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 phishkev
Joined: 9/19/2008
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Gotta say curves-women that are too obsessed with themselves that they are twigs just aren't for me. "Healthy", well that's all relative-moderation is in the mouth of the beholder (!)
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 735
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Posted: 10/11/2008 11:16:21 AM

if you got the Dunlop's disease, you need to change your body type to atleast "a few extra pounds".

Or they should at least write.. It's a fact I drink and my gut it's bought and paid for,, now that wouldn't apply to all men,, and some women might want to write,, I see food,, I eat it,,using the credit card,,,

I'm only playing...
 sugar__cookie
Joined: 9/25/2008
Msg: 740
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Posted: 10/11/2008 2:45:30 PM
hmm.. yes.

I have to say, I'm REALLY starting to get tired of the this idea that "curvy"= healthy and "thin"= unhealthy. what??! being healthy has almost nothing to do with your size, unless you're obese or emaciated. I am underweight according to the bmi index (100 lbs, 5'4" 24 years old) however I have an excellent heart rate, and have been in almost perfect health my whole life. I eat well, but for whatever reason my body refuses to store fat. SO STOP saying that you don't like thin women because you want your women to be healthy. You're making yourself sound stupid.

happy thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians :)
 sugar__cookie
Joined: 9/25/2008
Msg: 743
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Posted: 10/11/2008 5:31:51 PM

And yes, I am fat.


no you're not. and I hope youre not doing any weirdo diets... start a 'couch to 5k' jogging program and I guarantee you'll drop pounds..it worked for my cousin!
 tallshyman
Joined: 1/1/2008
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Posted: 10/11/2008 6:55:03 PM
why no smooth vs veiny penis Thread?
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 10/26/2008 10:49:18 AM
I am with the rock man on this one. Same applies in the reverse. I might not automatically look at the thin guy, but that doesn't stop me from having them as lovers and being attracted to them. Variety is the spice of life.

I do however feel that women who say they are curvy when they are clearly bbw (my definition of bbw is anyone who does not fit into a s m or l) is a bit of a denial. There are also the women who are curvy and define themselves as bbw. Clearly a grey area I think.
 bigsexyteddybear
Joined: 8/22/2007
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Posted: 10/26/2008 12:05:27 PM
I don't think it really matter what a woman looks like so long as she is attractive to me. I have dated ladies of all sizes and tend to prefer ladies that are rubenesque. If feel the only true disservice to women is the fact that many do not accurately list themselves in the right category. I see many ladies who are plus size (BBW) and they list themselves as "a few pounds overweight". Come on, who are you fooling? It would be like me listing myself as a few pounds overwright....sure compared to a guy who is trying to set the world record for being the fattest man, I might be several hundred pounds less, but I am sure as hell not a "few pounds overweight" ... But getting out the insurance industry chart is not really fair either, everyone is different. And different people carry weight differently... At some point it doesn't matter what you 'label' yourself, its all going to be what others see. You can be fat, happy and confident or thin, unhappy and lack confidence. Size is not relative to your outlook on life.

Quote from rubenesquepersonals.com
"What makes a woman Rubenesque?
Quite frankly, beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. And today, when most people think of an attractive woman in the fashion sense, they usually imagine a slim-hipped waif with hollow cheeks, narrow shoulders, and a rather unremarkable bustline. This is what commerce has brainwashed modern society into believing is the ideal woman. It is a lie, propagated by marketing forces and fashion designers who use the obsession with a slender female form as a means to earn millions of dollars selling weight-loss products and other health routines. But some of us know better. There is another female form that has been idealized for centuries. She is the familiar hourglass or pear-shaped woman of wide hips, an ample bust, plump cheeks, soft-full lips, and a generally healthy profile of alluring curves and crevasses. She is the Rubenesque Woman. Elegant. Cultured. Educated and Beautiful. In fact, the very word "rubenesque" originates from the adorable plump women so frequently put to canvas by Renaissance Master Peter Paul Rubens.

