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 Scotty Mc
Joined: 4/29/2008
Msg: 661
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Page 25 of 54    (14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54)
Let me think about this... No wait lets not bother being ridiculous this is the most laudable and insane concept I have thus far heard on this site.
To consider a persons worth or ability to communicate just from the typed words of a keyboard and deleting messages that don’t have full grammatical poise and decent spelling is looking down your nose at people whom could be
1. Insanely wealthy - have met a scruffy looking poorly spelling fellow that is literally able to buy anything he wants.
2. Skilled in more intimate encounters - such as spoken words and body language. My best example here would be those whom are dyslexic.
3. People feeling low already that may just take this one rude gesture, as the signal the world no longer needs them anymore and decide to do something of a foolish nature.

While I agree poorly spelt letters are an annoyance to read consider more than just this cover and be polite as you never know who can effect a positive change in your life.
That said im glad those who delete the poorly spelt word messages do such things as this to me indicates a much deeper issue the person has which cannot be so simply cured by a short proof read and spell check.
 kwakaman69
Joined: 8/17/2007
Msg: 663
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:31:43 AM
I agree with you wholeheartedly.Arent we here to meet someone special?Who gives a rats arse if they cant spell.I never finished High School though its none of anyones business,but I was always good at english(sometimes)LOL.All I can say is nobody is perfect and you should take people as they are and stop being a bunch of judging arseholes.Get a life.thanks curlygrl for sticking up for the little fellas.
 ils99
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 664
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:29:46 AM
I've been reading these posts and a thought occured to me. If there's anyone here with dyslexia, can someone briefly explain what it affects in a person, and whether someone who's dyslexic has problems with grammar/spelling skills? It's just one day I received an email from a guy who says he "suffers from dyslexia", hence the bad grammar and spelling. I wasn't sure whether to reply or not...

But back to original question, yes nothing worse than having to try and decipher an email O_o... Totally missing the point of online dating. A few misspelt words are ok from time to time, but if they are things like your/you're and where/were/wear then its a turn off and almost gets on my nerves, because bad spelling, grammar and punctuation are pet peeves of mine lol.
 Landscaper
Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 665
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:49:50 AM
Well since i dispised english class in school. I do not see the problem with i verses I , the point i am trying to get acrossed is quite clear and if a few typos and or the lower case i when it should be uppercase is just to anal for me, It is just communication and chatting, Not a buisness proposal. It has no bearing in the least on how someone communicates offline compared to online.
 urinemyway
Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 666
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:57:47 AM

I can't help it, but my B.A. is in English Literature, and I'm a published author .. .so for me, the written word is sacred.
If a man botches is too much I write him off asap.
I don't need a man to be the next Hemingway, but I do need him to pay attention to his grammer...

Anyone else see the ironic humor in this?


If anyone can comprehend what a person is typing,then what's the problem?

The problem is that, sometimes, you can’t comprehend what the person has written.

There may be more indications of a person’s overall intellect but being able to put one’s thoughts into words is a major component, I think. And it’s the nature of language that dictates that being effective in communication means others have to be able to comprehend your meaning. Proper spelling and grammar are vital to the success of any language. I hope! Imagine if you’re trying to assemble some complicated product and the instruction manual is full of misspellings, misapplied words, and weird syntax. Oops – I forgot…most of them are!

If I were learning a different language, I wouldn’t assume that the native speakers would know what I mean if I don’t know the correct words. We should have the same consideration for English. I don’t think it’s some elitist imposition. Those who claim a higher level of intelligence but say they haven’t mastered grammar and spelling can still rise to the occasion – without great expense or tremendous suffering. No one can force you but neither can anyone stop you if it’s what you want to do.

I love reading well-formed correspondence. I think it – coming from a woman – is sexy as hell. She can be telling me to go f*ck myself but if it’s done with style, I’m going to be impressed (maybe I’d even stalk her for a bit to get a glimpse of her very well-written restraining order).

