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 Want_You_2010
Joined: 8/31/2009
Msg: 1179
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With the social acceptance of older women with younger men, alot of what I hear is more a bash on the guys thier age from the older women.
It is thier time to give us the finger and laugh and say "Who is getting the last laugh now?" kind of thing.
I have heard the line "You guys got away with it for years, now it is our turn." Sort of a "You pay the price for the men's actions in the past."
Which bothered me for a few years but now I just say whatever. Hey it does not mean life is over just because a bunch of women 40+ are telling me I am this and that. Funny that I sure do not say bashing comments to them. But that is the dating world.
If a younger woman in her 20's shows an interest then I have no problem with that, if a woman in her 50's shows an interest in me, I have no problem with that.
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 1180
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Posted: 12/11/2010 3:12:19 PM
I can't find any women that are older than me. I am 50 so they have to be at least 51 and look like 30.
 cookybw
Joined: 8/26/2010
Msg: 1181
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Posted: 12/11/2010 7:31:22 PM
Ohhhh and I was so going to go and check out cowboyup2's a$$, but come to find out I am just a year out of his age range...
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 1182
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Posted: 12/11/2010 8:56:33 PM
The several times I had it happen when I was in my 20's, I thought it was pretty damned exciting. And so did they.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 12/12/2010 2:55:02 PM
What woman wouldn't want a hot young stud? Those of us who prefer someone with skill and experience.

I'm figuring this one out these days. I just turned 58. I've got three 30 year old men in my life - one is obviously just a friend. (Although some days I'm not certain about that, considering how intimate some of the conversations get. He's shy and introverted, may be more interested than I think.) He calls or IMs almost every night. We'll talk for an hour or two when we get on the phone. Another just wants to play around. I've smooched with him but no more. We talk or IM almost every evening. The third would love to be my lover but I've just kept it at a smooch level because I'm not sure I want to get that involved with him. I dance with all of them.

I don't expect the possibility of anything long term. They clearly enjoy my company and I enjoy theirs and that *could* be long term. As potential lovers - it's tempting but so far I've held off. For one thing, young guys seem too much in a hurry. (Okay, *most* men seem too much in a hurry, but the ones in their 50s less so.) The idea of "mentoring" a young guy is tempting but I'm not sure I've got the patience. On the other hand, the guys my age are usually boring and fat. And suffering from ED. The young guys are lively and I doubt ED would be a problem.

I'm not really sure what to do. If I decide to take one of them to bed, y'all will probably end up hearing about it. So far, though, I haven't done it. My girlfriend said I need to start learning to say "yes." She could be right. Maybe I'm being too cautious.

It was kinda cool to have two of them ask me out for my birthday. Quite the boost to my ego.

I dunno, any of you ladies in their 50s actually take up these guys in their late 20s, early 30s, who think older women are hot? What did you think?
 UKSoCal
Joined: 8/17/2008
Msg: 1184
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Posted: 12/12/2010 7:09:38 PM
I dated older girls/ women starting aged 14 until recently (31). I actually had a kid with someone almost 13 years older than me, kinda dumb, but when you're young dumb & full of cum! Only another 14 years of child support payments!

Anyway, it can work, based on the maturity levels, but at 31 I find myself attracted to girls under 30.
 Email Tom Now
Joined: 9/17/2010
Msg: 1185
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Posted: 12/12/2010 7:20:31 PM
when i was 28 i banged a woman who was 63.
it wasn't good.
then i had anal sex with a woman 41 and it was very good.

is there a moral to my story?
 coastcity
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 1186
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Posted: 12/12/2010 7:35:11 PM
I have a 45 yr old relative who often dates men in their 30s or even late 20s. She wouldn't rule out dating men around her age. But in general she thinks her dates with younger men are more fun and exciting.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 12/17/2010 5:13:33 PM

I think older women are like a fine wine the older they get the better the taste .... there are cut off points when the wine could taste like sour milk you know what iam saying .


Uh, wine gone sour is vinegar.
 cgphillips
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 1188
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Posted: 1/9/2011 8:36:51 PM
theres nothing wrong at all with it age is only a number
 whitelight44
Joined: 5/30/2010
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Posted: 2/6/2011 2:34:56 AM
I am new here and not sure how to post.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 2/6/2011 6:33:52 AM
Well, now you know, whitelight. You posted. Just don't curse, or call people names, and behave civilly, and you're ready to roar.
 americanwoman67
Joined: 7/18/2010
Msg: 1191
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Posted: 2/6/2011 7:18:13 AM
I agree with this statement. Some men my age look 15 to 20 years older than their profile says. Some look like they been eating at all you can eat buffets and mickie dee's too much. I have also seen the same from younger men. There are some guys profiles where I think they are lying about their age. I don't see nothing wrong with an age difference as long as both parties knows what type of relationship they are in.
 trinity818
Joined: 9/1/2006
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Posted: 2/6/2011 8:07:56 AM
I was always suspicious when younger men (10+ years) wanted to "get to know me". I would ask why the interest? Or what do we have in common? None of them were ever able to convince me that they were interested in a long term relationship with me. Now if I was looking for something other than long-term, no problem.