Rubens paintings were so treasured because he painted the lovely women that he saw around him. In Ruben's time, what are today called plus-size, ample-bodied, full-figured, or pleasingly plump, were considered very attractive, if not the most sought after of all women. A firm heavy bust, complimented by shapely hips were physical features that women of Ruben's day could be proud of. In fact, the fashion of those times exaggerated these very features. Even slender women struggled into agonizingly tight-fitting corsets and brassiers that held the mammaries upright so as to enhance their God-given curves. Sadly, today these concepts of female beauty are all but lost. Even the over-used term BBW { big beautiful woman } seems an attempt to force a positive image upon women who should be regarded as comely, just as they are!"
 Willsniffurundies
Joined: 4/7/2008
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Posted: 10/26/2008 4:47:03 PM
I will not discuss emotional involvement here. Obviously, that would influence how we all see things.
Objectively-speaking, I have to ask HOW do you define curvy?
Obese women sometimes refer to themselves as "curvy". . .so the first thing the OP needs to do is define the term.
FAT does not equal curvy, okay?
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 11/7/2008 6:38:43 AM
according to statistics.......the average pant size of American women is
a size 12 - 14

but hell.....it's just a number.....just like age is a number....
If your preference is different.....that is fine.....
but there is absolutely no reason to be mean or hateful to someone who isn't of the size u prefer.
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 11/13/2008 12:17:00 PM
If men don't love curves, they definitely need to leave me alone.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 11/13/2008 3:48:32 PM
For me the key is if you have an overall level of health.... when weight causes health issues then you are overweight....
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 11/14/2008 8:02:19 AM

That is why i dont like when guys say , i wont date a girl who weighs more then 150 , because it may look "fat" on one girl . but on another , it is perfect.

I agree with this totally. An athletic girl may have extra lbs on her just from muscle weight tho she may not have any body fat at all. While a woman who's actually got more body fat and doesn't work out at all may weigh less from less muscle...a flat weight doesn't always tell you anything.

I am a little over 5'6" and my BMI is 20.8. For my frame my ideal weight according to charts is 128-133, but that doesn't allow for muscle weight. I've been guessed at 125 many times, but I'm solid muscle and weigh in at about 132-136 depending on what time of day I get on a scale. Without muscle weight I'd easily be 130 or less...but the extra muscle tone actually burns calories more efficiently for me and makes me feel and look healthier.

That being said, I am also all curves...
 ceaser_73
Joined: 11/7/2008
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Posted: 11/14/2008 12:58:28 PM
HOTTIE I dated a girl that was curvy. She had a big upper body as far as shoulders and back,(of german descent) wasen't really big breasted, had a great set of legs,calves,thighs,feet, nice butt, and was very cute in the face. She wasen't no CHEWBACA by far. She wasen't always comfortable with herself but all women are thier own worst critic. I never had a problem with her and found her attractive in many other ways.
Myself a women doesn't have to be perfect, if she is attractive in the areas of interest that are fitting to a persons liking well then it is all good? It all depends on how the eyes register to the brain. Everybody has thier own preference.
 ceaser_73
Joined: 11/7/2008
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Posted: 11/14/2008 12:59:20 PM
HOTTIE I dated a girl that was curvy. She had a big upper body as far as shoulders and back,(of german descent) wasen't really big breasted, had a great set of legs,calves,thighs,feet, nice butt, and was very cute in the face. She wasen't no CHEWBACA by far. She wasen't always comfortable with herself but all women are thier own worst critic. I never had a problem with her and found her attractive in many other ways.
Myself a women doesn't have to be perfect, if she is attractive in the areas of interest that are fitting to a persons liking well then it is all good? It all depends on how the eyes register to the brain. Everybody has thier own preference.
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
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Posted: 11/14/2008 1:42:38 PM
There are attractive women from both body types. However some women would label themselves as curvy ( or a few extra pounds ) when they are actually obese.
 blueeyed_one
Joined: 10/2/2008
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Posted: 11/14/2008 2:46:37 PM
Curves in all the right places is good. I quite like a toned look too though. I suppose slim with large breasts and toned legs is ideal.