The thought of it is getting me turned on. Think I’ll go masturbate over my dictionary…
 ils99
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 667
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:04:36 AM
Jazz Fan, you hit it right on the spot. I wouldn't be surprised if the average 15 year old of today has lower literacy skills to the average 15 year old from 5 years ago. It's not like those people didn't go to school. Just depends on whether they absorbed what they'd been taught. As for internet speak, I admit I don't always use a capital "i" when using MSN, nor put in commas where necessary, but at least the message still gets through. For example I might type "i dont think its a good idea to go on saturday". Easily understood, no?

And I agree with Classyfied- I don't care to date a doctor/lawyer/million dollar businessman, so the whole idea of me possibly missing out on dating high earners just because I dismiss their bad literacy skills doesn't work for me. In fact as a "high profile" person it's more of a turn off if his literacy skills match those of a primary student... you'd think he could at least better spend his profits on English lessons or something...
As an opening email to a potential relationship, they should at least take the effort to check their email before sending.
 ...rosie...
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 668
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:35:55 AM
at work my secretary checks all my business letters before they go out...i don't have the time to go over everything with a fine-tooth comb before they're sent...........besides it's amazing how the brain compensates and sees things correctly, when at times it's not

often when i write on the poetry forums it's spontaneous and don't catch the errors

i read many correspondence with bad grammar (sometimes on purpose , i might add!)
nope, i don't judge on misspelling or grammar...i judge on heart and soul...

i am the queen of typos...and have long accepted that....
if that bothers you..then it bothers....you

and for those of you who feel grammar and spelling are important, then it's important, to you
(and i respect that)
enjoy the day
rosie.


******
oh, and john steinbeck did his best work when his second wife, carol, did his editing...
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 669
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:58:27 AM

You might be suprized. Just because he may not spell they way you like it he could be a very nice person. I would say someone that judges others in anyway, is a very small minded person, and is not very smart in many ways themselves.

Well, thank you for that fine forensic analysis, Mr. Kindheart. The fact is, however, that everyone judges other people in one way or another; in point of fact, what you said is a judgement.

Not only a judgement, but a wildly inaccurate generalization, too.
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 670
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:00:20 AM

How do you feel about the "one long string of text" emails? You know, the ones with no punctuation, and no capital letters.

Those are very, very hard to read. Considering that this is the internet and the primary organ used is our eye, having a hard-t0-read "string of text" email means that the one who wrote it will not get a second look from me.

No matter how physically attractive.
 ClassyfiedAlly
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 671
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:05:02 AM
Re: Dyslexia ~

can someone briefly explain what it affects in a person

dyslexia [dis'leksi?] noun

a difficulty with reading or writing that some people have because they are unable to see words as meaningful shapes or the differences between letters


My daughter is dyslexic. I remember one time when she was growing up, I asked her to put the TV on channel 13. She walked over there, stood for a minute, then said, "Is that 3-1 or 1-3?" Dyslexics often transpose letters and numbers, making written words look like gibberish to them (b and d is one example). It's a visual perception problem, meaning the brain doesn't correctly interpret what the eyes are seeing.

It can make learning challenging and quite difficult for dyslexics, including my daughter. She recently turned down a job because she would have had to handle money and when she gets stressed (as in under pressure running a cash register), she gets the numbers mixed up. She figured she'd be giving people the wrong change.

She spells pretty well though and doesn't let it stop her from striving. A previous poster said it very well; it's about basic spelling, basic writing ~ not perfectionism. I am far from perfect on the grammar and syntax front, but I do my best and strive to be accurate in what I do. That's the quality I like in another person, not perfectionism.
 lillacbbwny
Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 672
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:06:29 AM
I totally agree with you. I don't mind a misspelled word or two, especially the words that are easily misspelled, after all my spelling is not perfect but there is a limit and I find it disrespectful to not make an effort to send an e mail that one does not have to strain to read. I use the spell check, it is not so difficult.
Laurel
 lillacbbwny
Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 673
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:19:27 AM
I agree with you to a point, I am sure I make spelling errors, I know I am not perfect and I may at times interchange to and too. What bothers me is not the small mistakes but when the mistakes are so bad that it becomes hard to read , when you have to wonder if the person ever sat in a class room. For example i gots to get me some nail pant correction I am going to the store to buy some nail polish.
Laurel
 fox_fire
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 674
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:26:34 AM

I try and cut the person a lot of slack here. This is casual communication and as such my English teacher would have a fit with my writing. We now live in the day of tex- messaging. You know u= you-- etc. what to do? Glad i'm not a english teacher!


