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 Athletic-Habitus
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 1404
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I think it is cool. It depends on both how mature the younger man is first. Then how mature the older woman is second. Also it depends on the younger man's and older woman's personality, likes and interests. In theory it should work out due to the fact that younger men are at a sexual peak faster than women. So a younger man should actually be able to keep up with an older woman...in theory...lol. There are a lot of other factors, is one just looking to have fun? Or is onother wanting to settle down? There is no set in stone rule...the cool thing about being grown up is that there is no rule book! People can do what ever they want :)
 HudValGal
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 1405
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Posted: 8/18/2012 8:47:13 AM
I was involved with a great guy 17 years my junior. We carried on for nearly two years. Unfortunately, I developed feelings for him, but those feelings were not mutual. I ended up with a broken heart when he moved away for a new job. Not sure I would do this again as I have difficulty separating a physical only relationship without it turning into an emotional one as well.
 lighthouseseas
Joined: 6/16/2012
Msg: 1406
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Posted: 8/19/2012 12:18:31 AM
My ex-husband was 4 years younger...and my now ex-boyfriend is 11 years younger...maybe this means it doesn't work for me? I've had many much younger guys contact me recently...but after meeting some of them knew it would never go anywhere. I think for me 10 yrs younger would be comfortable as I'm pretty active and open minded...and guys my own age seem to prefer women at least 10 yrs younger than themselves so it gives me more of a pool to fish in:)
 ahlover
Joined: 8/1/2012
Msg: 1407
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Posted: 8/19/2012 12:24:38 AM
I only date younger men. (But with excptions. I won't date a guy younger than my daughter. She is 36.)
 ahlover
Joined: 8/1/2012
Msg: 1408
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Posted: 8/19/2012 12:26:25 AM
LOL. Older women who can attract younger men are hardly "desperate."
 SpeedracerSmith
Joined: 3/5/2012
Msg: 1409
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Posted: 8/19/2012 9:10:56 AM

LOL. Older women who can attract younger men are hardly "desperate."


Agreed. It's not that we are actively seeking them...in my case, they are looking for me! I prefer men my own age, but the only ones who even pay attention to me are 10 years younger or 20 years older...LOL..got a letter from a 23 year old last week. It was pretty cute.
 enjoywithme
Joined: 4/18/2006
Msg: 1410
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Posted: 8/19/2012 10:44:51 AM
I experienced that when I was younger and I loved it. An older woman and a younger man are more properly fit obviously sexually and in other respects.
 hockeygurl33
Joined: 8/14/2012
Msg: 1411
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Posted: 8/19/2012 3:09:56 PM
I get in shit for dating my bf, im 26 and hes 21, alot of people think thats wrong but i say if your over 20 you can date someone whose in the age range, now if i was 35 and he was 21 then no. My sister married a man who was 13 years younger than her she was 35 and he was 22. it all depends on the age.

i think its wrong if a 26 year old women dates a 16 year old boy, thats a bit much...
 rbwdm
Joined: 7/24/2012
Msg: 1412
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Posted: 8/19/2012 11:47:01 PM
I recently got contacted by a women 7 years older than me. I told her I wanted to date women my age or a little bit younger and told her she should do the same and date people age appropriate. She responded and said that she finds men her age "OLD". Yes, in caps, that is what she wrote. I was tempted to write back ... "well, I also find people my age "OLD" too, it sucks getting old but there is nothing we can do about it. Here is a test for you. You are 7 years older than me, try searching for men 7 years older than you. Since you find men your age to be old, what do you think of them? Find any you want to date? Now try my shoes, think I would want to date you? " Yeah, pretty harsh; I'm too nice to actually say something like that.

And here is the kicker. She actually is fairly attractive for her age. Since, I haven't found anyone here yet and wouldn't mind getting a little bit of sex on the side while I'm looking, so I was thinking perhaps a FWB situation.

Every wonder why people only respond with a sexual proposal? They don't want to date you but would be willing to have sex with you; on a regular basis if its good. How about this, are they age appropriate for you. If not, then there is your answer.
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 1413
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Posted: 8/20/2012 8:50:37 AM
I've always thought that if they are young enough to come out of me they are far to young to get into me.

