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 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 520
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Well one day maybe i will be as good and successful as you Greeneyez, one can only hope.



Anyhow Green, all the best to you as I know you have been very successful in your dating life, just remember not everyone has the same results or we all would be the same.


ROTFLMAO ~ are you on crack???? I haven't dated in three years. I'm not sure where you get your information, but if I were oh so successful, do you honestly think I'd be here on POF? That is ridiculous.

It's never a good idea to project your failures onto someone else ~ it creates bad dating karma. Don't think we need any of that. Excuses are excuses. You set your own limits in life. You tell yourself that it's location, you tell yourself it's the women, you tell yourself it's lack of sexual prowess, blah blah blah. The reality has nothing to do with any of those things. People are just people. If you deem all people into one category, the problem isn't all those people, it's how you perceive things. It's how you view life. The only difference between you and me, I don't blame anyone for my failures, faults/flaws, or generally skewed view of dating ~ I only control me and my thoughts/feelings. No one is going to want anything to do with me if I don't want anything to do with me.

Sigh.
 ladyrcmt
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 523
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Posted: 2/12/2007 4:02:30 PM
gotta defend verygreeneyes for a moment champ...
tho your last point about yourself was acurate to a degree, you have, in many diferent threads on the same subject, spoken what seems like alot of open hostility towards women who date younger men..hence, the impression you are laying the blame on them.
i think verygreeneyes has repeatidly made some beautiful points about living, and in my opinion, she did so with the intention of helping you (...with your attitude which may be the biggest turn off about you of all....who knows.)

also....you are not alone in your frustrations and heart aches in the dating world.
i mean how many members are on here??? and that is just this site.

love is a gift really. there is no rhyme or reason to it...but having an open heart and an open mind to all of life, because we never know what life will bring us, i think is a healthy and happy way to live.
i seem to get alot more attention in this world when i am not feeling down, or sorry for myself and am just enjoying the beauty of the day, and the gift of life it's self.
when i feel good inside ...good things come my way, including cosmic little interactions with all sorts of people, and when i appreciate life flowing that way..that is when things really start to get magical.
 ladyrcmt
Joined: 4/3/2006
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Posted: 2/13/2007 7:43:49 AM
jeez champ...couldn't even read your last one....just didn't feel like starting out my day with your relentless negativity.
it's just non stop really.
if that's how you want to live....so be it.
there are other alternatives tho.

 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 532
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Posted: 2/14/2007 10:09:14 PM
Champ: The following are threads here on POF dedicated to Men who date younger women or younger women who prefer older men:

<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1535299.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1535299.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3574072.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3574072.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3858980.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3858980.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1447007.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1447007.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts218128.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts218128.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts160298.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts160298.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts6124023.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts6124023.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5761046.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5761046.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5490269.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5490269.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4180651.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4180651.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts166829.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts166829.aspx</a>
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4367943.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4367943.aspx</a>

It took me less than 10 minutes to find that many, there are many many more out there

In addition, I just sent you (via private email) 10 profile links of women in your immediate area, that are looking for dating/long term. All within age restrictions of your age or older. Everyone one of the women I sent you are between the ages of 21 and 35. And, that was just from two pages of search.

The reality: they are out there, they are looking to meet someone. It isn't going to happen with you hawking this thread 24/7. NOW, you have the info, the tools and even profile links ~ if you don't choose to do something about this, you are the problem, not part of the solution.
 joni3
Joined: 3/5/2005
Msg: 536
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Posted: 2/16/2007 6:44:20 PM
I would like to be with a younger man because the majority of men my age and older look kind of burnt out. I exercise a lot and want someone energetic. If he was older than me, that would be great too as long as he believed in fitness and had energy.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 2/23/2007 8:56:49 AM
Do you really think that all women hold the cards and have the power?????

Many women will tell you that most men are in charge and decide what is, and what it not, and can get away with it because society has allowed them to do that for centuries.

I have dated women both younger and older, and find that is it not the age that is so important, but more the connection we have when together, the sparks, and commonality of the total package........no matter the age.......