Glad I'm not either! Your writing made me run for the Tylenol™.
 fox_fire
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 675
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:33:18 AM

Bad spelling and grammer on the internet used to make me cringe but after a few years I have more or less become used to it and would not dismiss a person because of it. (Unless its text speak which is a different matter!!)

I have come to realise how wide spread poor English is. In my job, I am working in an office with people who have degrees and are senior to me, yet they cannot spell for toffee? However, Mathematics is my downfall so who am I to judge? I have come to accept that poor spelling and grammer is not a true indication of a persons good character, interesting personality, or success.

Indeed there are many people who spelling and grammer is impeccable, but whose personality is dull, boring and predictable. I know who I would rather spend time with


*pssst!* *taps you on the shoulder*
It's grammar honey, *wink*
 honeydoooo
Joined: 5/10/2007
Msg: 677
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:44:58 AM
For heaven's sake, you all need to GROW the F...K up!! Just because a person is not a good speller or an inept typist, doesn't mean that he/she is not worth giving consideration. Remember, you are on a FREE site, where anything is possible!
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 678
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:20:44 AM
For heaven's sake, you all need to GROW the F...K up!! Just because a person is not a good speller or an inept typist, doesn't mean that he/she is not worth giving consideration. Remember, you are on a FREE site, where anything is possible!

So making choices is now an infantile task, is it? I disagree. A woman's ability to spell and/or type is--to me--an indication of how well we might get along in person. It is a choice and it is my choice to make. I do not have to agree with you and you certainly do not agree with me.

Whether I choose to consider dating a woman with no picture, for another example, or one who spells well is MY choice. It is not a matter of a "grow the f..k up" mentality. It is a choice. Others may be making judgements about intelligence or age or attention to detail or whatever, but I make no judgement other than her ability to communicate at my level. And that, as they say, is why the Internet is so fun. There are so many choices available.
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 679
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:27:52 AM
1 einstein was a wonderful scientist would you judge him ?
2 if i was blonde with big boobs would you be asking for my cv?

Madtigger, I think you are confusing "judge" with "choose." We make choices all the time. Whether I want to date a bad speller, a woman who has no picture, or a woman who smokes is my choice. Yes, there are wonderful people in each of those categories just like there are wonderful men who are inconsiderate, who smell bad, who cannot manage money, and who want to date more than one woman at a time. This is the Internet. You can choose who YOU want to date and YOU set the guidelines. All of us do the same. Some of us want good spellers, others want non-smokers, some want both.

As the father of a dyslexic child, I understand first-hand the frustration of that affliction, so I empathize with your predicament. However, to the two quoted points you made, I fail to see how they connect to the topic of Dating Experiences. This is a dating site and I don't recall anyone saying that he or she is perfect. I studied Einstein's life in some detail while I was in grad school. He was a "wonderful" scientist, as you put it, and I would love to have a dinner with him, but I would not date him. Again, my choice.

And your implied generalization that all men love blonde women with big boobs offends me. The answer to that question is no. I would not be asking for your CV. Or a date.
 fox_fire
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 681
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:46:14 AM

Hehe I noticed someone else spelt grammer and they were professing to have a BA in English Literature....ooooops. Anyway as I said in my orginal post, prefuct speeling and grommar isn't everything!


Yes, well they must have xeroxed a copy of someone else's diploma.

