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 ladyrcmt
Joined: 4/3/2006
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wolverine dude
you don't seem to be hearing anyone but yourself...the men i was attracted to in my age group weren't into an ltr any more than the young dudes. and the young ones have treated me nicer...are way more appreciative.
i really think your crumby attitude towards women may have alot more to do with your lack of success with them than your age.
just my opinion tho.
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 77
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Posted: 5/31/2006 9:49:41 AM
I never said that there weren't bitter women around here. I've seen a ton of them as well. But by the same token, they are this way because??????? Bingo!! Because of men. The whole what came first argument. It's rather sad because the truth of the matter is, this way of thinking isn't making us any happier human beings. At some point we are going to have to come to terms with these issues and move past them.

Now as for why it's been difficult for you to get a younger woman. It's rather ridiculous to use the whole it's because of the older woman brain wash argument. Damn I didn't even know that I was so powerful that I could actually brainwash a WHOLE group of people to get them to do what I want.


People are entitled to have their preferences and if the young women that you have contacted don't respond back favorably it's because YOU aren't what they want at this moment in their lives. Painful but true. Happens all the time, all you have to say is NEXT!! Eventually you will get what is intended for you.


As far as why women are bitter, you said it's because men??????That may be sometimes the case if there is bad behaviour or he's being in ***hole but thats not always the case , soemtimes they are bitter because of some other reason and it's never fair to say it's the other genders fault.

Why would women in YOUR view be bitter with men? Just wondering.

By teh way the major reason I find younger men liking older women atleast from MY OWN personal point of view is that sometimes SOME the women our own age are alittle onm the judgmental and shallow side and we want to find soemone who will accept us for us and not judge us and just find soemone who is more mature and who we feel can accept us fro us and not judge us. Thats the main reason.
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 78
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Posted: 5/31/2006 10:00:12 AM
i really think your crumby attitude towards women may have alot more to do with your lack of success with them than your age.
just my opinion tho.


It's statments like that that are just uncalled for and ignorant and uncaring for others.

Instead of showing compassion like any real human being would you move on to another insult and attack at him. I think based on how is talking talking he doesn't need you to say stuff like that but instead try to help him? and maybe give some GOOD and LOGICAL advice as opposed to being apathertic to him and people like him.

Lets try to put ourselves in another person shoes before opening an attack on them.!!!!

What disturbes me is how people try to justify their actions and they are really not getting anywhere with them. Many of their arguments sound self-centred, ignorant, apathetic, selfish hypocritic, double standarding or manipulating.

We cannot go on putting others down in ANY way and keep doing it without putting ourselves in their shoes and seeing things how they see it. I just don't like the double standard and hypocrisy and selfish judgmentalism. No wonder our societioes are getting more and more corrupt.

 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 79
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Posted: 5/31/2006 10:10:08 AM
A guy in his late 30's dating a woman in her early 20's, called a pervert, why? So a woman in her late 30's dating a guy in his early 20's is acceptable? Why?


If that is the case then a woman in the same position would be maybe considered the same? That would be consistent right?

But either way, here is my view, If there is TRUE love (non materialistic , not based on physical appearance or even sex) if there is TRUE love then it don't matter what age you are, as long as you two can keep things together and you click on an emotional and psychological level and even spiritual. Thats why I ussually am into older women because I do expect more maturity and less shallowness from them. I want to be accepted for me and not judged unfairly.

People who manipulate others i feel SHOULD NOT BE DATING because they are wasting other peoples time and their own.
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 80
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Posted: 5/31/2006 10:59:04 AM
The older you get the older and more mature you should act, it's just that simple. We progress and get older for a reason to age with grace and maturity NOT to get worse.
 Ochun36
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 81
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Posted: 5/31/2006 11:46:05 AM
Cybury,

Are you really looking for women like me or Sorsha?? The 40's clan. Because from your profile it doesn't look like it.

"Although I would like to meet someone between the ages of 26 and 36, age is no restriction."

Younger women then us are your preference so I'm assuming those are the women that are rejecting you and giving you a hard time. You need to take it up with them and ask them why they don't want to date you.