I prefer a few extra pounds to being too slim.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 11/14/2008 3:18:35 PM
WOW.......you must be really proud of yourself.....especially when you have to go flaunting how "curvacious" you are on a curvy vs slim thread!!
Now if i had to judge you by your photos id say you were slim/verging on the thin side.....with a few muscles on show.......fair fcuks to ya........but im guessing theres REAL curvy women on here who would love to show you a pic of "real" curves.
Muscle doesnt = curves..........fat does!
Do yourself a favour and stop flaunting yourself as a curvy woman.....when your anything but!!

My point was that:

1. Curvy does not always mean "fat".
2. A certain weight does not always mean fat or thin in itself, even when accompanied by height.
3. If you saw pics of me from the back, you'd know I had curves because I have a JLo ass that I don't like but people seem to think is a highlight...and you'd have spared yourself that...was it a rant? I don't think curves means one thing to all people....but if you do, well that's fine.

I apologize to the masses, I thought I had curves but was mistaken. When do I get to choose my last meal (pun intended) before the blindfold/cigarette?
 blueeyed_one
Joined: 10/2/2008
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Posted: 11/14/2008 3:21:39 PM

I apologize to the masses, I thought I had curves but was mistaken.


You are hot!
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 824
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Posted: 11/14/2008 4:41:55 PM
Personalty I have no idea what curvy verses slim really means, any more, same as a few extra pounds,.


People say guys love curves but do they really

What the word curves means to me, is the woman has distinct definition as it relates to the out line of her body,, For example the look I like, would be 34 -36 b or C, /perky with my eyes closed, I can follow with my hands from her jaw line, down her slender neck, feel her shoulders beneath my hands as I feel her collar bone, down to her breasts, to her sides/under arms, slowly trace her body with my hands and feel them moving in toward towards her waist, as my hands rest there a second as her hips just cup my hands so the don't slide off, then my hands move out word as my hands travel along her hips, stopping, then reaching from behind to the small of her back, I can move my hands towards her butt, her butt extents out wards a little, as her cheeks are firm with a little jiggle,,, sliding my hands down to the back of her thighs , I feel a firmness in them, then to the front of her thighs, as my hands move to her calves, they are firm as well,,


In a society where slim is favoured

see above...

I have no idea about body fat, muscle mass, height to weight ratio, or any thing else, i just know what I find appealing to me, However that by no means suggests women who do not fit what I described for me, are not attactive, because they are, and in a perfect world that is what I would like,, and because I'm far from perfect, how could I ever expect some else to be...
 TodaysCatch
Joined: 4/12/2008
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Posted: 11/15/2008 1:38:25 AM
Slim, slender, svelte. What would I do with all that extra woman? Most women think they deserve bonus points for having big boobs. I could care less. All my female relatives have ginormous ones, so I tend to like smaller busted women. Non child-bearing hips is a plus in my book. A nice a** and legs beats big breasts consistently. A well-turned ankle is the cherry on top.
 JustMary65
Joined: 5/26/2008
Msg: 834
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Posted: 11/15/2008 5:47:11 AM
I'm neither curvy or slim---I'm ROUND---and seeing ROUND is a shape...there fore I'm shapely----maybe not the SHAPE that is politically correct, but I'm learning it doesn't much matter, because for each person whose uninterested in my shape there appears to be about 5 more who are....LOL!!

I prefer men with dark skin, hair, and eyes--and with broad shoulders and big hands. That being said, if a person is kind, funny and treats me well I don't much care what package he comes in...because as we age so too, do our bodies.


I got shapely curves-----so the ride might be scary----but it's still fun.
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 844
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Posted: 11/15/2008 10:59:34 AM
CJ

I guess my biggest beef with this thread ist the title itself.. Just due to the fact that Slim women are also curvy.. In fact their curves can be seen more due to the fact that they are slim.


I agree,


I just think a lot of overweight women, fat women use the term curvy just due to the fact that they can't come to gripse with the fact that they are fat. So they come up with all these waterd down terms Cuvry, BBW, and so on


I agree again, however, when it comes to describing ones body, we all need to be honest, for example, I'm considered, slender, skinny, toned, even athletic, although some woman like that look in a man, their are others, who like big, husky, a few extra pounds, large, muscular, defined, I used me as an example, because I get to judge me instead of letting other do it.

