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 hcreds
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 1204
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codos to the older women younger men, that is all I date, and all I prefer! And of course everyone will have an opinion! but who cares! you are dating the guy not them. and yes I have dated older men, 40+ and yes they don't function like the younger guys! can't help that I like that. I'm 52 and I date 30.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 1205
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Posted: 5/22/2011 4:17:40 PM

codos to the older women younger men, that is all I date, and all I prefer! And of course everyone will have an opinion! but who cares! you are dating the guy not them. and yes I have dated older men, 40+ and yes they don't function like the younger guys! can't help that I like that. I'm 52 and I date 30.


I really don't have a problem with you in particular dating dudes almost half your age so no I am not picking on you...but I'm going to pick on your words from the post....

I know that if I was 52 and said the same thing, looking great or not, as a guy I would be called a old perv....dirty old man....and that would be the nice ones.

A older woman saying that a 40+ guy does not function like the young ones is just wrong...that's like me saying I don't want a 40+ woman because certain body parts start sagging....

Per say you get you a good guy that is around in his 30's no problem, hey everyone has preferences, but if you've been with him for a few years would you dump him the moment he turned 40 just because of the stereotype you've laid out for 40+ guys...even though by then you'd be closer to the 60 and he'd be getting that famous mid-life crisis...

But hey just a honest question that I thought I might add...and before you answer it think of what you'd tell a guy if he asked the same thing...at 52 should I date a 30ish year old woman?

I like my women to be well women, I'm not necessary looking for someone because of a age younger or older, I'm going to keep my options open I'm not going to miss out on a match because society, or these forums, tell me that I'm too old/too young for her....

Best of luck to everyone
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 1206
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Posted: 5/22/2011 4:33:42 PM

codos to the older women younger men, that is all I date, and all I prefer!



Huh? Did you mean:

Kudos to the older women who date younger men. All I date is younger men because that is what I prefer.


I don't think it matters as long as both are happy.
I have notice though, that older women have a lot more animosity towards men who date younger than men have toward women who date younger.

Just look at all the threads about it.

All I ever hear is how the girl must be after his money.

FWIW my GF is 22 and I'm 45.
 CubanB11
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 1207
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Posted: 5/23/2011 7:52:46 PM
I would love it. I was once in Catalina, at a bar that bordered the Pacific. The hot wind blew in off the ocean, my shirt rippling in the wind, the breeze calming, yet tantalizing. I sipped my Red Stripe, the crisp hops mixing with the fruity malts, juxtaposing yet melding with the timbre of the ocean's attempt to speak to me, to tell me what it meant to be alive, at this moment in time, one with myself, with the ocean, with the external, overcoming the limitations of language, indeed of discourse, in order to find the spaces in between, the true mirror's image not blemished by perception's reliance upon time. It was in this moment, with the ocean crashing against the boulders on the coastal edge, that I realized the limitations of Western knowledge, indeed of Western discourses, and I oriented myself toward a mythical Orient, one that could not exist but within the dialectical image, the dialectical reality (dare I say, though I am cautious), of rationality and order.

Yet the concept of the Orient, imbued within the scents and aura of the Pacific, were only understandable through my Western discourse! Indeed, I was caught. As I worried over my epistemic, and in fact existential, dilemma, she arrived. Her taut leg muscles strained with every step, her curves swayed like blades of grass before the sky of my gaze, truly, she was mine, and she was to be dominated.

Oh, for sake it! As I recognized the imperialism of my gaze, indeed, of the gesture towards the reification of Western masculine authority that my gaze implied by its very existence, I realized that I would be caught. Were I her emperor, her Napoleon, to be her conqueror, or were I her Eunuch, to be controlled and spat out? I struggled with the evening's contradictions: the cool breeze from the East that, while indicative of the Orient, referenced nonetheless the justification of sexual imperialism; my drink, the Caribbean, cool and crisp, yet subject to the Western gaze, not of it but yet a part of it, subject and object, mirror image but perceptual opposite; and the older lady walking in, her gaze as imperial as mine, our eyes meeting, her approaching, her touch, her smile, enervating yet vitalizing, implicating us in something that was of ourselves, in ourselves, but ultimately beyond ourselves, betraying our inner cores, touching our external loci, penetrating each of our discourses, making them one.

