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 surely im shirley
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 1147
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I have always been hit on by the friends of my children right from when those kids were 16 and I was in my mid thirties. Flattering but it didn't excite me then and it doesn't excite me now. If it were just sex I was interested in...it might be a different story, but even men my own age who clearly just want the sex? After all when men want just the sex...the 'dog face' at the bar they wouldn't look at earlier in the evening is often the one they take home! Not for me. I'm worth more than that.

Besides, I wouldn't want to deal with the younger guy looking for someone younger and hotter than I when our age differences became visibly apparent. Do you really think that Ashton Kutcher for example, would still be with Demi if she aged badly?
 Ayesha40
Joined: 2/2/2010
Msg: 1148
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Posted: 4/13/2010 6:08:27 AM
Women should only date or marry much older men. Women age faster than men and most men will leave their wife once she is 40 as she is now old and udesirable. It's the way God made things.
 DCEG
Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 1149
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Posted: 4/20/2010 2:38:55 PM
NoCoffee: This isn't 'Sex and the City', it's planet Earth. Everywhere you turn, there are gorgeous, young women (roughly in the 18-24 age range) with OLDER men of all ages. That's the real world. It's annoying because at 23, I see women (attractive or not) in my age range dating older guys, while the lonely older women are trying (and hardly succeeding, mind you) to play us young guys. I don't take the bait though. For a guy, you've gotta be a diehard mama's boy (like, disturbingly in love with your mother) to want to get into a steady relationship with an older woman. Don't get me wrong, I've seen a few older women that look fun, but HARDLY relationship material due to age alone (in the end these women end up with an older man, just the same). Sooner or later, Nature sets in: Every woman needs an older man, every man needs a young girl.

My philosophy.
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 1151
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Posted: 4/20/2010 5:25:48 PM
For a guy, you've gotta be a diehard mama's boy (like, disturbingly in love with your mother) to want to get into a steady relationship with an older woman.

My philosophy.
Dude - you are calling out mama's boys? Puhleeeze!
Maybe you should revisit your "philosophy" AFTER you move out from your mother's house, whom you describe as "bigoted," like a noose lassoed around you and attached to her, an embarassment who attempts to destroy anything peaceful around her, etc, etc. Who's got mommy issues, here? Your circumstances and "philosophy" preclude you from having an informed and unimpaired opinion on older women and younger men as WELL as men/ women, in general. Not all men who enjoy an older woman have mommy issues and not all mommy issues mean you "love" your mom. Some mommy issues mean you can't free yourself from an unhealthy enmeshment. Anyway, judge all you wish ... You are only revealing your own fears and prejudices.

Crying baby with mommy issues -
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 1152
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Posted: 4/21/2010 6:30:12 AM

Young guys think that we will be eager to jump into bed with them.

LOL....not.

WhenWillThisWork is absolutely correct - even at 51, the offers for sex are still plentiful (but I have no interest in taking anyone up on these offers).
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 1154
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Posted: 4/21/2010 2:42:13 PM
There are some real advantages to dating a more mature lady,Not just the sex which is great but they seem to be more level headed.
If you find one that catches your eye I say go for it!!!
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 1155
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Posted: 4/21/2010 3:41:49 PM

WhenWillThisWork is absolutely correct - even at 51, the offers for sex are still plentiful (but I have no interest in taking anyone up on these offers).
you can give them my phone - 1800HOTFLASH
 Arabianangel
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 1157
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Posted: 4/24/2010 3:43:03 PM

NoCoffee: This isn't 'Sex and the City', it's planet Earth. Everywhere you turn, there are gorgeous, young women (roughly in the 18-24 age range) with OLDER men of all ages. That's the real world. It's annoying because at 23, I see women (attractive or not) in my age range dating older guys, while the lonely older women are trying (and hardly succeeding, mind you) to play us young guys. I don't take the bait though. For a guy, you've gotta be a diehard mama's boy (like, disturbingly in love with your mother) to want to get into a steady relationship with an older woman. Don't get me wrong, I've seen a few older women that look fun, but HARDLY relationship material due to age alone (in the end these women end up with an older man, just the same). Sooner or later, Nature sets in: Every woman needs an older man, every man needs a young girl.


Your anger towards older women stems from the multiple rejections you've had...You obviously expect an older woman to be so naive and over look your mummy issues, it's not going to happen...

