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 IThought UWereAHandpuppet
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 9
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True freindship is one of those things about accepting people for their faults.
What a load of crap!!! Does this mean I should be "friends" with dopers, murderers, thieves? Hell, maybe I am, but I just don't know it.

True friendship means being a friend to yourself, FIRST ... choose people who elevate/ support you, your dreams and goals. Normally, one would select people who share a similar perspective on values, interests, lifestyle, etc. If friends make a mistake, one should support them in sorting things out ... but, someone who is chronically involved in a lifestyle that is illegal, predatory or so self-involved that they would use others with no regard for their feelings is not someone that I would consider "friend" material!
 Lfsabch
Joined: 4/27/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/29/2007 9:40:45 PM
if i was in the other situation i would want someone to tell me if i was being played, in my mind its the decent thing to do. my loyalty only follows the path that is most honest
 OOhMeeOhhMy
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/30/2007 6:24:03 AM
to coffee...

well... the difference would be in your situation is that the women know... and they would be making a decision based on all information... and if they chose to be one of 2 or 3... then that is on them... but to be lead to believe that you are the only one and not be is an issue....
 cncgandolf
Joined: 7/29/2007
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Posted: 12/1/2007 6:11:09 AM
"think they are in a commited relationship... from what I understand... they all say he is their boyfriend... and he says he loves them to them... so yes...Result: "

I think the women are being self delusional. Many people say "I love you" without meaning for it to mean an exclusive relationship. Until he expressly says and proves by his actions that it is a committed relationship than it isn't.

She knows he is a player and she is playing with a player. I don't see that as any more loyalty to him or others as his behaviors has anything to do with loyalty. I could have missed a post establishing that he had explicitely promised and demonstrated exclusivity ... but I don't think so.

I know people who think booty calls are fine and who will say "I love you" to their booty call. I call the acquaintances but not friends.
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 OOhMeeOhhMy
Joined: 9/17/2007
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Posted: 12/1/2007 2:18:40 PM
WOW CNC... I don't follow that... I don't get the idea that you can't believe when someone says they love you... if you are having sex and saying I love you... my hope would be that it wouldn't be a booty call scenario.... and yes he calls them girlfriends to his friends... but I guess in your though regimen that doesn't mean anything either.. because when you start throwing the love word around... I would hope it means more to most people then I just love sexing you...
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