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 charlie_girl
Joined: 11/28/2005
Msg: 26
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If there is a sincere mutual interest -- we have fun together, can communicate well, and thoroughly enjoy being a couple-- then I see no problem with younger, or older. However, I would not consider or encourage any man in his teens, 20s, or 30s, and even some in their 40s.
On the flip-side, there are older men that I would not consider at all. Reasons already well stated by others in this thread.
Very young men have not really matured enough (for me), and many want a family; that's only natural. Frankly, I don't think an older woman should cause him to miss that opportunity and such a relationship, in my opinion, is doomed from the start. Same would be true of a much older man with a younger woman wanting children and he doesn't. To me, that's cruel.

So, I agree with many of the others here. This is a whole new century we are in, life is a banquet, why starve?
 journeyingsoul
Joined: 8/2/2005
Msg: 27
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Posted: 3/31/2006 7:17:17 AM
It would not be for me but people are free to choose whatever they want to do. I personally like men, not boys. I have a son, and I certainly don't want to date someone who's age is closer to his age than mine. ick. a few years younger fine, no big deal. But I haven't dated anyone who was younger than me for very long. Most of them were just at a different place in their life than I was. If it was strictly sex I suppose that could work, but personally I can't have just a sexual relationship.
 MMonroeinPink
Joined: 3/29/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/31/2006 1:26:14 PM
I prefer dating younger men in general. They have to be at least 30 tho. I find younger men more attractive, more exciting and much more interesting. I guess it's a thing.
 urgentpython
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/31/2006 1:49:48 PM
uhuh bring it on experience beats "it hurts" all the time plus I like bouncing lol kisses ladies
 urgentpython
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/31/2006 1:52:27 PM
Blondgreeneyedgal contact me im gonna be in Maine soon I'd love to do dinner
 wowmom
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 3/31/2006 4:53:17 PM
love them... but... I know the reality. MOST don't want to pursue an LTR. So you have to decide if you want fun in the moment, or more...
 little_mermaid
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 32
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Posted: 3/31/2006 8:10:18 PM
Your not just nothing..wolverine.. I have dated both older and younger. I seem to have longest relationships with younger. Sometimes it seems older is set in ways, sometimes seem so angry at women..but don't think your nothing wolverine..that is sad. Someone for everyone irregardless of age. Age is what you make it.
 little_mermaid
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 33
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Posted: 4/1/2006 9:35:31 AM
Wolverine you're a dream...you save animals and in my book that makes you HOTT!!
I don't care how old you are. WE all deserve someone..as do you.
 rainy37
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:22:47 AM
I've done it twice....the first lasted almost 8 years. I loved him dearly and still miss him a great deal. The second lasted not even two years. But age at nothing to do with us breaking up in either experience. If you are both mature and work together it can last forever. I do not see myself with an older man or even one my own age. I'm 38 but look 10 years younger and love every second of it. My daughters guy friends call me MILF. He He He. I love it, so why would I want to be on the arm of an old man. I enjoy life and all it has to offer. Older men never want to do anything beyond drinking and sittin in front of the TV. Not for me. All the women who are in my category know what I'm talkin about and I say here here.
 rainy37
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:49:03 AM
Hun, A stereotype can only become a stereotype after the majority of people make it so. It is not made up it is lived. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I know women that prefer older men. We are all different in our preferences. I don't think you are old, hell we are the same age. Age is a state of mind. Maybe you just need a long hard look at yourself. And by the way, none of us needs to be a spouse to feel self worth. Be happy with yourself and everything else will fall into place just when you've least expected it to. Please don't resort to the couch, you would only be adding to that stereotype and proving it true.
 rainy37
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:52:03 AM
And no.... I would not throw a relationship away just because I think he's getting old. You're not getting the point. Love is important to me and I would never stray.
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 37
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:55:02 AM
{Hun, A stereotype can only become a stereotype after the majority of people make it so. It is not made up it is lived. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I know women that prefer older men. We are all different in our preferences. I don't think you are old, hell we are the same age. Age is a state of mind. Maybe you just need a long hard look at yourself. And by the way, none of us needs to be a spouse to feel self worth. Be happy with yourself and everything else will fall into place just when you've least expected it to. Please don't resort to the couch, you would only be adding to that stereotype and proving it true}

I agree with most of what you said. I agree with that one shouldn't feel less worth if they aren't married and stuff like that. There is nothing wrong with a younger woman if she wants , to date an older man. I am surprised that this even became such an issues years ago, I mean just be yourself and just be cool.

As long as there is TRUE LOVE then it may work out.