I think there are only to things to consider, the first being the most important, are we happy and comfortable with the way our body is, (if not it's up to change it if we can, meaning medical issues aside)

Secondly, Putting personality and all other things aside, Is that man or woman attractive to the opposite sex, well that would depends on the other man or woman's with their personal choices and what they find appealing or attractive to them, Now if someone find me not attractive or to skinny or for what ever reason, I'm certainly not going to try and change their view of me, because I personally do not care, as long as I am happy with myself.

Some people find the terms, skinny, slim, fat, overweight, curvy, offensive to themselves, and I believe it's because they are not happy with their appearance.

Does it really matter in the end.. what or how someone else views us, "I say no"

I think it's always good to remember, when you or I look at a man or woman, we make a call whether she/he has the body we like, it's not about that particular woman or the man, it's about us , and our choices in what we like. it's never about the other person.
 ImAHotMess
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 852
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Posted: 11/15/2008 12:08:05 PM
I am inbetween. I am not fat, far from skinny, just really stocky. I am also in a great workout plan and diet now, that should have me smokin hot in about 3 months. I was another horse accident 3 months ago (Damn jump got in the way.), and FINALLY back in the gym again. I am keeping the horse but not riding for a while...lol I try to stay fit, and refuse to become "fat." I have a few pounds to lose, and I do not like feeling tired or out of shape. I am constantly on the move and like to be fit. I do NOT want to be "skinny" (ewwww) I just want to get cut up and lose the body fat. I am built big genitically anyway, so I am not going to fight what God gave me. But I think I look pretty good for being 38. :) A guy will either like me, or he won't. I really do not care. At least I am real.And happy with who I am. That is all that matters. Anyone can do anything they want with their bodies. It is all about dicipline, and how bad they want it.
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 853
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Posted: 11/15/2008 1:30:56 PM

Actually most of us do, but when you start comparing the real women on POF to Beyonce and Shakira, what do you think you are doing? You are furthering the media's machine. I didn't think this was a difficult concept to get.


Funny the two women you mentioned,, I have no clue they are. may be if I saw them I would. But, men experience the same thing, with "some woman" the fantasy, of them meeting or being with, Paul Newman, Robert Rexford, Tome Cruse, Richard Gear, Denzel Washington, the list goes on,, Yes they are all attractive men. Do I need to compete with them,, No,, I say no because anyone who thinks we are more or less of a man, because of who they are that man has issues. That would hold true for woman as well.

Those actors/actress are people just like you and us, the difference is, they have a staff of professionals who take care of them, and are made to look good so to speak.

I really don't think men and woman are comparing, some just have a fantasy of what they would like,, and to dream is a good thing,, as long as we know where those dreams start and reality begins.

As for little girls being ridiculed by boys as they were growing up,, I agree it's wrong, and I'm ashamed to admit it, I was one of those stupid little boys, However, the same thing happens to little boys, they can be called nerds, skinny, fat, you pick the word. it's unfortunate that went on years ago, and still goes on today.

That said, here is the problem, if by our early or mid twenties, we men and woman can't let that go,, it's us who now have the issues, what happened to building your own self worth/confidence, if that hasn't been achieved by now,, it's time to seek professional help, in my opinion. That would be another topic in another tread.

If find it quite interesting how many, let society speak for who we are, but rather, it should be us, who speaks for who we are, listen to ourselves, and not others.

wildheart, I think you stated somewhere, that someone mentioned you were a bag of bones,, Now in my opinion, your body type is perfect as I see you, the problem with that is, that just my view, no matter how true I believe it is.

Oh that Richard Gear thing, I spoke with a woman friend of mine a few weeks back, I haven't spoken with her for over 30 yrs,, and during our conversation,, I asked,, do you still have a picture of Richard Gear on your refrig. she said yes, we laughed, my point, she is attracted to that man for what ever reason, my point is, when we dated 30+ yrs ago, I'd see that picture and say to myself, WTF is up with that.. well knowing I never had to compete, because I wouldn't have anyway, I most likely would have lost anyway, just by the mere fact Richard was a fantasy.. women don't have to compete either,, if they do, it's their own insecurities that make them do so..
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