Now as for the older women. I know a TON of women that are dying to find and date men their own age. Myself included. But just like you, they are being passed up because guys their age think they have too much baggage, are jaded, boring, ugly, wrinkled, old etc.. Do you know how disheartening it is when you see someone that you think might like to meet and you click the little profile button only to see that they want someone 20 years younger then you.

You want to know why older women are bitter. It's because we are constantly told that we are disposable. That because we can no longer pop out a kid or two, we have very little value. This is 2006 for Godsakes!!! And don't give me the crap that it's genetic. Did you ever see what early woman looked like. If that were the case we would all be trolling the zoo trying to mate with gorillas.

Many of us have had really bad experiences with men. It's sad but that's life. Sometimes bad things happen to good people, but yet we want to start again and we still have the hope of finding a life partner. It's really hard to come out of an experience in which you are betrayed but alot of us have done it, only to be told sorry there is no second chance for you. I just read a thread on another forum that a 47 year old woman has resigned herself to being alone for the rest of her life. How sad is that?? She is a pretty, intelligent and still vibrant woman and yet she feels that noone wants her because she keeps being rejected by the men she wants to date and those are the men her age. It seems that this pattern goes both ways.
 ladyrcmt
Joined: 4/3/2006
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Posted: 5/31/2006 1:38:58 PM
to the three female bashers...
for one thing....i am 46...also technically over the hill....hello!! same boat!!!?!

i am so far from being ignorant and personally i find myself the most attracted these days to the men who can recognize that...no matter what their age is.
consciuos males...that's what i like..men who enjoy looking at all sides of the matter and themselves as well.

there have been some good points made on all sides...but the negativity going on here is just too much for me.
i felt like i had to defend myself and where i am at in my life right now....but why?
you don't care to know me or my experience....
your mind's are made up about women...so why am i wasting my time?
 ladyrcmt
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Posted: 5/31/2006 1:59:39 PM
btw mardio
i think i had alot of constructive things to say, from my experience anyway.... and wolverine and i had a few private email exchanges as well where i said a whole lot of compassionate things.
you don't know me and just because i defended the more positive aspects of dating younger men, again, from my own experience...i was lumped into some crap ass group of male hating vengful women.
we're all doing our best and i try hard to learn from what the universe puts in front of me...and personally i think these experiences are put in front of me for very certain reasons...
that is how i live my life.
life is a process about becoming conscious...in my opinion.
i enjoy a lively debate on just about any subject....
but i hate not being listened too and that is why i said the one negative comment i did....
it really seemed and still does seem like wolverine just wants to hear his own story and no one elses.
i tried.
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 84
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Posted: 5/31/2006 2:01:26 PM
to the three female bashers...
for one thing....i am 46...also technically over the hill....hello!! same boat!!!?!

i am so far from being ignorant and personally i find myself the most attracted these days to the men who can recognize that...no matter what their age is.
consciuos males...that's what i like..men who enjoy looking at all sides of the matter and themselves as well.

there have been some good points made on all sides...but the negativity going on here is just too much for me.
i felt like i had to defend myself and where i am at in my life right now....but why?
you don't care to know me or my experience....
your mind's are made up about women...so why am i wasting my time?


I am not bashing anyone. I even said that I like older women, because I would liek to have someone more mature and someone who will except me for me. I am for it. I just am not for people doing this for selfish reasons because thats not what I am looking for. I havn't "bashed" anyone, I am just trying to state good and HELPFUL points thats all.

I am not against anyone here ok. Don't call me soemthing I am not. Anything I said was for BOTH males and females!!

read what i said closely!!
 ladyrcmt
Joined: 4/3/2006
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Posted: 5/31/2006 2:13:36 PM
yes i got that you enjoy older women and i like why you siad you did...because there is a mutual respect there.
that has been my experience too and i have found it to be quite special and tender really.

it just irked me to have my lovely experiences sullied by other peoples bad atitudes and bad experiences.

attitude IS everthing...
well, not really...good saying tho...but a good attitude about life does work wonders.
 shore66
Joined: 5/23/2004
Msg: 86
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Posted: 5/31/2006 3:43:28 PM
at what point have I stated that I disagreed with older women dating younger guys? i have no problem with that heck I even think its the way it should be




Oh, one might take a look at these comments you made ...