Just my opinion.......
 Little Miss 51
Joined: 12/1/2006
Msg: 555
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Posted: 2/23/2007 10:10:31 AM
I have never dated a man my age. I feel and look about 38 years old. So, I can't imagine dating someone my age. The problem with dating younger men, is if you fall in love with each other...it can cause problems! If he wants children and you can not have any! I still date younger men...I don't find anything wrong with it. I am up front about everything now!
 Little Miss 51
Joined: 12/1/2006
Msg: 556
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Posted: 2/23/2007 10:10:57 AM
I have never dated a man my age. I feel and look about 38 years old. So, I can't imagine dating someone my age. The problem with dating younger men, is if you fall in love with each other...it can cause problems! If he wants children and you can not have any! I still date younger men...I don't find anything wrong with it. I am up front about everything now!
 lovetress
Joined: 4/14/2006
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Posted: 2/28/2007 11:10:58 AM
I think age is just a number....we all have to grow older and hopefully wiser along the way.
I have no problem dating younger men...infact my x husband was 22 yrs younger(he actually acted older in many ways)
I have had some wonderful relationships with younger men and find that I have more in common with them.When I see an older man who is interested in me sometimes I think they look "TOO OLD FOR ME"
I am at an age where most men have lots of gray hair and look like a granddad to me..guess I still see myself as a 35 yr old instead of my age...which is 51.
I have a birthday in 5 days... I will be the ripe ol'age of 52.....that seems so impossible
to me....but after all it is just a number we have to go through.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 562
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Posted: 2/28/2007 6:33:29 PM

Is age just a number for older women interested in younger men? Or does that also apply to the older men interested in younger women? Thought so, of course to women age is just a number if the guy is younger...like so many say, older men look..well..old. Says it all


LMAO ~ like I've said a dozen times: if age is just a number ~ AARP wouldn't be selling billions of dollars worth of insurance to "senior citizens."
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 2/28/2007 9:41:00 PM
Green......

Did not know that you were a member or knew all the requirements for that organization??????....

By the way.....the only number that AARP is interested in is $$$$$$

Just my opinion......
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 566
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Posted: 3/2/2007 1:33:20 AM

Green......

Did not know that you were a member or knew all the requirements for that organization??????....


~C~ You haven't lost your sense of humor I hope. Oddly, I am quite familiar with that organization. But I still have 8 years to go til I can join the club.

~OT~ It doesn't matter what spin is put on this issue ~ the reality is: there are men who will date women of all ages and there are women who date men of all ages. This thread is discussing a topic that really doesn't apply to the masses, rather to a small percentage of people who have a definitely age-preference in a significant other. Whether you are here on POF or googling the subject, there are more people who state "age is just a number" than those who have specific age preferences. What that means for dating: it all evens out in the end.
 c_deacon
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Posted: 3/2/2007 6:58:58 PM
Green....

I never lose my sense of humor.....or at least I do not think so????......Maybe it was a senior moment???.....

OT.......It all evens out in the end if we just enjoy the one we are with for what they are and what they offer......compared to what we are and offer.......

If you have those sparks, age is not the main issue......connecting is....


Just my opinion......
 GuitarGuy_
Joined: 3/15/2007
Msg: 568
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Posted: 3/22/2007 3:07:11 AM
My ex wife was 9 years older than me. Made no difference.
 jettgirl
Joined: 3/5/2007
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Posted: 3/22/2007 7:47:14 PM
Well I love the older woman younger guy scenario, I see the older guy youger girl combo all the time where I live (a resort) and it seems the older gals date the younger guys, it all balances out. Personally I'm 38 but I'm constantly pegged for 30 (its the great outdoor lifestyle I'm telling you!) and I always seem to date guys in their late twenties, early thirties, it's just who I click with, plus they don't seem to mind a 65km bike ride just for fun.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 572
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Posted: 3/24/2007 6:54:25 PM
age is age, like is like, love is love nothing more, butts sag and nuts sag and breast sag its going to happen and it has happened to some young folks also
so dont get upset cause the young boys like us


I so love it when someone posts the raw reality!

