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 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 100
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?Page 4 of 15    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15)
50 shades.
How well do you do with that attitude? Plus no pics. I think you will be on dating sites a long while lol!
There are not plenty who will give it up early unless they have low self esteem or are high. Or just want casual and will be that way just about anyone. A decent man does not want that sort of woman I would suggest.
 baldguy500
Joined: 2/9/2010
Msg: 101
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 8/28/2012 4:53:56 PM
if i like her and enjoy her company and spending time with her then yes i would still date her if she never sleeps with me.....

if she lives on a hill she won't do it but her sister will!!!!!!!
 Phil_an_derer
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 102
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 8/31/2012 5:04:45 AM
You are never "sure" until and after sex anyway....
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 103
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 8/31/2012 6:06:44 AM
well if it takes more than two dates for me to charm the pants off a chick .. either one or two things ..either shes got some splaining to do..as in .. i want you but im not ready ...or im getting over a bad relationship and im just not ready ..or I dont believe in sex before commitment ..or .. basically any reason she might have as long as she communicates it to me ..as long as i know she likes me and wants me i can wait if need be ..if she dont either drop the panties or explain why ..im going to figure ..shes just not that into me ..and i will cut my losses..and look for someone that finds me irresistible
 Imp1964
Joined: 3/22/2012
Msg: 104
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/1/2012 8:17:53 PM
I would not have a problem. I would want to make sure she was right for me before things got too carried away.
 Greggerz
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 105
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Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/4/2012 6:14:49 AM
I have no problem with it. I dated a girl for 6 months, we never went past kissing. I was willing to wait and not push the matter because I liked her.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 106
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Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/4/2012 8:13:12 AM
For me it's more, would she still date me if I won't sleep with her?
 tallshyman
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 107
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Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/4/2012 9:38:32 AM
yes I am happy just being with a woman.
 ronald13579
Joined: 2/2/2012
Msg: 108
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/4/2012 8:52:49 PM
sex some times spoils the fun !
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 109
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/5/2012 10:28:12 AM
date her and make out with her. just realize you might not be getting sex and be happy with that.


"Making out" smacks of high school; it's nothing more than a tease---which is why I don't engage in it.

When we are both ready to have sex, that's the time when "making out" will occur. I prefer to call it "foreplay".
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 110
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/5/2012 12:06:11 PM
"Making out" smacks of high school; it's nothing more than a tease---which is why I don't engage in it.

Oh, I don't know about that. Maybe super-heavy, steam-up-the-windows making out sessions and cutting it off there could be considered that... but making out on a playing-kissy-face scale isn't high schoolish. I think some women (and men) can get wound up just by that, too -- and will avoid it if they don't want to have sex yet... or think they'd be giving a guy the wrong idea if they did... but I think plenty of people are fine with playing kissy-face and leaving it there, much the same as going to "2nd base" and leaving it there, or going to "3rd base" and leaving it there. Some people enjoy it, in and of itself! :)

Back to the main topic... I think there's an inaccurate myth that has always been around that a guy MUST sleep with a woman on a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th date -- or is downtrodden if he doesn't. That's not true. Whether he's very wholesome or far from it, if he likes the girl, he wants to garner her interest and see that demonstrated in one form or another as things unfold. And some form of sexual relations (kissing is obviously one of them) would be needed yes, and as things progress, such relations progress either in frequency or, of course at some point, in depth (no pun intended).