Most of us get emails from the junior set that figure that we are just waiting for a hot 25-ish dude to rock our world. Not so for the majority. Most of us have forgotten more than they've learned. I always email back and say "don't send a boy to do a man's job". wtf, like I want a 30 year old or 35 year old, the only thing I want them to do is vaccum or mow the lawn.
 Greg19899
Joined: 10/10/2011
Msg: 1414
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Posted: 8/20/2012 2:00:50 PM
It all depends on the people involved. If they are attracted to each other and they enjoy themselves, let it go..enjoy it while it lasts. I've dated women in their 20's, 30's, and 40's, and sigh 50's..:) Being prior military, you meet people that circumstances take from you due to assignments or life in general, enjoy your time here..we all have an expiration date. The knock some people have on age gaps is that the older partner must be controlling or wants a meek partner, while the younger partner must need support. I don't buy into that outdated philosophy. If people stayed out of each others business and were more accepting, or less jealous, we'd all be happier.
 authenticoutlook
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 1415
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Posted: 8/21/2012 5:13:33 PM
Been there and done that.... for four years. In the end... it was a heart ache and a heart break.

Still amicable distant friends today though.
 moonwillshinelikeaspoon
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 1416
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Posted: 8/21/2012 9:35:27 PM
As long as you keep in your mindset that it's just sex, then go for it! But be warned if there is the smallest part of you that believes you'll find true and lasting happiness with a much younger man, then you are setting yourself up for dissappointment, big time. In my mind, if a guy wants to be with a woman 15 years + he's age, its usually just because of their need to try something STRANGE and rarely because they want to have a real and lasting relationship with the woman. Of cause I imagine that somewhere out there on this planet, there may well be some happy ever after scenerios, but I haven't heard any yet, so make my day guys, if there is, then lets hear from you. My personal view is, why bother, as I can't imagine what there would be to talk about outside the bedroom or back seat of the car for that matter. I suppose that's because I need to be excited between the ears long before I'm ready to part the thighs, although that said, I'm not saying that the thought of some hot and heavy action with a sexy man isn't exciting, it's just that I NEED so much more interaction with any man that I choose to have in my life and feel that I could only find that with a man nearer my age or even older and believe me, if they follow healthy eating, no grog or cigarettes, they don't need Viagra. From what I've heard, much younger guys are usually very selfish in bed and usually come and go in a heated rush. So my advice, think twice and then go get yourself a nice healthy man closer to your own generation.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 1417
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Posted: 8/22/2012 2:09:43 PM
I've done both -- first hubby was 14 years older; second, 16 years younger. Cultural attitudes about what constitutes a relationship are *huge* between those two poles. . . . And I actually have NO desire to redo either age spread. This past decade I've pretty much stuck with fellas a five year gap either direction, though I prefer the down to the up -- I seem to have been born *exactly* on the cusp of ability to accept woman as human beings, wholly. . . .

I've had in my dating life urges which I've acted on to play with fellas much younger; kind of tired of that at this point -- no longer wish to have to housebreak my companion, and there is simply SO much the young ones don't know that they don't know (on the whole -- *always* exceptions!).

However, I currently have two offers in my mailbox -- one from a 79 year old gentleman, and one from a 23 year old. Sweet, both of them. If I were going to try with one, which I'm not, the elder would take the ticket. I prefer fleurs sauvage to X-Box. . . Just me.
 rdeffley
Joined: 9/21/2009
Msg: 1418
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Posted: 8/22/2012 3:40:24 PM
My girlfriend is 8 years older than me, and we are very happy together. I think that in the end chemistry and the people involved are what matter. If you generalize based on age you could be missing out on something great.
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 1419
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Posted: 8/22/2012 4:07:10 PM
RBWDM wow. U really are pretty rude & not very nice to women. Maybe thats why u dont have one. At least u showed ur true colors sp women who.read the forums. 7 years older as adults isn't even that much of s difference. So what if she likes younger men? You like younger women.. what's the difference? Then u are gonna use her for sex like shed want it after seeing whst a pig u are. Yet u felt u needed to be rude to her. I like younger men & that's all I date or have as. FWB or friends. Its s preference. I've been seeing a guy 15 yrs younger. We started out as friends. About 3 yrs ago. And things progressed like any other relationship. How is it different? My sisters husband is 26 yrs older than her. Is that different. Than my relationship. Hers is ok but mines not? C'est La Vie. Who are u to judge & make rules. For others?
 coderedjulia1
Joined: 5/27/2012
Msg: 1420
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Posted: 8/28/2012 12:08:39 AM
I recently went on a date with a 22 year old man and I'm 29. I'm also lucky in the looks department that I don't look my age. I am often mistaken for a 19 year old. He is very mature for his age, and looks older than me. I used to be against it, but as I get older I realize age doesn't really matter. We are all adults.
 forthemoment57
Joined: 11/18/2012
Msg: 1421
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Posted: 11/28/2012 2:20:54 AM
ive been divorced for 7yrs
almost all the men ive dated since mt divorce have been younger than me
.the biggest age difference has been 15yrs
if im attracted to a guy and he is to me then i dont feel bad about dating him, even if hes younger
 JKURB
Joined: 8/28/2012
Msg: 1422
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Posted: 11/28/2012 3:28:48 PM
Page after page of bitter women complaining about how worthless men their age are in order to justify their "boy toy" self-validation... Doesn't matter the generation (30's, 40's, 50's, etc), the men of the next younger generation are sooooo dynamic & alive, though somehow the women of that younger generation claim their men are useless couch potatoes too. Huh, wonder how that works? It's practically a contest to see who can insult the men of their generation the most and how close to your childrens' age you've managed to "date" (if you call pump & dumps that).