Your multiple posts degrading older women is nothing more than resentment that you hold towards your 'bigoted' mother....You will continue blaming others because you’re not equipped mentally to take responsibility for your own lack.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 4/27/2010 1:29:43 AM
I think older women and younger men are a wonderful idea. Anything that keeps all that baggage from coming my direction gets my vote.
 Hiiwayman
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 1160
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Posted: 4/27/2010 7:55:50 AM
Every time I see an older man with a woman old enough to be his daughter.....I see child molester. SAme is true of older women and young men.
 studmuffen01
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 1161
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Posted: 5/10/2010 6:14:55 PM
hey girl how y ou doin??? i love older women ;)
 studmuffen01
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 1162
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Posted: 5/10/2010 6:16:11 PM
hey girl how you doin??? i love em older women!!
 blueyes24
Joined: 4/28/2006
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Posted: 5/14/2010 8:06:27 PM
Its all good as long as you too are happy.
DR.Rob
 cheeriness
Joined: 8/23/2009
Msg: 1166
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Posted: 5/15/2010 2:18:34 PM
LOVE IT!!!!

I have only dated younger men as far back as high school. I've always quite enjoyed it.
 StatuesqueLuckyCharm!
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 1167
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Posted: 5/15/2010 7:32:29 PM
"This from a 42 year old guy whose message restrictions are for women 28 to 45 ...
does not compute."

I'm an "older woman" too, with another birthday coming up in June. Anyhow to vent; (and thanks for reading), when I read a comment from a so called "mature" man like the one above, yeah it makes me Another "rich" thing that SOME men do on here that are 45 + is they will NOT state a preferred age-group, BUT get around this by saying they want children; now, granted, some of these men might very well want children, BUT I think A LOT of them put they want kids in this age group so that "the mature woman" cannot respond because we are probably beyond the childbearing years. Sneaky way to go about it or what?

It is definitely a man's world, but the more I read profiles from "mature" men stating this etc., the more I think maybe I should re-think this whole "Cougar" thing, and maybe meet some of the young men that write to me.

 ohwhynot46
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Posted: 5/15/2010 9:13:29 PM
It does seem to be the case that more men than women are less inclined to restrict relationships to those who are within their age group, but I will not pretend to know why. For me, I find it incomprehensible that someone so far removed from my experience could have enough in common with me to sustain a significant relationship. As a means of effectively dissuading the youngins' (at the risk of offending , said humorously; no offense meant) I simply tell them that I haven't the 15 minutes to spare!

To each their own.
 Brownlady1953
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 1170
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Posted: 5/31/2010 12:15:40 AM
I'm beginning to believe I should roll that way....men my age are so physically and mentally unappealing to me....
 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
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Posted: 5/31/2010 12:24:47 AM
Done this. It was fun.

Not sure I would do it again. She got attached. All kinds of bad outcomes there.
 Want_You_2010
Joined: 8/31/2009
Msg: 1172
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Posted: 6/15/2010 4:01:59 PM
I realized that being 41 I am considered not good enough and unattractive and old. Amazing that when I was 30 I never believed that when I hit my 40's, women my age would basically trash talk men their age and tell them how terrible they are etc. Amazes me how being in your 20's and early 30's is the best time in dating. Women from 20-50 want you. But be in your 40's and women bash you. No wonder I hesitate to contact women my age, so many say "You are too old and not good enough" and yet they only seen my pics and read my message, they never met me yet. Oh well, I say enjoy ladies, you deserve to kick us old guys to the curb for some young fresh meat.
 anttesta
Joined: 4/7/2010
Msg: 1173
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Posted: 12/3/2010 9:35:42 AM
I believe it is OK as long as it not a minor (age)
 PrinceCharmingsCousin
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 1174
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Posted: 12/3/2010 1:05:50 PM
older women younger men is VERY vague. It could be a multitude of combinations.
a 20yr old and a 45yr old is really only gonna be good for sex. Odds are she's had kids and they are anywhere from 10-20yrs old or its to late for her to have any, and odds are the 20yr old will someday want some.
but im 25 and i'd gladly date a 32-37yr old, provided obviously that we were both attracted to each other, and that she WANTS TO HAVE KIDS, and etc...BONUS if she has no kids of her own yet.

So with that in mind I dont think you can paint the older women younger men thing with such broad brush strokes. There are many factors that will decide what the outcome will be. Also there is no set age gap/limit for the difference in age.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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Posted: 12/4/2010 3:51:10 PM
My ex was 9 years older than me. It worked, and the marriage fell apart for other reasons, age not being one of them.
 Dan99993
Joined: 11/29/2010
Msg: 1176
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Posted: 12/4/2010 5:16:59 PM
I'd do it. With a woman I really liked. And I've met women who are older that I really like (haven't gone out with them but I might have..).
 Billy_Famine
Joined: 8/3/2010
Msg: 1177
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Posted: 12/4/2010 6:06:15 PM
I usually feel the same way after taking a long piss you'd been holding in after a sixer of beer:
Relieved.
 niagara45
Joined: 8/15/2010
Msg: 1178
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Posted: 12/5/2010 6:18:49 AM
I wish I were one of those people who believe that age does not matter, since I am always being approached by much younger or much older men! Unfortunately for me, I feel most comfortable with men in my own age range.
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