Then I asked her for nude pics.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 1208
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Posted: 5/23/2011 8:05:35 PM
^^^^^^^^ ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
 JD4Real29
Joined: 3/28/2011
Msg: 1209
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Posted: 5/23/2011 10:16:25 PM
OMG Cuban dude...that's the best post ever!
 charlie_girl_2
Joined: 1/2/2010
Msg: 1210
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Posted: 5/27/2011 9:08:47 AM
I have to date younger.

Actually, I find that a lot of older men (60's), can talk the talk, but can't walk the walk; yet, they seek women 25-30yrs younger. (duh!)
I don't want a man who takes all night to do what he used to do all night!
 SweetnessInFlorida
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 1211
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Posted: 5/27/2011 1:40:54 PM
I have always dated and preferred older men, and NONE had ED or needed viagra.
It is fine to prefer younger men but it is judgemental and plain untrue to say that older men cant function sexually, they can, and do so very well. ED can hit men of any age so if one encounters a man with ED, that is not because of age, there are likely other factors.
 AZguy2112
Joined: 4/16/2008
Msg: 1212
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Posted: 5/28/2011 9:29:27 AM
I've always preferred women older than myself. They're so much more interesting and confident, in my opinion. The younger ones usually bore me.

My mom was 14 years older than my dad, so perhaps that's where I get it. :)
 ginotheman
Joined: 3/26/2011
Msg: 1213
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Posted: 5/31/2011 1:58:10 AM
hi how are you. i feel great
 ginotheman
Joined: 3/26/2011
Msg: 1214
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Posted: 5/31/2011 2:02:17 AM
hi my name its gino
 curiouss211
Joined: 1/15/2011
Msg: 1215
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Posted: 5/31/2011 2:09:37 PM
Mr.Fication: ""Not picking on you, but it kind of depends on the woman sometimes. Not the guy's age. Sometimes guys get a retraction when there is repulsion. Some guys are good with anything that moves--chasing cougars, hogging, whatever. Others may need a little help from a blue pill.""




Hmm. Your statement to the lady doesn't surprise me. From personal experience, I've noticed many aging men deny the changes that occur with age. They usually place the blame elsewhere (repulsion/women), while pretending to be 19 year olds chasing women like a dog chasing cars! I don't know if it is ego, or if men are truly unaware of the impact age has on sexual performance, and reproductive changes associated with aging?

I understand the result of repulsion. I would not be able to respond to repulsion either, therefore, I stay away from it. Sometimes it DOES depend on the man's age, and not the woman. It is true that ED can occur at any age, but it is most common in the 'aging' man. There are sometimes several factors involved, including 'age.' I know aging and rusting reproductive equipment is a hard pill to swallow, but it is fact of life and not a darn thing we can do to stop the daily decline we all have to experience.

I have always dated men my own age or several years older. I've just never been attracted to men much younger as I find them child-like in character, but that may be changing. While some older men are indeed sexually healthy, others are not and none will ever be as good as 25 or 35 year olds. As a man approaches his 40's, he is showing signs of aging. The decline in testosterone, which begins after peak in teens, is gradual, but by a certain age a guy, for example, may no longer experience the spontaneous erections he used to get at the most embarrassing times; just from looking at a pair of sexy legs or long blonde hair. Erections take longer to achieve as he ages, and many will require direct stimulation, which can take seemingly forever as the blood tries to push through narrowing arteries leaving the ladies with a soft piece of rubber (so to speak)!

I do like older men and I've always dated men my own age or several years older. Yes, there are plenty of older and sexually healthy men; again, they are not 35. I was never attracted to much younger men, but as of recent, have given younger men further thought. I usually decline dates from such men, but do believe that I will start dating younger by the time I reach 50. If I am still dating.
 jeannie5488
Joined: 4/24/2011
Msg: 1216
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Posted: 6/11/2011 11:29:46 PM
Dating is one thing, but committment is another. No matter the maturity level of both individuals, there will always be a separation based upon age. As one evolves, the other is stationary, and the two grow apart. I was married to a man many years older, ad although he had a young disposition, we eventually developed different interests. In the long run, it just doesn't work.
 bubalubski
Joined: 5/29/2010
Msg: 1217
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Posted: 6/12/2011 5:54:29 AM
Hahahaha god that would be the day . Instead of pullin out a condom - babe u need to swallowthis to get it up . Hahahaha young men kick arse in bed . I'm 38 and still pull 20-30 yr olds . But yeh I'm young at heart n can relate to younger men . But. I'd give it up to find a loving husband that doesn't cheat n would adore me . Anyone know of any nice guys from 30-40 from Sydney . Hook me up :)
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 1218
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Posted: 6/12/2011 2:42:41 PM
bubalubski you are a very beautiful woman any man from any age would be lucky to call you his s/o. I'm sure you work hard to stay that beautiful.