By True love i don't mean dating or using someone for their money or looks, and having either of those things be the primary or one of the primary things that are important there, because thats NOT true love. It goes for both genders, lets all be accepting and love another person for the magic they can radiate from their inner self. We'd all be happier in our dating/love lives.
 rainy37
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 4/1/2006 12:12:38 PM
I think you have some other deeper issues. Are you a man that has been terribly hurt? Show us a pic. I think you will be pleasantly surprised. There was a time when I felt I'd never search for love again. But I have healed....time can do that. My sister lives in Misissauga, I'll be heading up there for a visit. Ya wanna go on a date? Then you can say you dated an older woman. He He He. Hang in there. There is someone for everyone.
 Sweet Euphoria
Joined: 6/17/2005
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Posted: 4/1/2006 2:53:31 PM
I think age is just a number in most instances. It depends totally on the two people involved. I use to avoid younger men. It seems however that mostly younger men are attracted to me..or men that are far too old. I'm still young at heart and I'm told I look younger than my age so...whatever floats someone's boat. If both are agreeable..go for it. Besides, men have been doing it for years!
 m3xtreme88
Joined: 3/24/2006
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Posted: 4/1/2006 10:35:31 PM
i am VERY interested in older mature women... especially the moms .. well if theirs anyone out there that likes the younger guys hit me up
 little_mermaid
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 41
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:34:40 PM
Why are you interested in older women most especially the moms?
 Sweet Euphoria
Joined: 6/17/2005
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Posted: 4/2/2006 6:00:48 AM
And again someone is misinterpreting the written word. I don't date younger men for revenge...lol..infact...I prefer men my age. I just don't discriminate anymore. That is all I was saying. Like men through the ages, I am more willing to accept dating a younger man (30 and above) IF he's mature and we are both agreeable. That's all.
 shylady74
Joined: 3/31/2006
Msg: 43
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Posted: 4/2/2006 3:43:00 PM
I prefer men not boys, so I only date men older than me.
 Fry Lock
Joined: 10/4/2005
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Posted: 4/3/2006 12:52:26 PM
OK, so how do you tell if this particular fellow is just looking for a free education, or is really interested? I mean, I don't want to even meet this fellow unless I know he's not in it for the instructional video; any ideas on how to find out BEFORE going thru with the meeting thing? he's 24 and I'm 38; a week ago this was not even a possibility; the more I talk to him the more interested I am, but I don't want to set myself up for failure.......
 Suley
Joined: 4/2/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 4/3/2006 12:56:23 PM
i guess in the event of seeing what younger man could in bed i guess u were interested and also it made u feel sexy because u had control and proud dat u could keep up in bed with younger guys
 Larissan04
Joined: 4/28/2004
Msg: 46
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Posted: 4/3/2006 12:57:12 PM
For some reason i get hit on ALL THE TIME... by men who are in thier twenties. now, i am 38, and i look a lot younger than i am, however, i couldn't be less interested in dating someone that young. i am bored by them. i am actually pretty bored by most twnety somethings in general! (sorry! ) i could never date a man that was significantly younger than i ... four or five years younger would be the limit... but they would ahve to be exceptional for thier age... knowledgeable about politics, educated, insightful, thoughtful, well-mannered... etc. how often does that combination occurr? hmmmm, let me think about that for a minute.,. umm... never? :)

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 sassyvgirl
Joined: 4/2/2006
Msg: 47
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Posted: 4/3/2006 2:31:49 PM
As long as you are both on the same page with regard to any expectations or lack there of...I say go for it! I have dated many men younger than I, and to be honest, I have more fun with them than I do most men my age. I get approached by younger men all the time, but I don't go looking for them. I had a purely physical "encounter" with a guy 15 yrs younger than I a few years ago and I have dated men as much as 12 yrs younger. If I am going to date a younger guy, maturity has to be there along with the personality traits that I find attractive in any man regardless of age....
 Sweet Euphoria
Joined: 6/17/2005
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Posted: 4/3/2006 3:17:26 PM
If you're going to post a subject like this, you will get more response from women who are not opposed to it. On average, most women I talk to prefer men their own age or older. I was one of those. As I had said before, I've decided that IF the younger man has the qualities I'm looking for (ie. intelligence, wit etc.) why not? I don't discriminate against men in their late thirties or even early to mid fourties. I would PREFER a man close to my age. Everyone has an age range they consider. Mine happens to be between 30 and 45. I've dated some very immature older men and some mature younger men. Hey, I'm still sticking with men that are over 29!...lol. Don't get discouraged Rabid...there is someone out there for you...maybe more than one. It's the luck of the draw. Hey, after being separated for 7 years I'm still single, but I have faith that one day someone will come along that recognizes my great qualities. I will be honest, I don't see myself settling down with someone too much younger than myself. Just for the fact that I don't plan on having anymore children. But for now..while I wait for Mr. Right, there's nothing wrong with dating men a wee bit younger than myself. Through experience I can definitely weed out what I DON'T want in a man. I can't expect every man that shows interest or that I choose to date is going to be "the one". No one should limit their options...or settle.
 Fry Lock
Joined: 10/4/2005
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Posted: 4/3/2006 4:19:32 PM
ahhh, wolverine; no need to be so negative; if an interesting older guy had shown some interest, I'd be asking for help figuring him out, I'm sure, but "he" didn't....the younger one took his balls out of his purse & made a move...
 Sin*ful
Joined: 3/4/2006
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Posted: 4/3/2006 4:44:28 PM
You are only as old as you feel
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