As for the gal who claims dyslexia as an excuse? Doesn't fly. Dyslexia has nothing to do with bad grammar or spelling.
Lots of people misuse words such as to, too, and two, or your and you're. There are lots of other examples.
It's called "I was asleep through elementary (primary) school".
 charleston_mom
Joined: 11/9/2007
Msg: 683
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:17:32 PM
It's one thing to have a few typos (although there is spell check - LOL!), but it's entirely another to have multiple grammatical errors to the point where I think someone might have been hanging off the wrong end of a pick up for too long. Honestly, if I get an e-mail from someone who clearly has a very different background, i.e., lack of high school education at the least, it wouldn't be worthwhile to pursue because ultimately there just wouldn't be anything in common. It's not snobbishness to want to spend time with someone that you would have a similar educational background with. It's just common sense. While lust or chemistry might get you somewhere at the start, it just won't go for the long haul. Why get involved with someone you couldn't see yourself spending a lot of time with? Seems to me to be a recipe for both people getting hurt. Relationships are hard enough without starting one off on such unequal footing that it doesn't stand a chance of working out long-term. I think my biggest pet peeve is where there is no punctuation whatsoever. Just spaces. No capitalization, no commas, no periods, just run on sentences with no start or stop. Another peeve is all caps. To me, if someone can't take the time to at least try, it makes me wonder what they do try at. I make typos - everyone does, but I would hope someone would at least make an effort to try to get their prose in some sort of logical order so that the reader can make sense of it. It's almost to the point that it people use phrases like "fr u" or pat little abbreviations, especially mixed up with a thousand little emotion faces, it's too frustrating to try to weed though it and I wonder at the lack of courtesy. So - I may get flamed, but I generally just delete if they are really bad.
 Robi100
Joined: 10/4/2007
Msg: 684
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:51:51 PM
Simple misspellings or a punctuation mark here and there... OK. I'm not perfect either! But really, if it's the first time someone has ever communicated with me, than I appreciate them at least taking the time to spell check and - most importantly - use decent english. If a man cannot at least pretend to sound intelligent in a 3 sentence email, then it's a deal breaker for me.
 fox_fire
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 685
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 1:16:14 PM

Simple misspellings or a punctuation mark here and there... OK. I'm not perfect either! But really, if it's the first time someone has ever communicated with me, than I appreciate them at least taking the time to spell check and - most importantly - use decent english. If a man cannot at least pretend to sound intelligent in a 3 sentence email, then it's a deal breaker for me.


Miss robi? I'm with you on that one. If there are a few mistakes or fractured sentences, I overlook it and chalk it up to rushing and all that, but if it is consistently unintelligible I must then assume that this person may not be very conversational in person on a comfortable level. In that case it may well be a deal breaker.

BTW most chat sites and forum boards have a built-in spell check (this one does), so why does it seem that people ignore it at times?
 migivadamsbusted
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 686
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 1:36:41 PM
I misspell on purrrrrrpuss just to piss peepole off.
 UR 2 girls away from 3sum
Joined: 12/23/2007
Msg: 688
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:57:51 PM

decrying the right of others to select by language ability [while] obviously ... rejecting men for failing to meet some exacting specifications of your own choice.
Yessss.
 ClassyfiedAlly
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 689
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:37:26 PM
BTW most chat sites and forum boards have a built-in spell check (this one does), so why does it seem that people ignore it at times?

Where is it?! All I've seen is a dictionary search option. Please, please, puleeease tell me where the spell checker is?

Whether I choose to consider dating a woman with no picture, for another example, or one who spells well is MY choice. It is not a matter of a "grow the f..k up" mentality. It is a choice.

Exactly. It's about personal preference and choice, not about being mean spirited because we prefer one thing over another. This is the same argument I see in the forums all the time..."Why aren't nice guys given a chance?" "Why aren't big women given a chance?" "Why aren't single moms given a chance?" It is everyone's personal choice to make regarding what they prefer and what they don't prefer. I don't complain because the fact that I smoke will cause some men to not want to date me. So what! It's their choice to make. Please, for the love of God, stop whining about people who might not choose to date you because you aren't good with spelling, English, etc. Just move on to the next person. Doh!
 mimosas1
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 690
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:26:25 PM
No, it's not being too critical. If it bugs you, don't settle for it.
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