in the background looking equally as lame. If someone can't even bother to spell correctly or piece a few words together into a decent sentence, then I feel like they are too dumb for me to engage in conversation with and delete the e-mail.
 Rocketgirl4
Joined: 4/14/2007
Msg: 43
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:38:09 PM
FYI.... "to critical" ......."to" is supposed to be ...."too" critical me? You bet I am. Spelling is a direct indicator of a person's intelligence level, to a certain degree. In the case of a new Canadian then it may be excused...for a little while.

I have dated someone like this....it was part of a bigger picture. I call them the "seen" people.... ie. "I seen a nice car today" Makes my skin crawl.
 flyhigher4
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 45
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:04:06 PM
Sorry but it sounds like you may be one of the "bad spellers". I most certainly would not respond to someone with bad spelling and grammar. This only shows that the person is uneducated, lazy and doesn't want to give the effort of spellcheck to make themself seem like a smart adult. Sorry and goodbye!!
 victoriangirl
Joined: 6/21/2007
Msg: 46
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:30:59 PM
[It’s a well known fact that some of the most intelligent people are Dyslexic. ]

Excuse me? Where on earth did you find any documentation to state this "well-known fact"? I've never heard of it.

I think that presenting yourself well in written form is a sign of respect to the person to whom you are writing. If you can't respect me enough to hit your spell-checker, then don't bother. I also agree with the run-on sentence, no punctuation issue. That drives me nuts. ALL CAPS & txt spk is also very hard to read. I'm sorry, but I just don't want to have to work that hard at figuring what someone is trying to say.

Some of you may believe that is being judgemental, but the fact is we all have things that we admire and do not admire in potential mates. I admire someone who knows how to present themselves verbally, and in written form, in a polished manner. Not perfect. I'm not perfect either, but blatant disregard for any rules and guidelines of spelling, grammar, and the like is a major turn-off for me.

And for those of you, who are young enough to still wish to have children with your future mate, do you really think this person is going to be able to assist those children with schoolwork, when they are basically illiterate themselves?
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:52:07 PM
I over look MANY spelling and grammatical errors and almost all punctuation errors. However, when a letter is so poorly written that I end up guessing what the person is trying to say, NO, I do not respond. It's easy enough to tell when a person is just not familiar with a keyboard (as many men are not) but if they fail miserably at written communication then you can pretty much expect that they won't do a lot better verbally.
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 51
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:19:12 PM
Poor grammar is not indication of personality, just lack of education or maybe lazyness. Don't let this prevent you from meting cool people.
 WouldYou
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 52
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:28:55 PM
Perhaps if YOU are so Picky them you should have joined a site where the individuals have to "pay" to join. Maybe if it were a paying site then that would weed out all the high school drop out *lol* See how stupid that sounds? DUH!! No one is perfect.
 m409998m1
Joined: 2/18/2007
Msg: 53
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:34:06 PM
Correct their spelling and grammar and send it back.
 London Lass 59
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 54
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:42:06 PM
Op, should that not be mis -spelt and not misspelled????? if you are being that picky!!
As much as I like to receive a well constructed email, having the odd mis-spelt word does not bother me. However, if the spelling is so bad that I cannot understand the message, that to me is a big turn off. That means that the person has not put much thought into writing to you. I am more inclined to hit the delete button in that instance.......
 mangos33
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 56
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:52:27 PM
Most people don't know the difference between you're and your.
 siciliash
Joined: 11/2/2007
Msg: 57
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:09:15 PM
no , it's a major turn-off .
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:11:40 PM
Wow! curlygirl~ You are for the underdog I like to mention we have a lot of overseas people here Hello ! Europeans , people from many countries give them a break.

Yeah well- I have seen people judge others over superficial things in life.
Really good people who dont deserve it - so yes, I will defend the little guy
if I beleive he is worth defending.
My family were immigrants and did not always have a real good hook
on the language- so yes, I take it personal.

curlygrl~
 MetalVixxn
Joined: 4/4/2007
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:24:26 PM
It's a complete turn off.

I received an email the other day and the man didn't use any vowels I responded in a joking manner that sure, we could go out and I'd introduce him to my friends "the vowels". It went over his head.

I had another man email me - I had to read it three times before I could even guess at what he was trying to say. It was a MESS. I checked his profile and it says he is a teacher.
 simplelady66
Joined: 10/26/2007
Msg: 61
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:56:59 PM
It is not an indication of their intelligence. While I personally re-read all my emails and posts for spelling and grammar errors before hitting send, some don't. Spell check is a great thing also, but believe it or not, some do not know how to use it.

I never base my opinions on something like this. I have kids who are intelligent, yet can't spell worth a hill of beans. Just is the way they are. Nothing the school or I have done will change it, so we give them tools to work around it.

Just my two cents
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:02:13 PM

Op, should that not be mis -spelt and not misspelled????? if you are being that picky!!

"Misspelt" did not seem correct to me in any vernacular, so I've looked for it in an unabridged dictionary and indeed, it does not appear as an acceptable word. "Misspelled" (adv) however is defined as "a word spelled incorrectly". Derived from "mis" meaning: " prefix: (in combination with verbs) meaning badly, or incorrectly. In combination with nouns, meaning bad, incorrect or wrong.
And I would guess that this is an object lesson in first removing the plank from one's own eye before pointing out the speck in another's!
 thebenbenstone
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 63
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:27:26 PM
I'm with you there, I know it's not always their fault if they can't spell well but I find it a total turnoff. Well I am a proofreader, there are heaps of things I can't do but often it's just laziness and when you can't make head or tail of it you just ignore it.
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:31:33 PM
Good land did you open a can of proverbial worms...

Thanks for clarifying the meaning of your ID, they are usually personal to the person, and misunderstood by others.

I actually know a high school drop out that is a better spell than myself. He is very articulate, and I didn't find out about him being a HS drop out until he and I broke up. Heck I am working on a 3rd degree, and he still could spell better than myself.

His good qualities faltered to the point of no return with his lies of omission. Which mind you, if I could have weeded him out just by poor grammar, it would have saved me a from a very bruised ego.

As I have read through the pages of responses, I can appreciate that major grammar and spelling errors does lead a person to not wanting to further communication... However, I still do not believe it should be a major deal breaker, because just because a person is a poor writer. I can promise from first hand experience that just as many that aren't poor writers, can be a worse bet.
 dreadstalker
Joined: 6/3/2007
Msg: 65
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:37:38 PM
Depends on the context in which they mail me.
Not everyone has a dating intent when they mail. Sometimes it is to ask a question., comment on the forums and even every once in a while a compliment.

Of course the fact that I am here for the forums might have something to do with it. Some feel that since I am not looking that I am safe to talk to. Heck sometimes they are even right.
 mark-alan
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 66
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:46:33 PM
No it's not. But just to make sure, make some suggestions for spelling changes. If they bite your head off then drop them. I had this playboy bunny messaging me on myspace who had the IQ of a doughnut. After she spelled "does" D-O-S-E for the third time so suggested a spelling change. Well I learned that she could spell a lot of other four-letter words even if she couldn't spell this one so I deleted her as a friend. What a waste of time she was.
Mark
 London Lass 59
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 67
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:51:42 PM
Don't know what dictionary you were looking in grannie boo, maybe you should look again....... we beg to differ on the spelling of the word, but the meaning is still the same. People who spell incorrectly on a regular basis are lazy and sloppy, and they wonder why their mail gets deleted........!!
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