Younger guys e-hump your inbox en masse because they realize there are enough broken people out there that they'll eventually get an easy piece in return for a little ego stroking. "You're so much more mature than women my age. You look so much younger that I never realized you were . Age is just a number." Definitely something worth patting yourself on the back for, right?

In general I don't care what two consenting adults decide to do, but, if you need to make a lot of stupid generalizations about people in your cohort to justify something, you have issues. On the other hand, maybe the men your age that you're "dismissing" should count themselves lucky they don't have to waste any time with you and can instead spend it pursuing someone with a positive attitude about the opposite gender.

I guess some people grow up, and some just grow older.
 mike21mike18
Joined: 12/31/2012
Msg: 1423
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Posted: 2/20/2013 5:45:19 AM
i love older women so hmu baby
 forthewinwinwin
Joined: 5/21/2011
Msg: 1424
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Posted: 2/22/2013 11:39:39 PM
I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as both of you are attracted to each other and enjoying the relationship. The thing I'd be concerned is, being a young guy- whether there is attraction. Women usually prefer older men, so breaking the norm can be difficult, but certainly not impossible.
 Lauralei3
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 1425
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Posted: 2/23/2013 5:35:58 AM
I'm baffled why I receive more emails from younger men than men my age! I thought at first they were only interested in something sexual but now I'm beginning to re-think things. I am 62 years old and almost every day I see mail come from men in their 40's ! I'm still sort of confused over this and do wonder about motives. I have a natural attraction to younger men, but only a few years younger than I.... I might even consider 10 years younger, but I believe that would be stretching it...
 prime ribb
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 1426
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Posted: 2/23/2013 8:32:35 AM
I remember when I had AOL back in the nineties. I would get IM'd by older women all the time. I would also get hit on them in public too. I couldn't see myself in a long term relationship with a woman who has 15 years or more on me. You can't just build a relationship on sex alone and I find it awkward going with a woman who may have a son that's my age. It doesn't sit right with me.
 prime ribb
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 1427
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Posted: 2/23/2013 11:04:24 AM

PrimeRibb - No am sure if all you was doing was having sex then you cant build a relationship on that, but that would apply to someone the same age as you. Older women/younger men doesnt necessarily mean its just a sex thing. It is awkward though and I get the son thing.

I just find the single me of my age are a little boring and dont want to do much. But Ill stay open, and hope that changes.





Not just speaking for myself, but some of the guys I knew that were with older women, it was either sex or the older women were their sugar mommas..lol. I didn't run into any Sugar Mommas and my mother raised me with enough sense to tell me that if you take someone's money, they are going to want something back. Always a price to everything.

I do notice every woman has their limit as to how young they would date or hook up . A teacher I use to work with back in the nineties (I was nineteen or twenty when I worked in her classroom) would hit on me and her students who were kindergartners would pick up on it. I was shy at the time and she asked if I would meet her at the club, but I wouldn't be able to get in.

Flash forward to years later. I see this same teacher at a popular bar at the time. She thought I was fifteen when I worked in her classroom. I tell her my real age and she was turned off.

I guess there is something about older women teachers preferring younger men, but that's a whole other subject :).
 14everBlessed2
Joined: 6/21/2012
Msg: 1428
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Posted: 2/23/2013 4:21:21 PM
well as a ...ahem..."woman of a certain age" , I did not set age parameters on my profile. And I get messages from much younger men and much older men too. It's not an ego thing for me,I just feel character and intent are more important than age. That being said, my preferences are to meet gentlemen within my own age group (+/- 10 years) but I never say never..... and don' wish to rule out a good match because they fall out of my "ideal". One of my dearest friends has been married to a man almost 15 years younger for over 20 years...it has worked for them. I think they are the exception however.
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