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 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 215
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?Page 17 of 17    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17)
Well seems porn is all anyone on these singles sites seem interested in !
And nope not into porn and I don't post porn ideas in forums either. But I do notice that when someone does post a forum about sex of any type there sure is a ton of women posting replies in these said porn type forums.
Yet when you view alot of womens profiles it will state must not be looking for sex or must not have messaged someone for sex !LOL
As for firmbear8 he only likes the real deal and so far has not seen or read any real women honestly seeking a male on here !!
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 218
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 10/12/2008 3:57:09 PM
I'm not sure that a woman with previous marriage is a requirement for my second one. Sure, there are lessons that one learns in marriage, but I think it's more about the here-and-now, not the then-and-there.

 lindy_3333
Joined: 3/6/2006
Msg: 219
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Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:50:15 PM
I have gone out with a few men that are now older and never been married. Now a days though that doesn't necessarily mean much since so many have long terms without marriage and even raising families, buying homes together etc.

It's all about the person, not the labels one carries.
 BLUEMISS
Joined: 7/15/2007
Msg: 221
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Posted: 10/16/2008 3:57:04 PM
I am 52 and never married... with my ex for 19 years,engaged twice, and glad I never went for the divorce!I am a firm believer that a person has to learn their own life lessons and the people put in your life are there for a reason, be it a biggie or weenie lesson.Being single at my age does not make me feel like I am an 'alien' or somehow wrong in my life journey...it's my life journey and my path and in some way the people in my path are supposed to be there.So if I never get married, so be it, maybe next time around.?Hopefully I don't have to wait that long though, or go through a lot of b.s. to get there. lol
 matchlessm
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 229
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 10/20/2008 1:37:05 PM
I've been interested to read all the different attitudes people have on this subject. It's always a good idea to keep exceptions in mind. I have a friend--a guy I used to work with-- who's about 50 and has never been married. He also happens to be one of the highest-type people I've ever met. He's also very smart, pretty normal-looking, well-educated, respectful toward women, a very interesting conversationalist, and he has a great wit.

But when my friend was in his 20's, he was in a bad car accident that burned the lower part of his face. I guess the doctors did a pretty good job, but the scars show a little even now. Even though he doesn't remember anyone taunting him about his appearance, he's told me that more and more, he started to feel like damaged goods. He became convinced women would also see him that way, and eventually he just stopped dating--for good. He got counseling of some type, but it didn't seem to help. The bad part is that he might have found that more than one woman he liked accepted him, if only he'd kept trying.

My point is that there can be reasons why someone has never married that have nothing to do with all the usual reasons people think of, but they tend to jump to conclusions. And unfortunately, people like my friend get judged negatively when they haven't done anything wrong.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 244
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 10/23/2008 8:12:25 AM
If I was a male I would so try and get Zeeba to go out with me, she is a classic and anyone who would judge someone so harshly for having the emotional strength of character to not get married just cause others are when they are young. Looking back, how many bashing those who were never married can honestly say you got married for the right reasons....if so why are you here now?

People make mistakes, those who have never gotten married just havent made as many and are true to themselves enough not to try something just to do it unlike alot of others who will wear any shoe vs going barefoot, even if it doesnt fit.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 246
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 10/23/2008 11:14:25 AM

However, having said that, there is also a group of 45+ people who have never been married because they ARE disfunctional...and unmarriable.


I bet there is a bigger group that has been married that ARE dysfunctional ....I think people need to back away from red flags and generalizations, we are each individuals and should stand on our own merits not by what someone else who might seem similar has done.

Only thing I would think a person who has never been married might have...is the lack of bitterness about being betrayed by a marriage mate...they could still have been betrayed in a relationship but I know some men/women take the whole husband/wife thing to another level and have a hard time getting over someone they married cheating on them.
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 247
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 10/23/2008 2:46:13 PM

To make this very clear. I think that people who are over 40-45 and never married are people just like the rest of us. Because they never took that plunge dont make them weird, crazy, gay, or odd balls.

This is probably the most lucid, accurate statement I have read. Good show!

 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 249
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 10/25/2008 7:06:48 PM
Well- I have never been married.
I was in a relationship for 15 years- after that I dated and had
two other relationships that lasted a few years but still no
marriage.
To tell you the truth- I just didnt have that "I love him so much
I want to marry him" feeling with any of them. Something
always held me back.

It just didnt happen and if that is held against me then so be it-
thier loss. Is there something wrong with me- Am I dysfunctional-
no, just that I never got married. No big deal in my book.

Not all of us are fortunate enough to get into really good relationships
and feel that need to take this step- some of us get in bad relationships,
stay and put up with crap until one day we wake up.

Would I date someone like me- yup.
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 255
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 10/26/2008 2:59:49 PM
Sweetsmartandsassy2 -
God man- marry me!! You are my hero!!!

I agree - why is it that there must be something "wrong" with us.

There is nothing "wrong" with us- there is SOMETHING WRONG with
the people who question our motives and nine times out of ten our
MOTIVES are we never met anyone worth sharing our life and hoping
it would last forever- yes, some people out there do meet alot of butt holes
in life- not all are fortunate to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right early on in life.