I would never make a blanket statement that all are like that. Just the ones I interacted with.
 Libra_Mike73
Joined: 12/20/2010
Msg: 1193
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Posted: 2/6/2011 11:24:06 AM
I wouldn't mhave a problem dating an older woman. I am attracted to them. I don't see age being a problem as long as they have a connection with each other.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 1194
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Posted: 2/6/2011 1:56:33 PM
LOL...had yet another youngin' of 22 years write to me recently. When I told him I had things in my freezer that were older than him, he pulled out all the stops trying to get me to change my mind to go out on a date with him. Of course he threw out that over-used phrase they ALL seem to use, "age is just a number." Oh brother.

I told him, "sure, I'll go on a "date" with you. Will you be picking me up on your 10-speed? Are we having dinner at Chuck E. Cheese?"

I guess you have to give the little guppies credit for their perserverance. Me? If I were any LESS interested in youngin's, I'd probably be in a coma.
 BigBadNIrish
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 1195
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Posted: 2/6/2011 2:01:00 PM
I read the following somewhere...though it was gender specific to men at the time, so, I change the gender to women....

Claiming that you "look" and/or "act younger" than your age means that you are an aging cougar seeking a younger man. It also means that you are clinging to the illusion that you are not growing old. In addition, it appears that you are delusional and buy into the flattery other people feed to you. Let me assure you: people lie!
 whitelight44
Joined: 5/30/2010
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Posted: 3/25/2011 5:36:17 PM
What amazing insight you have into the psyche of older women. It's just sad to hear some puffed up male talk about appropriate clothing, how we should act talk and feel, were not dead, just mature. Most of us know what we want out of life and don't need a man to get it, so it takes the pressure off the younger man and there's no pressure to settle down get married and have children. The younger men I've been with appreciate this about me.

I like what you said about not taking an older woman for granted, although, I've yet to have that happen it's nice to hear you say it. I don't see why you haven't been with some one older than you, are you scared?
 Vulcana
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 1197
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Posted: 5/19/2011 4:28:01 PM
No celts123 it does not depend on the age difference.... it depends on the maturity of the two people involved...
 Vulcana
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 1198
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Posted: 5/19/2011 4:30:36 PM
Of course you are entitled to your opinion Jersey Girl.. but I dare you to say that to a man of age 22 who has been fighting in Iraq or Afg... he would make you look like a fool... they ARE MEN... young men yes but still men... what's wrong with you?
 suburban_gal
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 1199
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Posted: 5/20/2011 8:23:34 AM
No celts123 it does not depend on the age difference.... it depends on the maturity of the two people involved...


I do think the age difference does matter to some extent. Especially one person is really young or when the age difference is very large. Even if a 21 yr old was mature for his age, I think he wouldn't have much in common with a woman in her 40s. He probably would have much less life experience than the same woman. Having said that, I don't think age is a factor when a woman is 40 and a man is 30 though.
 out_doors
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 1200
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Posted: 5/20/2011 9:27:49 PM
I do think the age difference does matter to some extent. Especially one person is really young or when the age difference is very large. Even if a 21 yr old was mature for his age, I think he wouldn't have much in common with a woman in her 40s. He probably would have much less life experience than the same woman. Having said that, I don't think age is a factor when a woman is 40 and a man is 30 though.


In general I agree with this statement. Sure I would date a man that is about 10 years younger than me. But if the age difference was about 20 yrs, I would only consider a casual or short term relationship. Sure the sex might be great. LOL. But most likely there weren't be enough compatibility between myself and a man young enough to be son for a LTR to work out.
 Bookbelle
Joined: 10/24/2008
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Posted: 5/21/2011 4:48:09 AM
I have a female friend, aged 23, who is currently going out with a male friend of mine, who is 19. A lot of her friends ditched her, because of it, and said that the only reason she's going out with him, is because she "can't find a guy her own age".
I've never heard that argument being put to any *guys* I know of 23 when they date 19 year olds. When I went out with a 25 year old when I was 20, no one batted an eye. I really don't see the big deal with an older female to be quite honest.
 suburban_gal
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 1202
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Posted: 5/21/2011 8:25:29 AM
In general I agree with this statement. Sure I would date a man that is about 10 years younger than me. But if the age difference was about 20 yrs, I would only consider a casual or short term relationship. Sure the sex might be great. LOL. But most likely there weren't be enough compatibility between myself and a man young enough to be son for a LTR to work out.


Sure if a person was looking for sex or a FWB relationship, then I don't think age matters at all. Provided that both people are legal. I know a 29 yr old man who is currently in a FWB relationship with a woman that is around 50 yrs old. Neither person is looking for anything serious at the moment.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 1203
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Posted: 5/21/2011 10:36:34 AM
Having dated women 8yrs older than me, I don't see it as a big issue depending on of course the personalities/compatibility of the people involved. 20 years might be a bit much, I think at that point you start getting into real "generational" differences - although if its more of a FWB or FB type thing that probably doesn't matter as much.
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