"just remember that someday those young ones reach our age ... lets see if you haven't made them bitter by then"

"it will be interesting to see how many baby boomer women will be alone when they hit retirement age"

"that is untill their money and looks run out, funny how when they are broke and a bad case of the skanks kick in they suddenly want us over 35 men"


Yeah, you are all about us "skanks" dating younger men.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 87
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Posted: 5/31/2006 4:20:57 PM
I have FINALLY gotten to the point where I have realised that it is all about the MAN, not about his age. I have listened to and have read a LOT toxic garbage spewed by men over 40 about older women and younger men...and mostly the guys over 40 state unequivocably that we are skanks and hags...

so gee guys, why not let us date the men who DO appreciate us and quit grousing about it??
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 88
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Posted: 5/31/2006 4:32:26 PM
^^^^ Just make sure as i have stated before, that the motive is right and not selfish or sexual. I think it is ok to date older women and for ladies to date older men, BUT the reason should be in true love and commitment and understanding and compassion and non judgmental.
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 89
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Posted: 5/31/2006 4:37:16 PM
^^^^I agree, make sure the the emotional connection is there and not focus everything on the physical.

By the way, I guesse older men I guesse also don't have to care about age but go for a winner and whomever they want.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 90
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Posted: 5/31/2006 11:06:18 PM
Age shouldn't matter, its only a number after all. I've heard that a lot, especially from younger
guys. I have flipped flopped around this very issue many times, I guess what it boils down to
is whatever is comfortable for you. Myself, I prefer to date within my age group, also a comfort thing. And yes, I have gone out with younger men on occassion, (12 yr age diff) and
they have been very short lived. Maybe I the saboteur, I'm not too sure, but I do know that
I was out of my comfort zone.
Bottom line, if it works for you, go for it.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 91
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Posted: 6/1/2006 7:09:07 AM
I keep stating the same thing over and over

I will HAPPILY date men my own age

IF

I could find one who was fit ( and no, I don't mean as fit as I am), focused, energetic, not rigid in his beliefs, shared my interests.....

until then I guess I will date men of ANY age who possess those qualities.

Unreasonable? I think not.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 6/1/2006 7:28:57 AM
I agree with you fox and I feel the same about those I date.....

Keep up the good work and I hope we both find what we are looking for....

Just my opinion....
 c_deacon
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Posted: 6/1/2006 8:59:29 PM
you go dream for what you need and want my dear....smiles

Feeling good for me does not involve age.....it is the whole person in and out of bed and how we relate.......and that has nothing to do with age......

Just my opinion....
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 94
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Posted: 6/1/2006 9:03:49 PM
Exactly.

It is about how he makes me feel....and the connection. Why should I dismiss that just because of age?

But then I suspect most men over 40 would far rather I just got a cat and stayed home alone
 c_deacon
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Posted: 6/1/2006 9:14:49 PM
Fox.....

Not me hon.....but then again....I am not the ****.....lmao.....

Just my opinion.....
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 96
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Posted: 6/2/2006 7:24:49 AM
Think I should clarify something here....when I am talking YOUNGER I don't mean the 20somethings.....I am talking MID30s
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 97
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Posted: 6/2/2006 9:32:38 AM
I would be the goose.

You would be the gander.

Children would be goslings

I tend to date 35-45
 flsoldier
Joined: 5/28/2006
Msg: 98
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Posted: 6/2/2006 7:40:12 PM
who_the_fox wrote:
Think I should clarify something here....when I am talking YOUNGER I don't mean the 20somethings.....I am talking MID30s


Age-ist!

 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 99
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Posted: 6/2/2006 9:24:32 PM
~Hi Fox~ Here we are again. LMAO. I wonder if they'll ever understand ~ some of us prefer younger men. There is no cosmic plan, no covert operation to secretly do away with those our age or older ~ it's merely a personal preference. For me, a very well thought out preference. There are so many women who prefer older men ~ I think that is great, for someone other than myself.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 100
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Posted: 6/2/2006 9:25:07 PM
I just can't bring myself to be dating a man who might have been in high school at the same time as my son....so my lowest limit would be 33.


even though I know a man would have no issues with dating a woman who was close in age to his daughter.
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