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 masterotaku
Joined: 7/20/2012
Msg: 125
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?Page 5 of 15    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15)
I love it when people start throwing the slut and diseases argument around. While it is more likely than getting struck by lightning, actual infection rates are....less than 1/2 of 1% of the population. A number that would likely plummet if we stopped with the sexual double standards and truckloads of taboo laden misinformation.

Sex is one of the most basic aspects of human existence. It's a tad sick how so much of society focuses on it in such a negative fashion, which is totally unnecessary.
 justanormalman2121
Joined: 6/25/2012
Msg: 126
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/23/2012 1:42:54 AM
No of course you would never hold any thing against a women who didnt want too go too bed with you, and have sex or make love. She is entitled too make her own mind up when she is ready. Women want the package and they will wait and let trust develop and if there isnt enough trust or committment then a women will not go too bed and that is good. Great sex is important in a relationship, but so is trust, knowledge, and love, i mean anyone can have sex for a night but it takes a real man too hang on too that special lady and treat her like a princess all the time and be there for her ok.
 stovo82
Joined: 7/17/2012
Msg: 127
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/23/2012 7:20:03 AM
so he paid for everything on the date(s) and you did not return the favour.
porn culture socially engineers males into the belief that females must put out or get out.
no wonder guys cheat or see sex workers, porn culture society has conditioned us into getting what we want now.
 Darren_Wildchild_Kelly
Joined: 5/14/2011
Msg: 128
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/23/2012 9:06:08 AM
Personally it wouldn't bother me all that much, If you have any respect for a girl anyway you'll wait and see how things pan out. Not all girls think like guys, they prefer making out, cuddling etc then work up to it, then I guess you have your s l u t s that just sleep with a guy as soon as they meet up. . . . Thats how you'll get VD
 Angelsbigheart
Joined: 7/30/2011
Msg: 129
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Posted: 9/23/2012 1:51:11 PM
I think Meofelo sorta hit a nerve!!

ONLINE dating is a different creature all together because you DO take time to actually make some sort of 'connection' prior to meeting in RL (well, most do I think) and that first meeting is to just find out if the connections made online, Texting and via other not in person ways actually carried over into the flesh so to speak!!

This is where I end up hitting a wall in regards to the sex issue!! IF that connection DOES carry over into the 'flesh'... then for me I'm only a few dates away from wanting to completely jump your bones!! HAHA Sadly though, like many have said here... guys tend to have the mentality that girls/women who 'give it up too easy' (within the first few dates) are DISPOSABLE and NOT WORTHY or serious consideration!! :(

I think this is a VERY sad thing and a HUGE mistake on a guys part!! Women have the ability to connect with men in MANY MORE WAYS than just sex!! So if we've been chatting for a while (say every day for 2-4 weeks) then for ME that could count as 2 dates a week... so by the 4th week we've been on 8 dates theoretically!! HAHA

I wish guys would realize this because just because a woman make a strong enough connection with you PRIOR to meeting in RL and is TOTALLY feeling you when you DO meet in RL and decides it ALL FEELS RIGHT and goes for it... that does NOT mean she's easy, a slut, or UNWORTHY of keeping around!! She could be your dream come true... if only given the chance!! :)
 zizou7
Joined: 3/12/2012
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Posted: 9/25/2012 9:30:59 AM
i think, or better said i would sure go, because is better to have a freind then only sex!!!
after words each person has a different opinion!!!
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
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Posted: 9/25/2012 9:53:29 AM
Sure...I'll 'Date' her...but I'll make every effort to show her that with manners, personality and respect...
she'll _Want_ to sleep with me..!!
Afterall...my Main goal in sleeping with a Lady...is to ~ Please Her! ~
 dartmouthjames
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 132
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/25/2012 11:13:25 AM

Personally, sexual compatability is essential. The sooner this is determined the better. Just sayin, Don't waste time , money, or emotions.


The end.
 NCnavetG8r
Joined: 9/7/2012
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Posted: 9/25/2012 11:36:03 AM
I think it highly depends on expectations from the start. Some guys are just out to get laid, so yeah, they're not going to stick around if they aren't getting it. Me, I'm just looking for a friend to get out of the house and do things with. If more develops fine, if not I can go with that too. Last night I had a "first meet" with a very nice lady. We have so much in common and seemed to get along great. I wasn't picking up any signals that indicated she might be seeing anything beyond basic friendship from her, and I was ok with that. I mean I think we're going to have a lot of fun doing things we both enjoy doing together. I'm not going to ruin what seems like it could be a great friendship by refusing to see her more just because we didn't seem to have a sexual spark. Of course things can change too, maybe as we spend more time together something will spark later on. I'm not going to get all stressed over it either way. Just go have fun and take life as it comes. I honestly believe that's the best way.
 wildlifelover79
Joined: 8/15/2012
Msg: 134
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 9/30/2012 11:54:55 AM
I would never date a woman if she wasn't going to sleep with me. What is the point of being with a woman? I have no problems making friends with my male friends. I don't want any female friends. In my opinion, I am only looking for a woman for a committed relationship with sex. Sex is important in a relationship.
 dondea
Joined: 12/10/2007
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Posted: 10/4/2012 8:57:06 AM
Wildlifelover79:
I would never date a woman if she wasn't going to sleep with me. What is the point of being with a woman? I have no problems making friends with my male friends. I don't want any female friends. In my opinion, I am only looking for a woman for a committed relationship with sex. Sex is important in a relationship.