Guys (and many girls) don't want the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th date to be re-enactments of a near handshake-and-lemonade 1st date with slightly different scenery in the background. They'll lose interest fast.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 9/5/2012 12:38:30 PM
I can wait a month or so if I think she's truly special, but longer than that and we're not likely to share important attitudes and beliefs so I'd eventually break things off if there's no progress. Having lived through a miserable, almost sexless marriage, I know sexual compatibility is too important to delay exploration for long.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 112
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/5/2012 7:26:10 PM
Not all men think less of a girl if she has sex on the third date. It depends on the connection and the communication betwen them. However I am always surprised at how many women give it up on the first date and then wonder why the guy does not call them again. Some things never change and men have double standards often.
If a guy is really keen he will wait until the girl is comfortable and if he puts pressure on, then I would move on.
 all-4-1-87
Joined: 8/30/2012
Msg: 113
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/5/2012 7:45:12 PM
im not the kind of guy to jump into having sex, it always changes things in some way or another. if youre liking how things are going keep on what youre doing and wait. plus itll see if it seperates him from just wanting a piece of ass or a piece of your heart
 Cortezfire
Joined: 9/2/2012
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Posted: 9/6/2012 8:03:31 PM
Yes i would....The relationship isn't all about sex. If i can have a cuddle with her and we connect then i wouldn't mind at all.
 ezgoin1965
Joined: 7/25/2010
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Posted: 9/6/2012 11:14:53 PM
of course id keep seeing her ..if you are older than 15 and still cant see when a womans leading you on to manipulate you or the guy is just workin on the next notch on his headboard..well you have more important isssues to worry about
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 116
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/6/2012 11:35:08 PM
Without a doubt, yes.
 borodino
Joined: 10/9/2011
Msg: 117
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/15/2012 7:33:52 PM
I would go as far as six dates or so. At over 60 it isn't worth waiting any longer. Those that start off as such are more likely to have additional dates. That is if they're any good.
 KratosSpawn
Joined: 10/24/2010
Msg: 118
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/16/2012 8:51:19 PM
I would because women have sexual needs and if they are not getting that dealt with through you, then someone else is handling that for the most part. I would not want to be in that position unless I too was being statisfied else where.
 foxyChristine
Joined: 11/7/2010
Msg: 119
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/17/2012 6:50:09 AM
ok so what if u r just so attracted and he seems so perfect . the connection is there and u have sex on the first date. he makes plans for second date but doesn't talk to u after saying good morning hugs and kisses. his exact words i may not think i am perfect but i am to him in always. it was like a teenage crush amazing . oh there was some heavy making out him kissing my head rubbing my back damn it was nice. seriously do u think i will ever hear from him?
 republicofrock
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Posted: 9/17/2012 1:55:28 PM
Of course, unless you're dating the person specifically to have sex with them. Do you buy a bike and then immediately jump into the Tour de France? Last time I checked sex doesn't work like it does in porn. You can't just offer somebody a couple of dates and then expect them to "put out" like a woman is some kind of machine or something. F***in' ridiculous wankers.
If you expressed your desire to wait until the right time, stick to your guns. You'll see whether he's "sponegeworthy" (Please tell me someone got that Seinfeld reference) or not before long. Don't compromise for someone who is constantly asking you to compromise your standards.
 theluvbug71
Joined: 9/3/2012
Msg: 121
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/17/2012 11:43:06 PM
yes I wud still date her. it doesn't matter about sex in a relationship. what really counts is if u lk each other, if u click, n if u feel that u cud be with this person forever. to me, sex should come when the time is right for both individuals. the part ov having sex on ur first, or second date cud ruin it. depending on the couple.
 masterotaku
Joined: 7/20/2012
Msg: 122
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/17/2012 11:48:37 PM
I suppose I just never have understood how such an obvious and easily enjoyable activity as sex could ruin anything.

People blame sex (or a lack thereof) for things that often have very little to do with sex.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 9/18/2012 8:05:36 AM
I have plenty of friends I don't have sex with, so she could become a friend, perhaps, if sex weren't going to happen for a long time or at all. I see sex as a necessary part of a romantic relationship at some point - within a couple of months, anyway. I can compromise to that extent, but have never needed to.
 JoeClyde0853
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 124
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/18/2012 11:18:54 AM
I think after awhile. You are both adults. When women want you to wait months. That to me seems to be game playing.

Do you think a woman would make their "dream guy" wait for months. Even if she knew it was a one night thing. Of course not. So why is she making you wait.

If a guy plays into that. He risks having a woman use sex as a controlling tool. The relationship is doomed before it begins.
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