Not every man suffers from ED and its not solely age related. Sometimes ED is from a mental aspect as much if not more than the actual physical.

He may be depressed, put down, laughed at kicked around. If all these things occur esp in the bedroom by his partner then yes he is going to have trouble getting it up. Men have feelings too.
 BigBadNIrish
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 1219
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Posted: 6/12/2011 5:08:54 PM

. Both parties make more of an effort, the man wants to show the women that he can satsify her the women wants to show the man that shes still attractive.


I'm sure that in the rare instance May-September relationships work out...but, not very often...especially when the younger one realizes how old the older one looks.
 bullfrog12
Joined: 4/24/2009
Msg: 1220
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Posted: 6/15/2011 4:33:54 PM
I must say that I had a few of those encounter,I was just a teenager when I had my first encounter and she was twice my age[believe me]and I still remember her,I have moved to new york 30 years now and still cannot find a olderwoman,Most of them have too much of conditions and requirement.I will still love to find a good looking 65 and over Queen.
 babycakes21045
Joined: 8/5/2010
Msg: 1221
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Posted: 6/16/2011 6:27:50 PM
Are younger men just looking for sex when they contact an older woman?
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 1222
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Posted: 6/17/2011 7:10:33 AM
I enjoy dating more mature women because I just find them fun to be with and I get to learn from them about things they went thru. I know what I want and nothing is going to change that.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
Msg: 1223
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Posted: 6/17/2011 4:16:47 PM
I agree with it depends on the maturity level and where you both are in your lives.
My late husband was 10 years younger than me and it lasted 17 wonderful years.
I did not choose him off a dating site and I never knew his true age for a couple months...just never thought of it. Same as my last man of a couple years...same scenario.he was.7 years younger in age . I don't deliberately look for younger men...just seems to happen. Quite willing to give a man my age a shot but most are looking for younger....and I must admit,while looking at a lot of men within my age group or older..I do think about their virility and vibrance for life....they just seem so old for their age.(not all)...don't rag on me!
Age is just a number..if it works..it works!!
 Creatv6
Joined: 11/5/2010
Msg: 1224
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Posted: 6/17/2011 6:08:50 PM
I dont know what it is but older ladies really turn me on. When you see an attractive lady thats older its alot sexier than one your age.
 Dawntreader11
Joined: 6/14/2011
Msg: 1225
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Posted: 6/17/2011 6:20:20 PM
I USUALLY date younger, and it's been that way since about, oh, 25 yoa. Reeeally really depends on the 2 people involved. What's funny is the attitudes some guys closer to your age get when they see you with a younger guy. It's like they get all butt hurt or something. Sure, insult me, I'm a big girl:

cradle robber
grandma
disgusting
trying to "recapture my youth" (did it leave?)
Is that your son?

Lol....not impressed. Seriously, if you can laugh at negative people, and it's workable for both parties, hang the nay-sayers. And I do sometimes date my age or older. IF, and this is huge, because too many people get crusty as they get older, but if a guy has a good attitude, and has taken care of himself physically, then at those times, I like an older guy. Mostly it's the attitude.

 Sportsfreak89
Joined: 12/28/2010
Msg: 1226
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Posted: 6/25/2011 9:52:45 PM
If I didn't have a young and awesome girlfriend right now I wouldn't mind a cougar in my life at all. There's a right way to go about it and a wrong way (dating Linda Hogan being one of those wrong ways).
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 1227
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Posted: 6/25/2011 10:16:26 PM

babycakes21045:
Are younger men just looking for sex when they contact an older woman?


In general, I believe the answer to your question is yes. I cannot speak for all men, of course, and no two situations are ever exactly the same.
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
Msg: 1228
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Posted: 6/25/2011 10:33:18 PM
a few years back i made an exception to my rule, gave in and dated a guy who was 20 years younger than me.
we had a great time, always having fun, going places and the sex was yummy...
then...
i was invited to his mother's birthday party and when i met her realised she was the same age as me. we were never the same after that night...he was fine with the age difference but i couldn't look at him without thinking about his mum...yikes!
i caught a plane and disappeared for a few months o/s to end the relationship.


i did once date men who were always older than me.
now i find most guys i meet who are my age and older are,
well...too old!...
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