For the most part, I agree with you. However, I already have a few female friends without the sex. But, DATE them? No, because you are trying to have a relationship with a woman and sex and intimacy is important in a lasting relationship.
 Bakulu
Joined: 9/24/2011
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Posted: 1/4/2013 1:00:10 PM
not having sex right away is actually a good idea. then again a mans mind is cleared after sex and thus he can make accurate and unpresumpptous desicions....sometimes he finds out he didnt really like that girl at all he just wanted her skins.

i dont put out till at the least 3rd date
 DeepLivelySoul
Joined: 10/17/2012
Msg: 138
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/4/2013 1:25:08 PM
Sure why not sex is fun and all but it's not everything.
 rob4320
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 139
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/16/2013 11:35:05 AM
Hard to say.
Lets say if she does sleep with me I will know we wont have sexual issues and I will want to see her again.
 ladysuccubus
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 140
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/16/2013 12:15:50 PM
Yes, he has to be on you by the second date and if you also don't go dutch on the first date he will leave you too. LOL
 sexguy2012
Joined: 4/27/2012
Msg: 141
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/16/2013 1:57:58 PM
I rather all or nothing.
If I knew there would be nothing more I would abstain from making out, it's not right.
In the end it's communication, honesty, no using or messing around.
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 142
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/16/2013 5:53:58 PM
If you do the hot and heavy make out session and stop , depending on where you let him grab you . He either going to want you more or figure you are just a teaser and give you the boot.
 Dan0777
Joined: 11/19/2011
Msg: 143
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/17/2013 1:49:43 AM
I would. If she'd like to take it slow I'm fine with it. I could wait a year + for the right girl.
 scorprockscorps
Joined: 12/25/2012
Msg: 144
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/17/2013 1:58:56 AM
Sure, waiting's better since you're not left thinking, "if she went right to bed with me, she probably does that with other dates so maybe it wasn't anything special to her." :)


well wth thats the thing, I had a thread kind of like this but got deleted for wha?? meh..

Anyway I guess I'll ask here: what if a date makes you wait[ because she "really likes you"] but dates multiple guys and doesn't make them wait? Then do you keep waiting because she wants something more with you other than a physical relationship while she's physical with everyone else? Or do you move on let her go sleep with whom she wants until she's ready to settle down with one guy???

If "your girl" is sleeping with everyone but you, you're going to be left thinking a whole lot of things.

I really needed an answer and got one epic one before it disappeared. Something like some women will only give a guy certain positions and make another guy wait for other positions bc he hasn't somehow" earned" them yet.. wth..I had to wash out my eyes with bleach after reading that...

Reminds me of this girl i had sex with but wouldn't do oral bc I wasn't "special" then i looked at her like she was an alien and she knew that wasn't right so it was all good....le sigh* i want my fn' thread back this bugs the crap outta me.
 Blanketthenegitive
Joined: 12/20/2012
Msg: 145
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/17/2013 2:09:46 AM
Well I don't expect it on the first date.............and maybe she's old fashoin with morals which is fine, but I'm not going to hang around much longer just to be put in the friends zone................
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 146
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/17/2013 3:13:50 AM
Besides, if she goes straight to bed with you, ya gotta figure she does that with others as well.


Why do you "gotta figure that"? Maybe it mean's she found you irresistable and didn't choose to make you jump thru multiple hoops or "earn" sex the old fashioned way and you should be GRATEFUL,not judgemental or jump to conculsions about her lack of "morals".

And the question was:


Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?


I think the OP meant would you date a woman if she never slept with you?

Most guys would say.HELL TO THE NO!

That's not dating!
 Funguy446
Joined: 12/31/2012
Msg: 147
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/17/2013 4:13:08 AM
I'd find it kinda nice I think the more the challange the better the reward sometimes .
 poeticlove3
Joined: 11/16/2012
Msg: 148
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/17/2013 11:31:26 PM
I think the girl should wait as long as she want's too, and if the guy can't wait then he clearly was not the right guy for her.
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 149
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 1/18/2013 12:02:06 AM
People do date without sex. It's called FWB. (friend withOUT benefits)
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