I agree that it is always something is wrong- is there not something wrong
with the person married multiple times- maybe they just made bad choices
like us but the only difference is they made the commitment- we walked away.
 selfsong
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 265
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Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 11/3/2008 6:22:09 PM
To OP:

Uh yes if i wa interested:P
 Fanny
Joined: 7/5/2004
Msg: 269
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 11/4/2008 7:01:52 PM

No, because if they reach that age and have never been married are either commitmet phobic or mentally imbalanced.


Wow, I guess everyone is entitled to your opinion....

I'll be 48 next week, and I never married. Was in a 10 year relationship in my 20's, a 4 year relationship in my 30's, a couple of two year relationships in my 40's. Been engaged once, but after living with the guy for a year realized that I wouldn't survive a marriage to him. (He was on best behavior before I moved in, but became abusive after that...) Am I commitment phobic? If I was, those relationships wouldn't have lasted as long as they did. Am I mentally unbalanced? I can think clearly enough not to marry until I know the relationship has the potential to last. And in this age where marriage is seen as less of a necessity, sometimes you can find yourself mutually in love with someone who just doesn't see the point of going through the ceremony if you can still be together without it.

So yeah, I'd go out with them. It's the only way you'll find out what that person's about. If you've already got your mind made up about people before meeting them, why bother dating at all?
 Harmonica
Joined: 12/19/2007
Msg: 287
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Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 11/10/2008 9:43:08 AM

I think after a certain number of failed marriage attempts (maybe 2-3) then you should question if you are marriage material.

But marriage is a commitment. And those that have lived long enough to reach the 45 category should have found someone that they felt they could commitment themselves to. Maybe the marriage did not work out (this is a singles dating site right).


An interesting post!

I have never 'attempted' marriage, whatever that means.

I agree that by forty-five many will have indeed felt as though they have met the person that they could commit to. But what if the other side "does not do commitment"?

People can find love at any age, it is a matter of luck.

John
 Harmonica
Joined: 12/19/2007
Msg: 288
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Posted: 11/10/2008 9:45:17 AM

It is easy to walk away from relationships compared to actually being married.


To this day, I have NEVER walked (or run!) from a relationship.


Waking (sic) the walk is marrying that person.


What if they are not ready to accept marriage in return?

John
 who me noway
Joined: 3/14/2007
Msg: 299
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 11/12/2008 12:15:37 PM
For myself I will not date someone who has not been married prior or have children or prior relationship/marriage with kids.

I have found that the men who have not had these experiences do not completely understand how kids (any ages) can take time away from your relationship and become resentful. And not married every later in life... well I think they have some issues going on there and will never get married... on your no George Clooney
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 305
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 11/16/2008 7:11:12 PM
I LOVE THESE SO CALLED PEOPLE WHO GOT MARRIED .
Then they didn't like who they married so they ditched the prick or ****.
AND NOW THEIR TRYING TO EXPLAIN WHATS WRONG WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED YET AND WHO ARE 40 & OVER!lol
Hey don't blame us who are still single and never been married for your screw ups that you married & devorsed now people did.
We over 40's & still single & never been married yet people are looking for the real one !
Not just anyone who likes our sex or someone who was handy at the time you wanted to marry!LOL

Most of you who have been married and now single again have lots of wrongs to fix in your lives before you can even come close to being smart .
Don't ever put anyone still single & never been married as dumb /stupid or f'd up in the head . We didn't make the same stupid choices you marrieds& now singles did so we are not the nut bars that need work !LOL
 who me noway
Joined: 3/14/2007
Msg: 310
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:09:49 AM
To firmbear 8.. After reading your reply and I am sure I can get a few "amens" on this..
You seem to sound bitter yourself.

I have been married and divorced and it was not a stupid mistake to have gotten married or divorced.. after 14 years together we both changed..great friends still today just no longer a great fit (you change allot in your 20-30's). But as everyone can see just by reading your reply why someone like ME wouldn't date someone like YOU.

YIKES
 catkin2007
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 322
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Posted: 11/21/2008 1:08:38 PM
I don't think they are any scarier than the rest of us out there looking. Are they worse because they haven't committed, no? Yes, I would go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married.
 actorguy282
Joined: 5/14/2007
Msg: 331
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Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 12/25/2008 7:13:22 AM
after reading most of the pages in this thread I have come to the conclusion that I was right in not marrying younger.I wasn't ready then emotionally or financially but now that I am I have found that women in this age group (at least the ones I have run into for the most part)
look at me like I am the abominable snowman or something. just because I didnt marry at 25
does'nt make me an ax murderer Now for me I had to drop out of school and come home to take care of my parents,While my siblings married off and I had to take crap jobs instead of focusing on a career so I could be with them.So before you ladies out there start flinging stones find out what the person is like first then if ya wanna ignore him than do so just dont do it out of some preconcieved notion you may have
 Krystalpassion
Joined: 2/8/2006
Msg: 335
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 4/30/2009 7:57:54 PM
Sure, perhaps they were waiting for the best. If your the one you have it made.
 NASH58
Joined: 1/4/2008
Msg: 337
Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married?
Posted: 3/9/2010 8:11:41 AM
No would not date someone that has never been married
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