~OT~ My former spouse was nearly 10 years younger and the only man in my life since him (over three years ago) is nearly 8 years younger. We've NEVER discussed the age difference. Apparently he could care less and to be honest ~ I forget he's younger. I have dated older a couple of times and it was like the 70's colliding with the 80's ~ what resulted was a lot of uncomfortable silence when it came time to talk about life. I don't get the whole 70's thing and they certainly don't get why I'm still attached to the one-hit-wonders of the 80's. As for sex ~ I was quite naive compared to both of these particular men, so I don't think either of them were looking for a teacher (maybe I was ~ LMAO ) Compatibility just doesn't exist with me and those older ~ nor does it exist with those too much younger. Playing XBox on a first date isn't my idea of a good time ~
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Posted: 4/13/2007 3:34:53 PM
Bring it on....................
 Cynderella
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Posted: 4/13/2007 3:49:22 PM
^^^OH so true...
Young and Old we do have the choice
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 588
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Posted: 4/13/2007 9:38:17 PM
Sweetred ~~ you dated a ten year old? Isn't that illegal? Can't imagine it would be much fun, either. . . .


 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 591
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Posted: 4/14/2007 12:31:30 PM

I think that great sex is what alot of women are looking for and know that they can't get that from men their age.


At the expense of sounding like a broken record, it isn't all about sex.

For example, I have tattoos. Sometimes I read profiles where the man is ranting about "NO TATTOOED FEMALE CARNIVAL SIDESHOW FREAKS." Those men are almost always my age or older (I am 54). As we age, most of us tend to become more conservative--a few of us do not. Those of us who are a bit more liberal often find kindred spirits in those a bit younger. Of course, those who truly swim outside the mainstream are difficult to find, regardless of age.
 midnitemaniac
Joined: 3/26/2007
Msg: 593
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Posted: 4/23/2007 4:04:30 PM
I have dated older and younger...lots younger. I find myself more attracted to younger men because, frankly, older ones I met cant keep up with me. And thats activity wise and sexually. Ive had experiences on here with some guys who said they wanted a relationship/long term but as soon as you let them know your interested in sex they jump on it and disappear.What a shame, if they had only stuck around to find out what else there was to offer. I like to spoil my man and keep him happy inside and outside the bedroom. I was seriusly involved with a guy 25 years my junior and we got along fine till he moved out of state. and one younger guy died of a heart attack (honest I didnt do it!) So if there are any single young men who arent broke paying child support or alimony let me know! And if you arent afraid of a real woman who isnt afraid to tell you she thinks your hot and wants to have a little fun...and wake up next to in the morning. and not necessarily every morning....
 midnitemaniac
Joined: 3/26/2007
Msg: 595
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Posted: 4/23/2007 4:42:44 PM
Dont misundrstand, I would love to meet a man that I could love, but I want good sex too. I dont believe in wasting a lot of time finding out if we're compatible that way because someone is going to lose interest and move on. Sex isnt everything in a relationship but I know more marriages that failed because one partner wasnt happy, either because of a difference in drive or lack of skill (and not willing to learn.) also people play so many games when they first meet. as far as looks go-just about everything is cosmetic...you can get contacts or lasik, get your teeth fixed ,lose weight, dye your hair,work at looking your best and unfortunately most guys my age and older just dont take care of theirselves and look older than they should.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 5/3/2007 3:36:50 AM

it seems the guys in their 30's that approach me they too all want sex as well AND then they talk about wanting kids

Yeah the sex thing, no problem but the kids thing, no thanks. Younger men with kids are a good choice for me, they've already had em, and they're not looking for any more.

It has been my experience that older men look at me in "that way". Ladies might know what I'm talking about.. that... perv way. Where a younger guy.. they've been so incredibly respectful..flirtatious without that "eww" factor.

Yep, I know what you mean - not all, but with some older men, I totally agree.

I like em a bit younger than me as well, I guess they are not yet set in their ways, not as judgemental, more of em seem to still like to go out and hit bars or clubs (once in a while older men do but not many and not often), the sex is awesome and they are a little less serious about where everything's going.
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